Lecture Notes: Developing Confidence and Personal Growth

Introduction

• Speaker's personal experience with shyness in high school and homesickness in college
• Realization of the need for confident behavior to achieve dreams

Key Concepts

Behavioral Change

• Change starts with behaviors, not attitudes
  • People act differently when they see themselves behaving differently
• Important questions for self-development:
  • Who am I?
  • Who do I want to become?
  • How does the person I want to become behave?

Speaker's Journey

• From homesickness and lack of confidence to becoming the first female general manager of a Triple-A baseball team in nearly 20 years
• Host of "Leadership is Female" podcast interviewing female executives
• Key skill for progressing: confidence

Six Behaviors to Develop Confidence

1. Count Yourself In

• Use counting to initiate actions
• Example: Overcoming nerves in sideline reporting by counting down
• Personal experience: Using counting to confront the opposing manager over uniform issues

2. 20 Seconds of Courage

• Give yourself 20 seconds to be brave
• Example: Publishing a podcast by pushing through fear for 20 seconds

3. Take a Seat at the Table

• Literally and metaphorically take up space and share your thoughts
• Example: A woman representing top baseball names decided to sit at the table and speak up

4. Cheer for Others' Success

• Celebrate others' achievements to build a supportive network
• Quote: "Good for her, not for me" - Amy Poehler
• Example: A woman gained a promotion by publicly congratulating a new league president

5. Leverage Past Success

• Use past achievements to boost confidence for new tasks
• Example: Reviewing job successes before pitching for a promotion

6. Celebrate Constantly

• Mark and celebrate accomplishments to reinforce successful behaviors
• Example: Creating a highlight reel, buying a massage, or ordering a pizza

Conclusion

• Speaker's transformation through building confidence
• Encouragement to the audience: Imagine what you could achieve if you were 10x more confident
• "How many runs could you score if you were 10 times more confident?"
• Final thanks and applause