people always come to me they're like liz i'm not confident i'm not confident i don't feel confident in who i am whatever why should you be confident no tell me why should you be confident how does your life look because most of you guys do not care about the things you eat you guys watch reality shows for fun um you guys never read a book you guys have no skills um never leave your house never do anything to get yourself uncomfortable and then you want to be and you want to complain about oh i'm not confident of course you're not confident you haven't developed anything you don't even know yourself how can you be confident in something if you don't know what it is you know if we look at the biggest athletes if we look at footballers they are so confident in how they play and whatever they do why because they show up every day they train and they know that what they're doing is the best that they can because they have trained their whole life where they have developed whole skill these people have discipline these people do not think about uh i feel like it or i don't feel like it no how you feel does not make you become a whole professional footballer does not make you become an athlete does not make you become successful business manager whatever you want to be confident your feelings should be off it's not about your feelings listen you don't feel like going to the gym who feels like going to the gym no listen there's some people they actually enjoy going to the gym right um i don't i don't enjoy going to the gym but afterwards words i feel like a million bucks i walk out of the gym i'm like yeah i did that and i feel so confident about myself because i do things without thinking about them now i wake up in the morning it's automatic i go to yoga i go to the gym that's it afterwards i feel amazing because i push myself to do things i push myself i push myself and then every time i create a new limit for myself and then i'm like yeah liz you can do more you can do get comfortable with being uncomfortable okay what do i mean by this so uh recently i have read this book it's called the mountain is you it's an amazing book i would recommend it to everyone it's an amazing amazing book in this book the author goes on to describe that we as humans were not wired for happiness we are wired for comfort so our whole goal in life and what we're looking for because people say oh i want money money will make me happy it's not the money it's the comfort that comes with money you just want to have a stable and comfortable life you just don't want to worry about bills that's why you want that you know it's stability it's comfort that's what our human nature is that's what we want as humans so you for example doing something uncomfortable like imagine you never went to the gym then you go from never going to the gym to going five days a week to the gym that's a whole shock to the body because your body is not used to it so what your body does is it tries to protect you because now it's in fear mode it's like oh i don't notice this is uncomfortable i should protect you because this must be bad if it's uncomfortable that's why instead of shocking yourself into something do small things but do them consistently start going to the gym two days a week then you do three days then four days go for 10 minutes go for 15 minutes little by little but make sure your body gets used to it because once your body is used to it your body can recognize it as something good as something comfortable if you look at doctors if you look at physicians if like they're not like uh i don't know what to do with this knife and trembling and being insecure while they're operating no they get it done why because they know their craft okay so if you start going to the gym you don't know how the machines work once you go there consistently you will know how the machines work and everything and listen to me those other people in the gym they don't care about you okay don't think like oh everybody's watching me they will judge me blah blah everybody is there to become the best version of themselves everybody has the same goal they are trying to become the best version they have their own insecurities don't worry they're not looking at you you go there you go there consistently and you make sure that you get good at it because that's how you become confident in what you're doing and that's how you become confident in yourself because you push yourself you do uncomfortable things until they get comfortable i grew up with extreme fear of heights like i was so so scared of heights if uh when i was younger if i would stand on a staircase and you could see through it i would not stand on it i would literally my feet would be trembling scared of heights you know what i did last year i went and i jumped off an airplane literally because i was like i do not grow in my comfort zone i will never be confident if i don't do things that i am not comfortable with until i develop skills until i push myself and every single time i can prove to myself that i can do better i can do better i can do better that's how i became confident and i damn yeah i did that i jumped off an airplane even though i'm scared of heights and i used to have this issue where i would get red in the face like a tomato right somebody would come up to me talk to me i would get red instantly and i kept getting red kept getting red until one time i was like you know what i don't care anymore about getting red because every single time somebody talked to me and i'd be like oh no i'm getting red i'm getting red i would get even more rather and it would just be an awkward and embarrassing situation for me until one day i was like you know what i don't care i'll get red whatever what does it matter so somebody was talking to me and i noticed i was getting red and from that moment on i was just getting red more red more and then they're