When it comes to seduction, the first quote that I always hear when I talk about seduction is people saying, yeah, but I don't want to play games. I want them to love me for who I am. I don't want to do this or do that or to use this technique or that technique.
And I'm like, you're right. You know, the people like the person you end with should absolutely love you for who you are. And I'm not here to tell you to manipulate people. I'm here to tell you to step in your abundance and magnetic.
and very self-confident energy because this is what at the end attracts people into your life. Humans always naturally feel if someone is very desperate, if someone is in this chasing energy and if you are in this chasing energy, you naturally repel people from you. Even if they liked you at first, even if you are totally their type, you know, because they sense that you are just too desperate for it, you are just too chasing.
it comes across as needy you know they sense energetically that there's something wrong and then they try to push you away and this makes you want to chase them even more and i'm just here to bring you back to knowing your worth to knowing what to do and to knowing how to step into this seductive and feminine energy to actually allow the masculine energy to chase you detach from the person. Every form of attachment creates an energetic tie between you and the person. Maybe you know the scenario that the more you are interested in someone and the more you show it to them, the less interested they seem to be in you.
Suddenly this person is pulling back. Suddenly their energy shifts. Suddenly they are not acting the way they acted at the beginning.
Why is that? That is because now you are the one chasing them energetically. You are the one pouring all your attention over them, pouring all your love over them, and they think, okay, I already have what I want. No, they are the one pulling back, you know.
It's because you energetically give too much in that scenario. You may have a full story in your head about how your partner should be, what kind of marriage do you want, how many kids you want, and then you meet a person. and you idealize them to the point where you try to make them fit for the narrative that you already have in your head.
And this is where this unhealthy idealizing starts. Because this is when the attachment starts. Now you think they are the missing piece to my dream life. They are the prince that I have been waiting for. They are the father of my future children.
No, they are not. You have to learn at the beginning to simply detach from anything, from any outcome, from any expectations and from any person. Get to know someone, date them, whatever, talk to them, but don't attach yourself to any idea you have about this person.
This is the idea of dating. The idea of dating is getting to know someone on a deeper level, to know who they truly are instead of who you want them to be. so when i dated people i was never disappointed some of my friends they date guys and they are like oh my god i'm so disappointed he didn't get me flowers he didn't do this he didn't do this and i was like why do you have expectations have standards but don't have expectations i have standards no and this is what i communicate to every guy i say i have my standards but it's up to you if you meet them and if i see okay you don't meet them okay you know i'm not forcing you into buying me flowers I'm not sending you TikToks of women getting flowers from their boyfriend.
This is embarrassing. I would never do that. I would never send you, buy me flowers, buy me gifts, give me money.
This is embarrassing. If you have to tell a man what to do, it's embarrassing. Communicate your needs, communicate your standards, but never tell a man, buy me this, buy me this.
This is embarrassing. It's simply embarrassing. If a man truly wants you and loves you and meets you at your level of expectations, he will naturally do that. You know, my ex-boyfriend, he was a natural provider. He came home from work, sometimes he just put money on the table for me.
He was like, yeah, spend it. He bought me a car, he bought me a Rolex, he bought me whatever. I never had to ask him to do this.
I never had to send him reels of women getting princess treatment. I never had to say, oh, I want flowers. I never had to do this. It was his natural instinct to provide for me.
And this is what you have to understand. You can't form a provider out of a man who is just comfortable with, you know, doing the bare minimum. You don't want to build a man into being the man that you want him to be. You want to meet a man where you're at. So when you're dating, don't have expectations.
Have standards, but don't have expectations. You know, so many of my friends, they get so worked up and so disappointed over people they date. And they're like, oh my god, why didn't he do this? Because he simply is not the right man for you.
Stop stressing out over these things. This is like a confirmation from the universe Okay, not the right partner for me. Thank you for your time I'm never disrespectful, you know? When I communicate this, I'm like, okay, thank you for your time, but I think it doesn't match here. I think we're not quite a good match.
