the secretions of the pineal in the yogic terminology is referred to as am because once it begins its secretion everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful it is not the sexuality which limits it but it's the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it if you make it too big you will become perverted in your head if you try to obliterate it you will become even more perverted in in your mind a 92y old man went to his doctor for a full medical checkup the doctor checked him up and he said hey old boy for your age you're doing great everything is just fine with you but the man asked but doctor what about my sex life so the doctor asked thinking about it or dreaming about [Applause] it the more you try not to think about something the more you will think about it this the nature of the mind so there are many reasons why one indulges in sex for some it is just pleasure for some it is a way of building this Bond and companionship otherwise people feel they're going away from each other they may be just fine but a lot of people it is psyched in their mind that if they're not sexually involved they're actually moving away not true you can be very close to somebody and need not be involved in any physical manner isn't it but societies are psyching especially in this part of the world people are hugely psyched if there's no sex uality you don't really have a relationship in fact the word relationship it's only it took me some time to understand that here if you say a relationship you supposed to understand it's sex-based relationship nothing else is a relationship if if I I can have a very strong relationship with you and not be concerned about your body isn't it I may not be drawn to your body in any way but I can have a very powerful relationship with you but all those possibilities are completely discounted a relationship means you must be in some way physically involved man woman or man man woman woman whatever you like essentially it's body based what kind of body is individual choices but essentially it is body based this is happened because somewhere our identification in the body has gone beyond normal levels of identity it is excessive identification with the body that is why body based relationships have become the Crux of the society one who is too identified with your physical body naturally sex driven because that is the highest thing that he knows there are ways we can make you find something which is far bigger than this once you taste something better I don't have to tell you give this up or give that up it'll anyway fall off isn't it there are ways to do certain sad which is more intense than sexuality which is more ecstatic than sexuality on one level if you look all dimensions of yoga one way or the other are ultimately trying to activate the pineal because once it begins its secretion everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful it creates a whole inner pleasure which makes all the outer Pleasures look like kindergarten stuff that's the reason yogis are just sitting with eyes closed not because they're against pleasure they're against small Pleasures that's all so the shamb one thing that's happening is it stimulates the pineal secretion in a big way which leaves you drenched in a certain level of sweetness throughout the day it just leaves you in a certain state of ecstasy and blissfulness because the pineal gland is active this is one aspect of your physiology which is very close to your Consciousness rest of the physiology is about survival but pional gland is one aspect of your physiology which is very very close to transcending the [Music] physical in the yogic traditions this sweetness is referred to as am or the osia or the elixir of life in one drop if it comes into the system suddenly the whole system just cools down the whole system is lubricated functions at ease the desperation in the system is gone the desperation in the mind is gone so Ambrosia means you found your own pleasure if you're extremely joyful within yourself you found the am within yourself you're extremely you're an extreme state of pleasantness now being with people not anymore about squeezing pleasure out of them being with people is just out of just being with them only now you're truly capable of Love otherwise it is just a open sesme trick I love you means whether believe you or not for that moment they make themselves believe you because they also in need of something you're also in need of something isn't it it's a it's like the you know Baba under 40 open sesme means it opens this is just like I love you means many things open up now by doing this I'm not saying it's right or wrong that's the way people conduct their life there's nothing to it but by doing this the true possibility of knowing an intense sense of Love within you is lost you are here constantly looking what can I get out of this person what can I get that person this is a con job it's called a love affair but it's a con job but if you are extremely ecstatic by yourself when you're being with people it's about stay sharing your ecstasy it is about if they are not touched by it somehow to touch them with it rather than seeing what you can squeeze out of them the whole fundamentals of your life will change yes and no in the sense it is not the sexuality which limits it but it's the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it so it is not sexuality per se which becomes the barrier but the attachment it creates to the physicality which definitely becomes the barri this question is coming from certain amount of bits and pieces the gossip that you have heard about how you could assimilate your own seen and raise it up to your higher possibility yes it is true at the same time it is not because of abstinence that one does it it is because of internalizing your energies that you do it it is not simply that somebody is abstaining from sex and suddenly his energies are all organized and it's going up it's not true if your energies get organized and begin to move up the need for sexuality May evaporate for you but it doesn't leave you incapable it doesn't leave you importent but the need is gone it is