I just find you very attractive yeah I find you very attractive too and there was a time where I did not same it's same the same would have literally broken me 93,000 likes feel different down there after birth yeah actually stop please just just please just stop just stop having these conversations they don't help anybody they're not helping anything your wife's just given birth and you have a new song in the world and all you can think about is that your careers are on the Wayside and how angry you are about it no that's not extremely valid that's extremely up we're gathered here once again to discuss more people who piss me off on the internet and today's topic is very popular internet couple named Matt and Abby now these two I feel like I cannot Escape them their Clips pop up on my Tik Tok constantly they're all over Instagram reals they're all over YouTube they actually have 7 million subscribers here on YouTube they've got 5 million over Tik Tok and they also have a very successful podcast that they've recently started called the unplanned podcast so what's interesting is they actually used to be a very beloved couple okay this is a relatively new thing where people are like wait a minute there's something seriously wrong here okay recently they've been going viral for all the wrong reasons with very divisive polarizing Clips where they're talking to each other and people are starting to think oh this couple that I thought was like the perfect in love couple is maybe not what I thought it was they used to be a very successful family vlogging Channel back at when that was like really popular it's obviously people are moving away from that which they have as well luckily so I do commend them for that they have started to take their children off the internet which is the right call in my opinion and they've stopped exploiting them in the way that they used to so they used to be really popular for like telling my friends I'm pregnant you know pregnancy videos gender reveal family content the reason why people were so interested is because they were married young so they met when they were like 13 and 14 and then they got engaged by 19 married by 20 and then they already have two kids so they're like 24 and 25 or something like that but super young and people liked that at one point they were like the North Star for young love which is crazy once you see what the clips I'm about to show you it's crazy that that was even a thing because it's like there's just so many there's so many problems but they've stopped showing their kids so then when they did that they sort of transitioned over to okay well we're going to stop doing this so much and we're going to start doing our podcast which of of course you know everybody's got to have a podcast so they do weekly videos they almost have 700,000 subscribers which is obviously a lot they get a lot of video views and they get a lot of Impressions off their Tik toks and stuff like that Matt has also started his own music career okay um he's trying he's trying things he's trying new things um maybe not for everybody but okay so let me show you what they kind of got popular for man holy crap it's going to be all right honey it's just getting darker it's going to be okay I'm pregnant it that's a good thing it's okay are you happy yes of course okay but 5 month old I know I know that's definitely not that wasn't the plan I thought for sure that was not going to be positive yeah I had a beer it's going to be all right and I went on all those rides you know I don't even believe that like I feel like that's wrong I wasn't ready I feel like I'm I know it's going to be okay but I just think that this was not my plan at all oh my God this was a viral clip because they had a baby and then 5 months later she was already pregnant which typically you know doctors say not I do maybe not a great step forward for Women's Health the response to this video was actually very positive because they're like wow who wouldn't want a husband that is so sweet I mean he is so attentive to her he is just so supportive I mean they got hate for it cuz it's like you're really not supposed to get pregnant that soon but he came off kind of smelling like roses right I think I'm being mean you're not being mean it's okay you're just on some medicine right now M the white pillow please right here you're mad at me I'm not mad at you okay what are you doing right there you need to I'm trying to hold the white pillow but I'll just it's not going to go anywhere mat going to pull this down for you or not don't touch anything without talking to me first okay what else can I yeah do that anything else I can please don't be upset with me I'm not being so nice huh I don't want to be this way I want to be nice I know here's your diet coke I didn't want that what do you want the junior Bing show me to play it for you yes please out move this closer to you please more so this is another example of a video that went really super viral and people are like oh my God Matt is just the best guy he is so attentive and he is just he is such a sweetheart whoever raised him raised him right well people this is a very Stark reminder that the things you see on the internet may not always be what they seem and it also you have to think about like okay well who sets up a video like this like while their wife is coming off Anastasia he knows he's being recorded so obviously he's going to act sweet in the video when he knows that he's being recorded cuz he's the one that set up the camera so a lot of it is like this very contrived exterior but you have to understand like people used to eat that up and people still to an extent they do eat that up they're like oh my God like I love this but the truth is and this is going to be kind of a reoccurring them the bar is truly on the floor for men if this is the kind of content that women are like oh my God's like oh my it's like he should be doing this like you're you're kidding me right these were so popular and they were like this is why this is the best couple ever I love these two they're so real they're raw sweet they're in love they're young they're doing it right but they found them themselves in controversy soon after Tik tokers Matt and Abby are getting some backlash for a recent video Matt posted where he said they have a traditional household where she cleans and takes care of the baby most of the time and he wanted to surprise her by cleaning for once and everyone is roasting him in the comments don't be fooled by me picking up my house because I'm not typically the one that does and don't be fooled by me taking care of my son because most of the time my wife does that too Abby really wanted to go to the gym tonight so I'm on Griffin Duty and I wanted to surprise