welcome to the podcast Anita it's like a freaking Oprah Winfrey episode up in [Applause] here here is the global Superstar from Brazil [Music] it's Grammy award-winning super dark kidnapped your daughter you kidnapped my daughter jumped on a private plane you know there's no way you're going to keep there on the top every time forever healthy alive asking myself where is my next hit where is my next hit Where is My Success oh my God the more my message gets out there the more hate and vitri all that I get I'm going to die I'm going to die I was like desperated I think to be an ultimate human is to ultimate human hey guys welcome back to the ultimate human podcast where we dive deep into the stories that shape us the passions that drive us and the health Journeys that transform us today we're thrilled to welcome a phenomenal force in music and a beacon of resilience and health advocacy Anita she was born Lissa de maso Machado in Rio de Brazil Anita's Journey from a YouTube Discovery to a global Superstar Grammy award-winning superstar has been nothing short of inspirational with hits like involver capturing her or catapulting her to the top of the Spotify Global top 50 chart she's not only put Brazilian music on the world map but has also become a vocal advocate for body positivity Women's Health and particularly in her battle with endometriosis which we are going to dive into today she's an entrepreneur an artist a warrior on her health journey and Anita's story is a powerful Testament to the spirit of overcoming the importance of Wellness in achieving Peak Performance join us as we explore Anita's multifaceted career her approach to Wellness and self-care and how she balances the pressure of Fame with her unwavering commitment to her own health regimen and Brazilian Heritage hey guys welcome back to the ultimate human podcast where we go down the road everything anti-aging bio hacking longevity and everything in between and today's podcast is going to be a big part of the everything in between I I couldn't be happier to have this guest on you've seen her intro she is absolutely Ancon who took the music scene by storm but her story is absolutely phenomenal her health journey is even more compelling so we're going to dissect it all today I'm going to warn you maybe Midway through the podcast you might want to get the kids out of the room because we're going to talk about the stuff that everybody wants to talk about but nobody does all this stuff that the wives want their husbands to hear and husbands want their wives to hear but nobody has the balls to do it so we're going to go down that road today my guest I am proud to call a close friend she's very close with my daughter and my family um welcome to the podcast loressa AKA Anita it's like bringing Oprah Winfrey episode up in [Applause] [Laughter] here like an Oprah Winfrey episode I am super happy to be here I'm so happy to be here too because you and I have had an amazing journey right um aside from the fact that you dancing with my wife and travel the world with my daughter um and and our families have become so close but when we first met um you know we we were introduced by Dave grutman the hospitality king of of the world and I um they talk about six degrees of separation when you put Dave grutman's name in there it becomes one degree of separation like I'm like how does one person know so many people every but when when he first called me to have a conversation with you um it was not particularly good time in your life all and I remember he told me all about you and you know at that time you were on this meteor rise and um the media had discovered you the music industry had discovered you and you were just on this meteor rise but you were really suffering yeah I was struggling I was thinking I was going to die for real you know our very first FaceTime you were laying on a couch and you didn't even take your head off the pillow I remember somebody put the FaceTime down on the on the couch and you were laying there and we started having this this conversation and you were actually deep the struggle of endometriosis and not only that right remember it was not only that well I mean it also affected your you know mood your emotional state you know you cried a little on the phone to me I just remember feeling this deep sense of This Woman's trapped my hormones remember my hormones oh yeah yeah when we was crazy hormone panel yes you were having a lot of pain you for those for people that don't know what endometriosis is and most women are familiar at least with what the condition is but it's where tissue from the uterus grows outside of the uterus the ovaries and and it and it can be very very painful and um I remember we got blood Labs on you and I was talking to Dr sarda and she was like oh my God this poor woman's tortured and you know we've got to get this this birth control out of her body remember you were going back to Brazil to have the procedure done um I mean look at you now things have obviously changed but but let's let's talk about a little bit about that Journey yeah and I don't I don't point the surgery as the solution for anything right for me the solution was when I met you and I started to actually take care of the 360 of Life of my life not only like oh cuz I think before meeting you and everything and getting into the nutrition and understanding how to eat healthy and the behaviors we can do we can have in our daytoday before that I and I think most of the people are like that too is like they wait to feel pain somewhere to take something some medicine to to cure that or to do a surgery to fix that and I think if you just live a life worrying about staying well you don't get to the point of needing to take the medicines and surgeries and etc etc yeah I mean that so well said and I remember that our you know our journey like you know of course you had that um you know you had that birth control remove yeah um and that was a big part of it I remember we said look let's wait two weeks after you have that remember they they put a u uh IUD that was of Hermon that didn't that made me very sad remember I was like depressed and then they changed to a a ship kind of a ship yeah one that we can't even do here in the United States and in Brazil they do a lot lot and I was like this ended my life it was like I was like so frustrated and traumatized by going from Doctor to doctor and then when I met you and you said listen let's do all natural things yeah and you're going to get better also I was always tired I remember that and this is also something that when I'm working too much and I for example I had Carnival in Brazil right now and I was the whole January in February working nonstop and did you see that video that I like 3:00 a.m. to 3:00 a.m. like in no even more 3:00 a.m. to 700 a.m. I was like more than 30 hours uh working and uh I was feeling like sleeping all day every time and then people are like oh no that's okay it's cuz you were so tired that you need to sleep for days and I'm like but this is weird I'm just feeling tired all day every day and I feel like it's because when you don't have the like the discipline to remember oh listen I'm got to eat right I got to take the vitamins right I got to do this and this and that remember to take care then you start falling again yeah and for me if you it's very clear to me cuz then I came here right after last week yeah and one day of of machine biohacking yeah one day of that and I was like what wow I'm ready again I remember your face changed like just in the few hours that you were here and we should talk about like you know what what do we do um you know basically we just tapped into Mother Nature we just did it indoors with magnetism oxygen and light because one of my big things is the further that we get away from Mother Nature the sicker we become right it and and I introduced you to something called the pemf mat the pulse electromagnetic field mat and um you look like a yoga mat and you just lay on it and and I know you love this thing love it it's I take it everywhere I go yeah I can't I take everywhere she she she told me a funny story and I'm just going to lay her crazy out there so here so here we go we cut this out if you want but I don't care it's fine but she was like I was with my boyfriend and he wanted to have some fun and I was like I don't feel like having sex and then she said she laid down the BMF mat no but it's it was even harder than that because we went partying it was my my birthday uh trip right so we went partying we were like drinking drinking drinking and it might hit you different ways you might just feel like super excited or kind of like crying and this and that and that's how I was feeling I got to the hotel and I was like crying for no no reason crying for nothing and he was like okay and I said to sleep we love that part I'm going to go to sleep and I went to sleep cry I I turned on the mattress and I went to sleep crying 10 minutes 10 minutes after I did I want to have sex all of a sudden all of a sudden I was like on a very bad mood crying over nothing nothing happened and then I turned on the mattress and I was like oh W I just woke up I want to have sex you got alkaline was like who is that so confused dude pmf mats are now sold out on Amazon and sold out worldwide it's so good my dad also then we went on a trip and meet this this guy my dad and my dad was feeling very um sick cuz he had a beginning of diabetes