Psychology of Attraction and How to Use It in Dating

Introduction

Attraction involves feelings of desire, interest, or liking.
Understanding the psychology of attraction can improve dating success.
There are multiple types of attraction: sexual, physical, emotional, romantic, and aesthetic.

Defined as forces that pull people together (liking, sexual desire, similarity, proximity).
Types of Attraction:
- Sexual Attraction: Desire for intimacy, influenced by physical cues.
- Romantic Attraction: Desire for a relationship.
- Friendship Attraction: Non-romantic interest.

Physical Attractiveness: Initially influences attraction, but can change based on similarity, personality, and reciprocal interest.
Self-Care and Appearance:
- Attractive features include good posture, grooming, positive attitude, and fitting clothing.
Wearing Red:
- Red increases attraction due to associations with health and fertility.
Body Language:
- Smaller gestures, slow talking, and leaning backward make dates comfortable.
- Open posture and eye contact boost confidence and attraction.
Scent and Sound:
- Natural odors and voice pitches influence attraction.
- Women prefer lower pitches; men prefer higher pitches in voices.
Changing Perceptions Over Time:
- Attraction can increase with familiarity and shared qualities ("slow love").
Mindfulness:
- Being actively involved in conversations is attractive, especially in men.
Love at First Sight:
- Men more likely to report immediate attraction.
- Physical attraction does not equate to love.
Genetics:
- Symmetry and immune gene compatibility influence attraction.
- Similar genetics impact friendship and mate selection.

Physical attractiveness is not the only factor in attraction.
Enhancing attraction involves a mix of self-care, body language, and genetic compatibility.
Exciting activities on dates can strengthen attraction.