Guidance for Healthy Relationships

Aug 15, 2024

Save the Date Message Series

Purpose of the Series

  • Encourage some individuals to consider marriage.
  • Inspire others to break up if in the wrong relationship.
  • Focus on dating, sex, marriage, and answer common questions.

Key Questions

  • How do I find the right person to marry?
  • Suggest focusing on becoming the right person instead.

Important Ideas

  • "You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are."
  • Aim to become the type of person the person you are looking for, is looking for.

Three Qualities You Need Before Marriage

  1. Secure in Christ

    • Fulfillment and security should come from Christ, not relationships.
    • Marriage doesn't make you complete; Christ does.
    • Insecure people need more and settle for less; secure people need less and expect more.

  2. Strong in Character

    • Build a life of righteousness on a strong foundation.
    • Develop growth in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity.
    • Strong character is vital for a strong marriage.

  3. Planted in Community

    • Community plays a significant role in shaping the quality of your relationship.
    • Surround yourself with friends who model strong marriages.
    • "The strength of your community will shape the quality of your marriage."

Biblical Perspective

  • Marriage is not the ultimate purpose of life.
  • Singleness can be a gift, allowing undivided devotion to the Lord.
  • Aim to live a life wholly devoted to Jesus.

Action Points

  • Focus on personal growth in Christ rather than seeking a partner.
  • Build a strong character and community, reflecting security and integrity.
  • Seek relationships where both partners can serve Jesus better together than apart.

Prayer and Reflection

  • Ask God to search your heart and guide you.
  • Pray to be secure in Christ, strong in character, and planted in community.

Conclusion

  • Our purpose is not solely to find a partner but to be wholly devoted to Jesus.
  • Encourage personal transformation and readiness for God-glorifying relationships.
  • Celebrate those committing to their faith journey and relationship with Jesus.