Lecture on Perfectionism

Introduction

• Many people strive for perfection in various aspects of life: grades, jobs, relationships.
• The relentless pursuit of perfectionism is exhausting and not necessarily beneficial.
• Guest speaker: Thomas Curran, world-leading expert on perfectionism.

Understanding Perfectionism

• Origin of Perfectionism: Begins from a sense of lack or deficit.
• Nature of Perfectionism: Trying to conceal imperfections through excessive standards.
• Goals: Project a perfect image to the world.

Types of Perfectionism

1. Self-oriented Perfectionism

• A burning need to be perfect, leading to self-criticism.
• Partially inherited, with environmental influences.
• Cultural differences: High in the US, lower in European countries.

2. Other-oriented Perfectionism

• Definition: Expectations of perfection from others.
• Impact: Causes interpersonal conflict, dissatisfaction, and tension.
• Example: High demands in the workplace can mirror perfectionist boss behaviors (e.g., Steve Jobs).

3. Socially Prescribed Perfectionism

• Expectations imposed by society or perceived from others.
• Strong correlation with mental health issues.
• Influenced by cultural and macroeconomic factors.
• Rising trend linked to social media and economic pressures since 2005.

Perfectionism in Relationships

• Challenges arise when perfectionists are involved with non-perfectionists.
• Potential for conflict but can be managed with understanding and love.

Perfectionism in Organizations

• Perfectionism can drive high standards but creates a culture of fear.
• Stifles creativity, risk-taking, and innovation.
• Linked to micromanagement and employee dissatisfaction.

Impact on Performance

• Perfectionists often have poor performance due to avoidance and procrastination.
• Perfectionism is linked to burnout, not necessarily better results in school or work.

Coping with Perfectionism

Personal Strategies

• Embrace vulnerability, take risks, and learn from failures.
• Practice self-compassion to deal with setbacks.

Organizational Approach

• Encourage environments that balance excellence with realistic expectations.
• Promote psychological safety and the allowance of mistakes.

Future Research

• Need for more cultural comparisons and understanding of workplace impacts.
• Examine the relationship between perfectionism and performance.

Conclusion

• Vabi Sabi Philosophy: Embrace the imperfect and find beauty in the flaws.
• Perfectionism should be understood as a broader cultural and personal issue.