You know, I have another expectations, you have another expectations for a relationship. That's it. Move on. Why do you keep yourself getting trapped into like changing this one specific person? Let them miss you and let them wonder about the things you are doing.
The mistake that a lot of people make in dating is that they do not give this person the room to wonder and to fantasize about them. You are updating them 24x7. I'm going to the gym now.
I'm cooking myself something now. I'm going to the city now. I'm showering now. Who cares?
Let them wonder what you do. Let them guess, oh my god, what is she doing right now? What is she up to? What is she wearing today? Don't...
update them 24 7 as if that's your tweet account i don't know why you why you do this a huge part of seduction is using the imagination in craving in longing for something you know when you miss someone when you want to be in the presence of someone when you ask yourself what is he doing right now this is a part of seduction because you are fantasizing about him you are thinking about him you are wondering about him why don't you give him the room to wonder about you to fantasize about you. Why are you updating him 24-7 as if he's some sort of diary? If you're always on your phone, always updating them, there's not much room for them to wonder about you. And sooner or later, they tend to get bored, you know, because they know what you're doing 24-7 of the day.
You're updating them. You know, they don't even have to ask, hey, what you're doing, what you're up to, because you already told them. I'm not saying play games and let them wait for a reply on purpose, okay?
This is not what I'm saying. But I say... put your phone on do not disturb the world is out there live do your hobbies go and do your things you know cook something bake something meet with your friends spend time in nature paint something listen to music go to the gym do things and don't care about your phone stay busy and invest into yourself invest your energy into yourself and then when you take your phone then you can reply but don't Don't make your phone the center of your life because oh my god they could text me any minute.
No. Mute the notifications. Mute everything. Don't become a slave to the notifications of your phone, to the notifications of this specific person. You are your own priority, you know?
I would never want a partner who just drops everything, drops his workout routine, drops his work, drops his hobbies, drops his friends. just to make me the center of his life i actually think this is embarrassing no matter if it's for women or for men this is embarrassing the top priority the center of your life will always naturally be yourself so if you meet someone and you cancel all of your plans for them you know you switch up all of your schedules just to meet them just to spend time with them because no they are your top priority in life you are on the wrong path You are neglecting your own needs, your own time, your own routines for another person. And every healthy individual would never want you to do that.
Just very desperate people want you to leave everything behind and make them the center of the universe. I would never want that. I would get repelled if a man would stop... working out.
I would get repelled if a man would stop investing energy into his work. I would get repelled if a man would suddenly just leave his friends behind because suddenly I'm in his life. This is desperate.
It shows me that he has no self-respect. He has no respect for his own times, for his own schedules, his routines. And he's desperate. He's desperate for my attention. I would never want a desperate man.
You need to learn how to flirt. You need to know how to flirt and how to use your body language to signal attraction to someone. For example, if a woman shows her neck to a man, it's exposing vulnerability.
It's automatically attractive for a man if he's like, let's say you are in a restaurant with him, you know, and then you pull your hair back and show your neck, exposing your neck to him. This is a signal of you showing him that you are attracted to him. If you tilt your head, if you hold eye contact, if you look at them in a certain way, if you talk in a certain way, even the tone of your voice can change so much. You know, I talk very fast, for example.
But let's say if I would want to flirt with someone on purpose, I would talk slower. I would use another voice. You know, I would change the tone of my voice. I would use a lot of eye contact.
I would smile. I would expose my neck to them. I would naturally lend my body to them. You have to know how to work with your body.
You have to know what kind of signals you have to give to other people to make them feel attracted to you. You have to channel this siren-like energy where you want to lure this man into your energy. And you can actually do this by loving your own energy. There's nothing that's more attractive than a person who's really loving and cherishing their own energy. This is magnetic.
