Emotional Regulation and Christian Spirituality

So as you can see, the title is Basic Emotional Regulations. So there would be another one following this. So basically, this is just going to be probably one and a half to the longest would be about two hours sort of presentation. So the idea is not for you to just listen to me. The idea is actually for you to share some of your experiences and also to encourage one another. And I think the aim of the book, as I've written the book, really is to encourage people to go on to part two of the book, to use the skill either for themselves or to actually help other people. So that is the whole idea. Now, so this evening, we are just going to cover a number of things. So I've written there some of the things that I... wish to cover is really the definition of emotional regulation. Now, if you have read my book before, you would find that the word emotional regulation doesn't actually appear in the book, but there is a lot of things that are mentioned there in the book which got to do with emotion regulation. So emotional regulation is basically more like, I suppose, words that psychologists and psychiatrists would use. in terms of referring to our ability to manage our emotion. So what I intend to do then is to start off with that and then go on to talk about how we can actually use Christian spirituality to help us with our emotion regulation and also to talk about the different key aspects of Christian spirituality which are basically helpful and then we go on to a conclusion and practical application. And obviously the most important bit is the Q&A for you to ask questions and for you also to encourage one another to see where you're at in terms of using part two of the book. So as always, it's always good to start off with a definition. So emotion regulation is a very important bit of us developing as a human being. So emotion regulation is actually the ability to influence. which emotions we experience, when we experience them, and how we express them. So those three elements are very, very important because it is not like just because we feel something that we don't have an influence. So if you read the definition correctly, it actually says that we can actually influence which emotions we experience. So in other words, we actually have a choice of saying this is the way that I'm going to experience it. But not only that, we can also have a choice of when we experience and the most important thing is how we express them. And that is very important. So that's why in the book and in chapter nine, I talk about the fact that when we experience our emotions, right, we don't actually have to grapple with it because emotion is only a signal of something that is happening to us. So the components of skills that we need in terms of emotion regulations is actually awareness of our emotions, acceptance, and also using what we call adaptive strategies to deal with those emotions. So what I've given you is the psychological concept, but straight away when you look at the components, you probably recognize that when it comes to awareness and acceptance, this is actually chapter 9 and chapter 10 of the book which talks about which talks about being aware and also anchoring. So from that alone, then you can see that this is how I'm just trying to bridge the gap between using emotion regulations and then also the application of Christian spirituality. So having defined then what emotion regulation is, let's now define what Christian spirituality is. So for some of you who have been following me in terms of the teaching as well as the webinar, you probably can rattle it off that I define Christian spirituality as an intimate relationship with Father God through our identification with Jesus Christ and transformation as well as empowerment by the Holy Spirit. So it's a triune definition involving basically our relationship with God the Father and also the outworking of that relationship. So straight away you notice that the way I define Christian spirituality is very relational based. It's nothing to do with the practices as such like the prayer and the meditation, which non-Christians would do as well. It has nothing to do with a set of principles like be not conformed to the world and be transformed, although they are very important. So I actually go down to the very basic of the foundation of Christian spirituality upon which we actually build our Christian life. So without a relationship with Father God and not knowing our identity, then we're not going to live up our destiny. So that is my definition. Again, that definition is not actually contained in the book. But then if you read chapter 5 of the book on the special unique features of Christian spirituality, you would grasp that the entire chapter actually can be condensed into that statement. So now that we actually have define emotional regulations and Christian spirituality, then you may ask the questions and say, why is it, why do you want to talk about emotional regulations? Why is it so important? Well, it is very important because if we want to have good mental health, then the first thing that we need to do is emotional regulation. So it reduces stress, enhances mental health and well-being, and emotional regulation is very important because it actually helps to improve our relationships with our fellow people and also those people that we come across. So I'm sure you know as you reflect back, right, and then you try to think about cases that you have or even your own personal life, then a lot of times relationship breaks down because of the failure to have emotion regulations resulting in a failure of the relationship. And obviously, Emotions that is not properly regulated, a lot of times then it expresses itself in impulsive behavior such as addictions or such as compulsion. Can you just mute yourself please because your voice is coming through. Your voice is coming through. Please mute yourself. So it reduces impulsive behavior and such impulsive behavior may come across in different form of way like sexual addictions or substance abuse. So that is the underlying that is actually the lack of emotion representations. Specifically, when you look at the problems with anxiety, fear and depression, which is actually a large group of people with mental health problems, considering that 20% of 1 in 5 people suffer from anxiety and depression is about 15% plus fear, you can see that I'm talking about 50 to 60% of the mental health problems. And then it also helps in fulfilling our dreams. So all of us have a sense of destiny. And you try to think about how many of us Christians, and even with Christian leaders who meet with a shipwreck of their faith, and it's expressed in different forms, whether it's some sexual scandal or some scandal in other ways. And when you drill down to it, it's actually a lack of emotion regulation. So what I'm saying is that what I have to share with you is the very, very basic of us. If