her with a clean house when she got home in our relationship we naturally take on more traditional marital roles and I don't think there's anything wrong with that so this video has been deleted it got a lot of backlash and here's some of the comments taking care of my son n my wife does that hello 23,000 likes he wanted a gold sticker and pra is so bad for this 12,000 likes even if he had a full-time job and 3 hours of free time he chose to be a father and he needs to help regardless L but don't they have the exact same job influencers yeah this is where people started to think okay what's going on and I truly believe this you are free to have whatever kind of roles you want to have if you want to do traditional roles that is all true go for it if that's what you love and that's what works for you go for it but it was him acting like he did her a favor by taking care of their son that they both had a hand in creating and taking care of their house saying oh my wife's usually the one that does that and my wife's usually the one that cleans the house um you guys have the same exact job you're home all day every day if you're doing traditional roles then your wife doesn't work at all but your wife works fulltime on social media as do you so that's not traditional family roles it's just not when people say that they're in these like traditional relationships but it's like benefiting the guy only I don't know it comes across as sort of manipulative in my opinion like a traditional family role she doesn't work at all okay but she does so you're already not in traditional family roles and you're YouTubers so nothing about that is traditional sorry your life's just not traditional it's just not and then to say like these are traditional family roles and my wife takes care of my son since when do fathers not take care of their sons you can have a fully traditional family Dynamic and still come home and take care of your son which you should want to do don't be fooled by me taking care of my son literally means I do not take care of my son does he not realize this or care question mark I don't like his energy whatsoever he seems narcissistic uh-oh there's the word that totally fits I pay to keep my wife home fulltime and I still do a ton of daily cleaning and daily parenting exactly okay let's see what they have to say some of you are projecting your personal frustrations and it shows now I rarely make videos about this because it's a waste of my time and I don't need people on the internet to tell me who I am who my husband is and how our relationship is this is the most defensive video and hostile and passive aggressive video I've seen ever I mean she's so pissed and I love that because you know that the truth hurts we know what kind of people we are and other people are allowed to be wrong about us plus the positive voices far outweigh the negative voices yeah this video was actually made in 2022 and I'm sure at the time they did have a lot of positive voices but the tide has certainly shifted as you will see they do not get anywhere near the positive amount of comments that they used to sometimes it's nice to remember that I don't always have to be silent and just accept the hateful lies people say about us so here we go in our relationship we have different roles I can almost hear some people gasping right now I need to go back I'm not really sure what she's referring to here with the hateful lies I think that she's super pressed because I think a video went viral or something and I think that this like I said was since it was 2022 I think this is their first fora into like true genuine criticism and probably hate and I think that's why she's absolutely so pressed right now in this video but in my opinion that's one of the things that makes our marriage a partnership rather than two individuals cohabitating we consider one another's interest and strengths in allocate tasks accordingly we both take work tasks and we both take household tasks but I do tend to take on more of the cleaning and taking care of our baby this doesn't make any sense because taking care of your son should never be a task that only one of you does and that he's not that good at this is why people were absolutely pissed and I feel like she's failing to realize that but whatever that's what I enjoy and what I'm good at heaven forbid I'm a woman in 2022 that actually enjoys those tasks your husband didn't say oh my wife does the dishes and I do the trash and I do everything else he said my wife usually takes care of my son I don't usually do that my wife takes care of my son girl get serious with yourself my husband is pretty much responsible for the bulk of the business tasks financial responsibilities cars insurance ins and so on I hate when people say stupid like this well my husband handles the financial and the business responsibilities and he does the bills how long do bills take and how many people have it on auto how long does car insurance take to set up um you do it once you don't need to do it again how long does that stuff take right and then you put it on auto pay especially these two who have unlimited amounts of money what do he do exactly once those things are done the problem with taking care of your son and doing the dishes is that this is an everyday thing sweetheart I don't want to do those things and I'm not good at those things however that's not to say that we never cross over into one another's territories when one of us is feeling overwhelmed Matt definitely does tasks around the house okay then name one thing that he does okay I love when people say he does so much and then can't even name one single thing that he does around the house just name one thing that's it throw a couple examples out there for us very interesting and thanks to the nature of our work he is the most involved fathers he's literally such a good dad that it's ridiculous that I'm even saying that and if you're saying otherwise then you haven't spent a second with our family don't make me a victim when I certainly am not one that's insulting to me I just still can't get over how mad she is in this video and by the way I'm doing these voiceovers because they tried to copyright claim me so I'm just breaking up the clips now and overe explaining things but if you're wondering why this is happening but anyway just remember that she says that she doesn't want to be a victim for the duration of this video it becomes a very ironic statement and it does not age well well and to the people that stitched the video I doubt you're married and you certainly don't have children because if you did then you'd realize that a healthy marriage requires teamwork and on a team not everyone can play the same position and I also hope you can get viewership