If you see someone and you see they are so comfortable with who they are, they feel so beautiful within themselves and not in an arrogant way, okay? But in a very self-confident way, this just draws you into that person because you are like, wow, what is it about them that makes them so special? It's actually their own energy. The way they perceive themselves, the way they carry themselves.
also use astrology by knowing someone's venus and mars sign you know exactly what kind of women or men they like and i have this astra app and you can ask questions on this app for example if you know that his venus is in scorpio you can ask what is venus and scorpio attracted to naturally people with venus and scorpio for example they are attracted to very intimidating like dark personalities very mysterious people they love very intense things they don't like superficial love they don't like superficial relationships they like to be like kind of this whole tight connection with someone and this is one of the first things i always do when i get to know a person i ask for the birth chart this is one of the first things i always do i swear i ask for the birth chart i calculate their birth chart you can calculate someone's birth chart by um um having their birthday the time of their birth and the city they were born and you can just google a birth chart calculator and then you can calculate the birth chart and then i look okay what is the venus sign what is the moon sign what is their mars sign because these are the signs that i really like to know when it comes to getting to know someone romantically because the moon sign for example represents how this person is dealing with the emotional side the mars sign their sensual side and the venus sign is their romantic side so if you want to know something just go to the astra app put in your question and then you can get to know so much about a person and also about yourself you know if you are not sure okay what do even i want from a person you can also ask the astra app about your placements I don't care if you are dating a celebrity, if you are dating a politician, if you are dating the richest man on the world. Humanize them. They are no better than you.
They are just another human being and I want you to understand that. Because sometimes when you meet someone and you start to idealize them. Oh my god, they are so perfect. What you do is you dehumanize this person.
You take the human qualities off of them and tend to see this ideal mask. Like this ideal... thing that you have built around them.
This is not the true self. You have to see people as who they are because they are not the prize. You always have to see yourself as the prize.
They have to win you over. They have to make an effort to convince you. They are just humans.
And I say this to all of my friends, to my sister, to everyone who's like coming to me with like dating problems. I say they are just a man. It's just a man. Nothing more and nothing less than that. They are just a human at the end of the day.
You know, they go to the toilet. They take showers. They cry. At some point they fell down when they were a child.
They have embarrassing moments. They fall asleep thinking about some embarrassing moments of their life. They may be singing in the shower. They are just a human being. And they will never be more than that.
No matter what they do for you and no matter how you see them, no matter how popular they are. no matter how much money they have, they are just a human being. Humanize them. See them as a human being that is capable of having flaws and weaknesses because all humans have flaws and weaknesses.
You set the bar on how much someone is comfortable disrespecting you. Let me say this again. You set the bar on how much someone is comfortable disrespecting you.
Men or like any kind of people, people in general, will always test your limits. They will test what they can do and what they can get away with. They will test how is she acting if I don't reply for three days? How is she acting if I don't bring her flowers? How is she acting if I let her go to sleep while being in a fight?
How is she acting? They will naturally test these limits to see how far you are willing to go with them. They will test if they can ghost you here and ignore you there.
Cancel a plan here. How long will you stay? How long will you stay until you communicate, okay this is enough, not with me. This is what they are doing. This is why a lot of men suddenly change their behavior because then they are testing you.
Oh how much can I test this girl? What is she willing to put up with? If you never set your boundaries they will think you have none.
If you don't communicate, hey, stop disrespecting me, they will think you are okay with the disrespect. If they ignore you for four days and then suddenly come out of the blue again and you're like, oh, hi, I missed you so much, they will think you are desperate. They will think you are weak.
They will think you are easy to have. They will think you don't know your worth. I'm here to tell you the harsh truth because I was that kind of girl.
I was like, oh my God, I'm so happy to see you. I was 16, you know, fresh in love, my first love. Oh my God, everything is so perfect.
Oh, it doesn't matter if you ignore me for a week and then come back. It doesn't matter if you ignore me for seven months and then suddenly come back. It doesn't matter.
This was how delusional I was. And I got my heart broken. So I'm here to tell you what you shouldn't do to not get your heart broken. Because I don't want you to have these experiences that I had to have in order to learn.
I want you to learn from my mistakes. And by the time they have ignored you for the third time, and you still don't have enough self-respect to not reply, He will think, oh my God, she's so desperate and needy. I can do what I want with her because she's there.