going like a very early almost fix so he was like getting uh these shots to to get better and he was like having diarrhea throwing up he was like oh I'm so sick and we were like on a vacation trip I said please lay down on a mat this mattress I don't even know if I didn't even know if it was going to work or not but I said this is the Miracle Mattress I have mattress that is good for everything and then I lay down him for 30 minutes and he came back like let's go let's drink a beer let's have some fun I was like wow it's amazing what happens when you make the body alkaline and for those of you that don't know what a pmf is it's pulse electromagnetic field low gal current it's just mimicking the magnetism that we get from Mother Earth people are you know they go to the beach and like I feel amazing it's because you've been touching the surface of the Earth you've been grounding you've been getting all of those ions it's not that difficult you know in our journey I love what you said about we're going to do things naturally right because I I remember just I had this conversation with Dr sarda she's our our OBGYN and she's like I know exactly where this girl is and she's being tortured and we've got to get her hormones into the same phase um and you know this is a biohacking podcast so I want to talk a little bit of how we biohacked our way out of the situation you were in and your hormones were what she called aphasic meaning one was in one phase one was in another phase you know one was ovulating one was in ltio one was in the follicular phase and when this happens to women when their their hormones get out of ratio not when their levels are too high or too low but when their ratios are off remember there was one thing happening every time I would go to the gym for like three days the fourth day I was full of pimples yes you breaking out like crazy we realize she had massively estrogen dominant and so instead of going to hormones progesterone pregnanolone you know um the estradiols instead of hitting you at your age with hormones we brought in something very simple called dim dandolo methane right it's a it's a cruciferous vegetable extract it sort of Sops up some of the phytoestrogens we brought the estrogen back down into the normal range very naturopathic got you on some vitamin D3 put you on a really good methylated multivitamin based on your Gene test and I'm telling you 3 weeks later I saw a completely different completely different human remember your face changed shape like you you were you were like a little puffy and Bloated the eyelids are full yourek my hair yeah your hair was super brittle it was almost um falling out right yeah it was yeah and your skin was dry and you were like this should be the greatest time in my life like my career is taking off I'm in such a great place I couldn't take advantage of I had a number one song in the world and I couldn't take advantage of that because I got sick yeah I couldn't take advantage my career was like oh boom Oh you know what I find too I talk about this all the time you know if you ask any Entertainer entrepreneur athlete celebrity or any average person you know any any any just middle- class America you said what's more important your your career or your health what's more important your business or your health what's more important money or your health they'll always say my health but then we need to take it a step further and you're like okay um you own a business yeah I own a business um how much did your business make last month $628,000 how much did it net last month $142,000 how many employees do you have 17 what's your testosterone level blank right what's your hemoglobin A1c blank and you you sort of prove to them that while you know we say that our health is the most important thing number one we don't have any data on our Temple and number two we're really not prioritizing our health we're not and when you made that shift um how did it impact your career your relationships like how did that shift just change the trajectory of your life I think it was a journey of first my mental health because remember you also told me about the lack of some vitamins that would make me overthink at night when I wasn't taking itol and that was happening a lot and then when I started taking the vitamins it was like gone I could sleep without being like I would think about the most random things there's so many people listening right now that're like oh my God that's my life I lay down to go to sleep I'm exhausted I'm body tired but I'm mind awake my mind was like and the [ __ ] you think about is the most inoc nonsense it doesn't make get everything on my grocery list uh you know should I have returned that phone call it's idiot stuff that you think about it's crazy and then when I started taking the vitamins that went goodbye to that I started it be relaxed and then I I got better in a sense of like I could meditate and have more time cuz I think I was too like addicted to screen and I think a lot of people are like that too addicted to be like rolling rolling rolling the phone and um that went went out it it was over and then it got so much better for my mental health I was so I was feeling so much happier uh with myself that I wasn't hungry for winning hungry for more more money more this more that cuz I feel like our social um we are so cringy like so clingy it's clly a cring cringy like no uh Portuguese and kente it's like kente yeah when you need other people's like approval or like the social con every time talking to people and say oh yeah because I was telling Maddie his daughter I was telling your daughter the other day um people feel nowadays people come to congrat congratulate you for the things that you accomplished at work always if you get more money if you change the house people will always say congratulation oh my God and if the person is not hot anymore there is this this saying here oh this person not hot anymore and it's even more in my industry it's like oh now this singer oh it's hot now and then next year oh it's not hot anymore and I hate this and that's why people are always like having these anxiety to do more produce more keep hot and this is so much effort cuz you're competing with the whole world we competing with robots cuz now the algorithms and the internet the AI you're competing with people that don't even need a health not even people you're competing with things that don't even need a health life so true and um when my mentality got better my my my mind got like more clear I was able to stop thinking about it if I'm going to be hot or not next year if I will be popping or not if my music is going to be big or not if people are going to like it or not I stopped thinking about that wow so I was able to work less and work only when I felt pleasure you know cuz I knew when I started working work only when I felt pleasure that's a I want to just point that out work on this this oh I'm not going to enjoy that I don't want to do it cuz a lot of things in work in the beginning of my career was like this I was only doing things that I liked and then things started to go big you know or if I did something that I didn't enjoy I would always put my mindset to like no there is a good point on this you know and at some point when you start doing things just to get people's approval or just to maintain the the success success that you had once you stop feeling this pleasure instead of feeling pleasure you'll feel pressure you know you feel like no I got to achieve this because otherwise everybody's going to say I failed and I'm not hot anymore you know yeah the Grammy you won was last year not this year yeah that I was nominated yeah I was nominated to the Grammy last year or this year not anymore M she's not hot anymore like yeah who gives cuz when you die nobody will even remember this people yeah the only people who will remember are the people that you were not giving as much attention right now cuz you're too busy trying to please the people who worry about this yeah who care about how hot you are in the moment so true and when I stopped when I got healthier and that's what I think when you eating healthier and you're having healthier behaviors in your life when you're breathing when you yeah this when you're doing that you kind of don't get connected to this pressure and you stop worrying about it wow so first for me was like that to get in a mental state and I understand 100% that this is like the healthy the discipline of Health to your body makes your mind all also don't go to this this other side so when I stopped uh wor when I started taking care of my mentality and my body I stopped connecting with this pressure so even though my career and then it was super funny because I wasn't having a big super super hit in a while cuz remember I've stopped working for like five six months I wasn't working I wasn't having like a big success in like a good one year maybe or something like that and that was like feeling pressured about that but then I started taking care of myself and one day I was like at this place at this concert and I started like taking care and I and I actually I came here one day I did a lot of the protocols here MH with Madison I did a lot of them and we went to a concert in Brazil it's I remember I kidnapped your daughter you kidnapped my daughter jumped on a private plane y went to Brazil and then uh she did also another treatment with the ear with the ear the