what would the hero of your life's movie do right now do that unless you're kind and friendly and warm and loving you're not going to enjoy this life you're just not everyone encounters difficulties there is no easy road it does not exist oftentimes people make the mistake of getting stuck and it is just a tactical mistake here's an American comedian and sports color commentator as a fan of comedy he started his stand-up career in 1988 in the Boston area in 2009 he began his podcast called the Joe Rogan experience he's Joe Rogan and here's my take on his top ten rules for success rule number three is our personal favorite and make sure to stick around all the way to the end for some special bonus clips also as joe is talking if he says something that really really resonates with you please leave in the comments below what cool to Ronda as well so other people can be inspired as well enjoy [Music] be the hero of your own movie if your life was a movie and it started now forget about whatever financial disasters you've had personal failures relationship failures what would the hero of your life's movie do right now do that do those things we define ourselves far too often by our past failures we look at our past and we say well that's me that's not you you are this person right now you're the person who's learned from those failures and you can choose to be the hero of your own movie right now write down your goals write down things you want to improve write down things you won't tolerate from yourself write down things you've done in the past you never want to see yourself do again and go forth from here as the hero of your own movie build momentum build confidence and momentum with each good decision that you make from here on out you can do it anyone can do it we unique times we live in one of the rarest times in human history where you can choose almost all the input that comes your way whether it's the movies that you watch the books you read the podcasts you listen to you can choose to be inspired to that do that and be the hero of your own it's good to treat other people the way you would like to be treated yourself it's like a golden rule and there's a reason for and that reason is that we're connected in some strange way that we don't totally understand unless you are good to other people around you unless you're kind and friendly and warm and loving you're not going to enjoy this life you're just not you're going to be problems everywhere you go you're going to have problems everywhere you go you got to figure out a way to enjoy this life it's not because of Jesus it's not because of Moses it's not because of anybody that may or may not have ever existed it's because that's how you fit in better in the world that's how you stay positive and it doesn't have to be some it was written 5000 years ago on animal skins that doesn't have to be the Golden Rule because it's old you know that's dumb we need to figure out like now today what what is you know the best way to live your life what is that you know there's got to be ways you can be putting forward the most positive energy I mean we know objectively what's causing pollution we know objectively what's causing birth defects and you know and are we're taking in too much chemicals and not enough vitamins we know objectively all this stuff we know how to organize our world and yet we don't do it we know how to organize our health and yet very few people do it we know all these things the right path to like being like a happy healthy person is to do all that we already know you're supposed to do take care of your body take care of your health take care of your mind your stress meditate be kind to people we all know that you ask anybody they know how to get by and to be the the most evolved version of you that you can be I mean it's not like a magical checklist if you talk to people but if you said okay here you got a person you want to improve them what are the things you're going to do to them okay well if I was a life coach the first thing I would say is this guy's got to get on a diet that makes them healthy I don't mean a diet just to lose weight I mean just healthy foods in your body many many vegetables vegetables a lot of a good quality protein a lot of water stop the sodas stop the Bulls start working out your body and get a better sense of like how this machine feels when it's moving it's flowing better there's less tension in it your mind feels like relaxed and you enjoy every single moment of the day better step one everybody knows that step right what step two be cool to people be nice to as many people as you can smile him as many people as you can have them smile back at you tip well when you go to restaurants just do the most you can be as nice as you can you know and just still manage to not have people walk all over you just get through this life is nice in Japan what else do what you want to do with your life right don't don't go be doing something you don't enjoy don't do something that's don't get locked into you know a car that you can't afford and doing something crazy because you need the money don't don't do that do what you want to do do what the is it that you really want to do because if someone else is doing it you can do it you know I mean everybody makes their own path through this world but a lot of people don't follow the path that they really feel pulled to you know there's for whatever reason they got negative programming you know when they were kids someone told them they couldn't do it or told them to take the shortcut or or take the the shore route that's a sad thing man when you talk to dudes especially like talented dudes and they don't follow up with what they want to do you know there's a bunch of people that will say yeah well I'm family sure you know it's a great idea for you to just go out