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Phil's Wisdom on Energy, Work, and Love

[Music] we'll jump in and talk about why Phil is here and all that but father good to see you it's great to see you beond great this whole happy go ahead day one we're gonna have fun today I'm going to adjust my view again so that I can see everyone properly thank you for navigating everyone who is here gallery view oh there we go all right I'm in I'm in community Heaven here we can officially move from Theory to practice to Mastery together today so we're going to do our meditation we're going to connect with um Phil and hear what he has to say about the biggest distinctions energy work in love we're going to hear who his heroes are who his guides have been and are and a few other um awesome things but again I want to start with the intention as I Was preparing for this this morning I realized how important it is to me that we as a community celebrate our guides and celebrate our mentors and I promised i' our team that I'd get emotional within a couple of minutes here because I started getting emotional when I was just preparing and just feeling the impact that Phil has had on my life um which I'll share with you today and just how important it is for me personally to embody the virtue of humility and for us as a community to embody the virtue of humility and gratitude and to really really appreciate the people who have worked so hard to inspire us and to empower us um and to recognize them and to celebrate them so more than anything frankly for me this is an extension of the tribute we were able to give to you in December last um a couple months ago Phil and of course I'm excited to get into some of your legendary wisdom but I want each of of you to think about who has had a deep impact in your life and to not take them for granted to take them as granted as a gift to you in your heroic Quest Etc and again Phil will be an example for me of course he uh may be an example for you as well but I want you to think of others in your life um who have deeply impacted you so as always um let's begin with a quick one two three minute meditation and then we will get to work we flip the switch we invite the best version of ourselves to join us chest up chin down assume whatever poster you assume when you invite your Dion to join you breathin through your nose down into your belly exhale slightly longer than the inhale fastest way to flip the calm confidence energized Tranquility switch we are heroic we are wise disciplined loving courageous grateful hopeful curious and zesty we have the humility to recognize the individuals that have helped us become who we are as we strive to get our soul Force to 101 so we can help create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051 Target swipe energy one minute medit moving on to work today I want to focus on your number one Mentor you're a guide think about the individual who is most impacted your life what gifts have they given you what insights have they helped you make how have they make helped you become a better human being directly impacting how you give your gifts to the world we talked about we talk about connecting to the people we serve the people with whom we serve what about the people that have helped us create the ability to serve profoundly feel the presence of that Mentor Target swipe work moving to love knowing there's no difference between our work and our love and we do it right send that mentor of yours that guide of yours deep deep appreciation and love we cultivate the strength for two in community our guides play such an important role in that energy work and love Target swipe Target swipe Target swipe bonus points send your guide a text of gratitude and appreciation now or at the end of our call together today I'm going to send my number one influence a text right now via this chat Phil my yoda my spiritual father I love you I appreciate you and I'm going to tell our community a few of the things that you embody that make you for me just that Ultimate Guide not just for me but for all of the people you've affected and again if if if you don't know who Phil is then you haven't been paying attention so you've heard us talk about Phil over and over again he's in the Netflix documentary called STS by another one of his clients whose life has been profoundly changed Jonah Hill and that movie more than anything is a tribute to Phil and his wisdom and um deeply appreciate Jonah for doing that for you Phil and for us if you haven't watched the documentary yet go watch it I've got a box here which was the last thing that I packed when I moved from California to Texas the most prized possession that I have outside of some family pictures is a box that says Phil's calls it's a paper box right that three reams of paper came in my first one two three years fil filled up that box I have an entire different box this is my first three years of notes with Phil then Phil and I decided to work together for two sessions a week that's the next year and a half two years and then here's a whole another year or two of notes those notes are probably my most prized well they are tied for first my most prized possession there's more wisdom in that six years of coaching that Phil and I have done together than the Thousand thousands of books in my library but what I love most about Phil that I think a great guide has first and foremost Phil sees my and his clients and our infinite potential so I've never been in someone's presence before who who felt my power my potential more powerfully than Phil and as we each show up as the heroes of our lives and strive to be the guides for other people I think the number one thing that a truly world class guide can do is to see their mentee their protege's potential and what Phil has done for me on that front is extraordinary we often say in the faces of men and women we see Heroes Phil sees heroes in me he sees hero a hero in Michael In Jonah in walking all