don't let your 20s slip away without learning the skills that will shape the rest of your life look if you learn anything from this video i want you to understand that it's never too late to learn a new skill or start a new hobby but today is better than tomorrow this is coming from a 36-year-old who has done every job you can imagine i worked at domino's pizza best buy i've been a landscaper an emt i've worked in real estate i worked at google and now i own a media company and a men's grooming brand and by doing that i learned that in your 20s that's just the best time to learn new skills because the sooner you learn them the more time you have to use those skills in your 20s 30s 40s and beyond so make the most of this time by learning the skills that will make you more attractive more confident a more successful man and in this video i'm going to be sharing seven hobbies that will not only transform your present but also set you up for a future with no regrets and i wanted to start with to me one of the most powerful skills that a man could ever have public speaking and communication skills the ability to communicate effectively is a superpower whether you're pitching an idea negotiating a deal or just having a conversation being able to articulate your thoughts clearly persuasively i'm not even exaggerating this is a life-changing skill especially in today's world of social media distractions terrible texting habits ai technology doing all the thinking and writing for us i mean how often do you find yourself struggling to find the right words whether it's just asking someone on a date you know and you fumble it because you don't know what to say or presenting a project at work and you're just struggling to make your point or even just expressing your thoughts to a friend you need to sharpen this incredible tool that we have as humans communication learn to tell stories to articulate your ideas with precision this is a skill that will benefit you in every area of your life from your career to your relationships to your overall sense of self-worth now i know what you might be thinking i'm not a natural public speaker i get nervous just thinking about it that's okay everyone starts somewhere and this is where i recommend you start i'm going to give you three simple steps right this is a three-step formula that will help you improve you 10x your communication skills the first thing you need to do is record a video 5 to 10 minutes of yourself talking about something that you really enjoy something you're passionate about just use your phone make sure that you frame it so that you can see your hand gestures and all kind of like this frame right here don't watch the video yet after you shoot it wait 24 hours then pull it up and watch it on mute no sound you're just going to review the visuals how is your posture do you look confident do you look sad or low energy make a bunch of notes the second time you pull up the video go ahead and play the sound but don't watch it turn your phone upside down and just listen do you sound good are you easy to understand are you excited are you do you sound frustrated and the third time you watch and listen at the same time what else can you tell from seeing and hearing at the same time record and review site sound then synced up this is the best and the easiest way to improve your communication skills the next skill has never been more valuable than right now because of the rise of social media knowing how to take a good photo is a skill that every man should have because if your girl asks you for a photo and this is what you give her she's not going to speak to you for a week right it's a fun hobby it's creative it can be challenging but my favorite part about photography is that it's easy to integrate it into your daily life photos of your trips photos of your family or your friends photos of your home and it's more than just taking pretty pictures it's about capturing moments telling stories and developing an eye for detail it teaches you to see the world in a new way to appreciate the beauty around you to document your experiences plus it's a really great conversation starter and a way to connect with other people who share that passion and since everyone has a camera in their pockets nowadays right it's something that every man should know there's no need to get all this expensive equipment for a good photo like old days in photography it can also make you more attractive in subtle ways it shows that you have an eye for detail that you're creative nowadays it's almost a necessity it's actually so funny when i'm out and a girl that i don't know asks me "hey can you please take a photo of me and my friends?" and when they see the photo they smile from ear to ear because most men don't know how to do that and since i've practiced so much on my instagram i enjoy doing it and i know how to take a good photo they really like the the outcome so it's really nice to see them happy just because of something that i did in 1 second now to start i would recommend watching some easy tutorials online practice with your phone camera you're going to get so many brownie points with women just for knowing how to take a good photo so trust me on this one look in general when you improve yourself you become more attractive right it's very easy to correlate those two things and you can achieve that through skills like public speaking knowing how to play an instrument knowing how to be a good writer or just by improving your confidence investing into personal skills through mentorship is always a good use of your time think about it this way every big athlete that you know has a coach every successful actor even tech founders have coaches that help them lead their companies working one-on-one with a certified coach is something that the majority of high performers do and i'm no different i learned so much from so many mentors through books through podcasts i organize 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challenges and unlock your true full potential so visit strawberry.me/excosta today get a $50 credit towards your coaching i always say that you will never regret investing in yourself so i'm going to leave the link in the description below this next skill is nowadays one of the most if not the most important skill that you need to have for a great life understanding how to manage your finances your investments how to build wealth right this is a must when it comes to long-term success long-term security but alex i don't want to be rich this isn't about being rich man this is about taking control of your future creating a life of freedom and opportunity just think about the stress and the anxiety that comes from financial instability not knowing how to manage your money means that you're probably going to go into debt you're going to miss opportunities because you can't afford to go on that trip with your family you can't afford to