there and go crazy I have people to support you need to listen stop saying that stop saying any of those things every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or exceptional or difficult or extraordinary anyone whether it's great artists or authors or mathematicians or whatever the it is everyone encounters difficulties there is no easy road it does not exist it is impossible everyone has issues if you have time to pursue a hobby if you have time to do anything in your life you can better yourself and here's one way you never better yourself when you come up with excuses for why other people are successful in your not is dangerous when you give yourself an escape yeah well that's easy for you to say you know you do dude you didn't - trust me everybody has a hard road I wanted to jump out a window several times during my young life I wanted to jump in front of a train just end it because too much pressure not really but you know I'm saying theoretically we all go through hard times we all go through depression we all do go through doubt and then moments in your life where it's really difficult and you're trying to figure out what the your path is going to be its hardest but stephannie now we're talking about this before the podcast starts that that is what makes you a person and those difficult moments are what build your character show me a great man who's the son of a great man that's what we're saying these kids that are born billionaires your your your never going to be a self-made person you have a backup trust for your backup trust for your trust and your man I'm fascinated by martial arts I'm fascinated by comedy I'm fascinated by many many different things I don't understand when people say they're bored because if I had the time to live a hundred lives I'd be speaking different languages I'd be living in different countries I would I would try a number of different careers because I think there's a lot of unbelievably fascinating puzzling complex things that you could study in this world that's just me and my personality but that's a personality also that have cultivated over years would you like that as a kid - well I was involved in martial arts very early and I think that is one of the things that motivated me to explore difficult tasks because through difficult tasks you learn an incredible amount about yourself and you through through the fire of competition you get to understand you get to understand motivation you get to understand the resistance that you have inside your mind - doing hard work you get to understand the rewards of discipline like you don't truly appreciate relaxation unless you've worked hard and that is the yin and the yang of life and I've said this to to the point of people getting sick of it but one of the worst decisions a man can make I can only speak for men obviously is to be comfortable I don't think you should try to be comfortable I think what you should try to do is try to earn comfort and if you if you can get a day off where you you you've worked hard and you've accomplished goals that day off will be so sweet when I work hard and I sit in front of TV I enjoy the out of it I put my feet up I have a nice drink you know I enjoy my the three airs that knits your back or something you have one of those you really look great right right now I don't use it that much though honestly I'm more of a workaholic than I should be probably if the balance was I probably should relax more than I do but I never feel like I earned it but that's not part of the reason why when I do feel like I earned it I can enjoy it it's because I am more connected to the idea that I need to accomplish things and to and it's not not like for anybody else's benefit other than my own or anybody else's approval other than my own I just when I have a task whether it's today I'm going to write a thousand words you know or two thousand or whatever the number is if I don't do that I know I'm not I write things down like I'll write down a list of things that get accomplished that day and if I don't accomplish that I'll get sick like I'll it'll drive me crazy if I can't fill out that list that drives me nuts you know but that's what led me to be a championship-level martial artist that's what led me to achieve the it's like that it's the reinforcement of those goals like understanding that that you can achieve those goals it's going to be difficult you're going to push through the difficulty and then you're going to understand what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental how much of it is just in your mind this adversity - - difficult task or - struggle you know and a lot of people have that they're scared they're scared of complications they're scared of failure failure is a big one that people are afraid of but failure is one of the most important things you could ever have as far as like the motivation to do things differently one of the reasons why I think that I'm good at friendships and relationships is because I failed at them in the past one of the things that I'm good at comedies because I bombed on stage one of the reasons why I'm good at war is because I've been a worker in the past and I know the feeling of failure the feeling of of shame of being like a weak non motivated lazy person it's a weak feeling it's a you don't respect yourself you know and I have this phrase that I use all the time to people to try to motivate people I say that be the hero in your own movie pretend that if your life was a movie and your life started now what would the hero do what would the person that you respected what would the person that you admire person that inspires you what would they do we'll do that and if you do that you slowly build momentum you like today I did what I wanted to do today I started a class in yoga I did this I did all these things that I