How to Make Men Fall in Love by Doing Nothing

Jul 5, 2024

How to Make Men Fall in Love by Doing Nothing

Key Concepts

  1. Do Not Reach Out First

    • Do not initiate calls, texts, FaceTime, or social media messages.
    • Let him make the effort to contact you.
    • Keep yourself busy and not always available on the phone.
    • Encourage in-person meetings by reducing low-quality communication.
  2. Stop Sleeping Over

    • Avoid becoming too readily available and mundane.
    • Let him experience strong emotions such as anticipation and excitement when he thinks about you.
    • Ensure the time spent with him is high-quality and memorable.
  3. Do Not Plan Dates

    • Do not remind him of dates or plans he mentioned.
    • Allow him to remember and take initiative on his own.
    • Avoid becoming the planner or the ‘man’ in the relationship due to anxiety.
  4. Do Not Beg for Attention

    • Don’t ask why he isn’t spending more time with you.
    • Maintain a fulfilling life outside the relationship.
    • Ensure happiness and purpose in your life without relying on him.
  5. Do Not Yap About Yourself Excessively

    • Avoid trauma dumping and exposing insecurities too early.
    • Keep some things to yourself; discuss personal issues with close friends instead.
    • Let him talk more about himself during early stages of the relationship.
    • Be aware of how much personal information you reveal to avoid manipulation.

Strategies

  • Create scarcity by limiting your availability. Make yourself an “experience” he looks forward to rather than someone constantly available.
  • Allow men to “cook”—let them develop feelings naturally over time without rushing the process.
  • Remove low-quality interactions to enhance the desire for high-quality, in-person time.
  • Maintain independence by having a rich, fulfilling life outside of the relationship.
  • Engage him emotionally by focusing conversations on his interests and experiences, not just yours.

Mindset

  • Patience is key—relationships don’t progress as fast as fairy tales portray.
  • Avoid anxiety-driven actions that seek to accelerate the relationship unnaturally.
  • Understand your worth and maintain your standards.

Important Reminders

  • The men who are interested will make the effort to reach out and plan dates. Trust in that process.
  • Quality interactions build stronger connections. Avoid mundane and overly-comfortable routines too early.
  • A fulfilling life outside the relationship ensures you aren’t dependent on his attention for your happiness.
  • Misplaced sense of urgency might push men away rather than draw them in. Allow things to unfold naturally.