like oh you're getting red i was like yeah it happens they're like okay they don't care i don't care and once i start to develop this mentality of like oh whatever it doesn't matter it's not that big of a deal literally the redness start to go because i had accepted it that it's something that i need to feel really feel until it goes i had severe social anxiety when i was younger i would not talk to people anything i would always look down and um basically there was one youtube video that said if you have social anxiety um try to when when there is a bus that comes to wave at the people in the bus and look at them then i was like you know what i'm gonna do that so basically there was one bus that came and i did after school i was standing there and i was like waving at the people and some ways back and some they didn't react they didn't even notice they don't care but then i was like whoa i actually feel better because of this you know because i pushed myself to do something that i would not normally do so and then even more now like i'm used to being very secluded and on my own and everything but outside even i just talk to random people i just go up to people i talk to them you know how interesting people are literally people love it when you talk to them when you can learn stuff meet new people just go up to them talk to them it's not that big of a deal you can just go up to people and have conversation because it's beautiful if you own a business or and anything in life just networking is very important you can meet the right person by just going up and talking to them and they can connect you to someone else and that's it you have a whole new career you know things happen like that sometimes even i believe that god sends you certain people to teach you something right so if you really listen to people when they come up to you when you talk to them or you go up to them that can be a message that can be a signal for you but just be open another thing is let go of perfectionism listen to me the first video i have ever uploaded on youtube i did not want to upload why because my lips look like crazy my lips look crazy i know that in every single video of my my lips look crazy okay i have this ring light this lighting makes my lip look lips look crazy they i don't know they don't look good they don't look like this in real life if you go to my tech talk you can see it if you go to my instagram you could you can see it they don't look like this but i did not want to upload that video because because of my lips so imagine i even refilmed that video imagine i had never uploaded that video i would not be where i am today i would not be a successful youtuber today if i had not uploaded that because i did not think that i looked perfect i did i i was embarrassed i thought whoa this is really ugly you know um but i'm glad i uploaded it because you know what the issue uh is when you are thinking about you're creating a craft right or you're creating a business and you're insecure about your business or whatever you cannot be insecure if the only thing you're thinking is how is my service to people right so i am making videos and i'm thinking um is is what i am is what i'm saying good will it help people with uplift people yes that's true that is good then does it matter the way that i look no i can look like an overfilled crazy lip person i do not care i get comments on it constantly i know it looks crazy on camera i don't care because this is not my reality as long as what i am saying and what i'm delivering for you guys and uplifting you guys is good enough i'm fine with it you guys can laugh as much as you want with me at least i'm helping people because that's my only optionism is basically a fear of oh what will other people think what did will they say um yeah let me break this you people don't think in general literally they some people really honestly they're uneducated they don't know what they're saying they have a different background different culture and you're thinking in your head oh my god what will they say what will they think honey literally they're not thinking okay so that should not be your concern perfectionism stops you from doing it anyways you know how many successful businessmen i know and businesswoman that literally started their business without even knowing what they're doing literally they they just started selling stuff or delivering a service and then they were like okay now i'm gonna figure out how to do it create routines so i i have a morning routine and a nighttime routine when i wake up the first thing i do put my clothes on i go to the gym or i go do hot yoga um afterwards i come home i do my skin care i shower immediately i feel fresh i feel re-energized everything i say my blessings i i say what i'm grateful for i thank god and that's it i'm gonna go about my work i'm gonna go about my day then when i go to bed same thing i i do my skincare again i shower i shower my body then i go to bed i i do a little meditation afterwards i say my prayers i say what i'm grateful for and i talk to god about my day and that's it i go to bed i have a morning and a set night routine why because it organizes my mind um we as humans were creatures of habit so we need certain things that can lead us to like uh an organized mind is an organized life imagine if i woke up i don't even like clean my bed i just leave it as it is i just don't do my skincare i just go outside like this i will feel sluggish i will look sluggish you know i prioritize my self-care always i'm going to explain to you why self-care is so important listen if you do not care about what you put in your body if you do not care about how you move your body if you do not care that when you're really ill and sick and the illness not going away to even go to the doctor if if um if you don't care about your clothes being clean or ironed or whatever that is