Consent as simple as a cup of tea. Imagine that instead of starting sex, you make him a cup of tea. You say, "E, would you like a cup of tea?" and he replies "Oh my god!" "Yes, I would love a cup of tea. Thank you." So you know he wants a cup of tea. If you say, "Hey, would you like a cup of tea?" "No, I'm not sure." So, you can make him a cup of tea or not, but be aware that he might not drink it. And if he does n't drink it, then that's the important part. Don't make him drink. Just because you did it doesn't mean you have the right to make him drink. And if he says no thank you then do n't make him any tea at all. Don't make him drink tea. Don't make him drink tea. Don't get angry because he doesn't want tea. He just doesn't want tea. All right ? He can say, "Yes, please , that's nice of you." And when the tea comes, he actually doesn't want any tea at all. Of course, it's rather annoying because you made the effort to make tea, but he does n't have to drink tea. He wanted tea, now he doesn't want it anymore. In the time it takes to boil the kettle, brew the tea and add the milk, it's acceptable for people to change their minds and you're still not allowed to make them drink. And if he's unconscious, do n't make him tea. Unconscious people don't want tea. They ca n't answer the question, "Do you want some tea?" because they're unconscious. OK, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea and they said yes blah blah blah. But in the time it took to boil the kettle, boil the tea, and add the milk, they're now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and that's again the important part. Do n't make them drink tea. He said before, of course, but unconscious people don't want tea. If someone says yes to tea, starts drinking it, and passes out before they've finished, don't keep pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away. Make sure they 're safe because conscious people don't want tea. Trust me. If someone said yes to tea at your house last Saturday, that doesn't mean they want you make tea all the time. He doesn't want you coming over unexpectedly to make him drink tea. He would force him to drink tea by saying "Yes, but did you want it last week?" or wake up to find you pouring tea down his throat and saying "But did you want it last night?" If you can understand that it's completely ridiculous to force people to drink tea when they don't want tea, then you can understand that when people don't want tea, then it's not difficult to understand. It's the same with sex.