Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim. Alhamdulillahi rabbil alameen. Wassalatu wassalamu ala sayyidina Muhammadin wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ajma'in amma ba'd. In our last week we had done the incidents of Ma'una and Ar-Rajee' and the next major incident that occurred, we're actually going to postpone it till next week and we need to catch up with other incidents that are not directly related to the Ghazawat. And next week inshallah we'll talk about the incident of the expulsion of the Banu Nadir.
which is the second of the three Jewish tribes. As you know, there were three Yahudi tribes there. The Banu Qaynuqa, the Banu Nadhir, and the Banu Quraidha. And after Uhud, the second of the three tribes was removed. But there are things that are happening that are in the personal life of the Prophet ﷺ.
So we need to get up to date with that. And in particular, the marriages of the Prophet ﷺ that took place around this time and before this time, which we have been obviously sidelining because of the major political events. Now, With regards to the marriages of the Prophet ﷺ, inshallah, maybe inshallah when we finish we'll try to have more light on each of the Ummahat al-Mu'mineen. But we need to understand what's going on at this particular time.
in the personal life of the Prophet ﷺ after the death of Khadija. We talked about Khadija, by the way, in entire lectures online, an hour and a half lecture about all of the details of Khadija and obviously the status of Khadija and the love that the Prophet ﷺ had for her. It is said that after Khadija died, for many months the Prophet ﷺ was not seen smiling. He was so devastated by her death. Eventually, Khawala binti Hakim suggested to him, why don't you marry someone, Ya Rasulullah?
So, he said, who do you suggest? Who do you have in mind? So she said, if you want an elderly lady, then Saudah. And if you want a young lady, then Aisha. And so the Prophet ﷺ married the both of them within a month of each other.
But Aisha, he did not consummate the marriage for another three and a half years. Okay, so he just got the nikah done. And Aisha deserves multiple lectures.
Inshallah, she will have a long series. Inshallah, maybe when we finish, we'll look at Aisha. And as for Saudah, so the next wife of the Prophet ﷺ after Aisha was therefore Saudah.
And Saudah, her name is Saudah binti Zam'ah ibn Qais ibn Abd al-Sham. And her previous husband was As-Sukran ibn Amr, who is the brother of Suhail ibn Amr. And As-Sukran had migrated to Abyssinia, and he either died in Abyssinia or right after his return. He died a very early death. He's one of the few Sahaba whose name we know who died in the Makkan era.
And her family, when she had converted to Islam, her family had disowned her. Her family had cut her off, and she really had nobody else. in Mecca to take care of her. And so the Prophet ﷺ felt compassion for her and married her probably in Shawwal of the 10th year of the Dawah.
Probably in Shawwal of the 10th year of the Dawah. And she was also the oldest or the eldest of all of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ. We do not have any dates of her age, but we know that she was the eldest.
And we also know, that she was a rather large lady and she would walk very slowly. And we know this because she herself tells us this and because she says that in Hajjatul Wada' in the farewell Hajj, I asked permission from the Prophet ﷺ to leave Muzdalifah early because she was a lady that walked very slowly and she was of a large build and she wanted permission to avoid the crowds. She wanted permission to avoid the crowds to get to Mecca before.
the rest of the crowd and so Ibn Abbas was sent with her to basically take her in a small entourage or small group to avoid the rush and from this we get the fiqh position that on the night of Anybody who has any need can leave early and go to Mecca early. So the elderly and the weak and those who need to take care of them, we get from this hadith that Sauda was elderly in age, meaning she has problems walking and everything, and so she was given permission to go early. In the Medinan era... Probably around the 6th or 7th year, we don't know exactly when, she began to feel that perhaps the Prophet ﷺ might divorce her.
And so she negotiated of her own will. She negotiated of her own will with the Prophet ﷺ. And she said, O Messenger of Allah, I have no jealousy of your other wives. My age is not like this. I have no jealousy of your other wives.
So, and I want to be with you so that I can be resurrected amongst your wives in Yawm al-Qiyamah. In Akhir, I want to be with you. So, take my night and give it to Aisha.
Take my night and give it to Aisha. And so she gave up her night, that was her obviously portion, and she voluntarily donated it to Aisha, knowing that the Prophet ﷺ obviously would welcome this. And it is said that when she did this, Allah ﷻ revealed in Surah An-Nisa verse 128. And Surah An-Nisa is around this time, 4th, 5th, 6th year Hijrah, Surah An-Nisa.
So it fits in perfectly. In Surah An-Nisa, Allah ﷻ says, verse 128, Surah An-Nisa. وَنِمْرَأْتٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ نُسْلِحَ بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا If a woman fears that her husband will abandon her or leave her or not treat her in a good manner, now obviously the ayah is not just for them, it's for all of the wives. So if a woman feels that her husband will leave her or not treat her the way that she wants, then she can negotiate something with him. And the two of them can agree to any type of conditions between them, and these conditions are good.
وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ And these conditions are good. And of course, this too is a blessing from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, there's no doubt about that, that Aisha was, as we know, the Prophet's favorite wife after Khadija, and he did want to spend more time with her, but he could not do so because he was being fair to all of his wives. So it is as if Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala basically willed for him that he has a lady that has no need for his knight, and for her night with him, and she will just gift him of her own free will.
So it is as if Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gifted the Prophet ﷺ to have a double share with Aisha. And this clearly shows us the permissibility of negotiating even among spouses of that which is their right. And she died relatively early in the time of Umar ibn al-Khattab. She died in the time of Umar ibn al-Khattab, and she is buried in Baqi' al-Gharqad.
This is the second wife. And we're just discussing her now because we need to catch up. We haven't discussed this tangent, even though the marriage took place obviously in Mecca.
And she was the first wife after Khadija. So right after Khadija, by probably six months or so, he married Sauda. As for Aisha, as we said, she deserves multiple lectures.
You cannot talk about Aisha in a few minutes. She has so much to mention. And she was the one, the Prophet ﷺ said that in a dream he saw ... Basically an angel carrying a lady that was covered up to him.
And the angel said, this shall be your wife. And he uncovered the hijab or the veil and it was Aisha. And this is in Sahih Bukhari.
And so he said, if this dream is from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it will come to pass. And it did come to pass that Aisha became his wife. And the nikah was done, as we said, in Mecca. But the marriage was consummated later in Medina in the second year of the hijrah. In the second year of the hijrah, the marriage was consummated.
And Aisha, as we said, deserves an entire separate lecture. The third lady, or actually it's the fourth now because Khadija is the first. So we're not even going to consider that. So let's start memorizing the names.
Because wallahi, hardly any of us has memorized these names, right? So number one. Khadija, number two. Sauda, number three. Aisha.
Number four, Hafsa. Hafsa binti Umar. Hafsa, the daughter of Umar ibn al-Khattab. And Hafsa was married right at this time.
So now that's why we're talking about the other marriages. That basically Hafsa is now marriage taking place at this stage. So chronologically this is the marriage that we need to speak about now.
Now Hafsa, most likely she was born... Five years before the da'wah began. Most likely around five, maybe six, seven years, but around a few years before the Prophet ﷺ began preaching, before the wahy began.
And she was married at a very young age, very young age, probably 12 or 11 of this, to one of the early converts, his name was Khunais ibn Hudhafa. Khunais ibn Hudhafa. And she migrated to Abyssinia with her husband Khunais. And we hardly know anything about Khunais because obviously he died an early death because that is how she became a widow. All that we know is that Khunais participated in both Badr and Uhud.
So no doubt this was a very blessed and fortunate Sahabi to be participating in both Badr and Uhud. And there were only a handful of the Muhajirun at Badr and at Uhud as you know, around 70 or so. And this is obviously one of the elite then of the Sahaba.