a form of lack of self-respect literally and nothing else because most of the things are very easy we all have water we have soap you know you can clean yourself if you respect your own body if you respect yourself other people will respect you and you'll have more confidence in yourself i my main priority is always look clean smell good if i i don't have to look perfect i don't have to look glamorous whatever um i just look clean and i smell good and that's good enough for me because the way that i take care of myself shows to the world how they should take care of me if i do not find myself worthy of care they won't find me worthy of care i don't respect myself they don't respect myself if i walk in somewhere they can see that i'm a person that respects herself just because of the way that i take care of myself it's work on your posture listen i went to um a chiropractor today because i want even better posture and he basically explained to me the way we get good posture is by moving it's when you're he is like doesn't matter you don't have to go to the gym do this and that and blah blah choose a sport that you like for example i love hot yoga i'm really into hot yoga right now yoga by the way is really really good for your posture so i do hot yoga now a lot and i've seen improvement in my posture like automatically i sit more straight and he said if you take a child that has been doing sports since he was young and take for example a brother that hasn't the child with the sports will have a better posture than the brother because he is all the time moving that's the thing he's like even when you're sitting on a computer they say you have to sit like this straight right he said no that's not true as long as you can sit like this this this but he's like as long as you're moving if you're moving it allows your back muscles and everything to just get stronger you know so just make sure that you move a lot that's how you get good posture create another version of you until it becomes you listen i grew up being silenced i was not able to speak my mind to speak my thoughts anything it was just you shut up and you're not smart and you're gonna shut up that's what i got told every single day so basically what happened is i grew up i always wanted to be a youtuber i always wanted to give advice because i loved doing this what happened is i could not do it why because liz i decided you know what i have to go in therapy because i can see that my the way i'm behaving is really not normal um so i went into therapy for my ptsd and i'm still in therapy i'm still healing but i had to create another version of me i had to create the wizard list in order to get this done because i could kind of act i could put the wizard live in front of the camera and she could talk and she was confident and she would say anything that she wanted to say and it would be amazing and she believed in herself and she thought that anything she said was valuable meanwhile liz was still healing but now i became the wizard liz i know that what i say is valuable i know that anything i do is amazing because i'm helping people and i know that i'm helping people and that's the only thing that i've ever wanted to do so i became confident in whatever i'm doing i acted like the highest version of myself and i became the highest version of myself visualize what your highest version is what what are your highest versions hobbies what are your highest versions um uh what is her job what does she want to do what is she good at um how who does she date you know or who does he date whatever think about this you create this whole person in your head and every single thing whatever you do you think first okay is this something that the highest version of myself would do if it's not you don't do it you do not do it if you are trying to text an ex what you think to yourself is this something that the highest version of myself would do and if it's not you do not text your ex because you're trying to become the highest version okay and the highest version does not act that way i created this mentality it's called the okay and mentality he ignored your text message okay and you tried a business and it failed okay and um they do not find you attractive okay and literally who cares no no who cares why is it such a big deal listen most time uh people like will not find you attractive that's normal uh people don't have interest anymore that's normal you failed well yeah means you tried something good for you do it again and do it again and do it again until you're good at it until you're successful do it again don't have moments in your life where you can literally look at it and be like okay and what does it matter hey listen i don't think you guys realize one day we're all not gonna be here anymore and isn't that peaceful isn't that so peaceful the fact that one day we will all not be here anymore all these people that are laughing at you are telling you you're stupid are bullying you all these things ah these people won't be here anymore and you won't be here anymore do you really want to waste your precious life your precious energy giving to those people believe me they're not worth it let's put this energy in becoming the best version of you let's put this energy in putting these people down by just becoming the best version of you realize how weird people are literally i have been very lucky to be able to travel the world i've traveled to many countries i've met lots of people lots of cultures different people i genuinely love people i think they're amazing but every single person that i've ever met everyone had something weird about them a weird quirk like all these weird little things and i think that's beautiful i think in today's day and age with social media we kind of forgot how real people really are i mean if you look at instagram everybody's so uptight and so perfect and you know all