we struggle with fear, if we struggle with anxiety, if we struggle with depression, the first thing that we have to deal with is how am I going to regulate my emotion? And if we are involved in pastoral care, involved in counseling, then really the very first step is get your patients or your clients stable and help the person with emotional regulation before you go on to other things. So now, then you ask the question, why spirituality generally? And I've said this many, many times, right? That when you look at people who have a sense of spirituality, it doesn't matter whether it's Christian spirituality, Buddhist, or other form of spirituality or non-religious sort of spirituality. Having spirituality itself actually helps our mental health. So when you look at people who have spirituality, you have 30% lower chance of depression. and also with substance abuse, okay, and suicidality. People who have spirituality, it reduces the chance of them involving a suicide. Like just today, I actually talked to a person, he came to see me, and he's a Christian, and he suffers from a pretty profound depression, and he says that, look, his Christian spirituality or his Christian faith actually helps him, that he would not actually go down that dark alley. So spirituality also helps us to reduce emotional reactivity, promote self-control and resilience. And of course, we know that forgiveness, forgiveness actually helps us to improve our mental health, even though psychiatrists and psychologists, we don't talk much about that. So having established that spirituality is very important, let's now look at why Christian spirituality. Why Christian spirituality that is so unique? Because Christian spirituality is relational, is developmental, and is aspirational. Just to remind us again, that is chapter 5, right? So because of the relational aspect, it promotes our sense of spiritual identity, and is developmental. It actually helps us to have a secure and firm and loving attachment to Father God. It's aspirational. So in other words, God has a plan for us. So in other words, then Christian spirituality helps us to express our destiny as God has intended for us. So that is the unique thing about Christian spirituality, because it involves us having a spiritual identity and having a sense of spiritual identity. Then it helps us to live out our destiny. So if we don't understand our identity, then we would have great difficulty in living out our Christian destiny. So I just want to throw in there, okay, and give me some scientific basis of what I talk about, that God has created us in such a way that there's a connection in our emotion, in our thought, and in our behavior. So for those of you who wants a bit of science, right, so our emotions is actually in this part of our brain called the limbic system. Our memory is in this part of the brain called the hippocampus. And then the way that we make decisions, what we call our cognitive brain, is actually in the front or the prefrontal cortex. So the way that we are made as human beings is that our first interface with the world is usually not our thought, it's actually our emotion. Most of us react or respond out of emotion first. There are very, very few people who kind of like interface with the world, right? And let's take for example, you know, you go back to home tonight and then, you know, your loved one cooks you a very nice kind of dinner, right? And then you step into the room and it's a surprise. You react with your emotion of surprise rather than you stand there and kind of like evaluate and say, oh, is this a surprise or not? Is this a normal thing or not? So your emotions actually kicks in much faster, your limbic system. And so because of that, then our emotions is a bridge between our external experience and our internal experiences. So what we experience on the outside, we feel. And then after that, then we kind of analyze it according to what happens in our hippocampus and in the memory bank. if I can just go back there, okay? So this is our first response. Then our first response is evaluated according to our memory. So our memory will tell us and say, well, whenever you feel this experience, this is how life is. And then we judge whether that is right or wrong. So God has made us in such a way that there is a connection between the emotion and the mind or what we call the mind. emotion, connection. So this is where psychology and psychiatry stop. But then we go on and say as Christians, right, we believe that when God created us, he actually breathed in us his spirit. And as a result of that, we become a living creature or a living being in Genesis 1.26, a very important verse, which helps us to really understand ourselves and our destiny. And there's one place in the Bible that is so beautiful when it actually connects up the spirit and the mind, and that is in 1 Corinthians 2. 10 to 11, he says, these are the things God has revealed to us by his spirit. The next verse says, the spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. So the spirit is the one that goes really, really deep. For who knows the thoughts of a person except their own spirit within them? My thoughts know, my spirit knows my thoughts. In the same way, no one knows the thoughts of God except the spirit of God. So that is the reason why we say that the spirit gives us the wisdom. We ask, you know, the spirit for revelation, for wisdom, because the spirit of God actually knows the thoughts of God. So that is the spirit-mind connection. So if we marry the previous slides, okay, of the mind and emotion connection with the spirit-mind emotion, this is where I talk about the spiritual and the psychological together or the spirit and the biopsychosocial. So what I'm talking about tonight, that was just the introduction and it's actually spirit-mind-emotion connection, all right? So if you think about that and you think about emotional regulation, what I'm saying is that rather than starting from the emotion itself, which I run call. horses on okay like at the moment i'm running an online course for adolescents on on emotions as well we start from the mind and emotion because i'm talking just purely psychological terms but tonight i'm talking about spirit mind emotion connection so i'm talking about how emotion regulation can be done and in a way that through Christian spirituality. So once you understand that, then you can understand how in your own journey, let's say you are working through your anxiety, you are working through your fear, you are working through your depression, or if you are a prayer counsellor, you're an elder of the church, you are a youth leader, and you are a lay minister, you're a pastoral carer, and you have somebody who is seeing a counsellor, for anxiety and depression, then you can also come alongside the person and using some of the things that you are going to come across this evening to help the person. So when it comes to emotion regulation through Christian