Now, we're going to discuss about the module 5, which has a topic about coping with stress in middle and late adolescence. Okay. So, we'll...
will talk about more on the different stress okay our stressors and by my knock upon course now stress at an as an individual okay during the middle and later dollars age okay so in you manana then I did discuss nothing then one of our main objective also is to discuss and that understanding stress and its sources During adolescence, it can help in identifying the ways to cope and have a healthy life. Then, next, we will also identify the sources of stress and illustrate the effect of stress on our system. And we will also demonstrate the personal ways of coping with stress for a healthful living.
Okay. So... There are some dictionaries that give different definitions of stress. Okay?
But most of them is they didn't elaborate on what is the real meaning of stress. Right? As an individual, when we ask ourselves, stress, what is stress?
Right? Why am I stressed? That's a good question. What are the stressors?
Right? So, one of the web store's definition described the stress as an emotional factor, okay? That causes bodily or mental tension.
There. So, it's described as... A webstore dictionary that says stress is described as an emotional factor that is the reason why we have body or emotion.
or mental tension okay so in a practical way of defining the stress ito ay feeling nararamdaman natin to that gets or one gets from a full uh long, pent-up emotion. Diba? And sometimes, if the emotions you experience are pleasant and desirable, kagaya na lang ng joy, elation, ecstasy, delight, you usually feel free to let them show.
Diba? And hindi sila nagiging suppressed or hindi sila nagiging dahilan ng stress. Diba? Kasi ano ka nga eh.
Masaya ka nga eh. Diba? Diba?
you feel delighted so therefore the positive emotions do not usually cause stress so our positive emotions are not the reason for us to be stressed it's not like you're happy and then you're stressed it does not pertain to the positive emotions that you have but usually At the end of the day, negative emotions on the other hand, is what triggers us to become more stressed. It is because sometimes they are more hidden. And we or you suffer quietly. And you express stress when you experience stress.
Personally, I have experienced stress. I am stressed, right? When I'm stressed, I experience it quietly, right? Through emotions, right? Mentally, right?
But by physical, sometimes we hide it, right? We're stressed, right? So, you should not be confused, right? About the situation with positive emotions, right? For example, like this.
At a wedding, for example, right? You know? wedding is a positive situation but it is a big event for example, I am an event organizer wedding is a positive situation someone is getting married the family gets together right?
it doesn't matter does not give any negative emotions or any uh anxiety or tension to the people but the situation itself by being a positive uh situation uh you miss mong nararashka the by you have to uh bring out the uh excellence of your service para masatisfy si customer mo as a organizer it gives up stress stress can exist in a great situation so karaniwan daw yung stress nag-exist yan sa much greater situation These are the usual causes and effects of why we get stressed. Just as there is a great variety of range of emotion that you might experience. There are many positive manifestations of stress.
Right? So, let's know what are these. First, is the anxiety. Right?
You feel anxious about yourself. Right? Most especially at this time, at pandemic. Right?
you feel anxious because maybe later when you get out of the house, you will get infected with the virus, you will also get infected with the virus. That's the anxiety, the fear that something might happen to you. The fear that when you get out of the house, you might get infected with the virus.
When you get out of the house, you might get into a bad situation. That's one of the causes of stress. right? Pressure follows. I know at this time you can relate to the pressure.
Because in our situation now, in the new normal, we do the self-based study. Right? We study, right?
Or personally, it's like more on, we need to do the research ourselves for our assignments. Right? Then the teacher is more on facilitating only, explaining, right? Just like what we do.
I explained it to you. But then again, you yourself after watching the video, you will find other resources. So there is a pressure because right after this, there is an activity.
You will find other references to answer the activity. So there is a pressure. For example, I gave it to you until 3 am.
You feel like, oh, I'm stressed. There's a lot of work at school. But you're just at home. But the pressure is there. Because you need to cope.
agad eh, maipasa siya kaagad eh. Diba? So gagawin mo talaga siya.
Then sumunod naman is the misery. Diba? This pertains to a person na let's say meron siyang naranasan noon. meron siyang naging experience na talagang hindi naging maganda yung effect sa kanya so by that, parang ang pakiramdam niya miserable na siya na may mga bagay na hindi na siya kayang gawin so this may cause by some strain experience yung talagang masakit, yung talagang feeling mo talaga wala na, hindi mo na siya kayang mag cope up salam life mo as an individual.