these images but people are weirds people have insecurities people um laugh in a weird way people talking a weird amazing these are humans this is amazing if you would actually go out and meet people and talk to people talk to older people talk to younger people you would realize how everybody is so different in their thinking and that's so beautiful people i need the more i realize oh wow everybody's a little traumatized oh these people also have issues from their childhood and everything i'm not the only one you know so i think just you know yeah just meet people sign up to classes sign up to dance classes sign up anywhere and meet other people and you will see those people are just exactly like you another thing is if you are insecure do not have social media or limit the things you watch i'm gonna explain to you why listen um i watched this ted talk and it was basically about this woman who was talking about uh cuba and how the dance culture in cuba is and she basically said in cuba they don't have commercial so they don't see the normal social beauty that we see on the daily that we see on instagram that we see uh on everything they don't have billboards like that right so in cuba a woman that's 80 thinks she's beautiful and thinks she's amazing and she can still move her hips like that and she's confident in herself because she doesn't get shown images as to how she's supposed to look you know social media is literally so bad for that like so bad if you're insecure about your looks do not watch these filtered people do not watch these models listen some of them are genuinely naturally extremely gorgeous you know but do not look at them because it's gonna drain you it's gonna make you even feel worse about yourself for me i'm not even on social media at all i post my stuff i post my videos i never watch any accounts i do not read comments i i don't do anything i post i leave i don't watch any tick tock videos i don't do anything because i need to protect my mental health i do not like social media i never like social media um i do watch youtube self development videos listen to podcasts i like these things but to actually go ahead and look at celebrities look at them people living a lifestyle and things like that no why why it's gonna drain me completely start realizing that you're not that important literally being nothing important is the most amazing thing ever it gives you freedom it allows you to do whatever you want to do that you feel is good and best for you okay listen to me people have lots and lots of problems you guys don't even know people are literally they're they're they're still sucking their traumas they're still stuck on so many things people are not healed they they have uh they have so many things that they're still worrying about today you are least of their problems you know even me i'm a public figure people might look at me look at my videos they listen to my advices but when they go at bet uh in the night they think about their own problems you know they think about what do i have to get done i have to do this more blah blah they don't think oh my god what is it wizard liz doing you know nobody thinks that i'm not that important but that's amazing because i don't want to be that important literally i want people to focus on themselves and that should give you more confidence because anything you do really isn't embarrassing because people don't really think about it and they don't really think about you you know you are thinking about you they are thinking about them that's it love yourself was in the process listen when i say create this better version of yourself doesn't mean we have to hate this version okay i have goals that i'm trying to reach and that i'm going to reach but right now oh i love liz right now because she is amazing liz gets up every single day working very hard for her goals and dreams trying every single day and yeah she has bad days some days but you know what it doesn't matter because she always comes out on top of it you try to break her nope she comes back again i'm like a cockroach you try to kill it but she comes back multiplied you know you cannot get rid of me that's the issue you can't because i have this hunger and i want to win and i'm going to win so liz right now she's amazing i love her so so so much and i tell myself that i tell myself you're amazing you're beautiful i'm proud of you every single day when i look in the mirror when i do my skincare i go over my face i'm like wow you have beautiful eyes you have beautiful hair you have beautiful lips you have beautiful teeth i say that to myself and then i go on to say i'm proud of you you have accomplished so much you're trying like every single thing that i have done that i look like that i just say to myself i literally grab myself i hug myself i say you're amazing like i talk to myself and you know like when i uh made that video of talking to myself in the mirror and saying that i'm mesmerizing that i'm beautiful some of my followers said liz i love you but this is cringy and i just want to say to that why is it cringy we talk like this to our friends to our family to our lover but talking to you like that is cringy why why if you are not willing to look yourself in the eye and tell yourself how amazing you are how beautiful how mesmerizing how proud you are of yourself you will not be able to accept those compliments or love from somebody else because you cannot even say to yourself listen to me next time you walk into any meeting into any presentation you have for school into a date whatever you walk into that place like you own the place literally you're scared for that job interview why did they choose you to come in if you were not qualified you would not be called to come in okay you're scared to do that presentation in front of people these people are there to listen to what you're saying you have the time to