about a year ago I don't know if you guys remember we talked about this maybe we talked about one of my one of my kids was a little bit drifting and I had a conversation with him one morning and I pulled them aside maybe you'll remember this I don't want to name kids so don't drop any names and all this other stuff I'm just saying one of my kids and I said hey I'm getting the feeling you're drifting a little bit and we sat down and we had a one-hour meeting together and by the way when you want to have serious conversations with your kids if you're intentional they're going to give you 100% attention this guy's looking at me fully and what is drifting me homberto if you can send a video to Rob it's not gonna be here Rob it's in a text we have it it's an intro that was sent to approve homberto can send it to you so I said you're drifting he says what's drifting so I said let me show you this clip from the uh book uh uh uh uh what is the book what is the book uh uh the uh uh what is the book drifting book by that lady um oh my God what is this book called first time I read this book I couldn't put it down um book on drifting it's a book that's linked to Napoleon Hill who wrote it many many years ago and she explains this book somebody can you please just text me if you're watching this I know somebody's watching the same Pat how did you forget this book you know what book it is I tell them I want you out witing the devil that's the one outting the devil and I had him read this book and I had him read an extrap from this book okay and in the book it explains you want to destroy your life you have to be aware when you're drifting and what is drifting drifting is just like when your life you're just kind of like drifting like a car going off the road you slowly start so I said I'm getting the feeling life is just regular for you and you're not investing in yourself in certain things that you need to be you know what's one of the things that really changes I you know how you go up to me you're like hey something's happen with you mhm we put him in kickboxing and he goes five days a week he'd go every day if the trainers were available for him let me tell you what's happened to this kid's confident when you have boys folks you have to find a way to develop their confidence in a different way than girls my opinion it's a different way of developing confidence with boys than girls both of them are going to be needed and if you choose to have more than one kid you have to still find a way to build up their identities they all deserve the identity to be built even though when you're like sometimes you don't have time or whatever that's going on you have to find a way to do it find a way to get your kids to be involved in something that they're improving in that gives them confidence you got to find a way to do that you know when you're all of a sudden being compliment for the work that you're doing it's a confidence booster the other day we publicly promoted Rob we think Rob's done such a phenomenal job here that we publicly promoted him and by the way uh uh Rob is is a guy that you know is a behind the uh screen guy sometimes but unusual he's not Rob's a talent Rob's a comedian Rob's phenomenal at what he does as well and we love Rob and we publicly recognize Rob and for the last Rob three and A2 years when when when I'm giving you feedback I'm like hey something's happened with you you're developing yourself you're recreating yourself and it's highlighting because very different than when it was three and a half years ago you were like I don't know what's going on here you you you're a different human being today than you were three and a half years ago and the more I learn about this guy the more I love this guy I like what he's doing to improve himself as a father as a husband as a man you should see how he's with his kids I'm see he's like he's on a call and boom let me step I got to do this hey with his wife is okay we're going to do this this is good like these are things that it matters stuff that matters in life kids matter Family Matters friends matter like you pour into it a little bit well we got to pay attention but sometimes we as parents are drifting I got my promotion I got I got my this dude pump the breaks go have a conversation with your kid walk with them for an hour how you doing what's Happ let me tell you what I'm thinking about you here's how I Envision you being one day kid I think one day you can be DT da really Daddy really mommy yes but I also think I'm noticing something you're not paying attention to you eat too much sweets you're sleeping too much you're not exercising you're not moving your body you're addicted to video games how about we get addicted to your dreams how about you have these types of conversations with them this is the clip with Leila mwe this comes out tomorrow by the way it's a disturb Vinnie just watch this you'll feel how disturbing it is in the first 20 seconds okay and you said you said out of 58 million viewers what 56 million videos that was on PornHub 91% of a day took down what because of that New York Times article and because of this lady that got the 2.3 million petitions watch this clip right here go ahead from Broward County Florida she was missing for an entire year and she was finally found when her distraught mother was tipped off by a PornHub user that he recognized her daughter on the site she was found in 58 videos on PornHub so this is a emails from the CEO can we tell MasterCard that it just slipped through the cracks they want to know what we do oh they're communicating amongst each other as employees they're saying what should we do she couldn't be older than 13 to 14 and the video is obvious and they left it up under new ownership or old ownership that was this is the old ownership but old ownership is the same VPS and Executives that are there today right but there's not en being held accountable there's not enforcement of I don't get that