And then, sumunod naman is rejection. Most of the people, diba, we do not want to be rejected by anyone. Diba?
Then, when we feel rejected by other people, ang pakiramdam natin is walang nang may gusto sa atin. Tama? Walang may gusto na kasama tayo.
Walang may gusto na kausap tayo. Diba? Sabi nga kasi, diba, we've experienced rejection everyday. Diba? Diba?
So, how can you experience rejection? Your siblings don't want you to borrow a notebook, don't want you to borrow a ball pen, and your classmate doesn't want you to copy. Right?
That is a part of rejection. Right? What else? Your mom wants you to buy a cellphone.
Son, don't buy a cellphone anymore. Because we don't have money. That is also a rejection. Right? So, I'm stressed.
How can I do this online class without a cellphone? Why you feel rejected? When it comes to emotions, when it comes to acceptance, that's another thing.
Sometimes we ourselves are rejected also ourselves. When it comes to the things that you can do and you cannot do, I can't do that. Ay, ito lang yung ano, ito lang yung pwede kong gawin, diba? So, minsan ganun yung nangyayari.
Isa pa, is nakakawag nagiging efekto o nagiging dahilan din ng stress is the tension. Sa loob ng tahanan, pagsinanat si... tatay nag-aaway, syempre, ang unang-unang naapektuhan ay ang kanilang anak. Diba?
They feel stress also. You feel stress also bilang mga anak. Diba?
Kapag nagkakaroon ng tension sa loob ng bahay, sa magkapatid, When they feel, when they are having a quarrel, or you are siblings, the tension between the two of you is your stress. Personally, when we are having a tension with our siblings, I feel so much stress. When I see him, it's related.
When I see my brother, I feel like we're going to fight again. So, the point there is, in order for you not to become stressed with, I mean, it's like, Enough with the tension between you and your brother or sister. Diba? Yung anger. Ayan.
Diba? Minsan yan yan, nagiging dahilan yan ng stress. E pag sobra-sobra yung galit mo sa isang tao, sa isang pangyayari, Minsan nagiging dahilan din yan ng stress. Diba? Yung kapag nagpapanik ka, kapag may nangyaring masama sa kamag-anak mo, knock on wood, diba?
Minsan, yun yung ano, nagiging dahilan ng stress. You feel so much, ano, depressed. You feel so much anxious, so much anxious. Next is the desperation.
This usually happens when you broke up with your girlfriend or boyfriend. You feel desperate that he doesn't want me anymore. So what do you do?
Gawin mo, mag-iinom ka, iiya ka sa kaibigan mo, diba? So, yun yun eh, guys, ano? Yun yung mga karaniwang dahilan o efekto ng stress sa atin bilang individual, diba?
okay so sabi dito yung prolong stress o yung mahabang okay mahabang stress na nararanasan natin as an individual is it can be a devastating burnout okay breakdown and sometimes it could gives off a depression these are some of the potential result of your long-term stress If you don't manage your stress, it can be an effect. You feel burnout, you feel breakdown, you feel depressed. I personally, when I felt stress, I want to leave the house. I want to go somewhere for a ride.
To release. Because once... Once a person feels stressed and he can't manage it anymore, sometimes that's the reason why he gets more burnout. Right? That's the reason why he thinks the world is ugly.
Right? ang maging tingin niya sa mundo ay mabigat, diba? Misan yun yung nagiging dahilan.
So, there are times na may mga tao na they can manage their own stress. Diba? May mga tao na kaya nilang i-manage yung stress nila na hindi naa-apektohan yung performance nila sa trabaho, sa pag-aaral, diba? Sa personal life nila, diba? It is by wearing a mask, ano?
This is because sometimes you may expect to hide stress caused by your problems in your personal life. Let's say for example, I feel stress in my personal life. Because I have debt, because my partner is fighting, my child is fighting.
But then again... It should not affect my performance in my job. Because out of any personal attachment or out of many personal...
problems. Dapat, pag trabaho, trabaho. Professional ba? Ika nga. Parang kayo, ganun din, diba?
When you go to school, kung bagaan, kung ano yung problema mo sa bahay, you should not, you should not You should not carry it in school. Because if you bring it, okay, you bring it wherever you go, what you think in your surroundings is not good, right? Then, it will reflect on your personal attribute. Right? It will reflect because you're always wearing a mask.
