now in today's video I'm going to show you all of the ways that you show a woman weakness without you even realizing it and if you show a woman weakness you're going to take women who looked at you like you're going to actually find women who are choosing you women who are giving you choosing signals women who viewed you as a nine or ten this is the type of women who are heavily sexually invested in you and slowly they view you as an eight and then a seven and then a six and then all of a sudden you're wondering what happened this video is absolutely crucial to understanding female nature at the deepest level so I'm going to show you not only how you can actually be the type of guy that gets a woman obsessed with you but on top of that I'm going to show you the things that break a woman's attachment so that way you don't make majority of the mistakes at 99 of guys are making let's dive in so in today's video I'm going to show you how to get a woman crazy obsessed with you and what this stems into is understanding the basics of female nature and the basics of female nature only comes through and you truly understand this and see this in the world for what it is when you understand how a woman tries to [ __ ] you now if you don't know how a woman tries to [ __ ] you consciously or subconsciously through tests pullbacks fishing for validation and understanding where you [ __ ] stand with her you're going to be in for a rude awakening I don't care if you're 16 years old and dating for the first time and have a crush on the hot chick I don't care if you're in a fraternity and you're trying to wheel women I don't care if you're a CEO of a Fortune 500 company you gotta understand how a woman tries to [ __ ] you okay when a woman tries to [ __ ] you there's a fundamental loss of respect so we're gonna dive deep into this okay when a one tries to [ __ ] you what you're going to start to notice is this right here is when she starts to bring out or break out her List of Demands because she feels like she has leverage if a woman feels like she has leverage she knows she has your ultimate validation which is your commitment so if you notice psychological or subconscious nuances where she's got lists of Demands acting like she has tons of Leverage and say in the relationship ship not only that she seems cold distant or masculine or she stops throwing that ass back and craving to have sex with you see that's another thing you got to understand a woman when she is obsessed with you uses that sex to get time and you're gonna notice that when she's with you she's dripping wet she's on top of you okay she's wanting to even initiate things like makeouts she's wanting to please you she's doing anything to seduce you so when you guys are doing all of this stuff to try to raise a woman's buy-in temperature like you got to understand just that the lengths a woman will go sexually to please a man that she has high interest in okay a man a man who she has high interest in is going to be pre-selected by other women he's going to demonstrate that he has a social life of abundance and fundamentally doesn't need her so the whole reason why a woman loses respect and tries to [ __ ] you is because you have provided too much certainty okay certainty kills attraction and certainty kills desire because certainty reveals your smv your sexual market value okay and it decreases her chance of looking at you like a mystery so you might be sitting there going well how do I make a woman view me as a mystery okay I'm gonna tell you you have to have a 10-year play a 10-year play on info now when I talk about a 10-year play I'm not talking about okay how do I Court this woman for 10 years so I can get a wife out of the deal no no no that's not what we're talking about you gotta look at this at a deep level when I see a 10-year play of info I want you to look at this as any Hollywood love story or any long novel that a woman reads and wants to get invested into okay what I mean by that is you if you whenever you're with a woman especially an attractive woman that you genuinely would want okay we're talking an eight nine or ten and preferably the nines and tens those of you who have your [ __ ] together mean you're making seven figures a year you're able to travel oh yeah I understand you want the hot women the women on Instagram who have big asses the women on Instagram with curvy figures you want to view yourself as a 10-year novel now I'm not saying you're going to be with it like like keep in mind when I explain this concept this is crucial right here because I'm not talking about you're going to try to date this woman for 10 years you're going to try to maintain 10 years worth of Interest what I'm talking about is you want to look at yourself as it you if you if you're trying to get a super hot woman you say hey if I was a 10-year novel okay what's a 10-year play of info that I would slowly use to reveal myself okay you want to make it so that way the woman has to unfold you and uncover you Page by Page and the only way you do this because women's attraction is a slow turn dial it happens over weeks months and years of pursuing a man's validation you're saying hey if I was to only reveal myself for 10 years how slowly would I take this process this is how you do this okay the reason why certainty kills mystery Okay the reason why certainty kills mystery at the deepest level is because this now gives validation okay validation is anything that requires you to demonstrate that you're willing to give time attention validation compliments this can be things like validation check-ins okay texting time spent saying things like good morning sitting there watching movies okay if you spend two three four five six hours on a couch cuddled up with a woman she knows damn well that you like her okay no relationship is the biggest investment so when I see a 10-year play of info you want to look at yourself as if this woman had to uncover me for 10 years how slowly would I reveal myself the way you do this is you live by a motto the model that I live by is this the hotter the flame okay the shorter the burn the hotter the flame the shorter the burn the hotter the flame is in the beginning where she starts to get all of this info about you and