phones the bio scan and she said oh your mind you're thinking too much and this and that let's take care of that and she did that twice on me the next day we went to we landed in Arizona she came back home and I went to do this concert when I I woke up this day after she did this thing I was like I'm living wrong I'm too pressured I'm like why am I thinking if I have a hit if I don't have a hit I had a number one it's like it it's like and I went to remember I found out I was super sick when I went to Everest yes I wanted to go to Everest to the top and then um I I couldn't even walk the Himalayas cuz I was so tired like 4 hours I was like and I needed to rescue people and I wasn't even in the ice I wasn't cuz for for those who never been to the Everest yeah it's like this you start walking in a walking in the cute forest in the Himalayas in a cute Forest then it becomes like more like a desert Vibe rocks and then it goes to the ice and then the Everest it's the whole path right I was still in the cute trees this is such a metaphor for life I was just walking yeah and they kill trees and I got so Si you're looking at the mountain and you're going no the mountain wasn't even I couldn't even see you couldn't even see the mountain it was still N9 days for me to get to the mountains nine days walking oh wow and I was like oh this nine days walk is going to be great and I couldn't even stand like 4 hours and I was like wow I am so sick and like nowadays I'm doing concerts of seven hours non-stop right you know and then for me and I when I was there I was thinking a lot about that like if you climb the Everest and you get there to the top highest place in the world mhm you cannot first of all you cannot get there without oxygen like naturally you cannot get there you need other equipments other stuff so it's not humanly alone like possible you need stuff when you get there you cannot stay more than 40 minutes that's it that's it you got to get down and depending on the weather you stay there seven minutes you got to get down right got to go down you got to get to the top and be ready to go down cuz people die when they're going down they get to the top and then when it's time to go down that's where they die sometimes wow so you got to be ready for the whole Jour Journey you got to get ready to go up if you stop to help others done you're not going to be able to make it this time you got to come back wait for the next time because if you stop to help someone you wasting your oxygen and your time to do it so you're not going to reach the top if you help others if you don't save energy and oxygen to go down you're going to get go go up people are going to know you went up but you're going to be dead so you got to get ready for all these um for all the parts of the process so if you put this as beside the success in life in your career it's the same yeah you can go up but you got to go down sometimes to you know there's no way you're going to keep there on the top every time forever healthy alive happy you know top of the world exactly and maintaining this feeling of being happy cuz what what are you going to do there for the rest of your life there on the top exactly you know and and and by the way that the higher you are and the more the closer to the peak or at the peak you are the more isolated you are right I mean more your doesn't work that well because of the lack of oxygen you know and that's that's sort of one thing that I've really gotten to admire about you is that I feel like there's almost this split personality because you have this very Cal M um very like almost like a homebody like you who a shy girl that really doesn't crave the fame or the fortune or the Limelight or the stage or the presence or you know all of the public eye like your preference is actually not that you know you're you're you're you're you're almost like the anti- Anita behind the scenes like you know and it's it's it's I'm so appreciative like I've seen you and Madison just lay around on the floor and talk about spirituality and and um you know and and your astrological charts and you know you got my daughter taking all these weird trips all over she's like Dad I got to go to Chicago on my birthday I'm like what's that about like is there any scientific evidence behind this theory that because these nine planets said you need to be in Chicago on your birthday she's like no that's what Anita said her I'm like no but I mean it's true because listen and then uh um so when I was there in the Everest I was like thinking about all of these things and if you try to reach the top again it's not going to be the same pleasure that you had when you reached the first time so true cuz you've already had this feeling of oh I went up wow when you go again it's like oh cool I went twice then it's to tell people I went twice I went three times four times five times but it's to tell the others cuz the feeling the sensation it's it's not that amazing as when you were there for the first time you got to go back and have a have your life and then if you miss going there then you're going to have this pleasure but if you don't miss if you just keep going to tell people oh yeah I went to the top I'm at the top I'm at the top so if you think about your career like that it's the same are you keep do you keep working that hard because you want to feel this pleasure or because of the others or they going to say I'm not hot anymore so after she did this this bio on on me I woke up the other day I was like I'm living wrong I'm here asking myself where is my next hit where's my next hit Where is My Success oh my God and actually I've had all of that I'm here just to enjoy all the consequences and the things that I got from the success that I already had so I'm fine I don't need more success M and then I had a concert to do that day and I was like I'm going to have fun in this concert I don't care but I got there very like feeling pressured but when I woke up I was like actually I'm going to have a good time I'm in Arizona who who other who's the other Brazilian singer who has the the the possibility the opportunity to be in Arizona doing a concert for a non- Brazilian audience like most International I'm the only one like look how hard I worked and I was like oh my God yes and then I went to the concert and I did this concert like woo I was so happy yeah I was so happy that the song that I performed there went viral and then the song was was in the global charts again wow the top 20 again in the world you know wow it's such a great top 10 it was top 10 again and then I the song I launched for Brazil was top five I was like wow what am I you see and then everything changed and all every time I come here and I do the all the protocols cuz this was right after I did it and I was I wasn't being here for a minute yeah and every time I do it it's a different thing like I came here last week I went to a concert in Chile wow that went everything went perfectly and I think it's everything aligned when you take care of the body and you have like healthy behaviors everything goes well around and some of what you're doing is um you know I don't want people to think that it's like crazy fancy stuff I mean you're doing pmf mats you're doing um red light therapy you love the red light therapy um she loves the hydrogen bath amazing she got out of that thing and she was like oh my God look at my skin and also the the new one that I tried that came so many heavy metals from me yeah that was pretty wild sometimes when you get out of that you actually see the heavy metals on on the on the towel and I know people are like complete it's complete nonsense but but you're I mean you feel clean at a cellular level right I mean and and it's um it's a gas called ozone O3 gas and when it gets into the body that that third oxygen molecule just goes after free radicals in oxidation and it's it's amazing how good we can feel when we tap into the natural state of the body right the natural state of the human body and I I I've met so many um you know famous entertainers that have been on a similar Journey you know I I actually had cedri on my podcast and I remember him telling me about he he he won a Grammy um the same day that his childhood and I forget the other um might have been chain smokers but um his childhood mentors that he is like oh my God I want to be them I want to be them I want to be them um and then he got into the music scene and W a Grammy the same day and he talks about how he fell into almost this this depression like what you're were talking about he made it to the top of the mountain he got to the top of Everest and then he got back down and he was like okay well what now there's not a higher Peak and and a friend of his called him and said um because none of his music was really catching on a friend of his called him and said hey what did you do to to to make and I might be bastardizing this story a little bit so Cedric I'm sorry but um he his friend of his called him and said hey what did you do to to to win the Grammy how did you make that music he said I just wanted to make music for my friends and he goes why don't you go go back to just making music for your friends you know music that your friends want to play and he did and bang same thing right back to the top of the charts and I think for people that are not entertainers or celebrities or athletes it's such a metaphor for life right because who are we living for yeah we