You always have a headache, right? Which is not good. It's not good to have an impression of your classmates or your colleagues at work, right?
So, these are the different tips for you to be able to relieve your stress, right? First of all, I'm showing you that you need to exercise, right? It says here, when you do the exercise... is you stretch your body at the same time is you release the stress by moving your body then next is if you have a pet dog sometimes you have to release or you need to play with them it is because our you know the saying that our pet dogs is they release oxytocin or the love hormones okay where they make us feel that we should not be they make us feel that we were loved by them so same as us we also release that kind of hormones Our pets absorb. We release our stress once we play with them.
They help us. So that we can... It will reduce the stress that we are experiencing. That's what I personally do.
When I feel stressed everyday, right after the day, we discuss, we have activities, I have activities in the afternoon, I'm facing my laptop in the afternoon, right after this, I just rest a little bit, I hold my pet because we have 3 pets here in the house. Right? So, they help us. Kahit papano, marilis yung stress na meron kami, diba? Sa loob ng tahanan, diba?
Most especially the emotions, diba? Then, sumunod naman is you need to listen to a music, then meditate, diba? Misan yung ano, sabi nga nila, diba?
When we are, ano, when we are happy, diba? We appreciate the lyrics. Atawa ba?
When we are happy, we appreciate the music, diba? But when we are sad, we appreciate the music. the lyrics.
Diba? So, sometimes we have to meditate, eh. Diba? Upon the music.
Kasi, kumbaga, nakaka-release. Huwag naman yung malungkot. Diba?
Kasi, kapag malulungkot na music yung pinatugtog mo, minsan, yun yung, ano eh, mas nadadala ka pa nyan eh. So, minsan, you have to, ano, yung mga jolly music. Diba? Kasi, nakakatulong siya.
Then, alam niyo yung, ano, natutunan ko ito sa asawa ko eh. Ang asawa ko, kung pagka na-stress siya, meditation music. Tapos minsan yun yung nagiging ano para makatulog siya. Diba? So minsan gawin nyo rin yun para ma-release nyo yung stress.
Then also, you have to take a nap even 5 minutes, 10 minutes. Diba? Kasi kumbaga, by feeling of stress or by your emotion of stress, sometimes we feel tired also.
Diba? So kapag naramdaman ang katawan mo na napahinga siya, diba? Kumbaga parang nababawasan yung stress.
Diba? Narirelease yung stress Na meron tayo Okay? So This will probably not work In some people Diba? But Sometimes you have to try it Diba? Then you have to Hold your emotions in So sabi dito The greater The pressure Build up will be Diba?
Sabi nga So itong mga tips Diba? In order to relieve some stress Hindi siya nagwo-work Sa ibang tao Maybe Meron silang sariling paraan nila Para release the stress. Right? But, sometimes, we have to hold our emotions. We have to put ourselves together.
Right? Hold ourselves together. Because, sometimes, stress, you know, becomes a reason to give up on one person. Right?
Excuse me. So, it's like, let's just do it. So, it says here, Everyday frustrations causes stress build up.
Yung araw-araw na frustrated ka, minsan nagiging cause yan ang stress eh. Diba? Let's say for example, andami mong utang, tas tumatawag sa'yo ng tumatawag yung utang mo everyday, wala kang pambayat.
Excuse me. Every day, you think, where will I get this? You're frustrated because you can't do anything.
It builds up stress. It says here, from the time you wake up until you go to sleep, You may be confronted with the succession of stressful situations. The everyday things we do, from waking up to going to bed.
A lot of things happen in a day. And managing to get yourself and possibly a spouse or children out of bed and ready to face the day can be a challenge to your patience and ingenuity. Sometimes by driving to school, work, can be harrowing.
Yung biyahe, alimbawa kung pumapasok na tayo ulit. Yung biyahe pa lang, nakaka-stress na. Biglang lumakas yung ulan, wala kang payong. Stressful na yun.
Bumaha sa lugar ninyo. Tapos kailangan mong magkadlo ng maduming tubig. Stressful na yun. Ano pa ba?