In Uhud, he was severely wounded. And he was carried back to Medina, and he passes away right after Uhud. So basically he dies at Uhud, a Shaheed but because of the wounds, not on the battlefield. But it is still a Shaheed because he died because of the wounds. And Hafsa was extremely traumatized, she's just lost her husband, she's very young, she's probably 19, 20 years old at this time.
And she is very pained and lonely that she has just lost her husband. And she did not have any children. She's at the prime of her youth.
And Umar feels for her and Umar wants to help her out. And after her iddah is over, so Umar goes to Uthman ibn Affan. And he speaks to Uthman ibn Affan and he says that, Uthman, what do you think of Hafsa?
Now obviously when the father is asking about his daughter, it's understood that there is a marriage proposal, right? And this was how they would do marriage proposals, that the wali would go find somebody suitable, and then basically offer, if you like. This was typically the way that it was done. That the wali would typically offer the one that he is in charge of. And the other way is also permitted.
And that is that the man comes to the wali and says, I'm interested in your girl or the girl that you're the wali of. But generally speaking, it was the person who has the daughter or the sister, he would go looking for somebody. So he goes to Uthman ibn Affan. And Uthman, what had happened with Uthman's personal life? No.
His first wife was? His first wife was? The daughter of the Prophet ﷺ who had passed away?
At Badr. At Badr, right? And Uthman, being the shy person that he was, is still single. Uthman is still single. So he goes to Uthman.
And he offers Hafsa to Uthman. And Uthman remained quiet, said let me think about this. And then after a few days, he came back and he said, I think that I don't want to get married right now.
Now there's a secret that he cannot tell Umar. So he just says I think that I should not get married at this stage. And Umar felt very much grief at this because this is like a rejection for him and his daughter.
And this is Uthman who's a nobleman, he's a Quraishi, he's wealthy, he's every all the good characteristics you want. From Umar's time he wants somebody like Uthman and Uthman and he's single as well. Right?
And the fact that he's saying he doesn't want to get married really means from Umar's perspective, I don't like your daughter. Right? So it really hurt Umar. So he took his pride, swallowed it, went to Abu Bakr now.
Now Abu Bakr is married. But he wants a noble son-in-law even if it means his wife's gonna be be, his daughter is going to be a second wife, right? So, he goes to Abu Bakr, and he says the same thing, what do you think of Hafsa? Once again, when you say something like this, he understood what is going on. And Abu Bakr was completely silent as well.
What can he say? Something is going on, he cannot tell Umar. So he says, let me think about it, and he doesn't return at all, for days.
He doesn't even know what to tell Umar, right? So Abu Bakr doesn't even give him a jawab. And Umar says, this was much more painful to me than Uthman's.
That what's wrong now? What is going on? He doesn't see anything problem with his daughter.
What is going on? according to some books of Rijal I didn't find this in Ibn Ishaq and others but some books of you know narrators of the Sahaba the biographies of the Sahaba one of them it mentions that Umar even went to complain to the Prophet ﷺ about Abu Bakr and Uthman. What's going on here?
You know, they turned Hafsa down. Not complain, but you know, just like talk. Like, you know, they turned Hafsa down. And the Prophet ﷺ said, Hafsa will marry someone better than Uthman.
And Uthman will marry someone better than Hafsa. He has a plan. Umar still didn't get it. Umar still didn't get it until finally the khitbah or the proposal came directly from the Prophet ﷺ that he wants to marry Hafsa.
And of course as for Uthman, she married the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ. And afterwards Abu Bakr came and excused himself and said, perhaps you felt something against me when I didn't come back to you. So he said, yes I did. So he said the Prophet ﷺ had mentioned Hafsa to us. And I could not inform you of his secret.
And I didn't know what to tell you. So that's why, that's exactly what happened. And this shows us that the Prophet ﷺ, despite being who he was, he's getting mashwara, he's getting istishara, he's getting advice from the other people. What do you think of Hafsa as a wife for me? Subhanallah, he's asking.
And he's asked Abu Bakr, and he's asked Uthman, and so the both of them, they don't know what to tell Umar. So they're feeling very awkward now. And then Abu Bakr said to him, and had the Prophet ﷺ not proposed for her, then I would not have done it.
would have accepted. This is the status of Hafsah, that calm down Umar, that had the process of not propose for her then, I would have accepted if you had come, when you had come to me. And so, this shows that even the process is getting advice about the marriage proposal. And Aisha radiallahu anha said, she was my main competition amongst the other wives of the Prophet ﷺ, the daughter of Abu Bakr, the daughter of Umar.
They are like their father's daughters, right? They are like the daughters of their father. They are competing with one another. Because she was just as bold as Aisha.
Her age was similar to Aisha. She's probably 1920. When the Prophet ﷺ, she's relatively very young. And she has the same tongue as her father. She has the wit.
Everything is there. Right? And in fact, it is even reported that some issues happened between Hafsa and the Prophet ﷺ.
And the Prophet ﷺ either thought of divorcing her. Or according to one version, he gave her one talaq. And Jibreel came to him and said, Do not divorce her.
For she is sawwama qawwama. She is one who fasts all the time and prays all the time. And she shall be your wife in Jannah. And so the Prophet ﷺ took her back. Now that is wallahi just mind boggling.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala intervened in this dispute and said, No, you're not going to get rid of Hafsa. She will be with you. Jibreel came down and said to the Prophet ﷺ, Raji'ha, take her back. Whatever the issues might be, and of course it is a part of our etiquette. not to, you know, the seerah doesn't tell us, but you understand she is the daughter of her father.
Whatever the issues might be, we don't know the details, but eventually some tension is happening, and either the divorce or a thought of divorce. Whatever the case might be, Jibreel comes and says no. You're not going to. Bear with her.
And this shows us that for the rest of us here, those of us who do have issues with our wives or vice versa, there might be an issue that is problematic, but we look at Iman and Taqwa. And that is far more important than maybe a sharp tongue, maybe this, maybe that. Iman and Taqwa. Sawwama, Qawwama.
Look at what Jibreel described Hafsa as, right? That she is Sawwama. He is Sawwama, Qawwama. And her piety saved her, subhanAllah. Her righteousness saved her marriage.
That she was such a righteous woman that even Allah, I should not say that, but rather Allah Azza wa Jal sent Jibreel down and said that, Ya Rasulullah, you are not going to divorce her, she shall be your wife in Jannah. And this is honestly what a great honor for Hafsa to have this. And it is said once there was another dispute that happened and she was crying and Umar ibn al-Khattab came and she saw her crying. And he realized another dispute happens, he's not going to side with her against.
Now this is when you have your son-in-law as a process, and you're not going to side with your daughter against him. And she said, perhaps you had another argument with him. Wallahi, if he divorces you again, I will never speak to you for the rest of my life.
Like it's going to be, how am I going to live if he divorces you again? You had better make up to him now. So even the father was like not sympathetic with her plight in this regard, that you had better make up.
Whatever you did, go back and make up, and make sure that he is not angry with you. Sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Hafsa. She was one of the very few ladies who learned how to read and write.
One of the very few ladies who learned how to read and write in the time of the Prophet ﷺ. And when Umar ibn al-Khattab died, remember he was stabbed and he commissioned the six people to be the next Khalifa. So when he died, there is no Khalifa. So, the Mus'haf that was written in the time of Abu Bakr, the grand Mus'haf, the first Mus'haf. Umar had taken it because he's the Khalifa.
When Umar died, the next Khalifa is not yet ready, so Hafsa took this Mus'haf. That is the original Mus'haf of Islam. The first Mus'haf ever written, which is Abu Bakr's time. And then Uthman recopied it, if you remember. Hafsa was the one who took it because when her father died, there was no Khalifa, there is nobody, so she's inheriting, she takes.