on your own without dragging other people's name through the mud it's just not a good way to build an online platform how many of you guys are married and have kids and thought that that video was complete hogwash okay be soing serious for a second girl he publicly said don't be fooled I don't usually take care of my kid or clean the house yikes yeah didn't he say in the video that he doesn't usually clean or take care of his child so if the house is dirty he will sit in the mess until you clean probably that's how these people work no it's the fact that he acts like he was doing you a favor it's the defensiveness LOL he obviously made that video in order to get praise because he's used to getting praise guys he's films you know himself doing things like helping her off anesthesia and helping her work through something emotionally he films himself doing these things okay so he set this camera up thinking he was going to get praised for what he was doing and then when that didn't happen then they go into everybody else's so nobody gets us obviously you're not a parent obviously you're not the you're crazy totally see you on this but on the flip side paying bills is a once a month thing car troubles consist a couple times a year household work and they're probably saying is every day that's what I was saying too no it's the fact that he acts like he was doing you a favor yep am I missing something aren't both of you content creators fulltime like in what way does that follow traditional roles if she is working too exactly 3,000 likes well obviously he's not good at his task if his water bill went unpaid for 6 months financial responsibilities didn't he forget to pay the water bill for like 6 months don't be fooled by me taking care of my son was genuinely an insane line him not paying a bill for a year says he ain't good at that either she's like sorry idiots but my husband is so good at those things and I'm not okay is he apparently our water got shut off cuz we haven't paid our bill in 7 months what are we doing dude I thought it was on auto I thought for sure you have to set up autopay for to be on autopay I was pretty sure that I set it up on autopay and it just didn't work no man you haven't made a single payment there's no way that you set up auto pay you know what I really just thought recently I was like man how nice is it that I have a husband I don't have to do anything like I don't have to worry about bills no I do I why am I sitting back relaxing we have not paid for water he doesn't even know how to pay the bills cuz he didn't pay them so a lot of people commented on as well and said what's really annoying about this is that it also cost her her Peace of Mind in this situation of well do I have to now do this myself because my husband failed to do it the hot button word is weaponized incompetence and I think this is a great example of that you know I think that this is a great example of guys who once again bar on the floor he has to do one thing that's why there's a lot of disgruntled women out there these days let's be real so now we finally arrive at the clip that uh has recently gone viral and got them in a lot of hot water so let's listen to Why they've decided why they are not celebrating Father's Day decided as a family that we are not celebrating Father's Day this year Father's Day it's always in June and it's like always year was June 18th which is Matt's birthday so he had Father's Day and his birthday on the same day and I will say oh are you kiding me damn it poor guys oh my God that is so a I did kind of combine the holidays you did combine the two of them it's okay though I mean you were pregnant you were uncomfortable you were close we just gotten back from our baby moon that day so she was pregnant by the judge of it probably you know pretty far along when this happened I got you a cake from DQ I guess we had just got our family over and grilled well I grilled but I know a lot of dads grilled on their birthday but yeah we had father's I grew your child you did grow my child all day every day but like Father's Day and my birthday were the same exact day and it kind of was a bummer I'm be honest with you I failed you I'm so sorry hey but you know what this year we're boycotting Father's Day for the month of June and celebrating it 3 months after my birthday he had to grill on his birthday and on Father's Day oh Lord yay yayay this is up no Abby you up um it's crazy here's what people commented we decided means Matt threw a fit is Matt a baby who still cares about birthdays at that age yeah why do you you care anymore you have kids and it's Father's Day like isn't that the gift is Matt 5 laughing emoji I failed you I'm so sorry and he didn't correct her she did not fail him yeah you know what I think that's one of the scariest parts of this clip is she goes I failed you I'm so sorry and he goes you know what yeah you did like are youing serious you're you're kidding you did not fail him girl literally get up off the floor please pick yourself up off of the floor now I would love to know what Matt does for on her birthday on Mother's Day yeah what bothers me about Matt and Abby is that they have a huge platform they are such a toxic couple they are not happy together I hate imagining young couples looking up to them 43,000 likes and I feel like this comment right here summarizes my thoughts exactly on this couple but don't worry we're going to get into more of it but it's like it it is this is toxic people are like they're so real I love that they talk about this stuff online like they don't try to showcase like that they're so in love and try to pretend but it's like maybe they should her saying I failed you and him agreeing is crazy he's such a baby oh my God yeah somebody posted and said I cannot believe this man is real you're 26 years old my problem with Matt and Abby's Father's Day thing is that he didn't reassure her that she tried her best my dad's birthday is on Christmas and he acknowledges my mom's effort to celebrate it there is nothing wrong with them boycotting it till later it's just weird the lack of appreciation at least according to the clip but what do you guys think I think the other thing that sort of is unsettling to me as well is that she was pregnant with his child she still managed to get you something still managed to have people over I mean do you know how exhausting it is to have people over and to host people at your house and do like grilling and have like a birthday and like run out to DQ and it takes a lot of effort especially when you're pregnant I mean hello and I haven't even been pregnant I know whole Matt and Abby thing about Father's Day has really I I've been thinking so much about it because my daughter is due on father Father's