Yung hindi ka binigyan ng baon ni nanay. Stress ka na kaagad nun. especially when you are late for school you get stressed right away I have a student who is always late and he always goes to my class I accept that when I am late because I have a habit that students need to learn within the day most especially during my time right? So, kumbaga, ang feeling niya noon, lagi siyang, Mom, sorry po, I'm late.
Kumbaga, don't, kumbaga, parang not the, parang hindi na makadagdag sa stress niya sa mga panahon na don't be sorry. You just have to fix yourself. Niba, ayusin mo lang yung sarili mo para hindi ka mali-late, diba? Kung bumising ka ng maaga, bumiyahi ka ng maaga para hindi ka nili-late.
Ganun lagi yung sinasabi ko. Diba? And sometimes you may experience a frustration in arranging to get the car repaired. That's all. sa tatay mo, diba?
Yun. Halimbawa, dito sa amin. Diba?
Alam nyo yung sasakyan namin mula nung nag-pandemic. Nagkanda-sira-sira na siya kasi hindi nagagamit eh. Diba?
So, nakakastress. Hindi namin siya may paayos. Diba? Noon kasi walang pwedeng lumabas.
Diba? So, isa yun eh sa mga dahilan. Then, sometimes naman, yung conflict in school at saka sa trabaho. Halimbawa, yung such as coping with unrealistic realistic deadline.
Right? The deadline, right? There are so many activities that the mom gave.
Then, the deadline, tomorrow, right away. Right? It's like, wow.
Right? How, Superman, sometimes, that's what you say to your mom. Right?
The mom gives so many activities, it's stressful. Right? Hmm. Right? At work, for example, she makes a grid.
Then, the deadline, tomorrow, right away. Right? It's stressful.
Right? So, sometimes that's the reason. Here's the unspected weather.
That's the usual. And you know, when I was in college, I also experienced the rejections. Because I do the selling for me to have my allowance every day. So, when the customer approaches me, I approach like this.
Good morning. Good morning. ako po si Rainabel po from Morong Rizal actually po nagtitinda po ako para po meron po akong pambaon so bali sa halagang 10 pesos po matutulungan nyo na po ako ganyan ganyan when then when a person says no naka-relate ako dito nung nagsabi yung no feeling ko rejected na ako diba but I myself make it as a positive by output or positive outward for me to go on the back seat the lagoon Loma la basea conon's a center namin me de la con 100 pieces na peanut brittle tapos killa con is L out yun de ba for me to earn 1,000 pesos in a day deba momo Nana Conan 350 pesos tapos para mcconnell conan maraming peanut brittle to see the venta every day parallel McGarland on allowance for projects because I was a self-supporting student when I was in college aside from working in a fast food chain KFC, Jollibee I also I also do the selling.
Right? Right? So, next, these are the different problems in our personal life.
Right? That can be devastating. These are our personal problems. It can also be a reason why we are stressed, right? That it's really hard for us.
Okay? So, surviving the normal or everyday stress described above can be so difficult. the survival of our normal and everyday stress is very difficult but by far more serious and painful circumstances can create long term stress may not die the banana member number Amelia the bar a little more socket in para say that is a serious and painful circumstances a selling Bawa very close Codon's member of the family mona you so it could create a long-term stress for you as an individual the bar so once uh the bar or you know the casca tapas you know any one kind of a mohamed eva tapas okay i'm my last mile musa boy my socket the bar sometimes you know my gun among anagin dylan kumbhaka tiny stress a union nagiging dylan kumbhaka nagkakaroon We have long-term stress, right?
Then, other major causes of stress are problems with drug and alcohol abuse, right? There, our father or our relatives, right? Sometimes, those are the major causes of stress, right? You know, personally, I just share, I just share. My father, when they got separated, when my mother and my father got separated, my father felt so much stress.
So that was 8 years ago. So he took up drugs, he became a liquoraholic or alcoholic. Then he got a bicycle accident, he was really abandoned. You know, he just had a little bit of a kembot and he fell down. He was beaten up because at that time, he didn't feel that way.
He felt so much miserable. So he didn't become a drug addict. maganda yung effect sa kanya nung stress.
Kaya, ganun yung ginawa niya. Diba? So, good thing naman kasi syempre, kaming magkakapatid napagtulungan naman namin na kahit papano, makarecover yung tatay ko.