these other people that he's he's worked with um and he can also see the pathway through which that hero can fulfill their potential and he's believable he's helped countless people go from pretty good to Great to extraordinarily great to historically great in many instances um because he's worked on his craft and he's done the work for 40 plus years to become believable and that's something else that I deeply admire and the thing that that struck me the most When I Was preparing on the top three things Phil that I most cherish about us you see my potential you see the pathway through which we can fulfill it but Phil has never once been flustered by anything I've brought to him and not only that he maintains that calm confidence um and this presence um in a deep deep joy for my problems so Phil actually likes celebrating good things but nothing makes Phil more excited than a really good really big problem that's when he gets most excited the turds as he says in the documentary are truly what excites Phil the most and I think a truly exemplary guide who's earned the gray whiskers who's been there and done that enough times nothing moves him and Phil I was telling Alexander this morning not once have I come to you with something where there was a felt sense of oh shoot Brian's really in trouble now you know I don't know about this there wasn't one time in six years nearly 400 sessions in which I brought you something that you didn't just smile about the bigger the better let's rub our hands together and to me that's one of of the greatest gifts you see my potential and our potential you see how we can use tools in order to fulfill it and nothing flusters you period because you've done the work in your own life to know that it's all part of the process the bigger problem the better um and I could say more I will pause there um and I'm going to also bring up my uh my phone real quick here Ora score looking good thank you Aura 86 90 cired a s yesterday with Elanor ate a little bit late enjoyed that slept great but do a search in our app for STS Stu TZ right get the app search STS and what you will find 69 plus ones mention my yoda Phil stuts from the most recent one on the Netflix documentary with a link we have 69 dozens and dozens and dozens and dozens and dozens of ideas that I have picked up over the last six years that Phil has generously told me share it share it share it one of his Concepts is Overflow outflow you're always giving you're always giving you're always giving you're always outperforming your contract um with love with courage Etc in 54 philosophers notes starting with the two notes on Phil's two great books the tools and coming alive that he wrote with Barry mik one of his proteges and and longtime students and now partner the tools and coming alive but I've mentioned Phil and 52 other notes check those out um and of course we've got a tool as well we've got a ton of other tools and I talk about it is basic training what what not but check that out if you want a deep dive on Phil's wisdom and that is the prude to our chat today um I think I said said what I wanted to say there again great to see you excited to chat with you thank you for allowing me to have that long Prelude how are you um I don't know but I enjoyed hearing that um I I like the idea of um of progression you know U the what is it Theory practice and masteries and Theory to prac practice to Mastery together good philosophy ends in action is one of the themes we've talked about for years huh yeah I tell you what I like about you is I finally found something for life um the you don't like doing things in a disorganized way you like to you like to go from A to B to C and and give the person that you're mentoring a model it's not that the you know there some some f famous philosopher said all models are wrong but very often they'll still be useful and that's what you've done I've I've actually watched it over the years I I I've watched your ability to structuralize things and then stick to the structure no matter how difficult it was now and that is um that is like a pathway see we when you can show someone a pathway even if they're not sure they could follow it they become more hopeful so you know if you want to say differently it it's a way of um it's a way of fighting the chaos that's inherent in human Affairs and and bringing it from chaos to some sort of water and when you when you do that and and you have created some kind of order um you it's almost like a euphoric experiment a euphoric accomplishment now the the weirdest part of me is um and you mention it is I don't just dig into problems I I don't just say well I I know how to do that because I've I've done it hundred times before um I like the problem I I actually love it and by extrapolation that I love the person that I'm I'm helping because they they G they giving me the opportunity um to have this experience they giving me the opportunity to be you for is the best way to say and Brian um what can I say this he he likes the the the idea of turning chaos into water now um it's and it's not um Well here here's what I say um God is an artist and he he doesn't care about anything but creating like a real artist real he's more real than we are um so the medium of of go God's medium if you will in in terms of um of creation or what he of his art let's say the the medium for his artwork is a human Soul so I think I have a little bit of that in me also I mean not I don't want to compare myself to God then I really sound like an [ __ ] but but I have a little bit of that in me um so uh and and what I like about Brian is he likes to take everything to the to the level of emotion and Instinct he he likes to take things as deeply into into the person as as poss as as the person will allow him to to um so I no longer remember the question I'm answering uh but what's new about that uh so a different way to say the same thing is the the the the universe is alive it's constantly alive and part of aliveness