else I think with the internet with the cell phone we are kind of like polluting our minds believing in a fake life you know cuz in social media we only show what we want and uh we are looking too much of the others and we like oh I want to do this oh no I want to be that now I want to be and you kind of don't even know what you alone want to do you know so you and it's crazy because every time I come here I and I do all of these things and I take care of myself I forget to be looking at the screen I forget to be looking at these things and I have a great time with with me and then I eat healthier I don't feel like eating a bunch of like unhealthy things it's so different cuz one thing that you do and changes all the the rest of of your mentality your body your health and I feel that the more unhealthy I eat the the more unhealthy behaviors I I have my my mental health goes bad together yes you know goes it and and it's crazy how modern medicine thinks about the human body because we think about this being completely separate from this right so we don't think that things that are going on in our body poor diet lack of nutrients which I talk about all the time I think that most people are nutrient deficient which is what you were um you were not sick there was no disease or pathology aside from when you got the endom iosis fixed but there wasn't disease there wasn't pathology there was nothing happening to you there was something happening within you and when we addressed those deficiencies boom it's like the Lissa became Anita you know what I mean it's like boom this whole woman emerged and you looked better your energy changed cuz also like is that true I have heard this but that the stomach it's like our second brain no doubt cuz what we eat is going to interfere and and how our brain is working read Dr prom's book the gut brain connection um and or the Grain Brain and you know the majority of our neurotransmitters and neurotransmitters form the basis of all mood are made in our gut think about serotonin the main driver of of mood and emotion dopamine the main driver of behavior these are manufactured in our gut there's no dopamine tablet that you can take there's no serotonin capsule that you can take but 90% of the serotonin in our bodies is right here if you don't have it here you can't have it here so a lot of times our depression our anxiety our fears and and our mood is not doesn't come from the cluster of symptoms outside the body comes from right here I mean you are on relatively little intervention right now peptide for muscle and skin um oh can I talk about that by way okay okay good I'm like I'm just throwing her medical record out there um but um you know a multivitamin I'm taking a bit a bit of testle because remember I had 0.2 so a little testosterone cream 0.2 when I was like and I was like look out somebody's going to need a safe word when you start using no and I was doing concerts and that's what I feel like I had no Testo but my mantle was so well that I was being able to hold just by my mind state of like no let me keep going I got to finish this you were in a great mood but you were exhausted and so you were deficient yeah and so doct start to put you on some testosterone cream and boom it came right back to two uh two of those Clicks in the morning and and and this is what I mean relatively subtle changes to support the body um having these dramatic shifts you know I I I want to go back to something because I I got a text message from from Damon John um um from Shark Tank um the other day and it I actually just two days ago and I think it's very in line with what we're talking about and we had this discussion because I was like wow man it seems like the more my message gets out there the more hate and vitriol that I get and I try to be so sincere and authentic about the message and like you try to be sincere and authentic about your music and he wrote me this and I just want to get your thoughts on it he said um uh and thank you Damon I didn't ask your permission to share this text message but he said you know only a person who's been there can understand this but I'm I'm here if you ever need advice if you haven't already gotten it you're about 6 months away from strong vocal resentment from your friends your family and your staff there's going to be theft by a trusted person and everyone with a $2,000 problem is going to want it to be your problem you're going to get hit with fake lawsuits and a stressed relationship with your wife and get ready for the full media attack against you it's all part of the rise my friend and um I've felt all of those things you know I've had close friends of mine turn and kind of um see this meteor rise and not not be excited for it but actually be angry or so you know maybe it's jealousy that that that it happened I've seen the media attacks and and the character assassinations to the extent that you've experienced that because one of the things I really really love about you is you always talk about your family your brothers your mom your cousins right before the podcast started if we asked each other what would you do if you won the lottery and I said well I probably call a few people and tell them to [ __ ] off but and you said I'd put all my family my brothers my cousins and everybody on a plane and we'd travel the world and I'd take the people that I love the most and I'd go have all these great experiences and it says it says a lot about with a shaman inside with a shaman inside doing a spiritual the Austin Powers plane with the rotating bed and all the funky colors you'd have your Shaman inside right um and for what for those people that don't know what a shaman is what's a shaman it's like um little a person who believes who follows the indigenous spiritual Journeys uh they they live their lives based on the indigenous thoughts and and and lessons and everything and they can do like spiritual healings the equilibrium of the chakras it's a lot of different spiritual things that I like to keep you grounded at 39,000 ft but to the extent that you've experienced anything that Damon was talking about in there like talk a little bit about that side of the struggle whether family friends the media um you know is it hard for you to see some of the criticisms and not have it slow you down like how do you deal with that yes so I believe there's no good and bad people I believe there's a frequence and we can go to the low frequence and start doing like some heavy dark things MH but at the same time we can breathe and take take light in and go to the higher frequence and start having behaviors and thoughts they are like lighter and higher and um I don't believe there is like the evil man the good man I think we all have the two sides inside of us so I think sometimes a lot of things connect us to this low frequence and and some people when they get down there they're too concerned about what people think about us what the other have and we don't have what what oh this person was in the same environment as me and this person got more and I didn't it's not fair I want this person to fail you know and sometimes when the person sees you as something that she could be or he could be but he couldn't then this person start feeling frustrated and it's kind of like your you your fault you know because you made it the person didn't you guys had the same opportunities I don't believe in same opportunities because I think every person come with comes with a different karma in their family raised differently and the racial thing also is a big problem so I don't believe in same opportunities but for a person who is in the low frequency this person thinks that you guys had the same opportunities and you made it and I didn't why why is he so good because for this person to accept that you were just good it's hard for this person it's going to this person is going to feel down about it it's like oh no so he made it because he was this he was this he was that not because he's good I am good he must have done something wrong she must done something wrong I think um and also when you get to um a point that more people are seeing you more people have opinions not only the bubble that you are used to not not only the people that have the same knowledge on the subject that you have knowledge so you're going to have opinions from the most different people in this world that have different have like experiences ways of thinking of cultures and um you got to understand that it's part of their Journey you know and also talking about you makes because you're big make them a little bigger sometimes in Brazil there are a person that they they people that they want to have something to tell to say about me because if they say my name they're going to become new somehow they are going to be in every site of news and Instagrams and this these things so it's important for them to have something to say or if there there is something happening in this person's life and this person don't want people to talk about that they're going to try to find something to talk about me so they can get the attention to that subject and not the subject that people were starting to talk about you know what I'm saying so people use these strategies a lot and at some point in my life in the beginning I was a little bit not doing exactly this cuz I I would never like pointed people that in that way in that sense but maybe behind the scenes I would like be pointing