Diba? So, right after that, from now, okay na yung tatay ko. Diba? Wala na siyang love life.
Pero, kumbaga, going on na nun. Going on or moving on na siya sa buhay niya na meron ngayon. Diba?
Diba? Ito pa. Ito pa yung mga karaniwang pwedeng maging causes ng stress. Ano? Yung chronic mental illness.
Diba? Yung injury, physical handicaps. Diba? And then sometimes yung paglipat-lipat ng bahay. Diba?
Nakaka-stress yun. Diba? Pag na-accidente ka. Diba?
Nakaka-stress yun. Diba? So managing your personal finances also can also be very stressful.
Diba? Yung bang magbabudget ka. and you only get to eat for a day.
It's hard. That's why mom gets stressed. That's why she gets angry. Sometimes, you ask for a lot of things.
Sometimes, your mom says, it's hard to budget and you're just eating. You're not having a hard time working. You're just eating. Mom gets stressed that's why she says that. So, this can be a problem no matter what your income level is.
Yung finances. But it is especially difficult if you must support a family and do not earn enough to live comfortably. Yung mga unpaid bills mo, unwise use ng utang, yung mga limitations mo, yung mga wala kang limitations sa paggamit ng pera.
Misal yung mga nagiging... It's not easy to have financial problems. That's why it's a stressful experience for you. If every day someone calls you and says, Oh, you need to pay. Mom will be stressed.
You know, I remember. I have friends who, when I wasn't teaching, Of course, my friends would go to their house. They would even have a company. you have an extra because I need to pay for this, I'm already in a hurry. The unpaid bills, it's too much.
For example, you don't have to pay for the corriente and it's only 3 months. You're just a fool, my God. Your mom is so crazy.
Your mom will disappear. Right? So, it's very hard when it comes to financial.
That's really one of the reasons. Right? Why did you... stress on isang tao okay so a common causes of cause of stress is dealing with life transitions this is especially true when a person must cope with too many transitions all at once Ellen completed her program in passion merchandising.
So because of that, she's eager to get started with her new job. Her mother is sick, so she needs to take care of her. Then her father died a few months ago. So Ellen is stressed because her new job requires her to travel to another area, another place. 100 miles from her house.
Her mother needs to take care of her. So the move, a new career, and a change in family relationship may cause excessive stress for her. So the changes that happened may cause excessive stress. for him.
Right? Because his mother is sick, he needs to take care of her. What can he do?
For example, he has one child. Right? So, he can only take care of his mother. Right?
So, that's it. It can be a reason to stress. Okay? So, let us now proceed with Celia's General Adaptation Syndrome. Okay?
So, Han Celia was born in 1907 to 1982. And he was a Hungarian and endocrinologist and he was the one who first to give a scientific explanation for a biological stress that every individual is experiencing so he explained his stress model based on a physiology and the psycho biology as a general adaptation syndrome or what we call gas right so mama repeated it you know stress model base of his physiology and psychobiology is based on general adaptation syndrome. So, when we say GUS or general adaptation syndrome, it gives rise to an under- of stress related illness like heart disease gastrointestinal problem anxiety, depression, that can be the effect of what we call general adaptation syndrome explain about the hypotalamic pituitary adrenal axis again mama hypotalamic pituitary adrenal axis or the HPA axis system which prepares the body to cope with the stress So, the hypothalamus pituitary adrenal axis is being prepared by our body in order to cope up with stress. earned him the title as the father of stress research okay so he did not see stress as a bad or harmful by itself but it is a reaction okay or our ability to adjust to the situation that affect us so as he said stress is not harmful But it's like, it's a reaction or ability of a person to adjust to the situation that affects them. So according to Celia, stress is not happening. or stress is not what happened to you but how you react to it.
Diba? Yung stress daw, hindi daw to yung nangyayari sayo everyday. Hindi to yung nangyayari sayo by situation. Pero, ito yung nagiging reaction mo sa stress.
Diba? So, there are two types of stress according to him. Una is the eustress.
Okay? So, the eustress is a... positive stress and yeah positive stress though and it produced positive feeling of excitement fulfillment the meaning satisfaction and well-being so this type of stress empowers you to grow in three areas and so you positive stress the were you stress lets you okay lets you grow in these three areas una is the emotional our emotion emotionally it can result in positive feelings of contentment inspiration motivation and flow so monad naman is psychologically it helps us build our self-efficacy autonomy and resilience and then the last one is the physical okay or physically it help us build our body through completing a challenging workout okay then another type of stress is the distress una yu stress pangalawa is the distress is So, the distress is a negative stress.