And she kept it with her until she died. And when Uthman wanted to copy the Mus'haf, he had to get it from Hafsa. So Hafsa sent the Mus'haf to Uthman, and then it was recopied and then sent all over the cities of Islam.
And she kept it until she died. She died either 41 or 45 Hijrah. If she died 45, then it is said Marwan ibn al-Hakam, who was the governor at that time, he prayed over her and she was buried in Baqir al-Gharqad. So this is Hafsa.
The next wife that is also married around this time is Zainab binti Khuzayma al-Hilaliya. Now, she is one that we have very, very... very few details about.
Why? Because she is the only wife who died in Medina. She died.
So the only two wives that died in the life of the Prophet ﷺ, Khadija and Zaynab. And a lot of people get confused between, there was two wives of the Prophet ﷺ called Zaynab. Zaynab bint Jahsh, that was his cousin. And that's a whole long story we'll talk about whenever we get there.
And this is Zaynab bint Khuzaymah. Zaynab bint Jahsh is his cousin. Zaynab bint Jahsh is from the Quraysh.
Zaynab bint Khuzaymah is not from the Quraysh. She's from the Banu Hilal. and the Banu Hilal are a tribe in Najd the Banu Hilal are not Quraish they are a tribe in Najd and because she died so early and she was married to the Prophet for less than a year some say 3 months, some say 5 months, some say 8 months very short period of time so how are we going to know anything she is not from Quraish she doesn't have ancestors basically in Mecca so We have hardly any details about her.
All that we know and even the reports that we know are kind of even conflicted. So whatever we do know, we find conflicting reports. One report says that how did she end up in Mecca?
She was married to Tufayl ibn al-Hadith ibn Abdul Muttalib. And that is the cousin of the Prophet ﷺ. So this is in the days of Jahiliyyah.
That she is married to Tufayl ibn al-Hadith and then he divorced her. and so Ubaidah ibn al-Harith married her. So she's now in Mecca, Ubaidah ibn al-Harith. Ubaidah ibn al-Harith, he is one of the three who fought at the battle of Badr, the Mubaraza. Along with Hamza and Ali.
Along with Hamza and Ali and Ubaidah ibn al-Harith. And Ubaidah was the one who was the oldest and he was the one who was killed. This is Ubaidah. So he was the oldest of the three, meaning Hamza and Ali. And he was the one who was killed.
If you remember the story that he fell down wounded and then Ali came to his defense, Hamza came to his defense. And then on the way back, he basically passed away because his leg was completely cut off and he had another wound in his leg. We talked about this in the Battle of the Barth. This is at Ubaidah, right?
So Ubaidah married this Zaynab binti Khuzaymah and she had no family whatsoever in Mecca or Medina because she's from the Banu Hilal. She has no family whatsoever and she was known. as Umm al-Masakin. This is Umm al-Masakin.
She was known as Umm al-Masakin. Because she used to take care of the orphans and the poor, she had a heart of gold. She would be very generous. She was known even in the days of Jahiliyyah as Umm al-Masakin.
Even before converting to Islam, that was her kunya, Umm al-Masakin. And that shows her... pure heart that even before the coming of Islam she was known for taking care of orphans and feeding the poor that was her laqabu kunya umm al-masaqeen and so when her husband died the process of marrying her we don't have an exact date but probably around the third year of the hijrah as well because this took place after hafsa so again we don't have any details but we know she didn't have any immediate family so clearly one of the main reasons then is that she does not have anyone to take care of her and And so the Prophet ﷺ marries her. And she lives only for a few months.
And she passes away in Rabi'ul-Awwal of the fourth year of the Hijrah. And she was the only wife to die in Medina. And she was the second wife to die of the Prophet ﷺ after Khadija.
So the only two wives Khadija and Zaynab binti Khuzaymah. And she was also the first to be buried in Baqi' al-Gharqad. If you go to Baqi' now, you have all nine graves of the Prophet ﷺ's wives one after the other.
And Zaynab was the first one to be buried over there. Because obviously she's the first one to die. And ask for Khadijah, where is she buried? Mecca in Hajun. And so the graveyard of Hajun is called in Mecca.
She is buried over there. By the way, Zaynab has a really interesting, fascinating tidbit. Or story that we know not of her, of her mother.
Um... It is said in some books of history that Zainab's mother is the most noble mother-in-law in the history of mankind. How so?
So let's begin. She has five daughters. Five daughters.
And she was not a Muslimah. And all five of them marry luminaries, marry people. people of import. Two of them become Ummahat al-Mu'mineen. This is another trivia.
That Zaynab had a half-sister, not a full-sister. Zaynab had a half-sister who also later on, not right now, marries the Prophet ﷺ and that is Maymoona bint al-Hadith. Maymoona and Zaynab, they had different fathers but the same mother.
So Maimunah and Zaynab are sisters to each other. Zaynab is much older and Maimunah. So the both of them married the Prophet ﷺ.
The third daughter, so these are two daughters of this lady. The third daughter was Umm al-Fadl bint al-Harith. Ring a bell.
Abbas's wife. Abbas's wife. And Umm al-Fadl gave birth to?
Abbas. Al-Fadl obviously, and Abdullah ibn Abbas. So look at how, who this lady is that her grandsons now become.
Abdullah ibn Abbas and also Al-Fadl ibn Abbas, two very famous of the Sahaba. And so, the aunt of the Prophet ﷺ. This is Abbas' wife, Umm Al-Fadl, the aunt of the Prophet ﷺ. Now, she had a younger sister.
Some say that she was called Lubabata al-Sughra. Umm Al-Fadl's name was Lubaba. Umm Al-Fadl is a kunya.
Umm Al-Fadl's name was Lubaba. And she had a... a younger sister that was also called Lubabat As-Sughra. And Lubabat As-Sughra she married Al-Walid Ibn Al-Mughira. And Al-Walid Ibn Al-Mughira is the chieftain of the Banu Maghzum.
He is the leader of the Banu Maghzum. And his son is Khalid Ibn Al-Walid. Right, so she now has a grandson of Khalid ibn al-Walid. So by the way, Khalid and Abdullah ibn Abbas are cousins. And Maimuna is their aunt.
And there are many ahadith that they're visiting Maimuna. Ibn Abbas' khala is Maimuna. And Khalid's khala is Maimuna. Because Khalid's mother and Ibn Abbas' mother are sisters of Maimuna.
Is that clear? Very? We'll have a quiz next week. Huh? Yes.
We'll have a quiz next week. So this is Lubabat al-Sughra and we said that she was married to Al-Walid ibn al-Mughira. The other daughter that she had is another very famous sahabiya Asma binti Umayis.
Another very famous name in the books of the seerah, Asma' binti Umayis. And Asma' binti Umayis, she was married to Ja'far ibn Abi Talib. And she became a widow at the death of Ja'far.
And she was the one whom the Prophet ﷺ visited and consoled her and took care of her children and Ja'far's children, the orphans of Ja'far. she was the wife that the Prophet ﷺ consoled directly and said do not cry over my brother he called Ja'far my brother and he said I will take care of these children and my children I will take care of them so this is Asma binti Umayyus she has many ahadith in the seerah and she remained single in the life of the Prophet ﷺ and then after in the khilafah of Abu Bakr Abu Bakr proposed to her and married her a few months before he passed away. And Asma became pregnant when Abu Bakr died. So she gave birth to the son of Abu Bakr right towards the end. Either, I mean, well maybe when he was young, Allah knows, again we don't know exactly, maybe he was a baby, or maybe when Abu Bakr died, this is Muhammad ibn Abu Bakr.
This is Muhammad ibn Abu Bakr, his mother is Asma binti Rumais. And after Abu Bakr's death, Asma married Asma binti Rumais. It must be Umar Al-Awwal.
