if you speak less and listen more people will tell you what you didn't ask you were given two ears and one mouth so use them in that proportion specifically what I'm talking about is what people say when they're upset when they're mad when they're sad or when they're just not feeling well people reveal many things about who they are and how they feel based off of what they say and how they say it but one thing I want you uh to not get caught up in is how people say things because me personally when I love something or I'm passionate about something it usually get a rise out of me and I begin to talk loud and I will literally yell at you and tell you I love you or I care about you and some people can't take that but listen to what I'm saying instead of how I'm saying it it's just passion but anyways you you have people who get angry and they say things that they don't mean now that can be true but that tells you something about them they lack emotional intelligence and they don't have the ability to control their anger properly while we make mistakes and we all do these things if it's a continuous pattern that shows you the lack of emotional intelligence and ability to control anger so every time someone gets upset set with you if they find a way to tear you down or they always say something hurtful that that pattern tells you more than that too it tells you that there is something going on in their head there's something they wanted to say to you a long time ago and they only have the guts to say it when they're angry because they are cowards really listen to what people say really listen to what people say down to people like you you could tell somebody oh I got a new job and they like oh well how much you getting paid you're like um $15 an hour U yeah it'll be better if it's 17 you know or when they when they address something that you have or that you do they put the word little in front of it oh I see you making your little videos oh I see you going to your little job um they they try to belittle you at I mean the word is right there little and they place that in front of every everything that you do like I said little job little videos little career little dreams I see you with your little girl I see you with your little boy you I'm sure y'all didn't ran into this everything you do has to be little all right I'll let you go and finish your little day or whatever and you like that's not even necessary especially when all you do is try to build people up that's around you but it's like every time something you know is in your possession or it's it's for you you it has to be announced as little especially when they get mad I'm not going to be with a man who works a little job or I'm not going to be with a man who drives a little car and they just constantly beat you down right so that's another example and another one or another theme is that this hatred and these these ulterior motives and emotions that go behind these words usually come from hate and jealousy that's basically the topic of this video and my Concept in philosophy on hate and jealousy is that hate and jealousy is just Twisted admiration and some people are so insecure and they are so caught up in this bubble to where they cannot accept themselves and they hate things about themselves and they see you thriving and they see you so comfortable in yourselves and they hate the fact that they can't accept themselves so they try to project that on to you they don't want to accept parts of you because they see you flourishing and living a life of prosperity and peace and and it bothers them when when you see someone walk into a world that captured you and they walk so freely it bothers you it bothers those people that's why they try to tear you down I have been told by people in the same breath in the same breath I love you you are perfect and the more I get to know you the more I hate you all in the same breath but what did that tell me what did that tell me the more I get to know you Shaman the more I have to look at myself and because I'm comparing myself to you and the way you flourish because comparison is the thief of Joy the more I see you flourish the more I hate myself that's what they're saying really listen to what people say I have been told all in the same breath Shaman I am very proud of you you have accomplished so many things you are a great man a king a king would be jealous and envious of you and in the same breath I was told that I was everything that a man is not I was everything that a man shouldn't be all in the same breath but what does that tell me you admire me and it bothers you that you admire me especially not that you're upset or you're just emotionally unintelligent and now that you're upset you want to take the treats you gave me away because you want it to hurt me you want to put me up on a pedestal and then pull the pedestal from under my feet so I can fall and crash down to where you are that's what it tells me I'm not just listening to what you saying I'm listening to what's behind it because I know it's more to it when a person is not okay with them elves they will do everything in their power to bring you into that same dark place and you cannot fall for it they say the drunk Never Lie right drunk people get that drink in them and that alcohol starts speaking for them right it starts saying the things that they've been suppressing all the time anger works the same way and what do they say oh I was drunk or I was mad I didn't mean it yes you did in some way shape or form you Mee and like I said in this video we not just going to bank on that thought like every time somebody say something hurtful that they just you know they hate you or something like that but it shows a lack of emotional unintelligence right but it's about the patterns when you hear this one time from a person let it ring in your head note it right if it happens again note it then you'll know and just build on that don't just let somebody you know say something cuz i' I've said things I've said things to hurt people's feelings purposely right being emotionally unintelligent and I apologize and I made things right but it was a mistake that I made right I don't I don't do that now and if I ever do that I will make it known and I will apologize and I will show you who I truly am because I don't hate you I'm not bothered by you and your relationship with yourself I'm good over here now if I feel cornered and if you keep pressing me and you keep trying to disturb my peace cuz one thing I don't tolerate is a person that is trying to disturb my peace I will oppose your will or I oppe my will onto you however you want to put it like you're not going to just throw jams at me and try to hurt me and try to ruin what I built up I I will throw something back at you all in the same breath and tell you I was joking so don't make me you know what I mean get on that level but just listen to people man like I said you got two ears one mouth use it in that proportion and um people will tell you everything you need to know without you even asking so PE just take it as compliments man any hate any jealousy you receive just takeing his Confluence cuz it is a Telltale sign that someone is not on your level and they admire you but it bothers them so it's like 2: in the morning I'm going go ahead and lay down get some rest I love you guys thank you for the support and I hope this made sense to you guys bye