here's four signs you might be self-sabotaging number one delaying or avoiding the stuff that matters to you because you're choosing Comfort over the stress of responsibility and number two making promises to yourself with the best of intentions and then repeatedly breaking them number three refusing to accept help that's available to you even when you know you'd benefit from it and number four justifying it all to yourself by saying I never wanted those things anyway even when you know deep down that's not true