No, she didn't. She married Ali ibn Abi Talib, Ja'far's younger brother. And she gave sons to Ali ibn Abi Talib as well. She's one of those ladies, subhanAllah, she has so many noble husbands. Ja'far, Abu Bakr, Ali, she's been married to all of them, and she gave all of them sons.
All of them she had children with. This is Asma binti Umais. And the final one, mashaAllah you thought that was enough, she has another sister now, right? So the final of these daughters, so they're all sisters, her younger sister Salma binti Umais.
And Salma binti Umais, I made a mistake two weeks ago which something was ringing in my head when I said it, so I went back and looked up and that's why I went into all of this tangent today. I told you that Hamza did not have children and was not married, this is wrong, I was wrong, scrap that. But Hamza did have children and something was going in my head. He had a daughter and in the treaty of Hudaybiyah, that daughter is then argued over among some of the Sahaba, who's going to take care of her?
The orphan of Hamza, right? And that's why I was wondering, something is not right when I said that to you. So I went back and looked up and this is why the whole tangent led me to all of this research. So Hamza was married to...
Salma binti Umais. And the two of them, they had Umara binti Hamza. And Umara was a little girl when the Prophet ﷺ went to do the Umrah after Hudaybiyyah. He did one Umrah.
So, Umara as a... young girl ran back with the Muslims wanting to be with them. And Ali and Ja'far and Zaid, all of them began arguing who would take care of her.
I'm going to take care of her. I'm going to take care of her. And then they had to go to the process to negotiate who's going to take care of Umara because she's the daughter of Hamza.
And every one of them felt the sympathy where they wanted to be the guardian. And so the process of them gave it to give her to Umara. Ja'far, because, to confuse you, why? Well, obvious now, it's obvious. His wife is the khala.
Now you understand why, right? So actually this makes sense now. Except for you, you're not taking... notes so you're completely lost.
You need to take notes. Draw a chart for us next week, okay? Come and draw your chart next week then we can tell you.
So, Salma bint Umayyad, her older sister is Asma bint Umayyad, right? Asma bint Umayyad is married to Ja'far. So, when Umara is taken is basically, and she's a young girl, she's not Balighiyat, and she comes crying to the army that she wants, to the army with the Muslims, that she wants to go away. She doesn't want to stay with the people of Mecca. So, that's when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had to intervene and say, And he consoled all of them, Zayd and Ali and what not.
But then he said, I will give her to you O Ja'far because Al-Khala to be Manzilatul Umm. The Khala is like the mother. And you're married to her Khala and so you will have the most right to take care of Umar. In any case, that is Zaynab binti Khuzaymah.
And as we said, she passed away in the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ. And we'll mention one more. whose marriage took place a few months later, but we're not going to pause there, so we might as well just mention right now.
And that is Umm Salamah Hind binti Abi Umayyah Al-Makhzumiyyah. Umm Salamah is her kunya, Hind is her name. The daughter of Abu Umayyah Al-Makhzumiyyah, so she's also Quraishiyyah. She is also Quraishiyyah.
Umm Salama, we have heard her name so many times. Umm Salama is one of the well-known of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ. We've just mentioned her in Uhud, that she was of those who had put water on her head and is running around the battlefield. Umm Salama that's the Umm Salama when Uhud takes place she's married to her husband Abu Salama so obviously the marriage is going to take place after Uhud so Umm Salama her husband was obviously Abu Salama Abdullah Ibn Abdul Asad and Abdul Abdullah, who is Abu Salama, was a cousin of the Prophet ﷺ from the mother's side, not from the Banu Hashim's side. He was a cousin from the mother's side and she had also emigrated, both of the emigrations.
And if you notice, by the way, all of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, their iman and their efforts for Islam, it's like a record, obviously, that the Prophet ﷺ, whoever he has chosen to be his wife, her contribution to Islam, emigrating the two hijras, is very rare for women. Emigrating to the Jewish is very rare for women. And yet we see so many of them in the list of the names of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ. Because again, Allah will choose those who are worthy to be chosen. So she had emigrated both of the emigrations and she was the first lady to migrate to Medina as well.
The very first lady to give up everything and to go to Medina was Umm Salama. And Abu Salama, her husband, was known for his gentle manners and his akhlaaq and they had a very, very strong and good relationship. And in the battle of Uhud, Abu Salama was wounded very severely. He also was carried back. He recovered from Uhud but never fully.
And he passed away from his wounds not immediately after Uhud but a few months after. after Uhud. So, the wounds kind of healed, but not fully. And he managed to live a few more months after Uhud, but then eventually he passed away.
And on his deathbed, so he's sick on his deathbed, and on his deathbed, she comes to him, and she shows you the love that the two of them had, that she says that, I have heard that if a man of Jannah dies, and His wife never remarries. That she will automatically go to Jannah with him. Clear? That if I don't marry after you, then I will enter Jannah with you.
And then just to console him, she said the opposite as well. That if a woman of Jannah dies, and her husband doesn't marry, they will be reunited in Jannah. in Jannah.
But that's not that he's the one dying not her. And so she said so let's make a promise to each other that we're not going to marry if the one of us dies. SubhanAllah, look even at her manners that her husband's the one dying but she's the one like let's both make a promise to each other. In fact this is a promise she's going to have to keep not him because he's dying.
So she's trying to inform him that look, she's putting very nicely to him that don't worry I'm not going to marry after. This is like her way of consoling him that I'm not going to marry after you. So Abu Salama says, will you obey me? So she's happy that he's going to say this. He goes, yes, of course.
I have never disobeyed you. I've always been obedient to you. So he tells her, then after I die, marry someone.
I don't want you to remain single. After I die, marry someone. Then he made a dua on his deathbed. And he said, O Allah, O Allah, bless her with a husband better than me. who will take care of her and never harm or irritate her. Subhanallah.
On his deathbed he makes this dua. What a husband, wallahi, what a husband. Who amongst us can even...
But this is, wallahi, it's a type of love that is... He doesn't want his... wife to be alone for the rest of her life. She has a long life ahead.
Why should she be alone? So he tells her, when I die, marry somebody. Don't be alone.
And then he makes a dua, O Allah, bless her with someone better than me. And Umm Salama is the famous story. We all know the story of Umm Salama. She was the one who said, one day my husband came home very happy and he said, I heard a beautiful hadith from the Prophet ﷺ. She said, what?
So he said, the Prophet ﷺ said, never does anybody afflicted with a musibah, with any calamity. And this is a hadith of Bukhari Muslim, we should all memorize it. It's a well-known hadith.
And it's amazing how Allah ﷻ basically taught it to her, even through her husband. Wallahi, it's amazing. If Allah had wanted, she could have heard it directly.
If Allah had wanted, she could have heard it from one of the sahabiyyah. But it is her husband telling her this, right? And all of this, فِي قَدَرِ اللَّهِ That her husband tells her, the Prophet ﷺ said, never does any مصيبة, calamity strike anyone. And he is patient at that. And he says, إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهم أجورني في مصيبتي واخلفني خيرا من And this is, we should memorize it.
إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهم أجورني في مصيبتي واخلفني خيرا من This is something we should all memorize. If you haven't memorized it, go to any book of dua and memorize it. Anytime a calamity befalls you, anytime somebody dies, anytime you lose money, anytime you hear you lost your job, any مصيبة, first thing you do, say this. And everything will be perfect.
First thing, but that's the point. Make sure the first thing you say is إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّيْهِ لِيَرَجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَ أَجُونِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَاخْلُفْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْ What's gonna happen? Abu Salama is telling Umm Salama that the Prophet ﷺ said, and what does it mean? That, O Allah, إِنَّا لَلَّهِ وَإِنَّيْهِ لِيَرَجِعُونَ O Allah, reward me for this musibah and give me something better than what I'm suffering.