maybe we can talk about it later in disciplines part part of Al livess is constant expansion and um it's the same thing with me when I see somebody expand it's like a big uh it's like a big gift I guess would be so Brian's given me probably the most uh gift in in in those terms that that I've ever experience it it helps a lot that stubborn Maniac um that underwrites his ability to do this uh but I I love it all and thanks thank oh and one more thing on a more personal level um when I was in the six sixth grade or M was the fifth grade I was the president of the class and some uh some parents had had um I'm G to get this right um some parent thanked us for what we did I forget as a class we had some project or something so I was supposed to respond to this gratefulness uh that that this woman this other teacher was was um uh blessing us with but I didn't know what to do so I said thank you I said thank you for Thanking us and the kids laughed and they said you know you can't even say a simple thank you but I realized actually um it was it was real I mean it wasn't elegant but it was exactly what I felt um it was thank you for Thanking us so that's I guess that's what that's what I feel now between you and me and uh so I literally sent a text the other day to a friend I said you know what I'm Mr Rogers uh in public you won't ever hear me curse I I may be a bit more of a swashbuckling Navy Seal in private or when you and I are chatting so I appreciate you bringing it let's go if you watch studs you know that one of one of Bill's Charming attributes is his irreverence and his authenticity Etc so love you bless you and um already so much there we can talk about in terms of you know good philosophy ends and action the structure the discipline the artwork that is the human soul and the project that we have to activate that um and I want to step back before we get back into practical kind of wisdom um and just I I'd love to hear you tell us who your heroes are who are your Heroes when you think about that the ma the biggest by far by far by far the B biggest is Ru of Steiner if you don't know who he is he's been dead for a hundred years um but anyway he was in the year about 1900 he was a philosopher he was a famous philosopher in Europe and and in in 1900 he gave up philosophy and and he entered into a study of the occult of the Mysterious World of the spiritual world but but what he did was so fantastic and and it relates to what I was saying about about you Brian um he he called it um he called it uh scientific spirituality you might say well that's [ __ ] well how how could those two things their opposites but he he he was meticulous and basically what he said was do not believe a word I say to you but please do what I tell you to do and then judge for yourself whether it's uh helpful or not whether it's whether it's real or not um anyway it it goes on forever the other great thing I got from him is I got I got an overview of of world's history of comparative religion I even got an overview of science at least at that time which is around 1900 um so by giving me a a way to look at by giving me a way to see that everything was connected it it gave me a level of uh or he gave me a level of confidence that was just un it was unshakable because everything me something and he insisted on seeing the world that way I think you mentioned at the beginning of this uh uh whatever you call this um do you remember what you said about this about which part at the beginning you you said something about a meaningful universe and um that your job is to both support and accept that meaningful Universe on the one hand and on the other hand help other people um have have the same access that you have it has nothing to do with me by the way it has to do with you and it has to do with you and where you were willing to go but usually if if someone's willing to go pretty far um I can keep up with them I'll say that much for myself um e either I keep up with them or I'm spewing a lot of lies and [ __ ] either way I mean I'm in Hollywood so that's considered progress as well um what was the question perfect we got it who is your hero Rudolph Steiner so in the chat and in the the follow on notes let's have the Philosopher's note in which we talk about Steiner I mean if he doesn't come up in every one of our chats it's every other one so that's a beautiful thing to to hear your tribute to him and and um I was going to follow that up with something and I just lost my turn of thought getting excited about that um but we'll leave it at that let's drill in so let's drill into energy work and love and let's talk about oh actually what I was going to say is this another thing that you do as um and I didn't say it explicitly but the most impactful person in my life full stop I mean your DNA is all over mine all over our heroic culture Etc um but one of the things that you've done that I've told our coaches that a good coach a good guide a good Mentor does is when you and I align and I get clarity with you on something I may be thinking about intuitively I don't think about it again it's just I I have so trust myself and you that when we are clear on something it's done and then I take this aggressive you know action on that thing and that's a gift and that's a gift because again you're believable so Heroes listening here of which I include myself aspiring to be worthy guides we've got to do the work and go through the Reps and craft ourselves and our practice such that we are believable but then that gift that you've given me is what's allowed me to accelerate my Evolution where I just don't need to think about certain things again and there's an incalculable benefit to that for me from you that I'm excited to give to our community and I think I I've know I've been told I've done that at times as well and that's another thing that that um arose for me as you were describing what Steiner did for you right if he just gave you Clarity on it no no no no this affected