It can make you feel overwhelmed because your sources, either physical, mental, or emotional are inadequate to meet the demand you are facing. So, it is defined as persistent stress that does not resolve itself despite our best effort. This is the negative feeling.
You feel anxious, you feel misery. So this form of stress can be very chronic and debilitating to the individual. So it can lead to anxiety, depression, withdrawal which are symptoms of the first typhoid. So these are the usual examples of distress. First is you might be an injury.
Okay. that removes us from exercise or you might have we are a bit of a typo typo is what we call it wait, there is a typo you might have an injury that removes us from exercise for example, you got hurt or you got injured that is one of the reasons the death of any loved one one. Diba?
Siyempre, masakit yun, diba? Pagka namatayang ka. So, isa yun sa mga alimbawa ng distress. Negative kasi siya eh. So, you know, it's not getting into the college of your choice.
Yan, diba? Alimbawa, sobrang-sobrang, kumbaga, marunong ka eh. Diba? Kumbaga, alam mo na kung ano yung gusto mong maging someday and you wanted to study about that.
Pero, hindi mo nakuha. Diba? Pwede ngang daylan eh.
Wala kang pera. Wala kayong pera. and you don't have enough budget for your studies so you need to get another course that is not related to your choice and with a low budget tuition fee or sometimes if you don't have enough time to study it can be stressful so you feel so much anxious you feel so much miserable because you feel like you will be lacking in your ability to finish your studies.
But there are others who use it as a motivation to work, save, and study. Celia's model states that an event that threatens an organism's well-being can lead to three stage bodily responses. Okay?
So, guys, pag sinabi nating stressor, ano, yung may open and close parenthesis dito, isa-isain lang ni mama, no. Ang stressor natin could be our health, our family, expectations, yun yung mga stressor natin. Money, yan, diba, bills, yan, yun yung mga stressors natin eh.
Study, o kaya work, yung pressure sa study, tsaka sa work, yun yung mga stressor natin. Okay, so... These are the different stages or the three stages, kung paano mag-response yung katawa natin doon sa mga stressor na yun. Una is alarm.
Diba? This occurs when we first perceive something very stressful. Diba? Alimbawa, The deadline for the activity is after 3 hours. Right?
You're already alarmed. Oh my God. I need to do this. Right? It's like...
You started to initiate to have a fight or flight responses for the activity that was given to you. You were alerted immediately. Diba?
Yung mind mo to do the thing. Kasi kailangan mo siyang gawin. Okay?
And then number two is the resistance. Diba? Sabi dito sa resistance, if the perceived stress continues, the body stays active at a higher... metabolic level of offset to offset the persistent stress so the body cannot maintain this level indefinitely and its resources will eventually deplete so dito sa resistance ah ito yung ano eh pag yung katawan natin diba alimbawa yung mind natin fill up the stress the stress the stress okay kapag ka yung katawan natin fill up the stress diba our body uh resistant from it diba um It's like you yourself talk about what is this, this is stressful.
When you feel the stress, you feel, I don't want to do this anymore. That is the resistance. Our body stays activated at a higher metabolic level.
Because we want to do it, but we are having a hard time. For example, let's not get away from activity. We need to do it.
you need to do it but you can't understand it and the deadline is still not yet the timeline is still not yet so in a resistance, what you will do is because you can't cope up what you will do is, I can't do this anymore, I'm stressed related right? so that's it next is the exhaustion in exhaustion, the prolonged exhaustion exposure to stressor, it could result to depletion of your body. So, in this exhaustion, the function of your body, when you're really stressed, your exposure to that stressor, for example, me, I'm stressed because someone is stopping me from getting a loan. And I can't pay him because I can't do anything. parang walang magpahiram sa akin, para makabayad ako sa utang, o kaya wala akong madiskartihan para makabayad sa utang.
Sobro-sobro yung exposure ko doon. So, kumbaga, parang yung function ko nagde-deteriorate yung body functions ko. Diba na? Kumbaga, parang I feel so much miserable, I feel so much stress, diba?