Give me something better than this pain. That bring about something better than this calamity. So, Abu Salama said to his own wife, Umm Salama, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, whoever makes this dua, Allah will give him something better than what he's taken away. So, she is saying, as soon as Abu Salama died, I remembered this hadith.
Wallahi, look at the, we can't call it irony, but the profundity. Allah's qadr, everything is so perfect. As soon as Abu Salama died, I remembered this hadith. So I said, إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَنَا لِلرَّاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ أَجُونِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَاخْلُفْنِي خَيْرًا مِّنْ But I said to myself, who can possibly be better than Abu Salama?
She's saying it, but deep down inside she's thinking there's nobody. Who can possibly be better than him? And to show you how great Abu Salama was, the first person who proposed for her was none other than Abu Bakr. After the iddah is over, everything is done, she's now open to take proposals, Abu Bakr proposes. And by the way, the sahaba were not single.
By and large, it's not conceivable for them that a man or a woman is just there without a husband or wife. It doesn't make sense for them. And that's why we have all of these proposals. And I have said this many times before that subhanAllah, we have a stigma in our society and time in this regard. Divorcee, widowee, this and that.
In those times, there is no such thing. the concept of she's a woman she needs a husband right this is a man without so it's gonna be something that is well known for them and there was no stigma of a divorcee there was no stigma of a widow she has children she has children doesn't matter somebody has to be their father somebody has to take care of them so Abu Bakr proposed can you believe turning down Abu Bakr what does that show you Right? Abu Bakr she's not satisfied with.
Subhanallah. So she has a high standard. Because Abu Salama now has her heart like nobody can be better than Abu Salama.
So after a while... the Prophet ﷺ proposes. And he comes to her directly to propose to her. He comes to the house and he proposes directly to her.
And, subhanAllah, look at her wisdom. Look at her wisdom. And Umm Salama was known for her wisdom. She's one of the wisest of the Prophet ﷺ's wives. She was known for her high lineage as well.
She's the maghzumiyyah. She is the daughter of one of the elders of the Quraysh. And as you know, the Arabs at that time, they did value lineage.
And Islamically there's nothing wrong with taking lineage as one of the factors. Obviously, this is people go to extremes here, that lineage means nothing. No.
People like their ethnicity, people like their culture. If your father or your family is a prestigious family, it's something to add to the overall Iman and Taqwa, right? And that's not a problem with that. So, her father is a high lineage, she herself is known for her wisdom, she's known as well for her beauty. She was known for her beauty, and we'll come to this as well in a while.
And so, the Prophet ﷺ proposed. Can you imagine, even the Prophet ﷺ, she doesn't say yes immediately to. And she says, Ya Rasulullah, the Arabic is eloquent but it basically translates, how can I not be pleased that you are interested in me? I'm very honored that you're interested in me, but there are three things you should know.
Look at her intelligence, like, let me put the cards on the table for you. Right? Rather than, oh let's just go do this, and then, no, think about these three things.
Number one, I am a woman that has ghiara, jealousy, jealousy, And especially with the relationship she had with Abu Salama, so she has this ghiara. And you are a man that has already wives. And notice her iman now.
I am worried that that jealousy will act up and will displease you, which will then displease Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Subhanallah, like I'm worried that I might end up displeasing Allah by showing jealousy in this situation. So the Prophet said, that's one, what's the second? So she said, the second, I'm a woman. that is coming on in age and I'm not young anymore.
So he had Aisha, he had Hafsa. These are the prime. She is probably in her mid-30s if not more than that.
She is not you know 19 or 20 anymore. So she She's saying, I'm a woman who's coming on in age. So this is the second. What's the third? She said, I'm a woman that has family.
I have children. She had four children, by the way. She had four children from Abu Salama.
So I have family. You sure you want someone? I have family.
Nobody's going to take care of them other than the Prophet. person I get married to. So the Prophet ﷺ said, as for your ghiara, I will make dua to Allah ﷻ and it will be removed from your heart.
Don't worry about the ghiara. And then, notice this joke of the Prophet ﷺ, as for your age, I am afflicted with the same calamity as you. Laughter. This is of his humor, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, right? I am afflicted with the same, I have the same disease, don't worry, right?
Meaning I'm also not 20 years old. And notice his adab and his mulatafa and his joking, you know? I also have the same calamity.
And as for your family, they are my family. عيالك عيالي Subhanallah, what a beautiful proposal. Right?
What a beautiful proposal. And so once all of this has been clarified, and done, obviously Umm Salama then marries the Prophet ﷺ probably sometime around the fourth year of the Hijrah, maybe Shawwal maybe Ramadan of the fourth year of the Hijrah, and Umm Salama a lot can be said about her, but the most important, if you like story that we hear is the story of Hudaybiyyah the story of Hudaybiyyah When the Prophet ﷺ is in a quandary, he doesn't know what to do, the Sahaba are irritated at what's happening with the Quraysh, right? Umm Salama was the one, Ya Rasulullah, don't negotiate with them. Just stand up and do it. Stand up and shave your head.
your hair off. Let them see. And they're gonna follow you.
This is Umm Salama. Right? And this shows us her aql, her wisdom.
Shows us her intelligence. Now is not the time to negotiate. They're all irritated.
But if you do it, they're gonna follow you. Showing your actions that you're the one that's going to be leading, they'll all follow you. So the Prophet ﷺ took Umm Salama's advice. This is Umm Salama here. He took Umm Salama's advice and without saying anything he just called the barber and he shaved the hair off at Hudaybiyah.
And when the Sahaba saw him shaving his hair off, then they began racing one another to see who would shave each other's hair off. So this is Umm Salama. And Umm Salama, she lived a relatively long life.
One of the last of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ to die. She died in the year 59 after the Hijrah. This is very late. One of the last.
She lived a very old life. She's in her late 80s at this time. and Abu Hurayrah radiyallahu anhu led her janazah Abu Hurayrah led her janazah at this time and obviously she's one of the last to be buried as well in Baqir and these are the main wives that we will discuss now and so Umm Salama is the sixth wife of the Prophet ﷺ, but the fourth one at the time. Because two have passed away. Clear?
Total number six, but then Khadija... And Zaynab have passed away. And therefore, in reality, she is number four. The fifth wife, which is really a very long story. And Allah knows how we will tackle it in too much detail.
But that is Zaynab bint Jahsh. That's going to happen soon. Another year or so is going to be Zaynab bint Jahsh. One or two other small things that happened that are of interest. Zainab bin Tijahsh, we'll talk about the story in a while, in a few weeks or maybe next month, we'll see.
But Zainab bin Tijahsh, this was when the laws of hijab were revealed. At the marriage of Zainab bin Tijahsh, the laws of hijab were revealed. And before this, by a few months or maybe a year, khamr had become haram. So Islam, the sharia is now being solidified.
Salah has already been revealed, Zakah has already been revealed, Sawm has already been revealed, Hajj obviously is delayed till the very end because you can't do Hajj right now. Makkah is enemy territory right now. Hajj is delayed, but it shows us how quickly all of the laws came, that hijab was one of the latter of the laws to be revealed.
After salah, after zakah, after all of these, and it's coming down already in the, basically end of the fourth year, beginning of the fifth year of the hijrah, the laws of hijab came down, and they were revealed at the story of Zaynab binti Jahsh, at the marriage of Zaynab binti Jahsh. So, this is the tangent that we took for the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, and we'll mention two stories inshallah today. back to the political, if you like, scenario, back to the ghazawat of the Prophet ﷺ. One of them is very quick, and that is fulfilling the promise of part two of Uhud.