go out to that nice restaurant so no it's not about getting rich it's about being able to afford freedom freedom to live an amazing life and getting started with financial literacy definitely seems intimidating at first but there's so many resources available to help start by reading books or articles on personal finance listening to podcasts taking online courses i mean there's also financial advisors who can provide personalized guidance for you the key here is to start learning the basics so it's not too intimidating just the basics and then gradually you're going to build your knowledge over time it's an investment in yourself that will be a,000% worth it in the long run and let's be honest if there's one thing we know is that financial stability is very attractive women want a man who can feel secure who isn't on the brink of bankruptcy right so start learning about finances as soon as possible let's get into the next attractive skill which is knowing how to cook that's a life skill that every man should have it's not just about impressing dates even though you know that's a pretty good bonus it's about taking care of yourself being self-sufficient and even saving some money in the process so getting started with cooking doesn't have to be complicated by the way you know start with simple recipes and then gradually build your skills there are thousands of online resources cookbooks cooking classes available to help you learn i actually just took a cooking class with my girlfriend last month and i learned new cooking techniques and we got to spend some time together we got to eat the meal after it was actually pretty good and it was a great fun date there were a lot of couples doing it as a date so i highly highly recommend it now something that i'm always really thankful for is the fact that i speak two languages fluently i was born in brazil so i speak portuguese and then i moved to the us so i speak english and portuguese fluently and my spanish is pretty good too but i wouldn't say i'm fluent like the other two learning a new language isn't just great because you get to communicate with more people but also it broadens your perspective it makes you a more interesting more well-rounded man think about the doors that open when you can speak another language you can travel to new countries with confidence you can connect with people from different backgrounds you can experience the world in a whole new way i mean learning a new language is a mental workout that challenges your brain that keeps it sharp it also shows that you're curious that you're open-minded that you're willing to step outside of your comfort zone cuz let's be honest it's not easy it takes a long time but nowadays you have so many things that help you out like apps online courses language exchange programs all over the world you know available to help you and so that you learn at your own pace from the comfort of your own home i mean just find a language that interests you and then immerse yourself into it as much as possible and then you just watch movies in that language listen to audiobooks or read books in that language listen to music in that language fun story i learned english listening to music at the time i was listening to like red hot chili peppers and i would just just read from the pamphlet that came with the cd back in the day if you remember cds i would just read the lyrics i was playing video games the sims and i was watching movies in english so that's how i learned english through those means and nowadays you have you know dualingo and all these other things so it's very very easy to learn a new language nowadays compared to back in the day men think bilingual women are attractive women think the same thing about men it shows that you're intelligent shows that you're cultured and that you have a global perspective right you can also be valuable for your career it opens up new opportunities and it makes you a more desirable candidate when you're applying for a job another really attractive skill that every man should have is taking care of their physical health and weightlifting is one of the most effective ways to do that it's not even just about getting big muscles right it's about building strength improving your physique and then also just boosting your confidence the dedication required to achieve your fitness goals also translate to so many other areas in your life now you have to wake up early you have to be disciplined with your food disciplined with how many times you're working out a week you know just think about the accomplishment that feeling that you get that comes with pushing your physical limits seeing your body transform weightlifting is really a journey of self-improvement and it requires a lot of dedication it requires consistency and it requires this willingness to push yourself outside of your comfort zone it's a physical and mental challenge and it can build a lot of resilience a lot of discipline and of course yeah sure big muscles why not because let's be honest a strong physique is undeniably attractive right it shows that you're dedicated to your health your discipline you're capable of achieving your goals it also boosts your confidence when you're going out there and getting into dates right it makes you feel more comfortable in your own skin but something else that i've really been into lately is music right and music is a universal language that connects people all over the world learning to play an instrument is a creative outlet it's a form of self-expression and it's a great way to impress other people it takes dedication it takes practice but the rewards are great right plus it can open doors to new social circles new experiences i've been playing the guitar for a little while now and i absolutely love it i mean it's fun it's challenging it's creative my girlfriend loves it when i play at home it's just a great skill to have it's a rewarding experience that can bring you years of enjoyment i mean it challenges your brain it improves your coordination and it can even be therapeutic and it's a skill that can be enjoyed by people of all ages and backgrounds so if you think about it i mean my plan is to be playing the guitar when i'm 70 or 80 years old that sounds fun and guys getting started with music is now easier than it's ever been i mean there's so many tutorials music teachers available to help you on zoom right you can find local groups or bands to join and just have fun with your friends i mean it's all about practicing consistently maybe do 30 minutes a day or an hour every few days the key is to have fun with it to enjoy and to just explore and challenge yourself look these seven hobbies are just a starting point yeah of course you're going to be more attractive but that's not it you're also going to feel much much better about your life you're going to be a lot more fulfilled and with confidence so make sure that you start them now