She's available. I can go out, do this and that, ignore her for days. She's available no matter what because she has no self-respect. This is how these men see you. These men don't think, oh my God, she's so cute.
The fact that she actually waited for me. No man thinks like that. They think you're easy to have.
They think you're embarrassing. They think you're desperate. You know, you can even switch this. Think about all the people that want you and chase you the whole time. The people you sometimes joke about with your friends.
You know, oh my god, I don't know why this guy just doesn't stop chasing me. Oh my god, I don't want him. This is the same way men think about you if you chase them, if you are too easily accessible. Why?
Because we sense desperate energy. And what do we naturally think in our brain when we sense desperate energy? We think there has to be something wrong with them.
Because no person who has a real value and real self-respect would act like this. So what is wrong with them? There has to be something wrong, you know?
Nobody would give away themselves so easily unless there's something wrong with this person. This is what we naturally think. It's like the same effect when you see a very expensive bag on the street for free. You think, oh my god, this is like a Birkin bag.
For free? Okay. This has to be a knockoff. This has to be fake. There has to be something wrong with this.
This is the way you think about people who give away themselves too easily. Who chase and chase and chase and chase and never stop. Who always reply no matter how many times they have been ignored.
This is what we think of them. Oh my god, too easy. I don't want that.
There has to be something wrong with them. Don't become too predictable. You know the problem with me is if I would get to know a man nowadays He has my full social media my full videos my full highlights He would know everything about me and I you know, unless he's also in the social media thingy I would not know as much about him and this is really a thing that annoys me because In the past, I was always very private, very like mysterious, you know, I had like 60 followers, would never accept any strangers and nobody knew anything about me and this is what you can use to your advantage. If you are a very private person, people have this naturally instinct to want to figure you out. They want to know what is behind this mask, like it's a secret that they want to figure out, it's like a riddle they want to solve and this is very interesting because I myself...
I'm always attracted to mysterious people. Why? Because being mysterious allows people to fantasize about you. It allows people to think, oh my god, what is this person doing?
Who is this person in the core of themselves? What are their interests, you know? And the more you know about the person from the beginning, the more they become predictable to you. You know, if a man watches my video right now and decides to approach me, he knows exactly what I'm doing.
He knows exactly that I have self-respect, that I have these and these expectations. So he could also manipulate me in a way to meet these expectations, to give me what I want in the beginning, just to manipulate me later. But this is the risk that I willingly take with exposing myself to the internet, you know, because I want to help other people.
But if you are not doing social media, I highly recommend you to stay as private as you can and let people figure you out. Don't become too predictable. People long for mysterious people. They long for people who have this aura of, you know, nobody knows that much about them.
Nobody knows what they're up to. Nobody knows what they are doing. I've talked with a lot of men regarding these topics, you know, and any man that I talked to and I asked him, okay, who was the girl that sticked out the most for you? Every man said it was the girl who made it very hard for me to reach her. and who made it even harder for me to get her, to seduce her.
Why? Because men naturally like to hunt. They always want what they can't have.
You know, forbidden fruits just taste the best. Become this forbidden fruit and see how someone will chase you. It's not always about the man. It's not always about the person.
Most times it's about your energy. The harsh truth is that the same man who ghosted you can give another woman princess treatment. Why? It's not because, oh my god, she changed him.
It's because she knows her worth. It's because she never met him at a level of disrespect that you were able and willing to met him. And it's because she communicated her needs and wants.
And he knew, okay, the only way I can get access to this woman is by meeting all of her standards and wishes. And this is what he did. And this is what I mean when I say limit the access to you.
If it's for friends or in relationships, limit the access to you. You know, people have to provide real value in order to even be in your life. And if you get to know someone and you sense, okay, this person is not willing to provide value, you can communicate your needs, you can make it clear. And if they don't do anything, it's okay, let them go.