That at the very last conversation of Uhud, Abu Sufyan had said, we're going to meet again a year from now. Remember that, the very last. Let's do this once and for all.
Right? So, what year is this now then? November.
When did Uhud take place? Third year. So now this is the fourth. Right?
So in the month of Sha'ban, in the fourth year of the Hijrah, because now it's one year after Uhud, in the month of Sha'ban, in the fourth year of the Hijrah, the Prophet ﷺ left with around 1500 of the Sahaba and camped once again at Badr. Because at Uhud, they had said, we'll meet again at Badr. Okay?
Because Badr was the big plain. Badr is a convenient location to have a war. So we're going to meet again at Badr.
And the Prophet ﷺ camped there for more than a week, waiting for the army to show up. And no army showed up. No army showed up. And he assigned Ali ibn Abi Talib to be the flag bearer. And it shows us that the Quraysh were not able to live up to their side of the promise.
And what happened? They in fact did gather an army around 2,000 strong. they gathered the stuff but they were half-hearted they weren't into it because in the end they don't have the Iman and the courage that the Muslims had and they actually even marched out of the city but a lot of talk a lot of back and forth until finally they decided to forget it call it quits and march back in and they gave an excuse and they said this year has been difficult, it's been a year of drought there has been little rain So we need to take care of our families. We need to feed our families.
We need to have plenty of food and milk. We need to be strong to fight. And this has been a difficult year. The Muslims didn't complain.
They were waiting for them, right? But again, this shows us the reality of Iman versus Kufr. So they said, we'll come back another year. And so they simply abandoned the entire enterprise.
And we see now that the tide is shifting. We see now that the Muslims are getting stronger and stronger. And the Quraysh are getting weaker and...
weaker. And the main other incident that took place is the Ghazwa of Thaat al-Riqa' and the Ghazwa of Thaat al-Riqa' is not important for the actual incident but for two or three things that happened around the incident. Ghazwa to Thaat al-Riqa' is not that important with regards to the details because no fighting took place.
Now firstly you should know that Ghazwa to Thaat al-Riqa' there is a big controversy when it took place Ibn al-Sahih Ibn Ishaq says it took place right now, which is why we're doing it. We usually follow Ibn Ishaq, we consider him to be the most authoritative. Ibn Ishaq places it right now. However, people greater than Ibn Ishaq, such as Bukhari and others, they said it occurred after Khaybar.
After Khaybar. And there's controversy that I don't see the need to go into right now about the evidences of both sides, but one of the main evidences that is used to say that it took place right now is the story of Jabir that we're going to discuss today, insha'Allah ta'ala. And the story of Jabir, in it he says, my father was martyred at Uhud, and I got married, and the Prophet ﷺ asked me, did I get married? He didn't know I was married.
So I said, yes, I got married. He said to a virgin or a widow, I said to a virgin, this famous conversation, right? So the Prophet ﷺ did not know that Jabir is married, right?
Yeah, but he doesn't know that he's married. The Prophet ﷺ does not know that Jabir is married. And Jabir got married right after Uhud because his father died a shaheed at Uhud. And this is one of the evidences that that raka'ah took place, right?
after Uhud, which is what we are doing over here. Now, that rika'ah took place against the tribe of Ghatafan, and the tribe of Ghatafan, it'll come up again and again in the seerah, and it appears that Ghatafan, they They were a tribe up north and they were a very large Bedouin tribe. And they were a tribe that was known for looting and plundering.
They were the tribe that was known for just highway robbery type of things. They had no morals. This is Ghatafan. And they come up again and again.
They're hired as mercenaries by the Quraysh in the battle of Ahzab later on. This is Ghatafan. So Ghatafan have no morals. They're a pain for everybody around.
And it is said that they wanted to just raid the Muslims and the Prophet ﷺ. preemptively took an army out to stop them. There was no actual fighting, but just to demonstrate, we can defend ourselves. And the Prophet led an army of 700 men, And they camped in front of Ghatafan for a week or two.
But no battle took place. The both of them just remained in eyesight of one another without a physical confrontation. And Ghatafan decided to basically not actually engage in battle. A number of things happened here.
This was in Ghazwat al-Dathir Qa'a. This was when Allah revealed the procedure of Salat al-Khawf. Salat al-Khawf.
And Salat al-Khawf is a type of salah that you pray in shifts. You pray in shifts. That what do you do when the army is basically under threat? You can't just all of you take a side and pray salah and then they'll attack you at that point in time.
Rather, the Imam, the Prophet ﷺ, he will pray the full salah and the sahaba behind him will take shifts in praying and Allah says in the Quran that faltaqum ta'ifatum ma'aka let one group pray with you then wal ya'khodu hidram they will take charge guarding and then the the other group is going to come and pray. Right? ثُمَّ تَأْتِ طَائِفَةً أُخْرَى فَلْيُصَلُّوا مَعَكْتَ And then the next group will come, and then they will pray with you.
So, the two groups will take shifts praying, and the Prophet ﷺ will pray the full prayer as the leader, or whoever is the leader will pray the full prayer. And so each group will guard half, or even if it has to be less than a half, the leader or the imam will decide how severe is the situation. Should half-half do it, or maybe one-third protect, two-third pray, or whatever? At that time it was half-half.
half they did it. So this was when Salatul Khawf was revealed for the very first time. The second incident that is of interest in Ghazwatul Dhatul Rika is one of the miracles that took place in the seerah of the Prophet ﷺ. And that is that on the way back from Dhatul Rika.
So now they're on the way back. It's over now. The danger is over. And it was a hot summer's day.
And it was the desert. And so when it came time to stop, And it was the sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ to march after Fajr all the way until it was too hot. This was generally what he would do.
Again, we drive in the morning, we leave and then it gets, well, we have AC or whatnot, but it gets hot, you don't want to be driving in the summertime. So, they would walk right after Fajr on the camel as long as they could, then probably around 11, 11.30 when the sun got too hot for them, they would then pause, you know, take their nap, their lunch, and then when it got a little bit cooler, they would go again. So, when they got to the valley where they decided to stop, everybody ran for shelter.
And everybody just got some tree, some shade. It's the sun is right above you, you're not gonna have too much shelter. Whatever little narrow crevice you find, whether it's from the mountain, whether it's from a tree. So all of the sahaba, they're tired, they're not worried about any... enemy attacking, they all fell asleep.
And the Prophet ﷺ also fell asleep under one of the trees. It was here that one of the Bedouins of Ghatafan, who was following the Prophet ﷺ, following the army, Saw the opportunity. From the distance he's seeing they're all splitting up and what not.
And so, one of the Bedouins of Ghatafan, he had basically agreed to assassinate the Prophet ﷺ obviously for the money that the Ghatafan would give him. And so when he, and his name was Gourath by the way, Gourath. When he saw that the Prophet ﷺ was all by himself, he knew this was his time.
All the Sahaba were asleep. And the very fact that they didn't even hear him, it shows us how tired they must have been. He walked all the way through the Muslim camp. And he came to the Prophet ﷺ and he took the Prophet's ﷺ sword from the tree because it was hung over there and he unsheathed it.
And at this point in time the Prophet ﷺ wakes up. Because he hears the noise, he wakes up. And he shook it in front of the Prophet ﷺ.
He's a Bedouin, he's not even a warrior. But still he has a weapon. He shook it in front of the Prophet ﷺ and he said, Are you scared of me?
Are you scared of me? And the Prophet ﷺ, said, no, and why should I be scared of you? So the man said, are you not scared of me and I have a sword? Means he's trying to make the Prophet ﷺ scared.
And the Prophet ﷺ said, no, I'm not scared of you. And in the process, the man begins to tremble out of fear. Allah ﷻ threw fear into his heart. He begins to tremble out of his fear. And the sword dropped.