Day on June 16th this year what happens if like she gets married and her birthday lands on Father's Day and like she's a mom she just had Mother's Day the month before what kind of man do I want her to marry this by the way is a mother so this kind of takes me back to like when Abby was so defensive In that clip and saying well obviously you're not a parent and you're not married if you're saying these things and it's like this woman is married and I think she said she has like five kids or something like that and even she's questioning I don't want my daughter to marry somebody who would say these things and act like this it is concerning that there's men out there that even would think like this it's like a total red flag i' like to grill why are you complaining that you had to grill on Father's Day that one doesn't make any sense to me either I'm like grilling is just I mean I even love to grill that's like a dad thing you imagine hearing your father w w w complain about oh my birthday and Father's Day were on the same day and so they got combined it's like grow up Dad when I get annoyed with my boyfriend for something small and then remember he's not Matt from Matt and Abby like what do you mean silent treatment after giving birth to your child Matt stays embarrassing his wife every time he opens his mouth the silent treatment thing with big wideeye Emoji I need a full story on the silent treatment comments the silent treatment thing I need to see what you're talking about I can't find out what you're talking about I'll show you what the silent treatment thing is get ready for the wildest clip I can't believe this is still on the internet can I be honest with you for a second you know how I was like really quiet the first day after the birth yeah I think like look I don't get like emotional like you but I think that was like my version of Baby Blues in a way yeah which I feel like I still don't quite understand what the term baby blues means but I think I you'll never understand honey I won't and I won't understand you don't have hormones coursing through your body going through major fluctuations and changes cuz you just gave birth to even try to draw a connection between actual baby blues that women experience because of their hormone fluctuations and postpartum depression and try to draw a comparison between yourself and that and the way you're feeling is crazy I would be irate and I am actually in fact but I think I was having this like realization moment of okay like my life just changed big time and for a little bit I was like wow like all my career goals have to go to the Wayside and I just kind of felt I was kind of frustrated a little bit I could tell and I just kind of shut down and didn't say anything like I was just like quiet yeah that was hard for me because I wasn't going to like talk to you about it cuz I didn't want to like bring you down but then by me not saying anything I think that brought you down well you were bringing me down CU you weren't talking to me that's true I I kind of was being I here's the thing your experience is extremely valid you're allowed to like oh no it's actually not sorry sweetheart your wife's just given birth and you have a new song in the world and all you can think about is that your careers are on the Wayside and how angry you are about it no that's not extremely valid that's extremely up this is why I say putting like this on the internet and having these conversations out loud and saying oh that's super valid are youing out of your mind do not perpetuate this kind of stuff to your audience whatsoever your young impressional viewers who are maybe not in a relationship yet this is toxic this is narcissistic this is not okay holy sh you have to go through a transition too yeah it was just hard because I was having such high needs at that point that weren't getting met and I think it frustration between the two of us and it was hard too because like for me knowing that you can't other than obviously you need to feed Auggie and you know we can do formula but like you were you know wanting to do breastfeeding and so like it felt like I was doing like everything for Augie and so I'm like here I am like I I have all these like big goals and Big Dreams and I have to put them to the Wayside and I'm like I'm stuck here and I just I was kind of mad yeah and it just that just lasted for like a day it lasted like two days you think it lasted two days for sure did it last in the second day maybe it did last for the second day okay I'm just going to spell it out for you in case you're not understanding had C-section okay which major major surgery okay and you know traumatic I would say and also extremely lifechanging and you need your partner for that okay you have a brand new son in the world and you have a lot of like once again your hormones are going absolutely insane it's like the most heightened intense moment right even I know this and I don't even have kids and he didn't speak to her I sing her out giving her the silent treatment for at a minimum 2 days when she needed him the most you're putting this online and your son's going to see this one day I would have to go to therapy but then it went away but then it went away yeah but but I also think that like it hits it hits you in that moment because you feel like you feel like your life is over and you feel like you can't do anything else cuz in that moment that moment felt Earth shattering well because I think I think when you have a new kid coming into the world that that time right then is the most intense it will ever be it will ever be it's and reality isn't even reality at that point yes it gets easier and easier because you figure out their schedule and you figure out their needs and you figure out their like how they operate because Augie operates completely different than Griffin did and so we're figuring it out and it's just it continues to get easier and I've like I've realized ah my my life isn't over and I'm I'm already getting you know little little pockets of time to myself not a lot but like more well it's important remember this is the guy that says he doesn't even take care of his own son this is the biggest giantest most red flag that's ever been flagged and flown in the sky literally what is going on here this clip makes me so Furious and um I think that he thought his life was over when he had a kid he thought his life was over when he had a kid that's that was his first thought just keep that in mind communic ation is super super important in the first first week or two of your baby's your newborn's life communication super important they weren't communicating he refused to speak to her yeah once we got from the hospital was a whole different ball game and we actually hit