and thinking like this and um at some point I was like no no no wait wait wait I'm too immersed in this competition thing in this thing that for me to have she cannot have you know right and then when I stopped it doesn't kind of doesn't matter who has more success because you're feeling good mhm you know yeah and I know that the amount of things that you need to do to be at the top are not pleasing for me anymore right so I don't want to do it so of course for somebody that is new and fresh to this industry and they are they are up to do it they are in the mood to be dealing with these things like for example you asked me oh you there are not people that you would say [ __ ] you and I'm like thinking actually no because when you stop uh because I think that's it when you're new and beginning you're fresh you're hungry you have the the energy to be spent swallowing some people down and being like okay I'm going to you know but when you're not willing to deal with it anymore because what is more important for you deal with all of this [ __ ] and be at the top or not dealing with the [ __ ] but maybe not be at the top oh definitely maybe not be at the top yeah I feel the same way you know one of the greatest pieces of advice I was on a j shett podcast the other day and he he asked you these five questions at the end and one of them is what's the greatest piece of advice you've ever given and you can only answer in one word or one sentence and I sat there for a long time and I said I think the greatest piece of advice I was ever given was that if you want want to shrink your problems grow your purpose because when the purpose is bigger than the problem your problems shrink and I was I think you're saying basically the same thing right my my purpose is not to please everybody and my my reason for being on this world and what drives me and brings me happiness and my my core competencies are not making everybody happy you know it's doing what brings me joy and to the people that it brings joy to I have this amazing connection to the people that it doesn't that's their Journey right and I agree and I think that's I I I mean it's it took me 53 years I'm 53 years old to get to that point where I could actually um commit to a purpose and not worry about the the the problems and I and I love how you're oriented not towards the peak of the mountain anymore but towards the peak of your I think it's because have been to the peak of the mountain and in my country it's like well not really you got stuck in the trees so you didn't even actually make it to the bottom of the mountain but whatever for the purposes of this analogy that's true um I think it's because I've been there and uh yeah maybe I mean not here in America but if um if Maddie can tell you how was the experience when she went to Brazil she could see how Wiz it for me in my country it's it's like it's a big thing it's a big deal yeah and I've been there you're like the Taylor Swift of Brazil no doubt it's a big thing it's she's being very humble guys like this woman is a monster um all over the world but in Brazil She's Country like you know I don't even leave my house um and it's when you go there you see all of these things that you were saying that your friend sent the message about like you start dealing with the best and the worst side of the human because all of them want what you want and what do you bring when you when you have that a bunch of people kissing your ass a bunch of people that are hanging out with you just thinking about what you can bring to their lives and then when you start dealing with that you start separating okay this person is to dance and have fun this person is to have a great talk about my life oh this person is to travel that person I cannot say my secrets so you start understanding and it's not that I'm like pulling everybody away I'm just understanding that and maybe these people might change right maybe this person that was like very interested on what you have can go to a higher frequency and all of a sudden be like yo I'm so different now I don't care about you know and and the oppos you grown them or maybe even grown into them exactly and some people know some people were so like worth of of your trust and all of a sudden they are so worried about being big successful Rich that they're doing things that are not right anymore for you hey guys if you've been watching the ultimate human podcast for any length of time you know that one thing I do not do is push products I do not just let any Advertiser into the space because I believe that the products that appear on the ultimate human podcast should be things that I use every day in my life to improve my own phys phology one of 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podcasts and we talk about um and we talk about health and wellness and biohacking and everything there's always that line that nobody wants to cross but everybody wishes somebody else would cross it and talk about it but nobody does and I always do I want to cross that line yeah right now I'm like and I feel so healthier for the record my daughter and my wife are in the room so people are like that's so inappropriate for him to do that on a podcast there 10et 10 feet away on the other side um because like you know you know there's there there's like wives that are like okay I hope my husband's about to tune in and there's husbands going I hope my wife is about to tune in because you're you're so open with your relationships and your pleasures and your you know the intimacy behind the scenes and I I watched an Alex Earl podcast with youo um and um it's not really ultimate human appropriate but we're going to go there and you one of the things that you um talked about was like Hey guys are doing a lot of things to women that they actually don't really like and like I mean it is we got to you so what are we doing like what what are we doing I am not type I think everyone here's far everyone's here take a [ __ ] everyone's here have you you know and I think some people like to pretend they're oh no I don't and we do everything but anyways um I'm a healthier person nowadays cuz I don't I'm not on birth control I feel way better yeah but at that time I was and then uh I was in a cuper y which I think it was also one thing that would make bad for me with this endometriosis thing because it makes you blood 50 times more but anyways I was with that for seriously anemic many many many many years yeah you know my my my my father is a salty Old Navy captain and um Captain John Brea and very simple guy you know he was Carpenter um Navy Captain very very regimented very disciplined his favorite restaurant is Cracker Barrel and um true story um and then like when he wants a real treat out back steakhous but um but he said to he said he gave me one of the best definitions of life that I've ever heard and he just said it in passing to me one day and he said uh life is what happens to you when you're on your way to doing something else and it's so true right what you're talking about here it's it's sort of what happens to you when you're on your way to doing something else and if you and if you realize that like all these little tipping points um you have a great life but you know and you don't really get to design it and pick your destination and then just March straight to that destination you know um and for you what was what was one of those something El's that took your life in a different direction like you were on your way like I I love your story about I was on my way to creating music and climbing the mountain climbing the mountain climbing the mountain and I realized once I got there and came back down I'm good right I mean had there been any of those other tipping points in your life that have taught you like life lessons that you think have sort of changed the direction of of your life I think this unhealthy moment of me was the shift right you know when I got super unhealthy and I literally thought I was going to die remember I was like I'm going to die I'm going to die I'm going to die I was like desperated and even I did um check for cancer I remember that yeah I did a check for canc and I was like oh my God and then I was like what do I want to do what do I want to do now oh my God I want to travel with my family I called my family was like oh I'm dying I need to do this I need to do that and uh I saw how much time I wasted doing things thinking about the goal like oh I'm going to reach that so I'm doing this for that result and I wasn't even enjoying this moment here so that means if I don't get the result my life sucks yeah cuz I was doing everything looking at that point so if I don't get that living for a destination yeah not a [ __ ] up and now I need to do things to make it worth and when I changed my mentality literally I can die tomorrow I if somebody comes here and say you're dying tomorrow I'll be like cool I did everything I'm fine yeah it was great everything wow I would not change I would just maybe look at the sky a little more but actually I do look at the sky every day so like I used to not care about these things and now if the moon is beautiful I called Madison the other day and I was like I was walking my and the moon was so beautiful I was like I saw that the orange one that was out there it was low in the sky I remember that day I called her he said go look at the Moon right now and I spent so much time looking at the moon I was like