I've convinced my entire family not to attend my older sister's wedding after she intentionally made it the same day as our younger sister's graduation Aaron was the one supposed to tie up our family she was born premature so I understand that my parents cobbled her to an extent but it's more than that now growing up despite the fact there were already five kids in the house her needs were always taken care of a lot more than ours as her birthdays were turned into a much bigger deal and both of my parents spent way more time with her than with any of us and this has made her quite entitled aon's getting married and recently told us that she's brought the date forward due to a cancellation but the new date lands on the date of my second youngest sister Nadia's High School graduation Aaron was sympathetic but said she's already committed to the date they've printed the invitations my parents said that they just have to miss Nadia's graduation we were all sympathetic to Nadia but it wasn't intentional or so I thought you see Nadia later told me and my older brother Leo that she was there when Aaron got the call about the cancellation and when Aaron suggested a new date Nadia told Aaron that she was graduating that day but Aaron just laughed and accepted the date anyway this as much which as I hate to admit it sounds like a very errand thing to do she booked her engagement party for the night of Nadia's 18th birthday she also announced her engagement at my oldest sister's wedding everything is about her I confronted Aon about this and she said that Nadia's High School graduation didn't matter she wanted to get married to the love of her life sooner and our family had been to plenty of high school graduations at this point anyway here's what gets me the most Nadia's been looking forward to this for so long she's watched all of us graduate and have these huge celebrations thrown by our parents I asked Nadia what she wanted and she said she wanted to have her day so I told my family that me and Nadia won't be attending the wedding my brother Leo has also dropped out everyone's angry Aaron's furious and I didn't make it better by telling her that I could watch our other siblings get married since it's all the same in her eyes mom's trying to convince me to come to the wedding because graduation isn't as important but I feel like if I don't do this then it sets a precedent in Nadia's life that she's always going to mean less than Aaron I've had messages calling me an an idiot Etc they're telling me to step up and be a good brother but that's what I'm doing my son is supposed to be the ring be but with how my family is reacting I'm considering pulling him out of the wedding too my dad's told Nadia he'll take her to dinner after the wedding Nadia's currently staying with me because mom won't stop cornering her update it's been 2 days since the wedding and a lot of stuff has gone down so last Friday Leo and I went to speak to our parents and my Golden Child sister Aaron I wanted to tell them that I'd be pulling my son from The Wedding our older siblings ended up turning up as well so it was us for standing up for our younger sister Nadia Leo had spoken to them the night before and helped them see things more clearly from naja's eyes apparently it didn't sink in with them that Aaron chose the date intentionally there was a lot of yelling Aaron accused me of trying to sabotage her wedding our parents tried to convince me to let them take my son to the wedding but I stood my ground I felt a lot stronger with my older siblings with me there's only 2 years between me and Aaron after all luckily the oldest Lydia was there her words carry more weight as the eldest and she didn't give Aaron or my parents room to argue as she told them that Aaron chose the date intentionally admitted as much in front of me and Leo and that this was normal behavior for her Lydia told them that if they continued to favor Aaron so blatantly the rest of us would go no contact our dad started yelling not at us but at Aaron surprisingly I've never seen him so angry before and to see it directed at Aaron was shocking our mom asked us to leave we didn't hear from anyone on that side until Monday when Aron's fiance George asked to meet us at our parents he apologized to Nadia he didn't know that the wedding and graduation overlapped nor did he know that it was something Aaron did on purpose our dad was the one to tell him what followed was a long talk between US during which we all aired our grievances I told our parents that we all felt that they valued Aaron more that none of us mattered to them compared to her her artwork always went up on the fridge ours always went in the drawer I told them that as a parent I could never imagine treating my child like that aarin tried to argue she tried to tell us that we were trying to turn her into a bad guy trying to turn our parents against her trying to sabotage her wedding our mom told her to be quiet and that it was our time to talk George stepped in to tell us that he didn't expect us to attend the wedding but we were welcom to attend the reception he went so far as to say that he wished he could have canell the wedding altogether but it only cost him more money than he'd spent by bringing it Forward mom's willingness to hear us out lasted less than 24 hours by Tuesday she was begging us to reconsider apparently our feelings meant nothing in the face of aon's dire stress and the fact that people would be questioning our absence on the big day I haven't spoken to my mom since but I did ask my dad to bring me some of Nadia's things because she is going to be staying with me fulltime we have officially gone no contact with our mother dad took Nadia out for an early graduation celebration on Wednesday they had a daddy daughter date that I think she really needed he apologized for a lot of things and told her he wanted to do the same with the rest of us but Wednesday was about her I'm happy she got that one-on-one time with him she was happy coming home to me in our Sibling Group chat she said that she really thinks dad is going to try to mend Bridges with us even if Mom won't dad also turned up early yesterday morning to give Nadia flowers he told her that he was proud of her George even called while he was getting ready for his big day to congratulate Nadia which I really appreciated we didn't hear from Mom or Aaron our paternal Grandma ended up coming to the graduation with us it was a great day we didn't think about the wedding didn't think about Aaron we just had fun together my son got to wear his aunt's cap and gown and nearly drowned in the fabric our grandma tried on the cap too we took photos and sent them to our dad who posted them in a Facebook post he wrote to congratulate both Aaron on her wedding and Nadia on her graduation and we laughed about how it must have ticked off our newly wetted sister we went out for dinner and we as siblings gifted NAD a money for a week