spirituality, this is how we're going to do it. Number one is to be aware of your emotions, which a lot of you would know that is in chapter nine, right? you name the emotions. The real issue is not the emotion. The real issue is what the emotions is pointing the finger to. So our emotion is an indication of something that is happening. So we are not so much interested in the road sign. We are more interested in something that is happening. So what is happening rather than grappling with the road sign itself, which is the emotion. That's why We talk about recognizing the emotions, standing back, articulating that, telling yourself that this is what you're feeling, right? That is step one in the emotion regulation. Step two is then you accept your emotions through anchoring. That is chapter 10, right? So from the being aware, you go into anchoring. And then the third step is processing your emotions. Very, very important. And then we go on to transformation of the mind and attachment to Abba Father. But for this evening, we only have time to deal with the first three because those are the very basic step. But we want, when it comes to emotion regulation, we want to grow, okay? But if you're going to see from a psychologist or psychiatrist, we usually stop at point three, which is like how you process your emotions. So this evening we're going to talk about one, two, three, and then we talk about the growth aspect. in the subsequent webinar. So let's go through the step, okay? So being aware of your emotions, being aware and anchoring are the two steps to respond to the negative emotions, right? Remember the definition of emotion regulations that I gave you before, right? Emotion regulations is the ability E. right to decide to influence which emotions we experience when we experience them and how we express them so being aware and anchoring then deal with the first two step and of influencing which emotions we experience and when we experience them so we learn to respond rather than to react So then... To be aware and anchoring plus processing of emotions and the transformation of the mind and attachment to the Father are the step to grow and the step to develop. Somebody, could you please turn off, please? I would answer some of the questions in the chat. Yes, I would. Might be a bit late now to have the co-host. Yes, please, Carol, you can do that. Let me see if I can help you to be the... Sorry, I won't be a moment. Somebody is talking and I just have to pause for a while. Thank you. Look, I have muted all of you. And I'm sorry about that for those of you because somebody is speaking and continue to speak. So I would unmute you at the appropriate time. So to be aware, one of the things that I find is very important for some of us is that to help us to differentiate the emotion, we have what I call a mood meter. This is something that a lot of the psychologists and psychiatrists would use. And it actually helps us to pinpoint our emotion a bit better. And so if you divide emotions into comfortable feeling or uncomfortable on this axis, or what I call non-distressing and distressing, and then you divide it into the high energy and the low energy, then you can sort of like able to name your emotion much better. Okay, so don't assume that just because we feel something that we necessarily know how to actually name it. So what we want to do in everyday life is to be on this quadrant, okay, preferably in this one most of the time, and where we are calm and content and have a sense of shalom, right, in a Christian sense. And of course, then if it is a very positive, we want to be here, but we cannot continuously to be there because it's actually quite exhausting. but we definitely do not want to be here. So when you think about uncomfortable feeling and then that are low energy, so they are usually associated with the emotional state of disappointment, dejection, sadness, loneliness, hopelessness and profound depression and shame. And then you think about emotions that are uncomfortable but with high energy. Right, they are usually associated with... anger and profound worry, anxiety and extreme nervousness, panic attack, okay? So the next time when you look into yourself, when you wake up in the morning, try to do that which is very good for you, right? Take a bit of a time to be aware of yourself and then to categorize and to name your emotion. Am I in a low energy, comfortable state or am I in a... high energy comfortable state because I'm getting a bit excited about how the day is going to be, or am I actually in the low energy and uncomfortable state which means I'm a bit depressed, or am I in a high energy uncomfortable emotion which is an anxiety. So if you are doing pastoral care, if you are doing lay counselling, this is something that you would want to teach your patience. So you are going through with the patients in a journey to helping the person to regulate the emotions starting with step one of being aware. So what happens then when you are aware that you have a distressing and high energy emotions which is more like anxiety, nervousness, worry, anger. So what you want to do then is to help the person okay to explore the opposite emotions. So what are the opposite emotions of high energy and distressing? Love is one of them. Peace is one of them. And faith is one of them. So once you can identify the distressing and high energy emotions, then what you want to do then is to anchor into love, joy or Love, peace or faith. Now, what happens if it is a distressing low energy emotions, which means it's more like dejection, sadness, depression, loneliness, helplessness, hopelessness, right? Then you want to help the person to anchor in the opposing emotion, which is more like the love, the hope and the joy. Okay, so... So if you are doing counseling, then this is how you help the person to identify events that brings out that bit, okay? Or to anchor in biblical Bible verses that talks about love, peace, and faith for the distressing high-energy emotions, and the love, hope, and joy for the distressing low-energy emotions. So then we go on to step two. Okay, once you are aware of that, then you say, okay, this is the emotions that I have. So I give you an example of the acceptance through anchoring, right? So the key verse would be, peace I leave with you, my peace I give you, right? Or if it is the low, distressing low energy, then the joy of the Lord is your strength. So for that day, then you try to get into the joy of the Lord. Why? Because the joy of the Lord is my strength. which helps me to energize me. So you can see that by using these two Christian spiritual techniques of being aware and anchoring, right? You're already influencing which emotions you're going to experience, when you're going to experience it, and how you're going to express it. But you need the first two before the third one. If you have no control as to which emotion you experience. If you have no control over when you're