I think the lowest point of our entire marriage okay are we going to talk about that on here not in detail but I feel like it's good for other people to know that like I I see all these comments where it's like oh my gosh you guys are like perfect and like things and I think that is weighty on me sometimes where I'm like y'all because your husband and you designed it that way you film videos together where they're super contrived and he's basking in this validation that people are giving him about he's the best husband in the world it's like you designed this we are messing yeah and I don't I'm crying because I'm hormonal but also because like trust me like for the sake of our marriage we're not going to like you know hash out details of like the ugly parts of it but I want you to know that like if you're looking at us and thinking like man I just wish like I could I could be just like Matt and Abby because they are a fairy tale like they have everything F it's like no you guys like it was ugly yeah why after when you have a baby like the most exciting and amazing Human Experience is it ugly and messy very concerning that this is the things that they're saying and that they're saying guys like don't worry if this is you two it's like no it shouldn't be like that I'm sorry it should not be like that it should not we still haven't talked about it together it's like it's not appropriate to talk about it on a podcast but I think that we what you mean you haven't talked about it can just like let you know that you know people why do people say newborn Bliss or newborn bubble or things like that oh because it's Blissful yeah because it's not normal what you guys are doing you're in a toxic relationship wasn't Bliss I love my son so much but hard so I'm saying all of this to the woman that feels postpartum woman that feels so alone right now because even me feel so alone your husband's right there his job is to act like the best husband in the world for social media like I I felt really alone the past few days at times yeah and I've done this before yeah uhhuh yeah uhhuh yeah and I have an amazing support system so like let me be like a virtual support system from like one mom to another that like I know you feel alone right now I know it feels hard but it gets so much better after that video people started to realize there may be trouble in Paradise all right I mean obviously there had been a couple videos at this point where people go um no so he posted this one to their Matt and Abby Tik Tok account and uh let's take a look at that this got a lot of backlash as well didn't have the best time at the hospital my wife was ready to leave the same day she gave birth but the hospital staff said that the minimum stay for a C-section was 48 Hours it put our marriage to the test it wasn't the hospital staff they were great we were just sleep deprived and my wife was dealing with the intense hormone change that happens part of but worst of all there was breastfeeding which really caused us to butt heads it was really important to my wife that she breasted our baby but it was really important to me that our baby got fed there were long stretches of time where my wife tried super hard to breastfeed but her milk hadn't come in yet and our baby refused to laugh he would scream and cry and the tension in the room got extremely elevated I offered to give our baby formula until my wife's milk came in but she saw this as a direct attack my wife was doing what she thought was best for our baby and so was I why is he hashing out in a video I mean he's exploiting their marriage woses for cash that's what's happening here because why does anyone need to know this this is just absolutely diabolical I did my best to pack up our stuff as quickly as possible I was ready to get home because I hadn't showered in 2 days and wanted to sleep in my own bed and then we made our way home where our family was waiting to surprise us I'd have a meltdown if my husband didn't understand newborns only need drops of colostrum and my family was at my house 48 Hours postpartum yeah I don't think I'd want my family freaking hanging out at my house like right when I get I'd want to go home and be like by myself that's just me though but maybe she does want them because she obviously he's not talking to her 40,000 likes by the way my family surprising me home from the hospital would be my worst nightmare almost 60,000 likes baby's tummy is the size of a cherry when they are born they don't need a lot which is why moms don't release milk right away 23,000 likes so yeah it's like obviously you have to respect what she wants she's a mom and she's got motherly instincts this she's not even the first time she's been a mom what is seriously wrong with you the problem with this video as well is like he's acting like she was trying to starve their baby when that's obviously not the case he's like trying to get people to be like see guys like I was just trying to make sure if baby was fed it's almost like he's looking to the internet to help them like hash out things as the same way like a marriage therapist or like a counselor would help you know try to get them to be like okay who's right or who's wrong it's like that's what this feels like to me and it's highly highly highly problematic we officially started marriage counseling it's happening we do a weekly session it's all virtual all online I wish we would have started it sooner I've heard people out there say like oh we never fight I think you're lying if you say that first of all but also people have different definitions of what a fight means when I say fight I mean like verbally like get heated so maybe someone yells you know that that has happened to us before but yeah I mean like the thing is or twice the way she says once or twice you guys the writing's on the wall I don't care how perfect your marriage is I think you could benefit from counseling because there's things that will get on your nerves about your partner it's just it's going to happen you don't have to be like close to divorce to start counseling no it bothers me because when they say oh we started marriage counseling and we're so open and honest and blah we talk about being in therapy and blah blah blah like people like that just like irritate me especially when they then go on to promote you know problematic online therapy sponsors such as you know the one that they promoted here I've had problems with this company sending me legal docents these companies are highly problematic for a reason and it just feels very contrived when people are talking about things that they probably shouldn't be revealing to the public that people don't really need to know about the fact that they started marriage counseling and things like that