just no more a compulsive thing and it is is not just this one thing All compulsiveness Is Lost essentially most of the sexuality that's happening on the planet is happening because of a certain compulsiveness isn't it it's a compulsive drive when you become conscious when all compulsiveness disappears this also disappears it is just that because people are so body oriented they're always thinking spirituality versus sexuality they are not connected they are not connected one is of the body another is of a different dimension it is simply because people are so because religions of the world moral schools and the ethical schools have been always speaking against it it has become such a big issue in people's minds they think the only way to know something Beyond is you must be away from this because somewhere you not able to accept the simple biology of a human being which is the tragedy that you cannot accept the simple biology you either have to celebrate it or you have to push it down the drain both are not needed you can look at it for the limitation that it is and for the possibility that it is so if because of the impurity of sex your spirituality is going to get Disturbed I want you to know that your very birth is impure when you come from such an impure birth where is the possibility for you there is no possibility for you only if you fell from somewhere else if the Stoke dropped you there is some possibility of you becoming spiritual if you if your mother had a normal birth you have no possibility a 6-year-old girl came home one day from school and asked mama how was I born the mother was embarrassed she said a Stoke dropped you said okay she kned down Mama how are you born I sto drop me too Mama how is Grandmama born a Stoke dropped her too then the girl became serious and she went down and sat down and started writing something in her homework then the mother was feeling uncomfortable she finished her cooking and then the girl had finished her homework and left the book there she went and read so the essay was about the family tree so the girl had written for three generations in my family nobody had a natural birth so because of absurd ideas either we exaggerate something or we try to unnecessarily play it down it has a certain role in your life if you make it too big you will become perverted in your head if you try to obliterate it you will become even more perverted in your mind after all now I'm speaking this is a kind of energy you are looking at me this is a kind of energy you're listening to me this is a kind of energy these are different expressions of the same Life Energy isn't it now sexuality is also another expression of the same energy now one has to decide how much of his energy in which direction he wants to send it cuz after all you are a limited amount of energy it's a isn't it see it's just like you have an income let's say you have $5,000 a month how much for the house rent how much for eating how much for schooling how much just for fun how much for vacation you poran isn't it tomorrow morning you got your salary in the evening you went out and blew it up now the next month is going to be trouble isn't it of course you have a credit card but everything in your life if you're handling your life sensibly everything in your life is a portioned according to your understanding your need and your capability isn't it so yes your money time energy isn't everything allotted the way you like to arrange it this is also the same thing how much of it first of all do you need it or are you doing it because of socially your psyched if there is a need if I ask you to stop it you will become perverted because it will all happen in your head if somebody is telling you you have to do it if you don't do it you're not normal another kind of perversion will come both are not needed after all you are not going after a man or woman you are going after a certain level of pleasantness so once you experience a certain level of pleasantness won't you like to dig deeper into this because whatever pleasantness happened maybe you use the other person but the pleasantness happened within you right so suppose anywhere the pleasantness is happening within you the other person is just a key to open this wouldn't you like to have the key in your own hands yes that if you sit like this you are on full scale you don't need anybody no see any anything anything in your life either for pleasure money love this that it doesn't matter what for whatever the moment you become dependent on another person nobody on this planet is truly reliable isn't it I keep hearing these complaints all over some people generally women keep complaining their husbands are excessively physical some woman constantly complaining he doesn't lay a finger upon me whatever happens it's a problem because it'll never happen exactly the way you want it as long as another person is involved nothing will ever happen 100% the way you want it isn't it it so yes or no it never will it doesn't matter if you get married to your God it still won't happen as long as your way of being your sense of pleasure and joy is dependent on other person you will always have a complaint doesn't matter how wonderful the other person is so in this context people might have talked about celibacy because they said take some time off don't because to extract pleasure out of somebody you have to play any number of Tricks it doesn't happen simply this is called as coting once you go to the court the Judgment Day Will Come it takes enormous amount of time effort energy and all kinds of other things frustrations jealousies problems everything attached to it so somebody said take time off from those things and see if this could be internally generated and then being with people will become more out of your love than out of your need which is definitely a better way to be with people isn't it which is definitely a better way of honoring another human being isn't it so give this a little more attention paying attention to that one and that one and that one give this one a little more attention it will produce much more pleasure than any other one can produce for you [Music] oh