you reveal yourself quickly it's going to be hot and heavy for a very short period of time and then it Fizzles out the slower the burn the longer the play the more mystery certainty kills mystery this lowers your sexual market value so when you start to realize this when you want to unfold and uncover yourself slowly you start to realize a key grasped concept that 99 of men fail to understand and that his men are not designed to spend long amounts of time with women everything that you see in mainstream media everything that you see day to day okay of how guys are consistently going on dates with girls consistently checking in consistently FaceTiming them before bed asking how their day is going asking how their girlfriends are doing trying to get involved with their life this is the [ __ ] that kills your mystery this would not be a 10-year play on info you want to look at yourself as something that she has to peel back layers and uncover the way you do this to get yourself out of the beta mindset of consistently trying to check in with a woman is you want to let her come to you which means if you looked at yourself as a 10-year play how slowly can you get this woman to unfold you Page by Page this is what creates narrative and mystery in a woman's head men are not designed to spend large amounts of time with women so the base principle you got to understand from the get-go is uncertainty equals hey I am higher value than you a woman needs to know that your higher value than her and the only way that you demonstrate this is by having mystery to you where you are not ready willing available and able to commit meaning that you you are making her unfold you Page by Page and you tell yourself the only way you demonstrate that skill is you even if this is a Too Short a time frame for you take it 20 years say hey how could I make this woman unfold me Page by Page where she's just obsessed and hooked so a woman tries to [ __ ] you when there's loss of respect if there's loss of respect you're never going to be able to reverse the roles which is why the middle column here we're going to talk about role reversal okay when a woman has interest in you and you have interest in a woman you have to understand how to reverse the roles of pursuit see here's what you got to understand in the beginning when you're talking to a woman in any way shape or form this could be the approach the text messages setting up those dates okay and getting her invested into you in the beginning it's all you so think about it if men do all the dates men are doing all the initiating men are doing all the pursuing you are now in the weaker position from the beginning I would say nine times out of ten majority of men unless you're Ultra famous ultra high net worth celebrity we're talking Leonardo DiCaprio Israel Denzel Washington level okay you are going to have to do all of the pursuit in the beginning that means you're in the weaker position now despite her putting you in that weaker submissive position you got to understand this her deep feminine biology she wants to submit she want and I'm gonna even come back to this 10-year plan settings I don't even know if I'm explaining this properly but at the end we're going to recap this she wants to submit she wants to follow your lead okay she wants to have psychological pull towards you where she looks at you as higher value and she wants to be uncertain where you stand because this this emotional turmoil where she doesn't know if you like her or is seemingly hot and cold this right here is the emotional impulses you need to get a woman to fall in love so here's what happens since she has a deep crave and a deep love to submit to a man you have to understand how the roles must be reversed as soon as you have built the attachment where she's consistently checking in on you or you guys have had sex meaning that you've technically fulfilled your desire of spreading your seeds spreading your biology okay reproducing potentially okay this is where she needs to start to invest and do that Pursuit with you that means you need to start to let her do the pursuing and how do you do this is you tell yourself that you're detached because you're a 10-year play you tell yourself hey if she goes up and she finds a better option good because this right here is the ultimate abundant mindset if you if you tell yourself hey women are hypergamous by default women are consistently looking for the biggest baddest strongest dick the biggest baddest bang for their Buck the only way you remove yourself and can be detached is you tell yourself hey if she goes and finds a better option than me good good like good for her because she should go with him then but see when you actually operate this way very very rarely are you going to have have a woman who doesn't have strong psychological and subconscious Nuance of attachment towards you but you have to understand how to reverse the roles once you notice this attachment has been built and you guys have had sex or intimacy this is one you need to start to flip the script and ensure that the woman pursues you so in the beginning sincere in the weaker position okay the loss of respect this is why I have this highlighted up here the loss of respect only comes when you don't know how to reverse these roles so when you understand on a base level okay that it's a woman's job to do the pursuing to keep the relationship steady okay once she thinks you are attached or you're attached more than her okay she's going to pull back 100 she's going to pull back because what you got to understand is this is feeding her hypergamous instinct to tell her that hey the man is more attached than to me than I am to him therefore he is of lower value than me this is all psychological so once she thinks you're attached she will pull back the reason being is because she's starting to regain leverage okay a woman does not want to have the leverage in the relationship whatsoever and this is the one thing that you got to get out of your head is that 50 50 relate like I invest 50 in a Hershey invest 50 into me that sounds great on paper and you're going to hear this from a lot of people okay especially older Generations who maybe don't understand the world for how it is today 50 50 doesn't