speak your mind it's a form of respect they have for you you're scared to go on that date think about do i even like this person are they even good enough why are you going on that date thinking like oh i hope they like me no no no do you like them do you like them is what they are saying valuable is it interesting if it's not hey just leave another guy another girl will come you deserve to have a good life you deserve to have great life you deserve whatever that means to you you know some people they just want a normal stable life and that is great for them and that is amazing that is amazing but if you want more you deserve more anything you want you can get anything someone else already has done you can do as well even when it hasn't been done before you can be the first one to do it you can do things things exist things already happened if it's possible for other people it's possible for you you need to prove yourself to anyone or anything if you what you're trying to do is a good thing if you have good intention that's it good enough good enough listen to me people come from different backgrounds different parents different cultures were raised in a different neighborhood they will not understand you and they do not have to understand you they don't if you are looking for validation from your parents uh from your friends from uh whoever outside to give you validation and say to you hey listen you are amazing or your idea is amazing if you are looking for that you will not get what you want because people do not understand it the vision was not for them so they don't understand it it was given to you so when something is given to you and you want it bad enough you do not listen to and you don't you don't need to hear that you don't need to be like okay they think it's good so now i can do it no the fact that you think it's good and you think that you have good intention will be enough to accomplish what you want to accomplish you will not need to hear it from anyone the point where i became really successful was when my back was against the wall my whole family was literally against me i said listen you're this is so embarrassing you're just embarrassing us right and then i was like i do not care then then i'm gonna go 100 for it because i know i have good intention i'm not doing anything wrong and that's when i actually really really became successful and right now funny enough this is not embarrassing anymore and this is something to be proud of to be celebrated because people only come when you are successful then they're like oh wow we knew you could do it you know but that's just life and i had to accept that and i do not care about that but that's how it is realize that you know nothing i think coming to terms with the fact that we all don't know anything is amazing literally because the more that i realize that i know nothing the more i'm willing to learn and i think knowledge is beautiful see when i meet people i literally love to let them talk i used to be the kind of person that would interrupt or be like yeah yeah whatever or like yeah yeah when they're talking like exactly yeah yeah give them reassurance constantly but now i'm just looking at them and let them talk because first of all i do not need to give them reassurance reassurance for what they're saying if what they're saying is valuable they will say it without me saying yes yes obviously i'm not a little bit but i don't say it anymore you know as well i actually listen to what they're saying i'm not just listening to react i actually want to hear what they're saying and i want to think about okay what is it that they just said to me you know i think that's really important listen to people people can teach you beautiful things i have had conversations with doctors with with um people that work in uh retail uh people that work and just all over i've had the most beautiful conversations with people and i have learned so many things it's insane you're only gonna learn if you're willing to listen to them and if you actually believe that what another person teaches you can be valuable and that you don't know it all and i will for example i will never know it all never i listened to this meditation and it had a saying which is basically the universe always provides i replace that with god always provides it's the most beautiful affirmation that i have been repeating to myself lately whatever happens i say in my head god always provides if i can tell you guys one thing in my life when i needed something when i needed somebody to leave my life that was negative when i needed protection and i asked god god has always delivered there was not a time that god has failed me ever ever so for me i live my life thinking when somebody is removed out of my life and it hurts me i think it's okay because god provides god knows what he's doing he has a better plan for me i was meant to be successful i was meant for greatness so whatever he does is for my greatness it's not to sabotage me he's trying to provide for me and trying to help me so what i do is i allow him please help me you know i thank him for every single thing every single thing i am thanking god when i go to bed even if i had a bad day because that bad day teached me something there are no bad days honestly i i listened to uh i heard this in a movie bulletproof and it basically had a quote which was there is no good or bad there's just fate there is no good or bad there's just fate anything that happens in your life was meant to happen to literally put you to a point where you are now and that's it it was not good it was not bad it was meant to happen and living like that is easy but knowing that god always provides and how i will always be good because god has my back makes me powerful thank you so much for watching guys i hope you guys enjoyed the video um and yeah i see you guys in the next video i love you so much