going to experience that, then you have no control to how you experience it. So the beware and the anchoring then helps us with the first two. So I may wake up with a depression, right? And then when I identify that, anchor myself, right, into the joy of the Lord, which is my strength, then I'm actually influencing which emotion. I'm actually saying, look, I'm not going to fight with the emotion. I'm going to anchor myself in a verse that gives me another emotion, which is the opposite of the depression. This is how it works. I'm going to anchor myself into that emotions, right? Which is going to be the opposite of anxiety. And in so doing then, I can influence when and how. at which emotion I'm going to experience. So in other words, I'm not going to fight with my anxiety or depression. I'm just going to anchor in that verse because that verse brings the reality of the opposite. emotion which is going to counter the negative emotion and that verse also would be able to help me that i'm is not like just because i wake up with an anxiety or depression feeling that i'm going to be 20 for the next 24 hours then i'm just going to feel anxious or depressed so so so if you are counseling a patient then this is what you want to help them to do and then you have to go on to the third bit which is processing your emotions why is processing the emotions important because as i told you before right emotions is actually an indicator of something okay in our life all right so and um so so because of it's an indicator of an of an event. So you want to trace back what is happening, okay, what is giving rise to the emotion, what is the substance behind the shadow. So in order to do that, we have to process. Now, if you are doing counseling, or if you are helping the person, right, you may, this is actually a journey. And this is something that you would keep on doing before you even go on to the transformation of the mind, and also beholding the Father's face. phase. Otherwise, then the person can't get into those because the person is still struggling with the emotions. So for this healing journey, you actually need a journal, a schedule, an open heart to dialogue with God, an obedient spirit. And then, of course, then you have to learn some of the spiritual practices that I'm going to actually share with you about. A journal is very important because it records our milestones. A schedule is very important because you set aside the time which is going to be your safe place, which is going to be your spiritual space that I talk about. Open heart is very important because it helps you to dialogue with God. And I was just meditating on David. I was just wondering why did God say that, you know, David is a man after his own heart? Because David has an open hard to dialogue with God. An obedient spirit. So you have to work through that before you can actually go on to other bits. So processing your emotions, your journal, right, is a record of your healing journey and a record of your conversation with God, a record of his response to you and a record of. your session with your prayer minister if you are being counseled. So that is very very important right and you when you have time you should go and read Job okay. Apart from the first few chapters which is kind of introduction you can look at Job as a journal. He was a journal about his struggle about him processing his depressed emotion. And journaling is very important because it's also a sign that you own your healing. So for those of you who are involved in ministry, I would advise you that, you know, with every person that you help, you begin with the necessity of a person journaling. So your schedule is very important because your time, the schedule then has to do with the time, the place, and the frequency. If you are doing it yourself, okay, with a journal, not less than weekly, because that is very important, because you need to have a schedule and a journal and an experience of processing at least once a week, right? And if you are doing, working with a minister, or if you are doing somebody, you know, with the counselling, it depends on how severe the problems that you are actually dealing with so Schedule builds good expectation and commitment. Schedule also fosters the sense of safe place, which is in chapter 12 and the spiritual space. Because when you have a schedule, right, then after a while, your spirit will start to recognize that that is the time and that is the place where I'm going to meet with Abba Father. That is my safe place. I can do business. And then... You also need to remember to journal your schedule so the happening of your schedule may become your personal memorial. Personal memorial is those significant events that you meet with God and then you profoundly experience his presence. Now that is very important because that would help you in the anchoring process one day. Because when you get back into that distressing high or low energy emotion, right, and you have a good time with the Lord, then that will become your anchoring in order to reverse in order to combat that distressing emotions that you have. So the happening of your schedule would become your personal memorial, okay? So the next thing is an open heart to dialogue with God. So if you are doing, if you are processing your emotions, when you get into that plays. When you get into that schedule, when you have your journal out, right? So you normally begin with quieting your heart and then being aware and say, look, where is my emotion at the moment? So you begin with that. Is it in that kind of comfortable axis and in that low energy, which means I'm content, I'm restful, I'm resting in the presence of Abba Father? Or is it a bit up that... It is still comfortable but I have a sense of excitement because God has given me a very nice day. Then you may end up then sort of giving thanks and then begin the day. Or is it a negative emotion, an uncomfortable emotion? Is it high energy or low energy? So either it's high energy or low energy, then you go back to the anchoring with a Bible verse which gives you a positive emotions It could be the love and the peace and the faith for that high energy of anxiety, worries and anger. Or it could be the love and the joy and the hope for the low energy and uncomfortable emotion, which makes me depressed, which makes me have a sense of hopelessness, which makes me have a sense of dejection, which makes me have a sense of shame. So this is the first two steps of your journal. Now, if you are doing prayer counseling, then you would go through the journal with the person or during the session itself, you would get the person through, okay, to being aware of the negative emotions, initially helping the person to anchor, then eventually the person then have to have the anchor. Then you can go on, right? to say a prayer of confession as you are led. So then you go into some inner healing. Okay, what is it that you want to confess to God about that