hey Mathers I'm Rosie Hernandez welcome back to my channel today I am finally making the highly requested video you guys have been asking me to tell you how to ask your parents for permission to let you get social media hey guys I just wanted to say very quickly that I'm doing this video in collaboration with my friend bill he got she's gonna be doing a video on how to convince your parents to be an actor so if that's something that you're interested in go check her out I'll put a link in the description down below and you can watch it after this video now in this particular video I'm going to be focusing on Instagram and then I'm gonna make a separate video for tik-tok because it's two different things so you might want to go about it in two different ways now if you want an Instagram account you are going to have to compromise and what I mean by compromise is you're gonna have to compromise your privacy if you are going to be asking your parents to let you have social media but you know that they might say no because they may be a little bit strict then you have to be prepared with a few things under your belt in order for them to change their mind I'm gonna go into it in just a bit now if you're wondering how I know that this will work it's because I have a teenage daughter as most of you know but if you're new to my channel I have a teen daughter and when she was younger she wanted a social media account she wanted to Instagram and of course at first I said no and she made a few suggestions and then I so said okay if we do this and this has to happen so we kind of both agreed on a few things and then eventually I loosened up and she was able to have her Instagram account and I'm not too strict with it anymore but I know that she is very responsible while she's on it and she has gained my trust so that is how I know that this will work before I start the video I do want to say that there are a lot of different variables as to why your parents might still say no for the most part you're probably gonna get a no at the beginning and then once you use the tactics that I'm gonna be with you they'll probably end up changing their mind and say yes but if they still say no it all depends on your age on where you live on how strict they are there's many variables so keep that in mind so the first thing that you want to do is you want to tell them that they can have your username and password if they are able to log into your account read your messages see who you're following see what you're posting all that good stuff then why would they not let you have an account they can have control over your account and ultimately they can even delete your account if they really feel like you do not need to be on there so you want to go into this with an open mind knowing that your parents are going to have access to your account and why not what is there to hide you know if you want an account if you're 10 11 years old 13 whatever your age is you should have nothing to hide so when you go to them make sure you ask them like this mom can I ask you a question so I was wondering I was only if I can have an Instagram but before you say no don't say no yet and then explain you know you could have my password my username you know have all my information so you know like on the safe and like I'm being responsible I guess if I can have your password I don't see why not but you need to ask me before you post anything for permission I know what you're thinking what they're gonna tell me what I can and can't post that's ridiculous but some parents are that strict so if this is how your parent is just go along with it just trust me on this just say okay yeah sure I can ask you what I'm gonna post before I post it and trust me that once you get that yes once you get your account going and you have it running for a while they are going to loosen up they are going to relax and realize that it's not as bad as they think and that you do know how to use it and how to be careful and how to not respond to strangers or to block someone that's bothering you or not to follow certain accounts that post bad things you know so they're gonna trust you you're gonna build that trust and they're gonna know that you're not stupid enough to post stupid things or mean things about people you want to stay away from the drama they probably just don't want you to post stupid things and things that are gonna haunt you later on in life so all you want is to get the yes all you want is to get your account up and running once you have that and you earn their trust and you show them that you are responsible and not being stupid on social media then they will loosen up those reins and they will just be more chillax about it the second thing that I would say is if your parents have an Instagram account themselves you can tell them that they can follow you and that they can see all of your posts you're not gonna block them you're not gonna hide your stories from them anything like that because there are kids who do that if you're gonna do this be honest be straightforward or else you're gonna lose their trust and it's just a mess so be upfront from the start and don't do anything you're not supposed to do the third thing that will make your parents feel like they are being protective of you as far as your online presence is if your account is set to private if you tell your parents I'm going to set my account to private strangers will not be able to see my post they won't be able to message me there are certain things that you can do to protect your stuff and so your parents need to be made aware that hey listen you can have my username and password you could read my messages you can see my posts strangers won't be able to see what I post because I'm going to create a private account I only want this for my friends to be able to see what I post or I want to see what my friends post and I don't want to feel left out then if you say all those things are gonna feel a lot better now if they say this no you're gonna get distracted and then your grades are gonna fall behind you want to tell them that there is a way that they can manage how long you're on the app for they can go under settings that could literally put like no more than 30 minutes a day for you and it will block you out of that app and they can even set a password like it'll say do you want to set a password if you do want to go over the time limit and they can do that so you can tell them like mom you can control literally how long I am on the app if you don't want me to be on there longer than an hour if that's your concern then just do it via the app thing I won't be on there longer than that it won't even allow me if that's how you said it so there are settings that they can put into place so that you're not on there than you need to be now if they say this no no you're you're too young to have it make sure you ask them this like how old do I need to be um hey at the end of the day if you are too young to have it if that's how they truly feel then eventually you will be able to get it but at least you're planting the seed now at least you're telling them right now and eventually you will get a guess the key is to start as soon as possible that is all for today guys please comment down below let me know how old you are and why you want an Instagram account and if you need advice on anything else please let me know in the comments section and I will respond to you via video I hope that you guys are having a wonderful time despite these difficult times and I will see you in my next video seek those [Music]