was saying I wasn't going to do and now I feel momentum and momentum is a very important point in people's lives that's why some folks don't like to take days off because they feel like they're losing momentum and they sort of have to restart the wheel up again after a vacation you know and there's a lot of folks that live life on a cushy cloud of marshmallows and bullsh and then one day something goes wrong and I mean that's why spoiled kids are so sad like a spoiled young boy is one of the saddest things ever a young boy that becomes a man and can't take care of himself and his dad has to keep on rescuing him his dad has to keep on bailing them out of situations and giving them money I've met guys like that and that is a crippling affliction when they don't have the character themselves to be able to get by in life they constantly need someone to help them and bail them out even as a grown man I've met guys in their 40s that still need help from their parents I'm like what the man you're never going to get it right because somewhere along the line they didn't face enough of the adversity to realize that there's sometimes you just got to get up and get you done there's some times we have to pull yourself up and you have to push forward even if you want to stay in bed and if you don't do that you just keep calling on your daddy and your daddy keeps rescuing you you never develop those tools you never develop that ability to recognize what you're doing wrong with your life because you're you're soft you go to cushiony you got a safety net a safety net for your safety net if you had a kid obviously do have a kid but say if you had like a 20 year old and he just took doper or a wakin bakes and doesn't get anything done he's just always like I was friends and playing video games and he's just a loser I wish there was a way you could show someone like that like I know that you're getting some comfort and satisfaction I just laying around doing nothing eating getting fat but your life would feel better and richer if you had a goal you chase that goal you accomplished some things you would get this boost of confidence you get this boost to self-esteem like whatever it is that you're going to do maybe you're in a drawn comic books maybe you're into nah but making pottery or sculptures or but fine whatever that is and pursue that instead of doing nothing like the people that are doing nothing those are the real people look doing something might be as simple as like that Alex Honnold guy he just climbs rocks but he's world-class rock Twila it's something but it's also a goal of his and he's also the best at it yes yeah but those people who smoke pot all day Angela those are so the guys who hate on Joe Rogan for being in shape you know I'm saying are being disciplined or get on Kevin Hart's Instagram and to hate on you no I'm saying cuz they don't it's their own insecurities I see what you're saying but I would assume they would get motivated by seeing other people do something with their lives like that should be motivating not yeah but is your you up if you grew up with losers and you're around a bunch of people yeah attitude especially if it's in your household mmm I was very lucky that both my mom and my stepdad there now they're not they're the least hater people I've ever met my life they're just not haters in any way like if someone's doing well though I was like wow look at this guy or like Wow look at her Wow look at him there was never any hate in my house in terms of other people's success but if you grew up with a dad and your dad's like yeah these all these rich just you think she's a badass in this but you know these people that look at other people's success instead of saying wow look I did a lot of work like the way I'm a successful person but the way I look at Kevin Hart he exhausts me you know or the rock those guys exhausted me I'm like Jesus Christ like I feel lazy next to those guys like they do so much like those guys are so Oh overbearingly ambitious you know but some people they see that and they compare themselves and they don't like it so they get started getting really shy and it's like a natural feeling to try to chip away at that person and the worst people that you know are the people that don't have a good self judge that everything they do is awesome those never grow anywhere right that's a huge issue with comedy when you run into people that have a terrible comedy sets but think they did great like we would always Greg Fitzsimmons and I would always talk about that with like open mic errs like there's people that hear phantom labs like they think they're doing great and they have this delusional self opinion where everything they do is awesome and they don't know why they're not successful already they don't know why they're not famous and those people I believe I mean it's from sort of a weird narcissistic way you could look at it this way that those people are there to teach you this is the consequences of not feeling that awful feeling when you fail I was talking to BER a couple weeks ago he did a set at The Comedy Store and I saw part of it it was he was killing and then I ran into him in the hallway and I go out man main room show was great right and he goes half up at the end though I tried to hang in there too long the last bit bomb like he was just it was a rotten atom that the last bit like he goes I've hung in there too long I should have got off it a bit before that like but you know when I was in there he was killing you know but that wasn't in his mind the success was not in his mind that was like okay whatever that happened at the end don't do that again right right but that's why he's Bill burr that's why he's really good when you're alone with your thoughts you get an idea of what your thoughts actually are if you live your life just acting constantly