everything because I knew it was all connected and the smallest things are the biggest Etc Goosebumps like that that is I cannot even put into words adequately how powerful that's been for me so again just another both thank you and also invitation to those watching and listening to do the hard work so you can be that guide for other people in your life um again so much we can talk about there anything you want to comment on that yeah um I have certain people who I can't identify them because they're kind of public figur is um but they um say they automatically and it was everything that that as a as a culture whatever you call it that they're being asked to do or that they ask themselves to do immediately changes everybody around them and I the reason I'm bringing this up is uh I had a guy that was started out as a basically an alcoholic um not very well educated um and and kind of self-absorbed you know like narcissistic and I watched him he but for some reason he wanted to read about rudol Stein I have no idea why so I gave him some books to read about it and he got hooked on it and he and this guy was not a scholar and he wasn't a part of his social uh you know Network anything like that but he he he became addicted to it and and just by reading about it just by reading about it it actually changed him now the the the real sequence of events obviously is predicated on the idea that uh I say this there's no such thing anymore as philosophy without action that's that's the new world and rudol stuner had discussed this like a hundred years ago and basically their their reaction to him 100 years ago was you're out of it was a scientific in quotes era now people don't know what the hell's going on which is an advancement actually um so anyway I could go on forever with him I'll tell you one more strange thing if there's a problem or a way that to understand something that where I can pull something out of a hat it's it it's coming right from him I could feel it because I I I always feel the right passage in in his writing the right action and when he when he's in a coaching uh you know relationship with me um and it's I never it's just like what you say once it once it's digested I never think about it again it becomes part of the Living Truth so I'm kind of thrilled that that I was able to help you reach reach the uh and and by the way if you look at the at current uh culture um whatever what you want to call it it's it's badly lacking this like badly lacking it it's a it's a it's a culture without faith and and what you've developed is is a system of forward motion and action that actually feeds backwards and gives you Faith so so what you've created is something that doesn't um it's not a it's not a philosophy or a speculation it's the actual experience of faith and he breaks it down pretty specifically as to you actually so for me I'm very grateful to you for a very simple reason you you gave me a chance to act to function as as what my instincts tell me I want to function that's what the whole thing so euphor to me it's all it's almost too good to be true anyway that's all because I'm I I know when I have to stop when I'm I'm forgetting all vestages of the original which is always perfect timing I love the the pure uh expression of what is alive for you as we discussed many times in our work together I love it and to highlight one other really important theme that has its origin completely in my work with Phil which is what I've come to call anti- fragile confidence which in its Inception was Phil's emotional stamina and it was one of our first three chats where Phil said something along the lines have you got amazing emotional stamina you know right a minute before we ended our call I'm writing it down you know I got to ask him next time what that means next time what is what is emotional stamina mean and he tells me well look emotional stamina is the ability to tolerate whatever stress you're under I'm paraphrasing and you got to know that the worse you feel the more committed you need to be to your protocol and in terms of lifechanging moments and literally this was a 10c part of one of our early sessions it just clicked for me everything clicked and you all if you follow my work Goosebumps have known how many times I've repeated that and how I've tried to clarify it and clarify it and operationalize that the worse you feel the more committed you are to your protocol there's no more powerful ticket to invincibility than that and I mean that literally invincibility if you feel terrible and life is overwhelming you and challenging you and you feel unbelievably threatened and yet in that moment and again in that moment you can practice your philosophy no good philosophy is anything that doesn't end in action or stated positively good philosophy must end in action the worse you feel the more committed you are nothing changed my life more than that to make the implicit explicit like that and I have hammered that home so much with our community um and receive so much feedback that that's just life-changing so again it's exciting to see your lineage you know and I got a plus one coming up on my spiritual Family Tree in which you were in the father position and then I've got Joseph Campbell who's back there um right next to you in the grandfather position that I got Abraham maswell in my great-grandfather position I got a crazy you know Uncle N I got everybody kind of dancing around all the way back to the old school epic Tito aelas but to see your lineage um back up to Steiner and then back down to me and through our community is really inspiring so with that let's transition to the energy work and love our big three and I'd like to frame it a little differ than I think I might in other conversations where I'll probably ask the other individuals what they do personally energy work and love which I may ask you as well but I want to ask you what's the number one thing you teach your clients in their energy work in love and we'll