Exploring the Power of Commitment

Oct 7, 2024

Lecture on Commitment

Introduction

  • Commitment is essential for great achievements.
    • Example: Amelia Earhart's transatlantic flight.
    • Olympic athletes' dedication.
    • The Fishers’ 86-year marriage.
  • Commitment shapes our lives significantly.

The Nature of Commitment

  • Small Daily Commitments:
    • Example: Getting out of bed in the morning.
    • Even small commitments contribute to shaping our day and life.
  • Larger Commitments:
    • Work and relationships require deeper reflection.

Work Commitment Statistics

  • Gallup poll results:
    • 13% psychologically committed to their jobs.
    • 24% actively disengaged.
    • 63% not engaged but still influenced by work.

Commitment in Relationships

  • Cohabitation vs. Marriage:
    • Cohabitation before marriage may lead to higher divorce rates.
    • Reasons for cohabitation: convenience or testing the relationship.
    • "Sliding vs. deciding" concept: leading to unintended commitments.

Psychological Aspects of Commitment

  • Commitment is about psychological attachment and intent to continue.
  • It's not just a binary state but varies in degrees.
    • Can be highly committed, low level, or in-between.
  • Factors that predict commitment can influence personal and professional life.

Personal Anecdote: Author’s Book Commitment

  • Opportunity to write a book proposal leading to a nine-month commitment.
  • Importance of having a plan and prioritizing commitments.
  • Letting go of other commitments to focus on writing.

Factors Predicting Commitment

  1. Treasures (Benefits)
    • Values, meaning, joy derived from commitment.
  2. Troubles (Costs)
    • Problems and difficulties associated with commitment.
  3. Contributions
    • Investments of time, energy, and emotions increase commitment.
    • Example: Melinda Keckler’s career decisions.
  4. Choices
    • Availability of other attractive options can reduce commitment.
    • Example: Melinda finding new career opportunities in PR.

Conclusion

  • Understanding and shaping our commitments can lead to a more fulfilling life.
  • Importance of evaluating treasures, troubles, contributions, and choices.

Commitment Equation

  • Commitment level = Treasures - Troubles + Contributions - Good Choices.
  • Aim to shape commitments actively to create a valued life.