it seems very click ba and then also when you're you know in the same world where you're actively promoting online therapy advertisements I think that it's um gross personally so that's just me I don't know about you the way she looks at him like why are you saying all this in the beginning almost 20,000 likes why is this too personal every time I come across it I feel like I shouldn't be here these feel like private conversations LOL like I said exploiting marriage problems and toxic marriage traits and conversations for cash that's what it is the way she said once or twice says it all and I'd like to also say that they've went from exploiting their children and like doing family vlogging stuff and they needed something new to exploit so then they started exploiting their own marriage that's kind of what it is we get into disagreements but in 3 years of marriage we have never yelled or raised our voice to each other o somebody said someone check on Abby Abby wear purple in the next video if you need help obviously the veil has been lifted and the glass is broken and people are starting to Su this relationship for what it is and it's gotten so bad that people are like oh my God can somebody please check on her she's not innocent either obviously but people have been posting and getting a lot of likes on just commenting on the relationship so it says I can't believe you decided to celebrate Father's Day and my birthday together despite carrying my child we fight all the time and go to couples therapy but divorce is not an option I would not drop off my kids homework they can fail it's a consequence there was a point I didn't find you attractive 43,000 likes on this and it says someone please explain like people are just horrified by these the things that these two are saying to each other I feel uncomfortable like I'm sitting in the room while they passive aggressively talk to each other this marriage is doomed Abby is categorically unhappy Abby please run they talk over each other a lot when I'm sad that I'm single but then I remember I don't have to deal with a man like Matt from Matt and Abby and and the comments start coming you guys are going to get a divorce and you're already in the stressful environment like how did you handle that don't read the comments honestly yeah we don't read the comments I will say like I know that that is a common comment like just I can't wait for the divorce episode or I'm like I I know that there's divorce episode coming I'm like wow the confidence you feel love that for you I wish I could feel that confident about something I know nothing about she gets so pressed it's like kind of funny to see her like actually get so chapped about about this because people are commenting that because of what you post like you know that you control what you post right based on what you post people say what they feel and they share their opinion and you have money because of those people obviously people are starting to say things but it also has come to my attention that these two I think because they got married so young have a lot of problems which you know not every relationship where you get married young has problems but I think because they've only ever been with each other it has caused sort of almost like unhealthy obsession with what would my life be like if I didn't end up with you it manifests itself in a lot of insecurity I think on both of their ends it's a lot of weird questioning it's a lot of toxic behavior that they exhibit toward one another because they've only been with each other here's an example of that is really interested in kissing other women honestly this is something I've been thinking too I'm like the more that Matt has gotten older and only kissed me more Curious you've gotten about it I curious what that would have been like if that would have kissed somebody before you have you not thought about that like what no I I'm I'm C I guess I have the Curious thought of like back in the day what would have that been like oh well that's fine but like currently interested I'm going to say no I'm going to say no just say no he has been throwing so many red flags Abby you deserve better I'm going to say no is him literally admitting that he wants to I'm going to say no is a yes can I actually talk about this I'm not saying it's positive or negative this is just something that happens when you get married really young but I do feel like I kind of have an identity crisis sometimes me too where I'm like who in the world would I be had I not gotten married so young like what would my preferences be what would my hobbies be because you have shaped me at a time in my life where I was like changing so much we both were changing so much and we were together so we changed each other and like formed each other as adults what would I do with my adult life if it wasn't for you like you've changed my food habits you've changed my like like I said my hobbies my career has been shaped by you where I live like the state I live in I'm sorry but that's not normal even if you get married young you can find yourself like I think it's definitely a red flag if you feel like you've never been able to you're outside of oh this is what my husband likes to do so I do it too no one should ever ever shape every part of your life they should not you need Independence in your life you need to have hobbies that are outside of what your partner likes to do you need to have things that are only for you and it's a problem that you would say this and he's like yeah mhm I did sometimes I like have crazy moments where I'm like what in the world would I be like I said this kind of feeds into the obsession of like being single they do videos where it's like I became a single dad for 36 hours like what solo parenting for 36 hours another video that they did what are we talking about here I'm a mom of two under two and for the next 3 6 hours I am solo parenting Matt is gone recording music in Nashville which leaves me to take not the music in Nashville please care of our two kids by myself okay technically my parents live with us but I told them specifically for this challenge that they're not allowed to help me here are my objectives brush my teeth breastfeed make breakfast play outside clean get the boys to nap get dressed make lunch leave the house leave the houses on today's Mission what workout make dinner change diapers put kids to bed take a shower pick up mat from the airport I'd also like to point out that they got a lot of backlash for this as well because this is people's everyday life and this is people's reality and you made it into a YouTube challenge a little out of touch I think it was just stupid it also kind of feeds into this like why are you always protecting to be single