exist a woman needs to consistently be looking up to a man and have Readiness and willingness to please him inside and out of the bedroom because this is her genuine role of wanting to care for men or cling on to a man of higher value or of higher status you feed her hypergamous nature and her hypergamous Instant by focusing on you on yourself 24 7. that means you do whatever the [ __ ] you want to do you live life on your own terms get you you can understand I I like I and you you're going to get sight and feedback from people of older like of older generations to this day my mom my sisters can't I'm gonna tell you like people will say hey when are you going to settle down or why do you live like a bachelor okay if you got your own house you've got your own crib you got to understand you're going to be judged for living this way because it's so [ __ ] rare but what you have to understand is majority of men's dating lives are completely [ __ ] the only way that you can actually get into this mindset this mindset of being higher value okay or of not letting a woman [ __ ] you or of not having that loss of respect is you're gonna have to have a total brain rewire what I mean by that is you need to remove okay I'm gonna say this is so important write this down on a sheet of paper if you have to you need to remove your base need for love and intimacy now I don't care if that makes you sound like a heartless prick I don't care if that makes me sound evil I don't give a rat's ass because a man cannot need desire or crave a woman's validational touch or intimacy on any level or you're going to be left with some serious repercussions for acting like a [ __ ] so how do you remove base need for love and intimacy what you're gonna have to do is you're going to have to take a step back and you're going to have to observe the world as if you're an observer and not just somebody in it so what I mean by that is you got to start to reprogram your brain of how a man acts that means your one to two steps removed and instead of being involved in it you detach yourself and you start to observe the world so give you an example anytime you go on Instagram you go on Facebook you see family photos anytime you see a picture of a guy with his arm around a girl acting all lovey-dovey okay you need to know deep down that he's instantly [ __ ] up and even if she appears happy in that moment she's going to lower respect and it's going to lower desire just a little bit and every time day by day that that man keeps acting that way she's going to consistently lose respect and lose desire for him any public displays of affection that you see you see a girl and a guy at a bar they're sitting down eating together he's got his arm around her all hugged up trying to make her close Okay that level of attachment or that level of urgency that level of commitment of needing to prove in public and show hey she's with me these are the things that kills desire the reason being is because if a man acts lovey W to a woman she gets a sense hey this guy has not been here before this guy's not used to pulling women of my caliper this guy is really needing to show and to have check-ins to make sure I still like him and I'll touch him back or I'll give that intimacy back okay this reveals your sexual market value and she gets a sense that this is not an everyday common occurrence for you you need to be chill and laid back as if no I don't care if you're with a total dime Victoria's Secret model if you can sit back and chill and act as if this isn't your first rodeo this is the type of man that a woman actually genuinely craves and wants so anytime you see okay Easter pictures together Christmas pictures together God holding the girl's hand first guy walking down and trying to give her a kiss on the cheek in front of everybody to prove what a loyal diligent guy he is this is the [ __ ] that will start to destroy your attraction okay holiday pictures she's got you acting like a goofball you just got you wearing matching pajamas anytime you see the stuff Christmas cards in pictures videos you need to be one to two steps removed not only that look at how your friends are acting if your friends are sending check-in texts lovey-dovey emojis kiss emojis consistently telling a woman how much they love her and they crave her and they want her to affection and saying love you baby love you too this is the [ __ ] that drops desire this is when a man fundamentally isn't acting like a man not only that pay attention to every single movie that you watch when you see the guy giving a dozen roses and it's Valentine's Day and him trying to set up dates and pursue and pursue and pursue and get a woman and get a woman and get a woman this is exactly where they were like this is exactly where most men are and this truthfully you gotta understand is being done to emasculate you when you do these things you're going to become emasculated this is one of the [ __ ] behavior happens this is when the pullbacks happen this is when loss of respect happens so how do you do this once again you make yourself a 10-year play I'm not talking about a 10-year play okay where you're gonna have 100 be with this girl for 10 years I'm talking I'm talking to yourself hey like if I'm if I'm on like how how do I make myself so engaging so intriguing that if if I had to hold this person's attention and get this person thinking about me for 10 years how slow would I reveal and how slow would I uncover myself because this is the key any validation the more time you spend the more good morning text the more any of this destroys attraction a high value man can spend one hour two hours with a woman once a week or once a month and if she Pags him as a true Alpha who has options that she respects at the highest level meaning loss of respect is not there this is a woman who's going to consistently keep seeing a man so the reason why you got to understand this is because those of you chasing women out at bars and clubs those of you doing pickup artist type tactics those of you who are out trying to game on social media and on these dating apps and stuff like that this is the exact thing that puts you in the frame of being at lower value where in the beginning you're doing so much chasing