wow the Moon is so beautiful and I had a dinner that night and I got late cuz I was there for so long looking at the mo I started crying I was like wow it's so beautiful for no reason there's not it doesn't have to have a reason for you to get emotional for you to cry for you to get a healthy life you know and I think now I actually remember that night because the moon was first of all it was bright bright orange it was totally full and it was way down on the horizon almost looked like a sunrise or Sunset I I actually went and grabbed my son Dylan from the other room like Dylan get out of here and and and and see this I'm like look at that and he's like yeah that's that's cool and I'm like get excited about that you don't see that very often then we actually walked out on the balcony started taking pictures of it but I I remember I remember that night and it's funny I was like breathing like thank you I was like thank you thank you thank you for what for everything I think that changes everything when you're actually being when you're in that moment of being thankful like what what are you what are you really grateful for in those like you see that the first thing I think and it's immediate um my family cuz I have such a great the family you're going to meet them you met my mom yeah I met mom so cute so little so she doesn't speak English you're going to meet my dad which is he also doesn't speak English but he tries to he creates some words in his mind and he be talking to you it's fun Portuguese English little Spanish in there and I just think my family is a blessing they are a blessing because for example we I come from very humble poor uh family life background and we all support each other it doesn't matter I was the poorest in the family and from from us me and my mom and my brother it was the last special house we had just one bedroom that was it in a kitchen and a bathroom and um there was no living room in my house and they would all come and sit down in the bedroom and happy birthday I remember this birthday I had that they came with a cake and they were all very supportive at one time I was U before being a singer I was I found this job at a store I was like selling clothes and in Brazil you sell there was a a humble popular uh store and I needed to sell more clothes to get more money mhm and they all saved some money to go to the store and buy with me oh my gosh that's so awesome they are so cute and they all got one day reserved one Saturday oh this Saturday we're going to go there they got there they said we want to buy with Lisa and they all with me they're so like her sales went through the roof all of a sudden listen they are so cute and when um when I was a kid they would all prepare my birthdays like that even though I didn't have a house we would do the party at my auntie's house or my uncle's house and they would like cut the the the like the little images pictures drawings to put on the wall from me with my name they would do themselves and isn't it amazing when you're in that position like that was so those are still great memories for you in such great moments maybe even some of the best ones and and as successes come you actually look back on those memories like I I I find the same thing too as um like when I stopped focusing on being wealthy and I started focusing on people's wellbeing that's when the wealth came but then I just go back to still the greatest times are when I'm with my family like when I'm just so I want I want more of those times like you know traveling with my kids they're like a traveling comedy show um you know I'm very I'm close to my ex-wife she she gets along with my current wife like it's just so good when the families it's super good part of your life and for me it's like I used to be saving money to be richer richer saving money richer and now I'm like travel bring all my family here let me to my birthday party bring them let's get the Let's Stay Together let's get a a plane to Costa Rica let's get everybody together let's go I think that's my energy nowadays to just enjoy oh if I don't have money tomorrow I don't even know if I'm going to be alive tomorrow yeah imagine if I'm if I cuz that's what I think like the Richer men in the world if tomorrow his he decides okay I'm not going to focus my time on being the richest the richest man in the world I'm just going to enjoy life in five years he's not going to be the richest man in the world anymore somebody else is going to be the richest because he's not focused on that anymore he's like focused on enjoying life is that going to delete the fact that he was the richest M no is that going to make him poor no he's going to be able to enjoy the same things but people are so worried about the status the society what they're going to think because oh if I'm not the richest anymore I'm going to be I'm going to fail because that person pass passed me you know and I think that's the mentality for so many things that we forget to live life imagine when we die I believe there's something after when we die of course I do I believe in that when we die like is God going to look at our account he's not going to look you know not him I said I don't believe guys God is a man but is anybody going to look at our bank account in the sky do we pay for it but no we don't yeah first spot in the sky we don't I'd like to put my reservation down now please that's what I think cuz listen for me my purpose now in life is to be happy even if I get poor even if I don't have any success even if my songs don't hit number one even if anything works well anymore in my life life I want to still be happy yeah you know I I I a Pastor said to me one time prayer is not um prayer is about giving thanks for what you have not asking for what you don't and I I hadn't thought about that phrase in years um I had an amazing Pastor he actually was a pastor in my first wedding Pastor Ed he was a he was like a army special forces guy that that and football coach and and he became he became a pastor and at that time in my life he was very influential and I remember that he said that you know it's it's prayer is really not about um it's it's about being thankful for what you have and not asking for what you don't and for 20 years I used to pray for all the things that I didn't have right and and now when I do my breath work in the mornings and I'm try to connect with God and you know I have a direct relationship with Jesus I I I want him to know that I'm very thankful for what I have and I always feel so good when I'm done so good right with that with this the Moon that day I was doing that I was just thinking and I was like oh I didn't ask for anything and I was like what should I ask for and I was like yeah I'm fine prayer is not like a wish list you know it's not like it's not like your Christmas card you know with your you know you like you turn over to your parents here's here's what I'd like from Santa you know it's not it's not like the Santa wish list and and I think when you when you pray to just say thank you even though you you might not even feel like you're thanking someone who's receptive I think the act of being content enough yeah to pause and say thank you um and then I'm truly grateful um is is gives you a sense of calm and and and that tracks good things too I think yeah I mean you're a big believer in the universal law of attraction I know that um right and you know I wasn't until uh you know years ago I was I was actually reading a physics journal and there's a law in physics called constructive interference that says if two frequencies of equal wavelength meet the size the frequency doubles and to me I thought about you know the frequency that we put out there love um authenticity and how the more authentic and the more loving you are the more you attract love and authenticity and and and I remember when I um when I sold uh my company one of my partners Grant Cardone as a real estate billionaire he said to me your circle's about to get a whole lot smaller and I was like H I wonder what he meant by that and your story is very similar because your circle is like your family and you always talk about your brothers your cousins your mom your dad and I love that I brought my brother here too you did I did where is he he's not not today but he went he went here to the other apartment we got to bring him here to do some biohacking he would love cuz he had a surgery on his knee okay and uh and it's crazy hydogen bath exactly he he it's crazy too because I told Madison when he had the injury on his knee and everyone told him that oh you're never going to be able to play again cuz he loves playing football foot volley and he was like oh I'm desperated cuz he he broke something did I I I told you right he tour his ACL oh yeah that's a common yeah and then it was very yeah it was very hard for him and to accept he's an athlete like he's very he's not an athlete but he loves very he loves and he was super sad because he was like oh I love doing my exercises my my games and we work together and it's crazy because he did the surgery and he was so disciplined with the food the exercises the physiotherapy everything he needed to do every morning he would do the practice he would do the exercises now he's running and it's been like two months wow or something like that W he's running again he's running good he's doing everything and people are like wow you just had a surgery and in two months you're running and