start with energy and I'll frame that just a little bit more because one of the things you talk about in our work oneon-one and in the documentary is you often start with life force which would call energy right so you start with helping people get their life forc their energy down and can you tell us about how you think about that and how you think we should be thinking about that yeah you the typical thing is a new patient come into my office and he'll say my habits are I I sleep till 11 o'clock I'm 22 pounds overweight and I'm kind of demoralized shock that's a shock so the guy comes in and he he'll say to me um I know if I had something that was meaningful to me I wouldn't be like this which um it's it's just an excuse so but but I have to answer that um because in some ways it seems logical if nothing means anything how am I going to motivate myself so I tell you I do not try to figure out the answer to that question you cannot find out who you are what's important to you where you should be going where you need to be going by thinking you can't do it thinking is too stupid and too linear and too rigid so well then how do you get that information and the answer is you get it from your own life force now I we'll talk about how you do that in a minute so you say well isn't that semantic you know you're just saying something in different terms but it's not not true you know you have to literally give yourself over to your life force now and to make sure people do this I have a it's a very simple protocol all it is is is a pyramid divided into into three levels the bottom level of the pyramid is your relationship to your body and obviously you've preached that and and taught it and everything for since I know you actually but anyway for those who have somehow haven't picked this up or heard heard about it um it it means it means just what it sounds like it means eating it means regulation of sleep which you do probably more of that than anybody I've seen um and you know the negative stuff has to be cut off you know drugs alcohol there's a whole lot to it but the point is that's the Baseline and people don't like that because it's not specific it's like one size fits all um but that's there there it is you can't you can't skip over that step why can't just skip over that that um hurdle let's say and the the answer is there's no you cannot replace your physical body and your relation to with anything else so anyway that's the first level of this your your relationship to your body um the second step is or not step the second segment let's say is your relationship with other people now this one is even harder for people to accept because they say well I hang out with people I like I I don't go out that much anymore I'm maybe I'm a little bit isolated or my friends have disappointed me it doesn't matter what they say it doesn't matter you must and you know usually the person's coming to me and they're depressed and other than taking care of their body and so to exercise daily um is is this relationship to other people the relationship to other people is not just uh like psychologically soundness or a healthy way to live I mean it is all those things it's much deeper than that you literally cannot exist you literally cannot find yourself you literally will never find meaning in life without other people that's just the way the wind blows on that and again you could talk for years about that but that's that's the second tier of this your relationship with other people the top tier is your Rel is your relationship to yourself and that can include um like stuff having to do with the unconscious um dream Dreaming or dream workor um writing itself interesting interestingly enough helps a lot with your relationship to yourself you know people tell me well I'm writing this stuff but I have no idea what it means or what what it significant to you know I I'm I feel like I'm wasting my time but you not because the best way to say it is um the if you think of writing as a mirror and it's a mirror that reveals to you and there's a Greek myth about this Sky percus you you can look it up um but anyway it writing allows you to see inside your own self in a way that nothing else can so but there's more to it than that um the relationship uh to yourself also has to do with um uh studying learning any kind of expansion in in that regard working with your Shadow is yet another example of this anyway so the point of this whole pyramid thing which to Me Def operationally defines the life force the the key of it is you have a higher intelligence inside you but it emerges and you know who's a very good example of this is Brian because he re you're kind of you kind of have what I have but being a maniac you have it times 10 or whatever um he does he by his nature um he he's not particularly interested in intellectual Pro problem of solutions I should say so um and you can see and Brian he he has this Instinct for the life force he has obviously a ridiculously high life force and be besides the fact that it's just you feel better it that the life force wants to drive itself into the unknown driving driving driving into the unknown not knowing where it's going it's this is not about knowing it's about vision and you you mentioned about Vision before what did you say you remember I don't remember on the vision part say again I don't remember on the vision part but everything you just said there obviously is so resonant and so powerful and I appreciate the kind words and to reflect back briefly the so we're talking energy work in love energy fill if he's not the best in the world at what he does he's tied for the best in the world at what he does where does he start life force where do we start you know energy eating moving sleeping breathing focusing our attention this is how we get our energy to high levels this is how we activate our life force and why do we do that well I do it so I can connect to that best version of myself that I have up there staring