and so much pursuing that what happens you're in the weaker position and if guys don't know how to reverse the rules to get her to pursue you back this is where not only the attachment is never built on her end but this is where you're consistently at the lower value so anytime you see this okay in the world you need to understand that it's your job and your duty to remove the base need for love and intimacy as a man the way that you've been programmed based off of how the world has been displayed in front of you you can't help what your eyes and what your ears have seen so this is where you have guys who are six foot four solid alpha males but because of the because of the way the world is set up and because what their eyes have seen perception becomes reality and if your perception is that a man who's with a woman acts like a goofball a man who's with a woman okay sends all these kissy faces and acts weak and has to send good morning texts and checking texts if you are constantly your eyes see that realities where in the movies the guy gives us a dozen roses and all this stuff you you have to understand this is the stuff that's destroying your attraction so key Concepts okay here's how a woman is going to start to lose respect okay the more validation you give the more attention and time kills the mystery the less mystery you have the less she desires you and the less mystery that you have makes it where it is impossible for you to reverse the roles of pursuit if you can't reverse the rules of pursuit where you are able to flip the script where in the beginning it's you doing the pursuing later on once the attachment have been built it's able to get hurt in the in the role where she's chasing your validation and your approval this is where you're not going to be able to maintain a relationship a woman has to be able to look up to a man 24 7. okay only then when you understand these two concepts can you understand the third concept where once she thinks you are attached here's what's going to destroy a lot of you guys on a deep down level is a lot of you guys a lot of you guys are going to be in two to three year relationships and you're gonna say well what the hell happened in the beginning okay maybe I didn't even want her in the beginning maybe I didn't even necess necessarily want to commit but as you've grown that attachment okay she started to look at you as a 9 or 10 in the beginning when you're something to Chase and something to pursue your true mystery as soon as you started giving okay back into the commitment the way that she was as soon as you start giving the kiss face emojis as soon as you start giving the FaceTime calls before bed as soon as you start doing that you reveal your sexual market value you start to show her that is going to be very hard for you to replace her when you were a nine out of 10 in her eyes an album sudden slowly month over month now you're an eight now you're seven now you're six now the attachment's been broken Meanwhile your attachment to her is going up and up and up and you're sitting there with your dick in your hand wondering what the hell just happened these are the ways that you got to unfold yourself and I don't care if you're in a one month relationship a two-year relationship or you've been married for 20 years once a woman knows that you are attached to the point where you do not want to walk away under any circumstances this is when her hypergamous nature of typically being fed in a way where she wants to look up to a man has been reversed this is when she starts to look down on you this is when loss of respect happens and this is when a woman [ __ ] you okay these things anytime you engage in them you engage in doing the girly [ __ ] whether that's going to uh amusement parks okay needing to a Saturday and you want to go hang out with the boys you want to go work in your business you want to go do something like that's constructive for you and masculine anytime you take that time to go do those holiday pictures hang out with her nieces and nephews spend six hours on the couch during Pillow Talk these are the exact things that crushes your relationships and your dating interactions with women Leverage is what a woman starts to obtain because the tests never stop so when a woman is fighting for this leverage to see if you can pass her test or not as soon as you start failing them and you allow her to gain that leverage you start to see 50 50 doesn't exist and the second that you are putting into it 50 and 50 the second is she's going to actually pull that back so now these roles will reverse and all of a sudden you're actually putting more into it than she was okay this is when you either get dumped heartbroken or cheated on so these are the ways like you got to understand this at a deep level these are the basics of female nature and the basics of female nature come when there's respect because a woman can only love a man that she genuinely respects so detach your eyes and your ears from what traditional couples and majority of 99 of men doing you got to look at this you gotta know every single time you watch that guy go for that kiss on the cheek in public first slowly he's [ __ ] up you got to know every single time he's spending all of his vacation time okay going around wherever she wants to go to these these different events and all this stuff and he's consistently chasing her this is where he's [ __ ] up you got to know that every single time okay he looks like a goofball with a big smile on his face as he's hugged up in same color pajamas with his girl you got to know that he's [ __ ] up and what's funny too is you're gonna watch guys who have exterior status try to do these things and they get crushed too you will see the guy who is jacked six foot five on Instagram with a bunch of tattoos and you think that he attracts a lot of girls and he probably does but then you watch what happens when he commits to to a woman you're gonna see this where soon the pictures slow down soon they're deleted this is how it works so since you know how it works now and your eyes have been open your job is to actually stick to this and adhere to this if you like this video hit the like button comment and subscribe and we'll see you in the next one