and he was because he was so disciplined and sometimes if we believe that we're going to make it if we want it and we do it with no like anxiety but we do like focused respecting the time discipline you get it I also think that sometimes when something's taken from you and then you get it back you're so much more appreciative like every time I lose my wallet I'm so happy to get my wallet back and like I haven't gained anything it's the same cash or same driver's license but I'm like I'm so happy to have this back but you know so you have an injury like that and then you have your you have your health taken away from you and then you're like okay I got it back now I'm going to start to take it serious and I think unfortunately a lot of people don't even start their health Journey until something like that happens I mean it happened to you right you are on your way to doing something else and then your health made itself your priority blew you up like a balloon made you depressed you know and you're like I and to do to be honest I I'm so thankful that I got so sick because I never stopped to think think about my mental health with the importance that it has until I got super sick because when I got super sick I realized how unhappy I was how depressed I was and it's true now I look at some behaviors and I was like wow I was so depressed yeah I was so bad we talk about like I I talk about this invisible fence around us where we filter things before they get to the temple right because you can either let your temple be the filter or you can filter things before it comes to the temple and like you you you're you're like so giddy childish like with your your interest in your fascination like this this intellectual curiosity you have about biohacking which I I love that you have that um what are some of your like favorite little bioh hacks that that you're using we know about the pmf map but like what are some other ones I think um the red light makes me when when we combine the mat with the oxygen with the red light mm M I feel I feel new yeah because the super remember that time that I W my period wasn't coming for months I was like yo this is back when I was in downtown yeah and then I did the Superhuman my period came that same night magnetism oxygen light everything that we get from other nature and I tell people look you don't even need to have you don't need to spend five grand on a pmf mat 100 Grand on a red light bed and five grand on a hyper Max oxygen if you have that money definitely buy that before you buy a Range Rover 100% your Range Rover will do absolutely nothing for you but if you don't touch the surface of the Earth expose your skin to sunlight learn how to do breath work those three things and if you really want to Jack It Up Add a cold shower you don't even need to buy a cold punch bang turns things around so um I guess the next um you know question that I have is sort of Shifting away from the biohacking is what's what's next for Anita where just before I answer this question the bio thing oh bio resonance yeah bio SC my mind shift after that and and how incredible is it what that machine can tell you about yourself amazing it is it's like oh you have this virus oh you have a a a cavitation in this 11th Moler um you have a and my was so so good it was like I woke up the next day I was like wow it was this Clarity of life it was perfect you know what it is it's frequency right because you know this goes back to this constructive destructive interference thing two frequencies of equal wavelength meat the size of the frequency doubles two frequencies of opposite wavelength meat they cancel out so why can't we use frequency to tune in the body right my life changed after that I literally and we did twice right twice only and I woke up like oh I'm living wrong wait let me live right now was great this is so amazing so but what is next for me what's next for you I have no idea and I don't care that stress about it I'm so relaxed cuz for me you really are by the way I mean I'm very relaxed you are completely different human than the one I met a few years ago really and it's been so amazing to be a part of this journey I know it's crazy I'm about to turn 31 this month March and um it's so funny because everybody's asking what is next what is next I mean I have an album coming that I'm super excited I did this album uh this album that I'm releasing now um I wrote when I was in a hospital cuz I was like you know what I think I'm going to die I'm I'm just going to do an album that if I die I don't care it's just something I love and uh cuz usually as singers we are pushed and pressured by everyone not a label thing it's everyone even ourselves to be successful to be in the charts to be top one top 10 a hit whatever MH and as I was going to die in my mind I didn't care I didn't need to care about these things of the world cuz I was getting die the album would be here it would be like oh it was great to do this album I loved it doesn't matter what happens after and I did this album with with this energy and I love it so much and I'm going to put out and I'm alive and it's great but I don't know so it's already recorded it is I I recorded um when I was in the hospital I was doing like ozone every um day in my blood wow every day so good and then I was like you know what I instead of going to the hospital cuz I was in the hospital for one month and then I was coming back every day and I was like you know what instead of coming back every day I'm just going to rent a house put everybody there and my family again everybody and the studio so I was recording the songs and getting the treatments done so 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not my number one concern I don't even have a concern so I don't know what's going to happen I might maybe I can release and be like I want to travel the world or I can just be like no actually I want to do a tour oh no actually I want to do a movie it doesn't I don't know what about personally like that's all professionally but like yeah that's what I'm saying cuz what what comes next it's crazy because people ask that and and we always talk about work and that's why I'm like I don't know because what if um I find the love of my life and I want to have a baby and then I'm like okay that's it you know like and I'm out we don't know we don't know so I'm so like on I used to be very unpredict unpredictable that's it that you say that it's unexpected I used to just do things like now I want to do this do spontaneous yeah very I was always like that that creating chaos at some point in my life I was so pressured about oh the success is she going to maintain this that I forgot that all the things that I got was because I was like now oh I liked cuz here's how my International career started a song of mine in Portuguese was popping in Spain they asked a radio asked me to go there to a festival I said I don't know Spain let's go I went to Spain and then there I didn't know how to communicate with anybody because I didn't speak Spanish that was like 7 to 8 years ago it was oh no actually 10 years ago and then I didn't speak uh Spanish and I was like Jesus I don't understand anything people are saying and I was so mad that when I landed in Brazil I called a Spanish uh school and I said I need to learn really that's how I learned Spanish really and then I started to learn Spanish I was like I like this cuz it's easier to learn if you listen to me music so I was listening to Spanish musican music I was like I like it I want to do this type of music and then I started to sing in Spanish because of that and it was not like oh I want to be International no I was like cool Rhythm let me do it and then I was like in this Latin thing singing and I came to this Awards here in Miami I was like it was my first time here I was like so cool I want to sing in English and that was it you know it was not that and I have this thing sometimes times I I I'm at a club and I meet somebody I get into this person cars let's go let's go out it's so spontaneous and cool at the same time so I was going to this trip yeah and I didn't have company I saw a random person at a party I said do you want to come with me the person said I don't have money I said I have so we went to the trip so when I got there hours later not hours but maybe one day after I was like this person is so annoying why did I do this so I was at the street at the city spontaneity goes and I was at the city and then this group of fans came to ask for a picture and I said to them and they were so fun and I said yo what are you guys doing here and I vacations until when and they were going to stay until the whole period that I was staying I said do you guys have an extra room in your house no no and you literally went to stay with these fans dude I love it I went to stay with the fans and it's crazy cuz they said yeah there is one bedroom that is like two bed and this guy is there but the other bed is empty I said I'm fine I'm staying with him I went I stay with this other B was he attractive he was there and then it was so much fun I stayed there and she was like because for the person I found some person to this other person to sleep with I said you should hook up with this person and the person told me but where are you going to sleep I said I'm going to figure out guys we have an extra bedroom and then I stay there at the house God that's so they became big big friends of mine