on the momentum of other people's expectations of you wanting to be liked by these other people you can run into a trap and you you you set up a life that you didn't really want you're you're you're trapped in this situation where you have a mortgage you've got credit card bills you got student loans you have to pay you have a bunch going on you have to continue to feed and all that and especially if you have a family and you have to feed them oh my goodness then you're fully locked in you can't take any chances whatsoever and oftentimes people make the mistake of getting stuck and it is just a tactical mistake just like it would be a mistake if you got stuck on a video game just like it would be a mistake if you followed a map incorrectly and you get stuck in the woods your life is certainly some sort of a journey it's certainly some sort of a journey and we have to all be aware that when we're making journeys we're not going to always make the right steps and sometimes you have to back up and try again and if you're in a position where you can't back up and try again you've trapped yourself and the system will set out honey pots for people to get trapped in the system will set out the ideas of retirement the ideas of the golden years providing you benefits providing you a healthy work environment why well because they want people to work for them they don't want people to realize their own dreams and escape but those of us in the ass you got to hire more people and train them and they want to set it up so that you stick around stick around some sort of an unsatisfying world it's up to you to see that video game problem to see that issue as it comes up on the map known I think this is a right turn to see all the problems that could potentially lay in front of you and calculate your your future and then also look around all the people that didn't do it and look at the misery that they're in and learn that you don't want to be like them and then look at the people that are have kind of taken chances and navigated their way what do they do differently than you what would objectivity do they have that maybe you lack what insight into their own mistakes are they willing to delve into that you're not that you step back and go you know I don't don't I just don't want to look at myself that closely but the person who's able to look at themselves the closest it's going to get the more rational results one of the things that's causing this funk that people are in is that we're living our lives many of us at least in these very unfulfilled ways where you're going to this office with artificial light and you're doing something you don't want to do all day long and then you get home and you're tired and on top of that you're eating you're eating potato chips and you're drinking soda and your body is just like what in the is this we're supposed to be out in the fields we're supposed to be walking up hills we're supposed to be looking for animals or gathering vegetables we're supposed to be doing all these things that our bodies designed to do we're supposed to be in nature yeah and nature is like a medicine like it literally is a medicine to you like people people that go you don't have to go hunting you don't have to go fishing just go hike man just go hike up to the top of a mountain and look out you know there's a reward that you get from that that is intensely like soul filling just like something about like when I was in Colorado and there was this this area of Boulder we drive up one of these roads and there was this area where you could park and it was this incredible view man these people just Park and just go out there and just look but you get there in your parking you go because you would see you're literally seeing the Continental Divide these snow-capped mountains in July yeah in July it's covered with snow because those mountains don't give a fective one thing that we are we're an animal but we're also the next stage of animals where we're aware of who we are and we contemplate our existence and when you contemplate your existence in you're an intelligent life-form you should always be seeking to improve if you're always seeking to improve the thing that you look at it like what has brought me the most positive results so it's kindness its kindness friendship the the connection with human beings on a very positive level where you like build up like a trust and you you have a warmth and friendship and you root for each other and you you sharing each other's bounty and you you build to get you know that we all know inherently in our in our heads that kindness is like one of the best gifts you can bestow another human being whether it's giving them food and they don't have any or helping them out or hooking them up or doing something to help them just or being around them and complimenting them whatever the fit is we know that inherently that feels great and we know it and we know that that's the next we have to figure out how to use our resources together so we can be like that all the time I think it's always about doing what you actually want to be doing with your life as far as if you have an inner creative expression to get out and there's a lot of people that we always wanted to be singers and they just for whatever reason never pursued it yeah so they just sing around their house and you always wonder what could have been if we just try to be a singing that's one form of that decade bum you out that's one form of a road block in your life the the depressed feeling that you didn't try you didn't try to reach your potential hmm you didn't go after what is intriguing to you like we all have almost like a beacon that pulls us in a certain direction some people it's nursing some people its construction and architecting a parent fan people for some for us it was standeth yeah it's