I don't get that this leads me to my next question which is do these two even like each other there's so many other questionable clips that I see and this is one of them if we would have met when we did I don't think we would have gotten married and like the timing plays such a big role into of it um and the reality is you can be compatible with like with multiple people in the world like if Abby would have grown up and you mean I'm not your soulmate I just don't believe in soulmates like I I believe I believe that if you're born in a certain part of the world you're going to marry someone in that part of the world or if you're born there and then you travel to some other country then maybe you're likely to marry someone there but but I think it's more romantic that we're not soulmates and that we are both willing to still choose each other despite everything else I don't have have words for like this mentality you know even if you think these things why say them out loud like marriage takes a lot of work yeah and we go there's just no getting around that and there's no person that's choose your hard choose your hard there's no person that's like your soulmate that's just going to like everything's going to be perfect with I just find you very attractive yeah I find you very attractive too and there was a time where I did not same isn't that so funny how our brain can do that though yes same the same would have literally broken me 93,000 likes these are the thoughts we keep to oursel and not say out loud 61,000 likes I legitimately just froze what purpose does this serve to have this conversation online it's hurtful you know and a lot with a lot of these clips that you're about to see they're just hurtful and they're not conversations that a healthy relationship is having I'm not asking my husband hey did you think I was ever ugly at one point but I would feel really upset about oh you you thought was ugly at one point you thought I was unattractive even if you think that which hopefully you don't think that oh that's not 43,000 likes same is crazy 20,000 likes same would have sent me into a spiral his same was so exciting El diabolical find you very attractive yeah I find you very attractive too and there was a time where I did not same isn't that so funny how our brain can do that though it's so crazy and that's also why you shouldn't marry someone clip is is absolutely disturbing and disgusting in my opinion so POV your wife is on hard drugs after giving birth I feel amazing I feel lighter than air I also feel skinny you feel skinny I just want to thank not only God but Jesus they literally just ripped your abs open hard Dr you just lost 8 lb 14 oz in a matter of minutes do you feel like you cheated I feel like I did cheat but I don't think we should say that on the internet if I just gave birth which by the way C is birth this is why this clip really irritates me and disturbs me because there's so much judgment around people that have C-sections there's a lot of puritanical rhetoric around you need to have a natural birth or you're invalid or something or you know you didn't actually give birth and you cheated birth like this whole narrative it's just disgusting and toxic to even spread this kind of talk and stuff like that it's an extremely traumatic and intensive surgery I mean the recovery time is much longer than if you have a natural birth if my husband said to me after I had just been through that do you feel like you cheated I would cry and I wouldn't stop crying and I would have a lifelong resentment towards him that would never go away I would never forget that moment that he had said that to me ever ever that is one of the most disgusting things I've ever heard somebody say to their wife the mother of their children no less who carried them for 9 months and brought them into this world and by the way I think she had a C-section because last time she had a very traumatic birth and he says this oh and he doubles down by the way cuz cuz he says it again it felt like we cheated birth it was it was crazy so with this one it felt like we cheated cuz we just like walked into the hospital walked into this room boom you're open and here's our kid it was just like so quick I was like there's no way this is happening right now feel different down there after birth yeah actually I feel like it goes back but it doesn't go back to exactly how yeah we talked about this the other day and I was kind of surprised to hear you say that cuz you never told me until I asked you I always heard oh it goes back to normal but it doesn't go back to exactly the way it was before so um maybe I shouldn't go into too much detail we can go we can say whatever still like it after I still like it of course you like it as much I would say so stop please just please to stop to stop having these conversations they don't help anybody they're not helping anything to have these conversations please like what what benefit does this do and she's like asking him and she's like oh like that doesn't doesn't sound very I think I think I like it pretty good that's actually wild for him to say out loud 9,000 likes I would say so shocked Emoji she's so much stronger than me I would have been balling I would be sobbing I feel like I'm intruding every time I see a clip of their podcast yeah that says a lot I think you know I think all of this says a lot look at how it's making these women feel that are watching your podcast cuz obviously this is like mostly women that are consuming their content I mean I don't know if you're a guy you want to come forward if you're watching their stuff but it's making these people say I would be sobbing I mean who wants to watch someone be disrespected by their husband and like have these horrible things said to them and then I think that people internalize what he says as well and they think that about themselves and it's like just stop it's just gross they both do it they both add to this I wrote the song about feeling empty inside the cover okay this whole music career thing has been very strange and odd he's been like trying to promote and do like music and stuff like that and like when he says oh I feel like I was mad because my I have all these career goals and my career is on the way side he's not even like really talking about YouTube and in my opinion in my you know this is conjecture but I think he's really referring to oh I want to like get my career music my music career off the ground okay so he wrote this song She's by the way in this video freshly postpartum with a newborn and he comes out with this song that he wrote and I'm going to read you the lyrics because I will not give him the chance to copyright strike me I wonder if I'm depressed this can't be right it don't make sense I'm