emotions, about things that are associated with that negative emotions? Invite the spirit to be present. And then you invite the spirit to link up the negative emotions to any historical event, people, situations, or experience in your life. So if I can go back to the very, very first few slides that I've shown you, right? So by doing that, you are actually there, okay? So you have this emotion in your limbic system. You're asking the Holy Spirit for enlightenment and say, is there something that is related in my experience that I store in my memory? Is there any significant events? Is that got to do with some experience that I have, some situation, some people? And then you ask the Holy Spirit to give you some understanding, which is here. So what you are trying to do then is actually you are getting into that spirit, mind, emotion connection. If you are only doing emotional regulation through the normal way, you are only dealing with a mind-emotion connection. But in this case, you are doing a spirit-mind-emotion connection. So you can see how powerful it is because you are actually submitting yourself, right, to the guidance of the Holy Spirit, which knows all things, who searches all heart, right, who doesn't miss a thing, because who knows the thought of God except His Spirit. So So this is where you are at. So you link up the negative emotions to any historical event. Now, if you are doing a counselling or you're doing prayer ministry or you're doing the counselling, this is where you as a prayer counsellor, as a lay leader, as a pastoral care person, right, then can help the person through the prayer. And some of us, we need that. So having recognised and hopefully linked up the negative emotions, then do you need to lament about that? Do you need to vent your frustration? Do you need to express any feeling of injustice? You've got to be authentic. Never be afraid to be authentic. Just the other day when I was preparing this, right, God has actually brought into my mind, okay, Jesus at Gethsemane. So Jesus, one would say that Jesus the man, right, he was In a process of regulating his emotion, he was going through that emotional regulation. In him was that struggle about going to the cross. And he vented his fear. He struggled through his desire for obedience, but also an anticipation of the difficulty. He was being authentic with God. So if we want to process our emotions, we've got to be authentic, meaning be yourself, an open heart. And then you go on to an obedient spirit. Ask God what he wants you to do about that negative emotions. Does he want you to make some changes in your life? Does he want you to talk to the person whom you think is responsible for how you feel? Or is he saying that let him deal with injustices because a lot of times When we experience negative emotions, we also have a sense of negative, of injustice, because we can link up people who are responsible for inducing their emotions in us. Do we have to confess some sins? Do we have to give up control to him? Do we have to seek help from our prayer minister? Now, if you are doing a prayer ministry or you're doing some counselling with the person based on what I've introduced, right, then it might be a good idea for you to have some ideas of what are the normal things that you help the person to process. Notice that if you are doing it, you're not going to put words into the person's mouth, all right? You know, you just phrase it in a question and say, do you feel that God is speaking to you about making some changes? Do you feel that God is asking you, you know, to lament or to confess something? So you are the mouth. peace of the Holy Spirit. This is what I mean by the spiritual space. So again, obedient spirit means be real, be authentic with your response. And your response could be, God, I can move on now, help me. Or Lord, let me have radical acceptance and obedience. This is hard to change. Lord, I'm not ready. I'm sorry. I still want to talk about this. I still need to talk. Lord, I need more time to resolve my emotions. Doesn't matter. Your sessions will come to an end. If you are doing prayer ministry, that session will come to an end, but because of the journal, and the next time you picked up. That is processing emotions. So we conclude then, okay, that spirit-mind-emotional-journal-connection-healing-journey prayer of thanksgiving. There's always a... a thanksgiving to God, expressing our gratitude, even though we may not have fully resolved that feeling. And by using that, we can end the session to move on to be still and know with contemplative prayer. You may want to end up with that and just present to God, have a sense of silence, have a sense of really experiencing his presence, and then journal the sessions. with words or imageries, and then also consider if any positive encounter you have with God is actually your personal memorial. Now this is very important. If you read the book of Job, you realize that God didn't answer Job or his query, because basically Job has to say, look, it is not my sin. I've done nothing wrong. I need to talk to God and I need to vent my sense of injustice to God. And did God reveal to him? At the end, what happened? Did God tell Job and say, hey, by the way, you know, this is just a contest between Satan and I. You have won. Did God say that? God didn't say that. We know that because, you know, we are after the event. We look at the movie, but we look at the introduction. Job didn't know. God only declared and said that, Job, I'm the Almighty God, all right? You were not even there when I created the universe. You don't even know anything. How did Job then conclude it? How did Job got his healing? He got the healing because he moved on to step three, be still and know that I am God. Basically, this is what God wanted Job to do. And that actually brought about healing. So in our processing our emotions, sometimes we may not know, okay, but having know the knower then that helps with the resolution of our emotions. So you can move on to step three. And if you are doing it with someone, if you are the prayer counselor, you just spend a time of silence together. And after that, allow the person to reflect on what actually happens. So that is basically what I want to share with you. I just want to... It doesn't matter what sort of treatment the person is getting, okay, if you are dealing with a Christian brother or sister who is struggling, this thing about helping with basic emotion regulation is the step one, is something that every one of us who struggle with anxiety, depression or fear needs to do. But not only that, it's also something that all of us, if we want to enjoy good mental health, and mental well-being irrespective of whether we struggle with anxiety, fear or depression. This is something that we need to do regularly. Okay, so what I like to do now is actually just to stop the recording and then I will go on to some questions and answer. I just have to stop the recording.