really simple yeah and it's like there's there's a something the happiness that's involved in pursuing your your inherent desires is the unavoidable thinkwell all you have to do is find a career yes all you have to do is find a group but I guarantee you there's one out there that you really really want it yet the ideas like I would be famous there that's what I was going to say thank you guys so much for watching I made this video because see Sadie asked me to so if there's a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile next leave in the comments below and I'll see what I can do I'd also love to know what did Joe say that had the biggest impact on you what change you're gonna make in your life for business after watching this video please leave in the comments I'm gonna join in the discussion I also want to give a quick shout out to Tuan nuyen thank you so much you're picking up a copy of my book your one word it really really really means a lot to me so thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love I'll see you soon the idea that we would literally on a gigantic organic spaceship you know that's just too tough butts too crazy to think you know it's so much easier to think about Tiger Woods and what was Jesse James thinking and it's so much easier to distract yourself with you know who wears this dress better in honest magazine 76% say this girl you know itself I think as human beings we have we're in a weird sort of an adolescent stage of evolution and we have these incredible technical and technological capabilities and this is insane ability to communicate with people all over the world and this insane ability to exchange information but we're still we're still trapped in this monkey body we still have these monkey instincts and we work like incredible hot hours and enough you see kids in school now they have insane amounts of homework if they're training you to be a goddamn your own I mean you you work all day in school and then come home you have hours and hours of homework three and four hours of homework tonight so the point where you're just accustom to like doing things you don't want to do and and then you're gonna take that and you're going to go to college and you're going to work on it there and eventually you're going to get a job and that job is gonna require hours and hours of your day and to the point where you don't have time to think about the space you don't have time to to think about if there's some sort of a weird connection between every human being on the planet every single action that you do in is life itself to really just live sort of a gigantic mathematical equation stupid czar and other neckties fall to the average person all those thoughts there's no room for those when you have to get out for work in five hours and your baby's crying and you know you got to get gas there's all sorts of different issues that people that have that keep them from thinking about the real ears and aspects of the blind this or this life is incredibly bizarre JBS Haldane that in fact not only in the world stranger than you suppose is stranger making hands close and it really ends when you start getting into like the you start getting into quantum physics and you know the idea of particles and super positions where they can exist in motion and we still at the same time and then there's subatomic particles that blink in and out of existence exists to the places at the same time on what is you know it's too much it's too crazy in order to be you to take care of your mortgage in order for you to be a good neighbor and show up for the homeowners association meeting on Tuesday night and and gossip with the neighbors what who's losing their house there's too many variables it's too much saying things going on and people gravitate toward stupid mean English because it's easy to absorb and because it jives well with our multi instincts you know the Large Hadron Collider doesn't get nearly as much weight in the news you know there's there's a bunch of just 10,000 scientific for making black holes significant that that's not getting that's not getting the news you know that luckily nearly as much attention we're so strange they would like to moving we have with the whole human race is like a goddamn Coen Brothers movie there's a certain amount of programming that the media does you know I mean especially if you watch like stuff like Fox News so there's a certain amount where they're sort of conditioning people to think a certain way but for the most part it's what people are interested in you know I think like the really deep scary stuff is is to be daunting for a lot of people there's something about people that it's like they don't want to know what's behind the door they don't want to know what's outside it's too scary they want to control their micro world you know and that's why people like you know having a small group of friends and living in a small community and you know and they like to know their environment and when you get into really crazy building wonnum physics and you get into the universe and infinity the idea of an infinite universe perhaps not even just one universe but infinite numbers of universes which is too nuts it's too crazy to think that up love you literally goes on forever there is no room you step outside your house and there is no you can go you can make a straight line from your head to a star that's 14 billion light years away that's that's the same that's one of the things that hits you when you do mushrooms you know if you specially doing a large dose you you you start realizing that there's no ground there's no up and nose-down you're like in the middle of this and if there's no there's no edges you know just goes it goes forever and you're like you just like right there you're right there swimming in this Universal soon [Music]