away with her best friend things are going well right now but I doubt Aaron will let them stay that way it has been 5 months since all of that happened happened and so much stuff has gone down it's unbelievable so right after their wedding my sister Aaron and her husband George went on their honeymoon and their absence sent our mom into a frenzy she wasn't used to having no one around someone was always visiting mostly Aaron but the rest of us would visit out of obligation and to see our youngest sisters Nadia and Lexi with Aaron on her honeymoon and the rest of us no contact mom had no visitors and she really didn't like that literally the day after Aaron left we started getting bombarded with phone calls from her she tried convincing Nadia first which our eldest SI iing Lydia thought was a strategic move because Nadia is the more timid of all of us in this more likely to be persuaded when Nadia turned her down she turned her sights on the rest of us we all got identical phone calls with her trying to persuade us to go visit her to understand her to see things from Aaron's perspective she even brought up the circumstances of Aaron's premature birth and how it was a miracle that she was even here my other brother Josh told her to do better with baby Lexi Lydia blocked her number when the phone calls didn't work she started turning up at our homes she continued spewing much of the same crap had over the phone and before the wedding she didn't understand what she'd done so wrong why we were treating her like this she called me ungrateful and disrespectful she accused us of harboring unnecessary jealousy towards Aaron and that she loved us all equally I didn't respond to these comments I was just trying to prevent her from going inside and saying the same things to Nadia who was with my partner and son in the living room her comments didn't deserve a response and when she was done I asked her to leave as calmly as I could but truthfully I felt a little like crying who wouldn't feel crappy with her mom yelling in their face like that trying to down play years of pain and calling it unnecessary jealousy my siblings and I have been let down time and time again by her and our dad ever since Aaron was born they missed out on so many things over the years both big and small but we had one thing one thing that they never missed and we were happy with just that one thing and that was our high school graduations but they couldn't give that to Nadia they missed Josh's college graduation because Aaron broke her leg it was an accident I get that but they never made it up to him they never celebrated this huge achievement afterwards and he just had to grin and bear it Aaron turned up to my baby sh shower because Aaron didn't want to go and one of them to get their nails done together instead but our jealousy is unnecessary asking her to leave made her switch tactics though and she started calling out for my son trying to coax him to go to her and telling me that she had a right to see her grandson my partner stepped in then because she was seething and took my place at the door mom yelled some more but she left when my partner threatened to call the cops mom repeated this song and danced with my older siblings but similarly got nowhere with them then came the Facebook posts indirect rants about ungrateful people and how shocking it is that some kids could turn against their parents so easily Aaron somehow got involved while on her honeymoon and called Lydia to scold her for being mean to our mom but as I've said before lyia is angry and she's had enough whatever she said to Aaron prevented her from calling the rest of us there was then a Facebook post about how much it hurt to be kept from grandchild my mom's sister called me and there was yelling and even calling my fiance the nword I blocked the number I know Dad was trying to convince our mom to just leave us alone he kept apologizing because she just wasn't listening to him Aaron came home after 2 weeks she tried reaching out to lyd again asking for us all to talk because clearly we all have some issues to work out we did not turn up Aaron was very angry at that because she's not used to us not turning up for her now while our mom was on a rampage our dad was still trying to do better by us and he's improved a lot he and I went out for a meal together just the two of us grabbed a drink and he apologized it wasn't a generic apology that he could have repeated to all of us about how he's sorry that he hurt us and neglected us but he brought up specific instances that he wanted to apologize for he thought back on all those years and picked out moments that he wanted to apologize to to me for I know he did the same for the others but having him apologize for things like canceling a fishing trip because Aaron needed him was something I wasn't expecting and I never really cared for fishing but I wanted to go on that trip because I always saw it on television you know I'd always see a dad and son fishing together and I wanted to have that I wanted dad to prove that I was a priority to him somewhere deep down it didn't happen and I never asked again but we went fishing a few days later after he apologized what started as a trip between the two of us soon grew into a family day out when my siblings expressed an interest in going fishing too brothers first then Nadia and even Lydia who hates the smell of fish she brought the youngest Lexi and I brought my son and it was great it was one of the best days of my life I suck at fishing but I'm pretty great at collecting seashells it was brilliant our parents did end up arguing when Dad went home the argument was mostly because Mom didn't understand why we were still in contact with him and not her she found it insulting that we were repairing our relationship with him she was angry that Dad wasn't pushing us to forgive her or why he wasn't stopping us from acting out she was angry that he didn't extend an invitation to her an errand for the fishing trip and she was even angrier when he explained that their presence would make us uncomfortable mom started giving us the silent treatment a few months later and my dad moved out of their house after a month of that while we were getting the silent treatment dad was bearing the brunt of her anger and it really took it out of him he was trying to do better by us and she was trying to villainize us and he ultimately told her that if she didn't take accountability for her action soon then he'd be contacting a lawyer mom didn't take him seriously he's been staying in Lydia's guest room since Mom doubled down and said that he was blind for not seeing how we were manipul ating him unlike the rest of us dad obviously still has regular contact with Aaron and according to him she's even told Mom to reconsider what she is doing unsurprisingly Aaron's involvement is what got Mom to relent I'm not sure if she's thinking about how she's treated us or if she's silently stewing