And I think the aim of the book, as I've written the book, really is to encourage people to go on to part two of the book, to use the skill either for themselves or to actually help other people. So that is the whole idea. Now, so this evening, we are just going to cover a number of things.

So I've written there some of the things that I... wish to cover is really the definition of emotional regulation. Now, if you have read my book before, you would find that the word emotional regulation doesn't actually appear in the book, but there is a lot of things that are mentioned there in the book which got to do with emotion regulation. So emotional regulation is basically more like, I suppose, words that psychologists and psychiatrists would use. in terms of referring to our ability to manage our emotion.

So what I intend to do then is to start off with that and then go on to talk about how we can actually use Christian spirituality to help us with our emotion regulation and also to talk about the different key aspects of Christian spirituality which are basically helpful and then we go on to a conclusion and practical application. And obviously the most important bit is the Q&A for you to ask questions and for you also to encourage one another to see where you're at in terms of using part two of the book. So as always, it's always good to start off with a definition.

So emotion regulation is a very important bit of us developing as a human being. So emotion regulation is actually the ability to influence. which emotions we experience, when we experience them, and how we express them. So those three elements are very, very important because it is not like just because we feel something that we don't have an influence.

So if you read the definition correctly, it actually says that we can actually influence which emotions we experience. So in other words, we actually have a choice of saying this is the way that I'm going to experience it. But not only that, we can also have a choice of when we experience and the most important thing is how we express them. And that is very important. So that's why in the book and in chapter nine, I talk about the fact that when we experience our emotions, right, we don't actually have to grapple with it because emotion is only a signal of something that is happening to us.

So the components of skills that we need in terms of emotion regulations is actually awareness of our emotions, acceptance, and also using what we call adaptive strategies to deal with those emotions. So what I've given you is the psychological concept, but straight away when you look at the components, you probably recognize that when it comes to awareness and acceptance, this is actually chapter 9 and chapter 10 of the book which talks about which talks about being aware and also anchoring. So from that alone, then you can see that this is how I'm just trying to bridge the gap between using emotion regulations and then also the application of Christian spirituality.

So having defined then what emotion regulation is, let's now define what Christian spirituality is. So for some of you who have been following me in terms of the teaching as well as the webinar, you probably can rattle it off that I define Christian spirituality as an intimate relationship with Father God through our identification with Jesus Christ and transformation as well as empowerment by the Holy Spirit. So it's a triune definition involving basically our relationship with God the Father and also the outworking of that relationship. So straight away you notice that the way I define Christian spirituality is very relational based.

It's nothing to do with the practices as such like the prayer and the meditation, which non-Christians would do as well. It has nothing to do with a set of principles like be not conformed to the world and be transformed, although they are very important. So I actually go down to the very basic of the foundation of Christian spirituality upon which we actually build our Christian life. So without a relationship with Father God and not knowing our identity, then we're not going to live up our destiny. So that is my definition.

Again, that definition is not actually contained in the book. But then if you read chapter 5 of the book on the special unique features of Christian spirituality, you would grasp that the entire chapter actually can be condensed into that statement. So now that we actually have define emotional regulations and Christian spirituality, then you may ask the questions and say, why is it, why do you want to talk about emotional regulations?

Why is it so important? Well, it is very important because if we want to have good mental health, then the first thing that we need to do is emotional regulation. So it reduces stress, enhances mental health and well-being, and emotional regulation is very important because it actually helps to improve our relationships with our fellow people and also those people that we come across. So I'm sure you know as you reflect back, right, and then you try to think about cases that you have or even your own personal life, then a lot of times relationship breaks down because of the failure to have emotion regulations resulting in a failure of the relationship. And obviously, Emotions that is not properly regulated, a lot of times then it expresses itself in impulsive behavior such as addictions or such as compulsion.

Can you just mute yourself please because your voice is coming through. Your voice is coming through. Please mute yourself. So it reduces impulsive behavior and such impulsive behavior may come across in different form of way like sexual addictions or substance abuse.

So that is the underlying that is actually the lack of emotion representations. Specifically, when you look at the problems with anxiety, fear and depression, which is actually a large group of people with mental health problems, considering that 20% of 1 in 5 people suffer from anxiety and depression is about 15% plus fear, you can see that I'm talking about 50 to 60% of the mental health problems. And then it also helps in fulfilling our dreams. So all of us have a sense of destiny.

And you try to think about how many of us Christians, and even with Christian leaders who meet with a shipwreck of their faith, and it's expressed in different forms, whether it's some sexual scandal or some scandal in other ways. And when you drill down to it, it's actually a lack of emotion regulation. So what I'm saying is that what I have to share with you is the very, very basic of us. If we struggle with fear, if we struggle with anxiety, if we struggle with depression, the first thing that we have to deal with is how am I going to regulate my emotion? And if we are involved in pastoral care, involved in counseling, then really the very first step is get your patients or your clients stable and help the person with emotional regulation before you go on to other things.