at me that I'm trying to channel as Phil said we have a higher intelligence and you can say I can I get motiv once I figure out what I want to do with my life my answer is the same as Phils which is no no no control the controllables get your eating you're moving your sleeping you're breathing you're focusing dialed in such that you can flip the switch it will such that that best most heroic version of yourself becomes who you are on a daily basis with that energy dialed in you can focus it on what's important now in your work and in your love and if your energy is not where it needs to be you simply will not be able to show up as your best self period which is why I say if because of poor lifestyle choices you can't get out of bed in the morning with energy and we have par you know individuals that are paralyzed that literally can't get out of bed okay within the constraints of their reality are they eating moving sleeping breathing Etc to the best of their ability but if you can get out of bed and can't get out of bed because of poor lifestyle choices that's the number one thing to work on if you want to activate your soul Force which is why energy is what drives the whole show and Phil I love that you start with that um again we call it the daone think of it as the light bulb Desmond 22 hey we're just these little light bulbs that allow the Divine energy to come through but you better screw yourself in to that Divine force and you do that through the mundane things and Phil talks about this a lot too uh the big things come through the smallest things microtransactions he calls it every single little thing matters because you're either connecting to something bigger than yourself or disconnecting yourself Etc and I love the body the people and then the self um but again you're not going to be able to interact with your wife or with your kids in a powerful way and I can say this as an expert in it if you didn't get a good night of sleep and you're not eating well and you're not moving your body who wants to be around you nobody and who do you want to be around nobody so control your controllables dominate those fundamentals um and let's go and I drew a pyramid Phil before you described your pyramid because I always draw Abraham maslo who's right next to you on my wall and I didn't say it but that's Phil of course on my wall if anyone wondered who that is he's underneath epicus and when I meditate every morning I get Aristotle and maslo and then epicus and Phil Aristotle tells me udonia via AR mazvo tells me what one can be one must be uh epicus who is as intense as me and Phil would say to me does say to me practice your philosophy Phil tells me a ton of things but lately he's been telling me good philosophy ends in action which is just a a kick for me to get get done when I need to get done anyway beautiful we've got energy covered let's talk about work so you work with some of the most elite performers in the world obviously a lot of actors a lot of directors but also a lot of uh you know top top professionals Bankers other performers people we haven't heard of um who were showing up at their highest levels um many of whom were at a very high level before they came to you and went even higher and locked it in after but what's your number one thing you teach people that you think has the biggest impact that you think we'd benefit from hearing about in the work domain the creativity creative domain Etc probably the most influential thing is when there's something they they either don't think they can do or they they think maybe they can do it but there's no confidence to take somebody through that where they realize they can do what here to for was impossible is it's almost the greatest accomplishment that a human being or the greatest experience probably more so and why is it such a great experience because part X the enemy makes itself known as I call it the um the Avatar of um of impossibility so when you so the mo you you think well the goal is to get another Academy Award or something it's not the the goal in almost all of them even the ones that I don't particularly like they're they're they're stretching the boundaries of the world that they live in and their assumptions about it and most of them do it uh they have no choice is probably the right way to say it it's just it just comes naturally to them even guys who on the surface you think what a prick you know what a self-centered what even them um once they catch on to something that represents forward motion and expansion more than anything else they can't they can't help themselves um but to go for it um is that answer oh it's so no this is good so I asked you what the most transformative thing is you teach your clients and would want to teach us on work and what she said was the other thing that Phil says to me on my my meditation is Conquer The Impossible just barks at me Conquer The Impossible Conquer The Impossible do that which you are truly capable of doing that leads us back to the kind of um Prelude here when I celebrated the things about you that I admire the most and appreciate the most in the face of men and women you see Heroes you see infinite potential actualized and you know that your infinite potential exists on the other side of your comfort zone which is why you love the turds and the discomfort and the challenges of life so much is because those are the Catalyst for us to do the impossible and that that faith that you talked about that you have in me and that you have in in humanity and you have in each of your clients is is again one of the most sacred gifts that I am so fiercely committed to practicing your and our philosophy at the highest possible levels as a demonstration of that which is possible in my own idiosyncratic way and then saying if I can do it you can do it what is it you're here to do but asterisk you're going to need to work hard and you're going to need to love the pain the uncertainty the hard work and quit complaining about