I feel so much anxiety kasi wala akong magawang paraan. Diba? I feel so much exhausted na from that situation.
stressor so ganun yun eh ganun yung nairaranasan natin from that uh number three no yung response ng katawa natin okay so sabi dito our stress has its curve uh and paces diba according to general adaptation syndrome okay from uh as you can see ano this is a pinpointing from a good health to bad stress diba so from our body has its resistance uh we started from a good health and how about nothing the hematosis when we feel the stress from the time that we feel stress our body started to alarm the bar then you orange is we feel the uh stage two stage one is the alarm stage the bar now when we feel that i can um So, here, it's already at the curve level by stage 2. And then, in stage 3, that's the exhaustion stage. That is the time when you're in the panic zone. Oh my God, what am I going to do?
I don't have a payment for my debt. My mom is like that. Oh my God, what are we going to do? We'll just cut the electricity. Where will we get the payment?
You feel the breakdown and burn. out the bar so in any union curve stress and or stress curve and pieces according to general adaptation syndrome okay so the tournament I am NASA Richard Lazarus appraisal theory okay so see Richard Lazarus is a psychologist okay in 1991 he adopted Arnold's works lightly in the development of his cognitive mediation theory okay so he assert okay the emotions by determining the appraisals of stimuli so this is appraisal mediates between the stimulus okay your emotions, your responses to emotions and then it is immediate and often unconscious okay so in contrast to the as sculptors Singer theory of emotion, which views about the emotion as an outcome of interaction between physiological arousal and cognition, Lazarus argued that appraisal precedes cognitive labeling. simultaneously stimulating both physiological arousal and emotional experience itself okay so according to the research of lazarus he specified the two major type of appraisal method una is the primary appraisal so from the primary appraisal it seeks to establish the significance of meaning of the event the bah and in bahwa it's a primary appraisal uh you experience the stress or you experience a bad situation, from that moment on, from the primary appraisal, the individual will think, what is the meaning? Why did he experience that? Usually, when we ask advice from other people or from some people, there are people who advise you that this situation is happening to us.
It is because mayroon siyang ibig sabihin, maybe God wants us to develop ourselves more, maybe God wants us to do self-reflection, diba? Yun eh, sa primary appraisal. Then number two is the secondary appraisal. So, sa secondary appraisal naman, it assess the ability of the individual to cope with the consequences of the event. In the specific context of emotion and stress, they describe the primary appraisal as your judgmental.
That's what happens to you as an individual. While the secondary appraisal is the perception of the threat that triggers the secondary appraisal. It could be a judgment of your options which may be available to cope with. with stressor.
Diba? Kung baga, dito sa secondary appraisal, nagkakaroon ka ng ano eh, yung ano yung pwede mong gawin para mawala yung stress mo, nagkakaroon ka ng different perception na pwede maging effective. Diba?
Halimbawa, ako. Diba? When I apply the secondary appraisal to myself, usually kasi, diba, pag na-stress ako, ako personal, pag na-stress ako, I do the, you know, the rides.
Diba? I do the, you know, yung paglala. I really think about leaving the house because in that way, when I see other people, I see positive things around me, the stress disappears.
So sometimes it becomes other perceptions. We are given other perceptions on how our options will be effective so that the stress will disappear. Yes. So, this chart pertains to how does the stress or the stressor affect an individual from the stressor, okay, this is the stressor, again, to primary appraisal, okay, which had its challenge and threat, okay, or hinati siya sa dalawa. Yung challenge is the potential that you can gain or growth from.
your stressor. You can see what the mom is pointing at. From the challenge, in the primary appraisal, think about it. Is it a challenge or a threat?
In the challenge, you can think that maybe that stressor could be a potential for you to gain something or to grow. Then, in the threat, you can think of it may lead you to harm. may loss or could be a negative consequences for you as an individual and then secondary appraisal will be included in secondary appraisal, the potential will be included how could it be? How can it be effective for you as an individual?
So here, is it effective options? Could be a threat or low threat? Is it irrelective or no options or high threat for you? So this is the chart of Lazarus by describing the primary appraisal and secondary appraisal. re-appraisal okay so pano nga ba ano pano nga ba tayo makaka cope up stress ano nga ba yung mga pwede nating gawin in order for us to cope up with stress okay so unang una na dito is uh for you to uh be feeling emotional kasi as an individual talagang emotional talaga tayo diba and uh feeling emotional and nervous or having trouble sleeping and eating can all be normal reaction for you to become stressed.