really they helped me with other stuff that I I needed help once and it was crazy that is such a um metaphor for life it's what happens to you when you're doing you're on your way to doing something else spontaneous cuz then I I went to do a concert and my private jet couldn't leave anymore because of the rain that that specific airport couldn't leave and then um we didn't I I had a very the most important important concert of Carnival and I wouldn't be able to get there because my airplane couldn't go to the next airport oh boy this guy from this house right lend me his airplane lend you his airplane his airplane why cuz yours wasn't big enough or something huh how could his airplane take off and not yours no because his airplane was in another place and could land in the the airplane like two hours from there ah and mine couldn't leave you know it there was a city like here you went to his airplane let's suppose it's here and T or or Naples mhm right right it's uh car you drive 2 hours you get this plane that can land in Naples but here in Miami airport it's it's raining ah you know what I'm saying so you drove to his airplane and went oh my gosh what a to incredible so I was going to lose everything yeah CU it's crazy it's so so in some ways like that annoying friend was a positive because if you're having that's what I'm saying that's so cool because you probably would have stayed with her if you were having a great time so if my daughter went on that trip you would have missed your most important concert in carnival mine could have cost you Millions listen everything is positive in the end of the day isn't that so awesome yeah everything's positive that is oh my God Anita you've been you're amazing I feel like we could talk for hours and hours hours I thought we were going to talk a lot more about sex but we'll we'll have to come back on another podcast well you should bring uh treatments here for the uh intimate life well I mean I just I I I know you throw so many good nuggets out there for people like what what what are like what are three things guys are doing in the bedroom that we should not be doing let me think like wait because it's been a minute that I I'm I'm do I'm dealing with some very spiritual moment right now let me remember um there are three things when they get to um even anxiety and It Go exasperated it too too much touching no too much um moving too fast I hate when they move too fast it's like a rabbit I hate the rabbit uh moves you like the you like the um tortoise my dad is so fun there was this one time um I went to my house and I said Dad I'm with this guy and I like him but it's not good and then he sat down with the guy and gave him all the he said come here let's have a talk he sat down and literally taught the guy every single thing he should do it was so funny and then he came to me and said the list of things that he told the guy to do the guy followed zero the guy followed zero I can't imagine talking to my daughter's voice friend and being like hey bro come here let me give you no he was very just even the thought of it is making me angry um so I'm going to get that out of my mind very specific my dad that a naked on a cold day it's out of my mind my dad was like when you're eating you do this you do that when you like specific specific specific and and the guy followed zero of the instructions I got so mad when a chick's dad is like hey bro this is what you need to you follow it my dad did my dad did it and I was like yeah my dad is great I was telling your dad on the podcast to give us my dad Dr Ruth is so much fun uh I think that and I think um be talking to much be asking oh I hate the questions do you like it do you like it you feel it you like it am I going to stop and no actually let's talk no I don't yeah those are pretty open-ended questions do you like it do you feel it yeah right you should have here for just just coming from a guy it's actually a statement we're like you like it that's like it's not actually we're not actually asking no but I'm I'm now I'm giving you advice like we're not actually asking you a question we're telling you that you like it that's like just as freaky as that sounds like you like it not like like maybe that's you no they're asking they're expecting an answer it makes us feel better like expect an answer you like it they expect an answer okay you should give like like the best condoms the best you should have like equipments here for this okay cuz you always have like the best water the best everything yeah I haven't gone down I haven't gone down the intimacy route that's why I've got you here you should go you should get there you should get the equipments and the products for us to know like what's the best the best lubricant the best you know yeah yeah the best condoms the best lubricant the most so for the pH so we know exactly what's the the good ones to not disregulated our pH that's great advices we want to know all right to the lubricant the condoms don't don't go too fast stop with the questions even if we think they're a statement guys they're interpreting it as a question so when you're like oh you like it they think you're asking them if they like it so we're going to scratch that and then what's what's number three that's something that also when you're unhealthy you don't feel like having sex yeah that's true yeah the most unhealthy I was wanted to have sex not doing the boom boom yeah doing the boom boom so um all right what would you say is number number three number three let's see and you can always seek advice from your partner's dad which is a little little odd I found found that one my dad is the best that's that's a new one for me God my dad is the best new one for okay let me think you said one time not doing this I hate that yeah really bad I'm trying to think of new ones okay I W think of new ones uh like like an ice cream cone not like you're nibbling through steak I don't know oh my god when they are too drunk it's so bad heavy breathing lots of laying on you happy breathing and also the stinking breathing of like alcohol it's smells like tequila it's not you know yeah brush your teeth not it's pretty simple no but it's but it's inside it's coming out yeah oh I don't like that wow I don't like that okay I also don't feel like when it feels like it's a especially if they're like you like it yeah that's like you hit two of the three right there I also don't feel like it's it's I don't like when it feels like you were in a training at the gym yeah yeah position you like stick to one wow you're not stick to one but like we're not trying to do a performance for the Olympics yeah you know it's too much I think all right so so too many positions too fast and stop it with the questions all right that is great advice this is but you should bring equipments for us yeah I am and and I am going to stock up on condoms lubricants I'm going to go deep down the rabbit hole of the most sensitive condoms the best best lubricants maybe even the best toys vins things that you can take to make you oh yeah like pt41 one thing there is one thing thatto to dville there is one thing that all all the pregnant women say after they have babies they don't feel like having sex anymore M you never heard of that I well I I'm sure there's like a you know a period every woman tells me that after they have babies they're like ah I mean I think you shoot a watermelon out of a BB gun and you know there's going to be a period that you know you don't no but like a year later oh okay they still feel like I don't want it I don't feel like it all right I'm going to biohack this one every friend of mine says that this is going on my list I don't know if it's a hormone thing I don't know what it is but they always said all my friends that had babies they're like yeah after we have babies we're like I'm done with this I don't want to have sex you know what that's a great one and I get I get accused a lot of doing too much for men so I'm I'm actually purposely trying to do more for for women I'm so I'm going to get our OBGYN and I'm going to get a sex therapist on and we're going to figure out the fastest way postpartum to return to an active sex life that all the women would love we're going to break the internet with that one all the women will love that because that's one thing after they have babies that's I mean never had a baby but all my friends that had they say that they go even year they feel bad they don't feel like having sex it's super crazy okay well we're going to do it I'll be watching when I have mine maybe I'll have you back on when I have the therapist and the OBGYN loved it you are absolutely amazing I mean this this podcast is going to break the internet um uh you know I ask every guest the same question at the end of the podcast um there's no right or wrong answer um to this but I ask every guest what it means to them to be an ultimate human what does it mean to you to be an ultimate human I think to be an ultimate human is to align your actions with your mind and your state of like how you're feeling then you are an ultimate human because when you're aligned like everyone everything is on the same point you know like we're on the same page I think that's it cuz sometimes we feel like we want something but our behavior and our actions are doing the opposite wow so good Nita thank you so much for your time today this has been amazing I loved it too and as always guys that's just science