They are not for you. They are for someone else then. because they are not willing to meet you and you should never lower yourself for anyone If I'm here and I meet a man who's here, he will drag me down to here.
If I'm here and I meet a man who's here, he will rise me up to here. The minimum you should always expect from a partner is what you are giving. For example, I don't drink alcohol.
I'm not comfortable with having a partner who drinks alcohol. I don't go to the clubs. I don't go partying. I'm not comfortable with having a partner who goes partying. I am financially free.
I want a partner who is financially free. I have a lot of discipline. I go to the gym. I take care of my body. I want a partner who's disciplined, who goes to the gym, who takes care of his body.
I am very honest. I'm very loyal. I want a partner who's very honest and loyal.
Like, why should I accept less? If I have my own apartment, if I have my own car, why should I accept a man who's still living with his mother? Why should I accept a man who has no car? It sounds superficial, but it isn't because I'm not willing to meet a man. who has not as minimum the same as me because i will naturally feel uncomfortable i will feel like his mother you know if i had to drive him around who am i i would never do that if he would move in in my apartment no way no way it's either you're here and i'm here and you help me to rise up or you're here and you can go because i'm not doing this builder work where i built my man into who he wants to become this is his job I built myself up and it's my natural instinct to look out for a person who has built themselves up as well. Why should I look out for a project?
Why should I look out for something to be fixed if I fixed myself? You know, I don't like people becoming too dependent on me. I want a partner who's independent, who fixed themselves, who figured things out himself and who meets me at a level where we can both grow. I don't know why, but a lot of men nowadays, they want like a yapping partner. My friend, please go talk to your friends.
I'm not here for your entertainment. I'm not here to chat the whole day with me. I have things to do. It's like I get disgusted by this behavior.
Show him that the only option to get closer to you is by taking you out physically. Because if we are texting with someone, you know... It's like it's it's so unnatural.
My father always says this, you know He says to me if you want to talk with me about a very important topic come to me and let's talk in person I will not talk over this device to you and this is the same for dating You know, you have to see how this person acts in person in flesh and blood There's nothing cute about text messages. It's literally like it's just data on your phone. It's taking up data on your phone Please do something take me out Plan something with me Let's do something. I don't care about text messages.
I delete them. I don't care. You can learn so much more about a person if you're spending time with them in real life.
You can see how they behave towards other people, how they behave towards you, if they can hold eye contact, the way they move, the way they talk. It's so much nicer and you actually get to know this person instead of just this illusion of them by using your device. It's literally like, it's like a glowing rectangle.
Like, ahaha, what are you doing? If you want to know what I'm doing, pick me up and do something with me. Ahaha, what are you wearing?
If you want to know what I'm wearing, send me a dress and I'll wear it for you. Easy as that. Why are you asking? Why are you on your phone the whole day?
Don't you have like money to make? Don't you have to go to the gym? Don't you have friends to meet?
Don't bother me on my phone. I don't like getting these text messages all day. I think we should go back to the basics.
like the early 2000s where we just had our phones to send like a few messages a day and then call to make up a plan that's it that's my ideal version that's it if you want to talk to me let's meet i'm willing to meet with you let's sit somewhere let's go to the park let's do anything but you know take your phone out of your hands Some people are just not into you, okay? No matter what you do, no matter how attractive you are, no matter how much you seduce them, no matter how beautiful you are, no matter how rich you are, no matter how talented you are, some people will never be into you. And you just have to accept this.
Not every person has a project to make them love you. People are just people. Like I said, they are just a human being.
It's okay if they are not into you. You are not into everyone, you know? I was not into everyone.
and they were very very successful people and i was not into them it's okay you have to learn this to stop avoiding too much energy into the wrong person the world is abundant there is an abundance of men or women waiting to meet you there is an abundance of people who are able to fall in love with you you have to trust in that abundance like there's no need to cry over someone that lives in your home city i swear the world is so big my friend What is like the chance of you meeting the love of your life in your home city? In your small city? I don't know. It could be, you know. That's it with my video, guys.
I love you. And we will see each other in my next video.