it and quit not knowing what you'd say when I asked that question I had written down let's make sure we talk about the people that you know work hard for a day or two or three then they want to pack their bags and take a vacation and be exonerated from any further future hard work and I literally said in a plus one last week that you laugh out loud at those people and all of us who have those Tendencies at times to think that we're going to get to a point where we don't need to work harder so if you want to conquer the impossible every single moment of Our Lives is the moment to live with ar such that we can be heroic and and you've you frankly you've given me the permission to be me and even and with my intensity and my aggression and my desire to show up and even this daily thing that I'm doing it's Phil so Phil and I had the chat and it was one of the rare times when you and I had coherence and I didn't immediately do it because I knew this was a big deal and Michael and I needed to go through some reps to get clarity that no we're going to do this but that impossibility of on a mundane level me showing up every day and on a bigger level of trying to do the things we're doing to make a difference in the world is huge and I before we go to love I want to make the point too that if we're going to change the world which the reality is if we're going to change the world and create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051 we playfully the good guys and gals need to have the same virtuous ambition that the individuals who might be leading with viciousness who are Unapologetic in their ambition are hitting their targets on the vicious side of things so if we're going to step up and and make a difference we need to have the same vision the same ambition connected to something bigger than ourselves and then the same willingness to do the hard work to conquer the impossible dealing with partx to bring it out of the abstract dealing with partx moment to moment to moment and Phil's whole work is the tools so when your anxiety your overwhelm your depression your shame whatever it is crops up that's the cue the trigger the prompt to work the protocol to practice your philosophy to use one of Phil's you know dozen tools he shared in the the two books and the dozens of tools that we've shared via the plus ones there's no other moment but right then and that's why the bad things that turds are so powerful if you use them as triggers to practice your philosophy that's the fastest way to get great is to embrace the uncertainty and the pain and then to do the hard work so again to operationalize this and we'll come back to um was there anything you want to comment on that before we move on father I can't remember I see I said a lot getting me fired up let's go can you give me a hint no we'll move on to love so energy get your life force up work Conquer The Impossible love uh when you work with your clients what have you found to be the most transformative thing that you share with them practical wisdom that you share with them regarding love relationships connection um number one love requires submission people don't like it the ego wants to do everything by itself and love love is a threat to the ego um because it it says you can't do all this yourself and why does it say that it's because the love and and asking for or needing help go together um if you uh I don't know how many people here know that picture but this there's a picture of Lattis work it's just lines going horizontally and then some going vertically but it makes up like this screen or Matrix or something like that um and it's held together and and there my famous um turds are are into every time there's a there's a um intersection people are crazy over here uh um anyway so what are those turds in this context where you're trying to almost in a way reconstruct the universe and the answer is the turds are need so love means nothing if it comes in a context in which you you don't need it um and there are certain feelings both both if feelings of inspiration and also feeling of uh how can I say this um feelings that connect you connect you to the entire human race that if you if you don't have at least some of this you're not in love and it's a it's a very counterintuitive um uh philosophy but that that's what I've actually uh found and I I encourage oh and the other thing is um usually it's just emotional but sometimes you have to give away material LS but the the the reason giving things away and we call that ABS but mostly it's it's um giving away attention validation um uh um attention all these are all things that in a sense put you in a um especially for men they think it's is is putting putting themselves in a in a weakened position they've lost their ability they've lost their independence but it's very much the opposite of that which is the more you give away the more you get and people say well I that's a California you know [ __ ] thing what are talking but it's not there was this is what's called phys um spiritual physics and what it means is the universe itself is expanding there's a famous line in Woody one woody he comes home from school he's freaked out he says to his mother how can you stand there and just wash the dishes when the when the earth is expanding he goes um but but even though it was a joke it's not actually that much of a joke um so the if the universe is constantly expanding the only way you can keep up with it the only way you can stay aligned with it is by giving yourself that's that's called outflow so outflow connects you to the most powerful force in the whole universe the force that actually created the universe but you have to you can't cheat this thing you have to do it wholeheartedly and as often as you can um and and what I say to people is that's your new religion because it which means exercising the faith to give to give away as much as you can or not not to hold on to soever you want to say uh so that's what I tell them