though who wouldn't enforce that law it's kids I want to address something that Solomon and his partner said on this show I mean you could play what he actually said it's a it's a complete lie they exploit and they harvest the data of every single user that visits their site they're currently being sued in a class action and I think we will see full criminal prosecution of the owners of PornHub and I hope that we do okay so this goes out tomorrow you know how many kids I've been missing according to FBI you know how many children are missing in America according to FBI overall first of all 2022 records Rob don't look at the screen just look at me2 how many children you think are missing Tom everybody write think number and then tell me children missing that are still missing it's not a big number that you think it's a big number 250,000 what do you think the number is that's an insane number 10,000 okay 10 time what do you think the number is I thought it was 30,000 Tom Rob can you pull up you're about to be shocked there's 359 missing w wow missing 39,9 for missing every one of them counts what reported to the National Crime information center reported too when 22,000 you said 20,000 that's 22,000 more than it was in 20 21 bro like how what are we not think about these parents that are missing I mean this is serious stuff here that we're talking about so for me parents we need to be a little bit more involved you got a nephew you got a niece you got to develop some of their identities to make sure you're having these tough conversations with them when it's necessary but for me when when Eric Schmidt is telling this story as much as we have fun here guys and we joke around we do certain you know at the core of what we're doing there's values and principles that matter matter they got to stand up for these are the some of the these conversations that we're having right now because I think sometimes parents we all need a nudge all of us do to just kind of be reminded of it maybe use today on Thanksgiving to have a conversation with them maybe this a great opportunity today maybe today tomorrow if you're not working pull them aside go for a walk with them do it individually with each one of them and take them for somewhere and sit down and say I want to talk to you son I want to talk to you baby what's going on Pops what's this it's going to be a little bit weird if it's not regularly happening and before before you do make a few notes of what your outcome of this meeting with them is it's going to be different for your daughter than your son than your oldest than your youngest but the fact that you have their conversation with them oneon-one and you give them that one-on-one attention I can't tell you what it does to them you remember when your parents did it to you we remember when we they did it that one time I was six seven years old my mom would tell me you're going to be an incredible engineer one day engineer engineer you're going to be who the hell like I'm seven years old I'm remembering that have that conversation with them my dad would say son the reason why you're going to be a leader one day is because you're not afraid of the truth one time my dad and I went to this uh uh uh what do you call it Spa in Iran that they had pool and all this other stuff that we would go there and they would make this drink Persian drink that I freaking love D it's not do it's like water with these uh uh my dad knows what it is this fruit stuff that they put in it's just incredible with lemon and all this stuff I love it and we go there and a guy says uh uh how old is your son and my dad says Ah they're friends he said my my son is 14 years old I said I'm not 14 years old my dad's lying to you I'm 8 years old and he says really says yeah cuz this place is 12 and up he says well listen since you're father I like the fact that you're honest come in and he let me in he says the reason why you're going to be a leader one day is you're not afraid of the truth you'll tell the truth you're in trouble sometime well you'll tell the truth that stays with you at 8 years old yeah I'm 46 that's 38 years ago we can do that for our kids folks you and I can do that for our kids use today as the opportunity this weekend to have that conversation and do me a favor share it with me I want to hear about it you have no idea how much I love hearing stories like this I when you have that conversation you can get a hold of us on on uh man or tweet and do whatever you want but on man we'll be able to respond back to these stories today is uh Thursday it's Thanksgiving tomorrow is Black Friday and the reason why they call it Black Friday is because that is the first day that a lot of the retailers go into profit mode so whatever else they make the rest of the year hey the name is Black Friday let me tell you what my codes been every year for Black Friday many many years ago it was about lining up outside of Walmart or Best Buy or Costco I'm going to get the big TV for 50% discount nowadays it's Amazon and all this other stuff and you splurge and you splurge and you splurge and nothing about you improved and it's the same old same old here's what we're doing for Black Friday folks first of all we have a massive Black Friday sale that's going to be 50% off there's a whole setup 50% off hats shirts we have this uh notebook here the value tainment notebook that's got the multiple different charts that we use at the Vault conference for some of you guys that are business owners this is a perfect notebook for you 50% discount shirts gears you'll see all these things wallets angry Patriots stickers even the SLS leadership event that if you attended it it's $5,000 a ticket to $330,000 held at marago the recording is selling 4,000 today's discount of $4.97 if you go all the way to the top R we have a bundle with all the different courses combined together it's a price point of uh uh 12, 688 when 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