The sword dropped from his hand. According to one report, the question he asked him was who will protect you from me? من يمنعك مني this is another version of the hadith من يمنعك مني and so the Prophet ﷺ said Allah and when he said Allah the sword just dropped from his hand and when it dropped from his hand the Prophet ﷺ picked it up turned it around and said من يمنعك مني who is going to save you from me? who is going to save you from me? and the man the man to which the man said, be the better of the two who takes the sword.
Meaning? كُنْ خَيْرَ الرَّجُلَيْنِ Meaning, be the better of the two. Meaning what? Mercy.
Have mercy. I did not want to have mercy on you. Be the better of the two, have mercy on me.
Like he confesses that I didn't have mercy on you, you be better than me. Be the better of the two who took the sword. So the Prophet ﷺ said, أَتَشْهَدُ أَن لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَأَنِّي رَسُولُ اللَّهُ Will you testify to the shahada? So he said, He said, I will testify and promise that I will never fight you again. And he was honest.
He didn't accept Islam. He said, the max I'm going to go, I promise I will never fight you again. I'm never going to help anybody who...
fights you. And Jabir then narrates the story from Bukhari that he says that, and so the story from Bukhari says that we scattered in the valley to find shade and we went to sleep and we were woken up by the Prophet ﷺ calling us, come here, come here. They were that asleep. This whole incident is taking place and nobody is the wiser until the Prophet ﷺ saying, come here. And they all came and they found the Prophet ﷺ with the sword at the neck of this ghaurath and the Prophet ﷺ told them the entire story.
story and Jabir says that the Prophet ﷺ did not do anything, he forgave the man and the man promised never to attack again and he returned to his people saying, I have come back from the best of all of mankind, I have come back from the best of all of mankind and this shows us subhanAllah, how much forgiving the man wanted to kill the Prophet ﷺ and wallahi who amongst any leader or any person would let this go and even he didn't even Necessitate Islam. Because what's the point of Islam at force anyway? The man said, I'm not going to fight you.
Okay, khalas, go back. That's all. Go back, I don't need to, you know, as long as you're not going to fight, khalas, go back. And he lived up to his word.
Another incident that we all hear about, and it took place in Zat al-Raqa, another incident that we hear about is the famous incident of the two sahaba who were... protecting the caravan at night or protecting the army at night being night watchers they're making sure nobody attacks uh this is abad ibn bishr and ammar ibn yasser abad ibn bishr and ammar ibn yasser that they were the ones who were assigned to basically guard over against ghatafan attacking again at night and once again ghatafan so ghatafan by the way they were sending their spies they were sending people to make sure that to irritate them and so uh Ammar and Abad said to themselves, who's going to go first, who's going to go second? So Abad said, I'll go first. and you can go second. So, Ammar went to sleep.
Ammar ibn Yasir went to sleep. Abad stood up in salah to pray. And this was at a time when one of the mushriks of Ghat al-Fan fired a bow and arrow.
And it went straight into his body. And he pulled it out and continued praying. Continued praying.
And another arrow came in, pulled that one out, and continued praying. Until finally when he thought he is going to faint from the salah, he then woke up Ammar. And Ammar said, why didn't you...
you break the salah before? So he said, I was reciting a surah and I didn't want to break it. The ladha of salah was so much, right? And it is said that it was surah Yusuf. The ladha of salah was so much that he didn't want to break it.
It was just the pleasure of reciting the Quran. I didn't want to stop now. Until I thought I'm going to fail in my duty as a night guard. Then I woke you up.
And then Ammar basically fought him back with a bow and arrow. It's far away. It's not as if he's right there.
He's going to do anything. So he thinks maybe another one will miss, whatnot. But it turns out he was a sharp shooter. Good arrow.
And so it hit him again until finally he thinks he's going to faint. Then he wakes up. Ammar.
Ibn Yasir and then he says to him that I swear by Allah were it not for the fact that I might have failed the duty that the Prophet ﷺ gave I would rather have died then stop the salah. I would have loved to have died a shaheed in this manner, but I have an amanah to protect the army. I have an amanah. Otherwise, this is a beautiful death for me. I'm reading the Quran.
I'm in salah. I would have loved to do this rather than break my salah. And then the final story is a very, very beautiful story. And this is why it seems that that raka'ah took place right now. And it is the story of Jabir ibn Abdullah.
It is called Hadith Jabir ibn Abdullah. And it is a very long story. Ibn Hajar says that this hadith you can extract more than a hundred benefits from it. And we don't have time for a hundred benefits definitely.
But it is a beautiful and a moving story. And it shows us really the mannerisms of the Prophet ﷺ. And Jabir narrated it in the first person. Jabir narrated it in the first person. And Jabir says that in the Ghazwa of that Ulaqa, we're coming back from the Ghazwa, and my camel was the oldest and the weakest camel.
It was the oldest and the weakest camel and I was struggling behind the entire army. And I was in a very sad mood. Because my father, this is why we know it's here, my father had just died at Uhud.
And he had left a big dain. Dain. Loan. And I had seven sisters, no brothers. He's the oldest, he's got seven sisters, he has no one to take care of him, he has a loan, and he's got an old camel.
And so he said, all of my humum, all of my worry and grief are piling on me. And I was already straggling behind, and lo and behold I heard a voice. And the voice was, who is that in the back? I looked up, it was the Prophet ﷺ. So I said, this is Jabir, O Messenger of Allah.
So the Prophet ﷺ said, مَا لِأَرَاكَ مَهْمُونَ Why do I see you so depressed? Why do you see you so sad? so I told him the situation that Ya Rasulullah my father died at Uhud and this is why we know that it took place right after Uhud, right?
My father died at Uhud and he left a family and he left this and that and all I have is this this camel. The only possession that I have is this camel. And the Prophet then asked him, are you married? So he said, yes I am married.
I got married. So he said to whom? Jabir was 17 years old, 16, 17 years old.
So he said to whom? Jariya or Thayyib? Did you marry or Bikr or Thayyib? Did you marry a virgin or a widow?
Or in one version, a young girl or an older girl? So he said, I married an an older girl. I married a widowed lady. Now the Prophet ﷺ is having a conversation with him that every young man would understand.
And he's trying to cheer him up because Jabir is depressed and sad. So he said, why didn't you marry a young girl? فَهَلَّا جَارِيَ تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ Why didn't you marry a young girl? You will play with her, she will play with you.
And you will make her laugh and she will make you laugh. and so he said O messenger of Allah I wanted to marry someone who would take care of my sisters and not add one to their age. That I have to take care of her.
And so the Prophet ﷺ said, أَوْ صَبَتَ You have done right. And this clearly shows that marrying a young or old or virgin or widow, كُلٌّ بِحَسِنِ It depends on the circumstance. For some people, it is better to marry young. And for others, it is better to marry old.
For some, it is better to marry previously unmarried. For some, it is better to marry a widow. In this case, the fact that he married someone who has experience, someone who is older than his other sisters and whatnot, someone who is older in age, it was for his benefit that she can take care of his sisters. So the Prophet ﷺ said, Then he said to Jabir, stop your camel.
So he stopped, dismounted the camel. The Prophet ﷺ stopped his own camel. Notice here, all of the people are ahead now.
The Prophet ﷺ is having a conversation with Jabir, who at the time is just a teenage kid. Like we shouldn't think Jabir is not well known. That's why even the Prophet ﷺ said, who are you?
Like he knows him, but who are you? So he said, this is Jabir ibn Abdullah. Then it clicks.
Oh, Jabir ibn Abdullah. Okay. This is not... This is not Abu Bakr, this is not Umar, this is Jabir, just a little kid in Medina. And the Prophet ﷺ is now basically having a conversation with him, one on one.