So now, then you ask the question, why spirituality generally? And I've said this many, many times, right? That when you look at people who have a sense of spirituality, it doesn't matter whether it's Christian spirituality, Buddhist, or other form of spirituality or non-religious sort of spirituality. Having spirituality itself actually helps our mental health.

So when you look at people who have spirituality, you have 30% lower chance of depression. and also with substance abuse, okay, and suicidality. People who have spirituality, it reduces the chance of them involving a suicide.

Like just today, I actually talked to a person, he came to see me, and he's a Christian, and he suffers from a pretty profound depression, and he says that, look, his Christian spirituality or his Christian faith actually helps him, that he would not actually go down that dark alley. So spirituality also helps us to reduce emotional reactivity, promote self-control and resilience. And of course, we know that forgiveness, forgiveness actually helps us to improve our mental health, even though psychiatrists and psychologists, we don't talk much about that.

So having established that spirituality is very important, let's now look at why Christian spirituality. Why Christian spirituality that is so unique? Because Christian spirituality is relational, is developmental, and is aspirational.

Just to remind us again, that is chapter 5, right? So because of the relational aspect, it promotes our sense of spiritual identity, and is developmental. It actually helps us to have a secure and firm and loving attachment to Father God.

It's aspirational. So in other words, God has a plan for us. So in other words, then Christian spirituality helps us to express our destiny as God has intended for us. So that is the unique thing about Christian spirituality, because it involves us having a spiritual identity and having a sense of spiritual identity.

Then it helps us to live out our destiny. So if we don't understand our identity, then we would have great difficulty in living out our Christian destiny. So I just want to throw in there, okay, and give me some scientific basis of what I talk about, that God has created us in such a way that there's a connection in our emotion, in our thought, and in our behavior. So for those of you who wants a bit of science, right, so our emotions is actually in this part of our brain called the limbic system. Our memory is in this part of the brain called the hippocampus.

And then the way that we make decisions, what we call our cognitive brain, is actually in the front or the prefrontal cortex. So the way that we are made as human beings is that our first interface with the world is usually not our thought, it's actually our emotion. Most of us react or respond out of emotion first. There are very, very few people who kind of like interface with the world, right? And let's take for example, you know, you go back to home tonight and then, you know, your loved one cooks you a very nice kind of dinner, right?

And then you step into the room and it's a surprise. You react with your emotion of surprise rather than you stand there and kind of like evaluate and say, oh, is this a surprise or not? Is this a normal thing or not? So your emotions actually kicks in much faster, your limbic system.

And so because of that, then our emotions is a bridge between our external experience and our internal experiences. So what we experience on the outside, we feel. And then after that, then we kind of analyze it according to what happens in our hippocampus and in the memory bank. if I can just go back there, okay?

So this is our first response. Then our first response is evaluated according to our memory. So our memory will tell us and say, well, whenever you feel this experience, this is how life is.

And then we judge whether that is right or wrong. So God has made us in such a way that there is a connection between the emotion and the mind or what we call the mind. emotion, connection. So this is where psychology and psychiatry stop.

But then we go on and say as Christians, right, we believe that when God created us, he actually breathed in us his spirit. And as a result of that, we become a living creature or a living being in Genesis 1.26, a very important verse, which helps us to really understand ourselves and our destiny. And there's one place in the Bible that is so beautiful when it actually connects up the spirit and the mind, and that is in 1 Corinthians 2. 10 to 11, he says, these are the things God has revealed to us by his spirit.

The next verse says, the spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. So the spirit is the one that goes really, really deep. For who knows the thoughts of a person except their own spirit within them?

My thoughts know, my spirit knows my thoughts. In the same way, no one knows the thoughts of God except the spirit of God. So that is the reason why we say that the spirit gives us the wisdom.

We ask, you know, the spirit for revelation, for wisdom, because the spirit of God actually knows the thoughts of God. So that is the spirit-mind connection. So if we marry the previous slides, okay, of the mind and emotion connection with the spirit-mind emotion, this is where I talk about the spiritual and the psychological together or the spirit and the biopsychosocial.

So what I'm talking about tonight, that was just the introduction and it's actually spirit-mind-emotion connection, all right? So if you think about that and you think about emotional regulation, what I'm saying is that rather than starting from the emotion itself, which I run call. horses on okay like at the moment i'm running an online course for adolescents on on emotions as well we start from the mind and emotion because i'm talking just purely psychological terms but tonight i'm talking about spirit mind emotion connection so i'm talking about how emotion regulation can be done and in a way that through Christian spirituality.

So once you understand that, then you can understand how in your own journey, let's say you are working through your anxiety, you are working through your fear, you are working through your depression, or if you are a prayer counsellor, you're an elder of the church, you are a youth leader, and you are a lay minister, you're a pastoral carer, and you have somebody who is seeing a counsellor, for anxiety and depression, then you can also come alongside the person and using some of the things that you are going to come across this evening to help the person. So when it comes to emotion regulation through Christian spirituality, this is how we're going to do it. Number one is to be aware of your emotions, which a lot of you would know that is in chapter nine, right? you name the emotions.

