How to Be a W Boyfriend

When It's Not the Right Time

• Recognize: Sometimes it's just not the right time to pursue a relationship.
• Alternatives:
  • Study things that interest you.
  • Hang out with friends.
  • Engage in hobbies or make content online.

Understanding Your Reasons

• Know Your 'Why': Understand why you want to be in a relationship.
• Self-Honesty: Be brutally honest with yourself about your motivations and readiness for a relationship.
• Mirror Exercise: Remind yourself why you love the person and why the relationship is important to you.

Handling Personal Triggers

• Empathy and Boundaries: Have empathy for each other's triggers but understand that managing triggers is your responsibility.
• Energy Management: Be conscious of how your response to triggers affects the relationship.
• Partner Is Not a Therapist: Venting is okay, but it's not fair to make your partner shoulder your psychological burdens.

Seeking a Balanced Relationship

• Grace and Accountability:
  • Find someone who grants grace but also holds you accountable.
  • Avoid partners who enable poor behavior.
• Self-Worth: Your story and worth do not depend on having a partner.
• Hobbies: Find hobbies that bring you joy, regardless of how good you are at them.

Elements of a Healthy Relationship

• Closure: Get comfortable with the idea that not every situation will have immediate closure.
• Patience and Space: Allow things to unfold naturally and give your partner space when needed.

Communication and Vulnerability

• Express Feelings: Learn to communicate your feelings and needs effectively.
• Fight Societal Norms: Society discourages male vulnerability; intentionally pursue it.
• Collaborative Solutions: Work together to find solutions rather than dictating terms.

Handling Mistakes

• Being Wrong: Accept that you will be wrong sometimes and prioritize solutions over justifying feelings.
• Boundaries: Set and respect boundaries for a healthier relationship dynamic.

Continuous Improvement

• Ongoing Work: The work never stops even after you're in a relationship.
• Growth for Self and Partner: Keep improving not just for yourself, but also for your partner.

Final Thoughts

• Affirmation: You are worthy and capable of maintaining a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
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