we all want to succeed and one path to success is identifying the habits that can help us on our journey i recommend starting that path by reading stephen covey's best-selling book the seven habits of highly effective people don't have time to read all 432 pages i get it most of us don't that's why we have summarized the entire book for you if you find this animation helpful smash the subscribe and like button so that we can continue to craft such animations with love and care especially for you so what habits do highly effective people have this book the seven habits of highly effective people by stephen covey opens with an explanation of how many individuals who have achieved a high degree of outward success still find themselves struggling with an inner need for developing personal effectiveness and growing healthy relationships with other people covey believes the way we see the world is entirely based on our own perceptions in order to change a given situation we must change ourselves and in order to change ourselves we must be able to change our perceptions in studying over 200 years of literature on the concept of success kofi identified that in earlier times the foundation of success rested upon character ethic things like integrity humility fidelity temperance courage justice patience and modesty but starting around the 1920s the way people viewed success shifted to what covey calls personality ethic where success is a function of personality public image attitudes and behavior now people look for quick fixes they see a successful person team or organization and ask how do you do it teach me your techniques but these shortcuts that we look for hoping to save time and effort and still achieve the desired result are simply band-aids that will yield short-term solutions they don't address the underlying condition the way we see the problem is the problem right stephen covey we must allow ourselves to undergo paradigm shifts to change ourselves fundamentally and not just alter our attitudes and behaviors on the surface level in order to achieve true change that's where the seven habits of highly effective people come in here is a brief summary of this book habits one two and three are focused on self mastery and moving from dependence to independence habits four five and six are focused on developing teamwork collaboration and communication skills and moving from independence to interdependence habit 7 is focused on continuous growth and improvement and embodies all the other habits now let us discuss all the principle centered 7 habits in detail habit number one be proactive we're in charge we choose the scripts by which to live our lives use this self-awareness to be proactive and take responsibility for your choices the first of seven effective habits that stephen covey discusses is being proactive what distinguishes us as humans from all other animals is our inherent ability to examine our own character to decide how to view ourselves and our situations and to control our own effectiveness put simply in order to be effective one must be proactive reactive people take a passive stance they believe the world is happening to them they say things like there's nothing i can do that's just the way i am they think the problem is out there but that thought is the problem reactivity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and reactive people feel increasingly victimized and out of control proactive people however recognize they have responsibility or response ability which kovi defines as the ability to choose how you will respond to a given stimulus or situation in order to be proactive we must focus on the circle of influence that lies within our circle of concern in other words we must work on the things we can do something about the positive energy we exert will cause our circle of influence to expand reactive people on the other hand focus on things that are in their circle of concern but not in their circle of influence which leads to blaming external factors emanating negative energy and causing their circle of influence to shrink now challenge yourself to test the principle of proactivity by replacing reactive language with proactive language for example reactive is he makes me so mad proactive is i control my own feelings habit number two begin with the end in mind start with a clear destination in mind kovi says we can use our imagination to develop a vision of what we want to become and use our conscience to decide what values will guide us most of us find it rather easy to busy ourselves we work hard to achieve victories promotions higher income more recognition but we don't often stop to evaluate the meaning behind this busyness behind these victories we don't ask ourselves if these things that we focus on so intensely are really what matter to us habit two from the seven habits of highly effective people by stephen r covey suggest that in everything we do we should begin with the end in mind start with a clear destination that way we can make sure the steps we're taking are in the right direction beginning with the end in mind is also extremely important for businesses being a manager is about optimizing for efficiency but being a leader is about setting the right strategic vision for your organization in the first place and asking what are we trying to accomplish before we as individuals or organizations can start setting and achieving goals we must be able to identify our values this process may involve some rescripting to be able to assert our own personal values rescripting kovi explains is recognizing ineffective scripts that have been written for you and changing those scripts by proactively writing new ones that are built of your own values now challenge yourself to test the principle of beginning with the end in mind by doing one visualize in rich detail your own funeral is there what are they saying about you about how you lived your life about the relationships you had what do you want them to say think about how your priorities would change if you had only 30 more days to live start living by those priorities two break down different roles in your life whether professional personal or community and list three to five goals you want to achieve for each three define what scares you public speaking critical feedback after writing a book write down the worst case scenario for your biggest fear then visualize how you'll handle this situation write down exactly how you'll handle it habit number three put first things first in order to manage ourselves effectively we must put first things first we must have the discipline to prioritize our day-to-day actions based on what is the most important not what is the most urgent in habit 2 we discuss the importance of determining our values and understanding what it is we are setting out to achieve habit three is about actually going after these goals and executing on our priorities on a day-to-day and moment-to-moment basis in order to maintain the discipline and the focus to stay on track towards our goals we need to have the willpower to do something when we don't want to do it we need to act according to our values rather than our desires or impulses at any given moment viewers mr smart has crafted a complete video about the time management matrix which stephen covey has explained in his book don't forget to watch this video using the link above in card or below in the description habit number four think win-win in order to establish effective interdependent relationships we must commit to creating win-win situations that are mutually beneficial and satisfying to each party now let us discuss a few paradigms of human interaction that stephen covey has discussed in the seven habits of highly effective people one win lose if i win you lose win-lose people are prone to use position power credentials and personality to get their way two lose win i lose you win lose win people are quick to please and appease and seek strength from popularity or acceptance three lose lose both people lose when two win-lose people get together that is when two determined stubborn ego invested individuals interact the result will be lose-lose win-win or no deal both people win agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying to both parties if you can't reach an agreement that is mutually beneficial there is no deal the best option is to create win-win situations with win lose or lose win one person appears to get what he wants for the moment but the results will negatively impact the relationship between those two people going forward the win-win or no deal option is important to use as a backup when we have no deal as an option in our mind it liberates us from needing to manipulate people and push our own agenda we can be open and really try to understand the underlying issues another important factor in seeking win-win situations is to maintain an abundance mentality or the belief that there's plenty out there for everyone most people operate with the scar city mentality meaning they act as though everything is zero-sum in other words if you get it i don't people with scar city mentality have a very hard time in sharing recognition or credit and find it difficult to be genuinely happy about other people's successes the more committed we are to win win the more powerful our influence will be lastly the spirit of win-win can't survive in an environment of competition as an organization we need to align our reward system with our goals and values and have the systems in place to support win-win so what are the key lessons get yourself to start thinking win-win with these challenges one think about an upcoming interaction where you'll be attempting to reach an agreement or solution write down a list of what the other person is looking for next write a list next to that of how you can make an offer to meet those needs two identify three important relationships in your life think about what you feel the balance is in each of those relationships do you give more than you take take more than you give write down 10 ways to always give more than you take with each one three deeply consider your own interaction tendencies are they win-lose how does that affect your interactions with others determine whether or not this approach serves you well in your relationships write all of this down viewers you can watch part b of the summary of stephen covey's seven habits of highly effective people through the lincoln card above and description below here i need to remind you that mr smart is not just another youtube channel it is a complete learning and self-development platform visit the website mrsmart.org for more content quizzes and courses also join the smart club through the link and pinned comment for illustrations pdf version and detailed quiz for each new animation subscribe and hit the bell button for future updates 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