sex you talked about sex earlier said one of the best things to go to sleep is sex right studies you hear and you study a lot of different things how many times is too little too few and I'll tell you where I'm going with this because I'm trying to see what you're going to say about this I I didn't know how many times people had sex until I started having people would come up to me my sales organization and would say hey we have sex about once a month and one of them was like we have sex about once every 3 months I'm like you guys been together 15 years what's going on here so we just don't have time we don't do this we don't do that what is too little when you're a certain age and your body's need you know needs to needs to have a certain release is there a number to it so you know the the benefits of sex believe it or not um are actually not from the Intercourse themselves they're from the rise uh the impact on a pleasure hormone called oxytocin it's it's also called The Love hormone they say that's what's in Cupid's arrow um because oxytocin is what creates the psychosomatic response it's what what allows you to create an image in your mind and have an erection or to see a man or see a woman and be aroused um which can actually cause physical changes right cause your heart rate to increase can cause your pbil to dilate and cause a man to have an erection cause a woman to have extra you know vaginal secretions your your body is actually having a psychosomatic respon psychological incident that causes a response in the body and this oxytocin which dogs have about a 100 times the oxytocin in their bloodstream that humans do which is why they're so damn loyal right I mean you can you know most people have pets know that you can leave for five minutes or five days you get the same response right you're like calm down Fey I just went to the mailbox right like um so the the the it's so true right this is why they're soy love was a huge dog fan um but um so cuddling kissing um skin to skin snuggling these have really positive physiologic consequences in the human body they actually cause the secretion of the pleasure hormone oxytocin and oxytocin has all kinds of positive effects SP is good for you dude spooning cuddling skinto skin long hugs kisses over six seconds smiling right now look at Robbie sers he's realizing he's G to go smooch his wife tonight he's like we going to spoon tonight you know this is you know part of the reason why you know we knew in the mortality space that broken heart syndrome is a very real thing um oh [ __ ] oh very real thing I mean there the mortality like how do you how do you see it on the tests you look at the duration of a marriage and the loss of a single spouse and you dramatically reduce the the life expectancy of the second spouse dramatically it's almost as accurate as as hip fractures because hip fractures were one of what we called the Triad of death because they were actually poorly understood most people think that elderly people fall and break their hip it's actually not what happens um uh their hip breaks and then they fall and so when break comes first before the fall instead of the Fall then the break the break causes the fall the fall doesn't cause the fracture that's correct wow so Grandma's standing at the you know sink washing dishes and crack the femoral head breaks off and she falls and then they say what happened I fell and broke my hip M now your hip broke and then you fell the reason why because there's nothing particular about a hip fracture that leads to early death what what in older people the reason why the hip fracture is so significant is this is an indication that the skeletal system can no longer support its own weight you're pretty far progressed in the osteoporotic osteopenic category right you're you're way down the road on a brittle bone system um and so it's it's one of the what we call the tri out of death um but we knew in the mortality space that if you wanted to cut someone's life expectancy in half at any age put them in isolation isolation is the most dangerous and and uh destructive thing that you can do to a human being and I mean socially isolated isolated from their relationship you know elderly people that have had marriages for 40 50 60 years and then lose a spouse and are suddenly alone that is a dramatic accelerant for um mortality but isolation happens at very very very young ages too we are becoming increasingly more isolated we are we are drastically out of touch with nature we are drastically out of touch with other human beings the worst thing we ever did during the pandemic I don't care what anybody says is social distancing residential quarantining masking you know this was horrible for Humanity um yet skyrocketing rates of of mortality related to loneliness if you look at the Blue Zone studies for example and you'll actually look at what why are hyper centenarians concentrated in certain areas of the world what were the things that were contiguous to all of the blue zones um because it wasn't diet right it wasn't carnivore keto paleo pescatarian vegan vegetarian was none of those things if you actually look at dieting and you went to Sardinia you'd say okay well it's the highest carbohydrate consumption in the world one of the longest life expectancies you go to Singapore one of the highest meat consumptions in the world one of the longest life expectancies you got a uh you know the Mediterranean very high fatty fish and oils very long life expectancy okay well everybody's living long and they not a continuity between diet so the only continuity with diets was that they were all whole Foods n none of those people were living that long on a processed diet the two things were that were not exchangeable that were non-negotiable were Mobility into later in life in fact in Sardinia life expectancy the hyper centenarians was directly related to the great of the slope the steeper the hill you walked up every day get out of here the longer your life expectancy wow yeah you have a 93y old man walking up a 32° slope 10 blocks to go to church and four block over to the market back home wow LIF rather the second what sense of purpose in community you can't exchange us so that is the part the isolation or the death of the loved one or heartbreak leads to this is why they say my grandfather died three months later my grandmother died that's exactly why it's called broken heart syndrome I actually just got ghost pumps when you said that goodness it's so visceral and so real you know in in those areas of the world in the blue zones for example there's no such thing as aist care living right assisted care is Mom and Dad move back in with the kids until the day that they die why because their their only purpose may be to go out to the garden and get vegetables for for dinner that night but they have a purpose they have a role they have a community around them and we are we are surrounded by communities that are hyper isolating us technology is increasing the rate of isolation the rates of depression in young children um are skyrocketing the rates of autism attention deficit disorders um what we call behavioral disorders um uh uh impulse control disorders these are all skyrocketing why because there's no communal sense of no no relationships no no sense of purpose no sense of real Community our communities are in these um you know hyper electronic environments that actually do not they're not chicken soup for our soul um and so when you look at these these areas where life expect was the longest they had strong senses of community and so that makes sense I mean my um you know my dad had 13 heart attacks and he had six 13 heart attacks he he has three stance in his heart he 50% of his heart was black and six andram six angop Plastics he's been on Bluer since God knows when and then he was he was smoking two packs of cigarettes a day he drank every single day like liquor 60 proof like this every day for as long as I know 15 20 years M and then one day he decides to stop all of that and but he has always worked I've never seen him not work every day he works he at 82 about to be 83 April 10th and the doctor said he got 10 years to live when the doctor said that he was 44 44 yeah he he's 83 he's 82 about to 83 he's still here yeah God bless us soul but he lives with us and he's got kids and grandkids it's almost as if the grandkids gave him second when Grace my niece was born there was something he looked forward to then when our nephew sea was born and then our four kids that community and the fact that he kept pushing against whatever it was when you're saying the 32 degrees of elevation and the way they're walking up at 92 years old whatever they're living longer than somebody else that that had less uh uh whatever you want to call that friction or you know challenges you got overcome it's a direct correlation nowadays more than ever the brand you wear 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