So he stops the camel. He rides the camel of Jabir. And he says, Bismillah. And he hits the camel, the way that you hit camels. And Jabir said, it became the fastest camel I had ever seen.
It raced in front of me as the fastest camel ever. And I caught up with the Prophet ﷺ. Now he's getting happy now.
Okay, now I got a young camel now, right? And guess what? The Prophet ﷺ says, بعنيها Sell it to me. Now after all this tantalizing, like you know, sell it to me. The young man, and wallahi he did this out of care for his own sisters, he said no.
I can't, I mean, he didn't do it out of selfishness, obviously. But he has sisters to take care of, he has a family. He said no to the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Can you imagine? Said la.
Said I'm not gonna sell it to you. So he said bi'niha. Again he said sell it to me.
And so when Jabir saw that the Prophet ﷺ really wants it, he flipped and he said, It's a hediya for you. If you really want it, then okay, take it. What am I going to do?
So the Prophet ﷺ said, No, I sell it to me. So he said, how much will you give me? So the Prophet ﷺ said, a dirham. Now a dirham for a camel is like, is like you're getting a car.
It's like, give you five bucks for it. Right? So he said, no.
Once again he goes back. Look, wallahi, I mean you can see even the young age of Jabir. Like back and forth. Right?
You see his young age. He's 17 or 18. Max 18, maybe even 16. 17 is a good age to estimate. Right? So he says, no. I'm not gonna sell it to you for a dirham.
So, how much? Two dirhams. Still it's like a joke. Right?
Two dirhams. So, فَسَاوَمْتُ I kept on increasing the price until finally we got it to a reasonable 40 dirhams. SubhanAllah, from one, can you imagine?
Right? From one to 40. And 40 is not a good, but it's like an okay price. Okay? It's something that is doable. So then I came back to Medina and I met my uncle and I told him the story and he was not happy.
Why did you sell the camel? This is your only possession. He was not happy. And I began reproaching myself, maybe I shouldn't have sold the camel.
Now the camel is young. You need a camel. I mean you need.
And the camel has now returned in its energy, it has become the most energetic. So then the next day... And there's also the points here to benefit from which I talk about in my other class that I do, like a garment, which is about intimacy.
So he tells Jabir that when you go home, don't rush at night, let the news spread to your wife. Don't just come knocking in the middle of the night. I know you're eager. So, oh by the way, so when the camel got fast, he's young and newlywed, he's now at the front of the army, galloping, right?
So the Prophet ﷺ said, calm down. Don't just barge into your family. Don't just go. Let the crier come to the city.
Let the family be aware that you're coming so that she can comb herself, clean herself, shave herself, and be ready for you. Right? And this I talk about in the class that I do about intimacy and Islamic etiquette of sexuality, that the Prophet ﷺ is actually encouraging the two to play with each other.
He's encouraging her and him to dress up. To even, he said, so that she can even shave herself. And the only reason for that is so that she looks beautiful over there. And wallahi, this shows us the frankness. Jabir, calm down.
Let her look beautiful for you. Don't just rush home. Right?
Look, he's advising her because he doesn't have a father, he doesn't have an older brother. The brother, he becomes like a father to Jabir, right? Telling him these things that nobody else is going to tell him.
Let the crier get to her before you. The crier means the one who's going to tell the caravan has arrived. And so, Jabir then goes. And then the next... morning he comes to the Prophet's masjid.
The Prophet says, have you prayed? He says, no. First pray, then come to business basically.
Look at the priorities, right? You walk into the masjid for business, first pray. So he's teaching him salah, teaching him tawhid, teaching him the sunnah of the masjid.
So he prayed two rak'ah and then he said, O Bilal, Weigh the 40 dirhams and give him some extra. Zin wa arjah. Weigh this amount and give him some more.
And Jabir had brought the camel and he took the money and he walked away. And so the Prophet ﷺ called Jabir, Jabir, come back. So he came back. He said, where are you going?
Back home. You forgot. Your camel is here.
He said, Ya Rasulullah, I sold it to you. What did the Prophet ﷺ say? O Jabir, did you think that I would cheat you out of your camel? Go take the money and go take your camel. Go take the money and go take your camel.
In other words, the whole ploy of the Prophet ﷺ was just to give the money to him without him feeling like it is sadaqah. This whole, and that's why he's actually joking. Now the Jabir is going to look back at it, right? He's going to feel, what a fool I made out of myself, right? And he's going to feel good about the whole thing.
Look at how, and it will light the humanity of our Prophet ﷺ is being shown. here, that he's in all, I mean maybe some of you will get offended if I say this but he's playing like a practical joke almost on Jabir, you know, I mean this really the best thing I can say is like he's just doing something in a teasing fashion, the whole thing is just like like a practical joke. For what? So that Jabir is given some money, and he doesn't feel as if, as if it's been charity.
Right? Did you think we're gonna take your camel from you, O Jabir? Go take your camel and take the money.
Right? And there are so many benefits, obviously from this hadith, as we said, we can go on and on. But wallahi, it shows us the care that the Prophet ﷺ had, that he's looking at every single person.
So much so, a 17 year old kid, at the back of the army, he then... takes his own camel all the way back. What's going on?
Why are you so sad? Having a conversation with him, cheering him up. Right?
Why didn't you marry a young girl like you? Play with her, she can play with you. This is a talk that you do to cheer somebody up. Right? To make him feel better.
And when he sees what's going on, devises the whole plot to basically get that money in his hand. And there are many other benefits here that frankly we don't have time to get into. And also there's quite a lot of benefits of marriage and intimacy and romance that I have spoken quite a lot about in the other class that I do.
And there's an article that I have online. that you can just Google it. It is called Marital Benefits from the Hadith of Jabir.
Because I didn't mention every single phrase, but the encouragement that the Prophet ﷺ gave to Jabir and his wife, to have a healthy intimacy, to have healthy sexuality, it's something that is honestly mind-boggling. And many of us in our ultra-conservative society, we think it's not allowed for scholars or mashayikh to speak like this. Our Prophet ﷺ is encouraging Jabir. And he's telling him things that...
clearly indicate that he wants them to find happiness with one another. And there are other phrases in the hadith that we don't have time to get into. And there are many fiqhi benefits as well.
This hadith is always mentioned in the fiqh of buyur, the fiqh of selling and buying, because there's so many benefits. Most importantly, and this will conclude, even though there's so much that can be said here, but that's a fiqh class. Most importantly, the fiqh of buying and selling.
The fact that you can put, well I mean you can barter, you can bargain, you can bring the price up and down, all of this is happening, right? How much? One dirham, no, two, no, three, so you're bartering, right?
You can say no to someone who is elder and senior to you if you don't want to sell something, right? You shouldn't sell something out of shyness because he said no. And you're allowed to put conditions in the contract, why?
Because Jabir is a young kid, he doesn't understand. So when he agreed to the price, he thought he had to hand over the camel right then and there. So he said, O Messenger of Allah, I'll sell it to you for 40, but allow me to ride it until we get back to Medina.
Right? Now he's just a kid, he doesn't understand. But from this we derive, it's called in Arabic, Jawaz al-Shurut fil-Aqda. You can put... legitimate conditions in a contract.
And this is one of the main reasons why this hadith is discussed. If I sell you my car, and I say, okay, I'm leaving town next week, I'll sell you my car, but for one week I'm going to drive it. Then you can have it.
This is completely halal. So you can sell, and put a condition, any other condition that is reasonable, you can put these conditions in a contract. All of this is insha'Allah derived from the hadith of Jabir and time is very late so I apologize about the delay. We're going to have to stop Q&A and pause it till next Wednesday when all of you will be quizzed about the genealogy of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ. And you guys will be sitting in Safa al-Awwal, make sure.
And we'll see who remembers that.