no doctor but that's not like me I put a smile on my face and play the part to hide the pain cuz there's a couple kids in the back seat she says oh that's so sad like I'd be like what the f I thought by now I'd be happier I thought by now I'd have it all figured out you'd think I'd feel little better about myself cuz I got everything I wanted but it's still not enough and I I think that this picture right here that we're looking at kind of sums it up if I had to listen to this for the camera and react to this and be like oh I just had a baby and we have two kids and we have this beautiful family and you also ice me out and refused to speak to me for 2 days after I gave birth and you also said I cheated birth and you also said that it's different down there and you also said that you fantasized maybe about kissing other women and you've shaped everything about me and I have like no independence of my own and then you say everything I've given you is still not enough and our life is not enough for you I understand that he's trying to make a commentary about depression and look I'm obviously all for especially men discussing depression and the way that that affects lives and things like that but it's like maybe not when she's freshly postpartum I mean what the are you doing obviously people were like uh no not the right time not appropriate I'm a 200 lb man you're a woman that's like what 115 120 no I'm more than that okay I'm not ashamed of my weight how much do you we I like 123 a little bit more like 123 and a half what's crazy is we almost eat the same amount of food mhm which doesn't make sense I'm almost double the size of you I'm a foot taller than you your calves I'm pretty sure are bigger than my calf muscles they are too that is something that I've been working on in the gym I'm trying to build up my big bigger Cals have you ever thought about Point dancing I have not I used to take B we did ballet together in college but I have not thought about Point here's what I play that because he also says things which I feel like that's just why are you having this conversation about oh we eat the same amount of food like what are you trying to say especially once again when she's postpartum why say that and then here's this one too getting ready with a new board looks like my sweet husband got me a set from Alo yoga as a push present even though I didn't really push more like a slice present he's so adorable he got me a size extra small this is like a master class in what not to do postpartum so just show this video to your husband if you need to if you're about to have kids for love of God oh my God he bought her a size extra small workout set as a push present like I mean I'm sorry and once again am I looking for too far into it perhaps but I feel like number one not appropriate but number two it's like is this an aspirational thing cuz you're commenting on her body and oh how much she's eating like why are you even noticing how much she's eating why are you noticing that her calf muscles are bigger than yours if my husband says anything about how much I'm meting I'm like eyes are on your own plate stop sh sh quiet that's what I say is this like an aspirational thing like you want her to be back in an extra size extra small like the pressure that it's like ew go ahead and get dressed I don't know how much longer he's going to last and I don't want to push my luck got it on I think the quality speaks for itself because these really should have ripped as I was pulling them on but there's not a r everything that is between these two that I see is just down right either disrespectful it's them imagining themselves single or like her asking insecure questions about well do you want to be with somebody else do you wish you was with somebody else or I'm having an identity crisis because I'm thinking about what my life would be like without you these horrible awful Clips like it it just compounds you guys and I that's why I show you this comprehensive stuff because it compounds for us like divorce is just not on the table it's not an option I think people go into marriage thinking divorce is an option that's why they kind of work themselves towards divorce subconsciously yeah obviously there's very valid reasons for divorce there's so many different circumstances that could like that totally validate those people's situations but for us in our relationship I think that the reason we're able to have a strong marriage that doesn't mean that we don't have conflict we don't have weak spots it's because we both believe in the commitment we made to each other here's the comments on that one so yeah this is one of those clips that may not age well no kidding uh never saying never especially with him sounds like she's telling him lol I'm not sure he agrees almost 11,000 likes I think it should be an option especially for these two I think it should definitely be an option does Matt know about this question mark these are the types of clips that resurface when things take a horrible turn I'm going to end it on this comment once again I'm going to reread this what bothers me about Matt and Abby is that they have a huge platform they are such a toxic couple they are not happy together I hate imagining young couples looking up to them and honestly that summarizes my thoughts perfectly because all I see are these toxic polarizing interactions that don't set a very good president they don't promote healthy relationships they don't promote healthy Dynamics in a family they're just downright disrespectful and hurtful the people that reinforce this by saying oh they're so real this is finally a real couple who airs it out and is this healthy and real and raw no it's not and you shouldn't be having these kind of conversations with your partner that's the truth there's things that you just don't say like that their relationship comes across to me as very very unhealthy and there are so many red flags and things where I go you know what yeah I would be very concerned about young people that watch these videos and thinking that this is normal cuz it's not normal I think it normalizes unhealthy Dynamics and unhealthy relationships and toxic conversations that's what I really believe so yeah they pissed me off and I'm not the only one so let me know what you guys think in the comments down below I hope you've enjoyed this video lots more videos like this one coming very soon so you're going to want to subscribe hope you guys have enjoyed this video and I will see you in my next one bye Matthew James what do you find other women attractive yes do you enjoy looking at other women if someone's attractive I try not to look too long how long are you allowed to look 2 seconds what the that's 2 seconds too long partner 2 seconds