So, this is what we can do. Excuse me. First of all, you need to take care of yourself. So, how do you take care of yourself? First, you need to eat healthy.
A well-balanced meal. You need to exercise regularly. Then, you need to get plenty of sleep and then give yourself a break if you feel stressed out. You need to take a break. Sometimes you have to take a break from your work.
So you can stress out. Then sometimes you have to talk to others. You can share your problem, your feelings.
You can share it with your family, your friend. You can share it with a psychologist, a counselor, or a pastor. Because they can give you advice.
Because they can give you advice. pagbigay sa'yo ng advice kung paano ka makakakope up, diba? Doon sa stressor na pinagdadaanan mo, okay? Then, sumunod naman is you need to be active, ano? So, paano daw yun?
For you to be able to release your stress, you need to be active. Minsan kasi ang tao pag-stress siya, gusto niya nakaupo lang siya, nakahiga lang siya, nag-iisip, diba? Pero the more pala na ganun, the more na ganun yung nararamdaman ng tao.
The more na ganun yung ginagawa niya, the more lang na iniinhabit niya lang yung stress. So, kailangan mo palang maging active by that time. Sometimes, you have to go for a walk, play some sports, diba? Sometimes, you need to play a musical instrument or join an after-school program, diba? O minsan, kailangan mo ding mag-volunteer sa community mo in order to promote a non-violence or...
another school or community activity that you care about okay so you need to become active okay so this can be a positive ways for you to handle your feelings and to see that things are going get better okay so so monod naman is you need to avoid drugs and alcohol because sometimes it can increase your stress right? you are already stressed and you will drink more drugs then it will be more. So, it will create additional problems for you.
Okay? And then next is you need to take a break. Okay?
You need to take a break. If news events are causing you stress, don't watch TV. If you are watching TV, it will be stressful. Right? I heard from a friend, he said, when drama is up, in come down.
Right? drama na napapanood natin sa TV, nakaka-relate tayo doon eh. Diba? So, kapag nakarelate tayo doon, the more na nakakapagpataas ng stress level natin. So, minsan, huwag na lang.
Diba? Minsan kasi yun yung nagiging dahilan. So, munad naman is you need to recognize when you need more help. Minsan, kapag sobra-sobra na yung stress mo, kailangan, nare-recognize mo din. Kapag kailangan mo na ng...
tulong. Kasi minsan yun yung ano eh, minsan yun yung nagiging dahilan para mag-breakout tayo eh. Diba? Sometimes we have to ask diba, to psychologists, social worker, or any professional counselor. Kasi pwede nila tayong bigyan ng advice or pwede nila tayong matulungan.
Diba? Kasi kapag ka nag-continue pa to, eh lalo na pag sobrang-sobrang yung stress mo, sobrang-sobrang na yung anxiety mo, pwede siyang maging dahilan para mag- mag-suicide ang isang tao, ang individual. Alam niyo, two years ago, this is just an example.
Yung kaklase ng kapatid ko, taga San Guillermo siya. He was just a grade 12. Well, grade 12 nga. Two years ago. Ano siya?
What do you call this? They broke up with her boyfriend. And then, she couldn't take it. She couldn't take the depression, the stress that was all over her. What happened to her was that she was drinking.
Then, he was still chasing after his boyfriend but he really doesn't want his boyfriend anymore. So, one time, he left alone at home. Right? So, he's not really open to his family. because her parents are busy at work, her father is in another country, her mother is busy at the office, her siblings are busy too.
So she doesn't have any other options but her clothes. Her clothes are always in the drink. So it's not that the clothes are good.
Then one time, her sister came home and she was surprised that she was just hung in her room. She was beaten in short. So knock on wood.
That is just an example. So sometimes you have to recognize if you need help. Because sometimes, that's what people think. Not to what, but sometimes what people think, I might die so that this problem of mine will end. Sometimes that's what they think.
But it shouldn't be like that. Because it's not good. Most especially for your family.
How is your family if you do that? Right? What about your future?
You don't have a future because you're dead. Right? So that's it. So that is our topic about coping with stress during the late and middle adolescence.