The real issue is not the emotion. The real issue is what the emotions is pointing the finger to. So our emotion is an indication of something that is happening.

So we are not so much interested in the road sign. We are more interested in something that is happening. So what is happening rather than grappling with the road sign itself, which is the emotion. That's why We talk about recognizing the emotions, standing back, articulating that, telling yourself that this is what you're feeling, right?

That is step one in the emotion regulation. Step two is then you accept your emotions through anchoring. That is chapter 10, right?

So from the being aware, you go into anchoring. And then the third step is processing your emotions. Very, very important. And then we go on to transformation of the mind and attachment to Abba Father. But for this evening, we only have time to deal with the first three because those are the very basic step.

But we want, when it comes to emotion regulation, we want to grow, okay? But if you're going to see from a psychologist or psychiatrist, we usually stop at point three, which is like how you process your emotions. So this evening we're going to talk about one, two, three, and then we talk about the growth aspect. in the subsequent webinar.

So let's go through the step, okay? So being aware of your emotions, being aware and anchoring are the two steps to respond to the negative emotions, right? Remember the definition of emotion regulations that I gave you before, right?

Emotion regulations is the ability E. right to decide to influence which emotions we experience when we experience them and how we express them so being aware and anchoring then deal with the first two step and of influencing which emotions we experience and when we experience them so we learn to respond rather than to react So then... To be aware and anchoring plus processing of emotions and the transformation of the mind and attachment to the Father are the step to grow and the step to develop. Somebody, could you please turn off, please?

I would answer some of the questions in the chat. Yes, I would. Might be a bit late now to have the co-host.

Yes, please, Carol, you can do that. Let me see if I can help you to be the... Sorry, I won't be a moment. Somebody is talking and I just have to pause for a while.

Thank you. Look, I have muted all of you. And I'm sorry about that for those of you because somebody is speaking and continue to speak.

So I would unmute you at the appropriate time. So to be aware, one of the things that I find is very important for some of us is that to help us to differentiate the emotion, we have what I call a mood meter. This is something that a lot of the psychologists and psychiatrists would use. And it actually helps us to pinpoint our emotion a bit better. And so if you divide emotions into comfortable feeling or uncomfortable on this axis, or what I call non-distressing and distressing, and then you divide it into the high energy and the low energy, then you can sort of like able to name your emotion much better.

Okay, so don't assume that just because we feel something that we necessarily know how to actually name it. So what we want to do in everyday life is to be on this quadrant, okay, preferably in this one most of the time, and where we are calm and content and have a sense of shalom, right, in a Christian sense. And of course, then if it is a very positive, we want to be here, but we cannot continuously to be there because it's actually quite exhausting.

but we definitely do not want to be here. So when you think about uncomfortable feeling and then that are low energy, so they are usually associated with the emotional state of disappointment, dejection, sadness, loneliness, hopelessness and profound depression and shame. And then you think about emotions that are uncomfortable but with high energy.

Right, they are usually associated with... anger and profound worry, anxiety and extreme nervousness, panic attack, okay? So the next time when you look into yourself, when you wake up in the morning, try to do that which is very good for you, right? Take a bit of a time to be aware of yourself and then to categorize and to name your emotion. Am I in a low energy, comfortable state or am I in a...

high energy comfortable state because I'm getting a bit excited about how the day is going to be, or am I actually in the low energy and uncomfortable state which means I'm a bit depressed, or am I in a high energy uncomfortable emotion which is an anxiety. So if you are doing pastoral care, if you are doing lay counselling, this is something that you would want to teach your patience. So you are going through with the patients in a journey to helping the person to regulate the emotions starting with step one of being aware.

So what happens then when you are aware that you have a distressing and high energy emotions which is more like anxiety, nervousness, worry, anger. So what you want to do then is to help the person okay to explore the opposite emotions. So what are the opposite emotions of high energy and distressing?

Love is one of them. Peace is one of them. And faith is one of them.

So once you can identify the distressing and high energy emotions, then what you want to do then is to anchor into love, joy or Love, peace or faith. Now, what happens if it is a distressing low energy emotions, which means it's more like dejection, sadness, depression, loneliness, helplessness, hopelessness, right? Then you want to help the person to anchor in the opposing emotion, which is more like the love, the hope and the joy.

Okay, so... So if you are doing counseling, then this is how you help the person to identify events that brings out that bit, okay? Or to anchor in biblical Bible verses that talks about love, peace, and faith for the distressing high-energy emotions, and the love, hope, and joy for the distressing low-energy emotions.

So then we go on to step two. Okay, once you are aware of that, then you say, okay, this is the emotions that I have. So I give you an example of the acceptance through anchoring, right? So the key verse would be, peace I leave with you, my peace I give you, right?

Or if it is the low, distressing low energy, then the joy of the Lord is your strength. So for that day, then you try to get into the joy of the Lord. Why?

Because the joy of the Lord is my strength. which helps me to energize me. So you can see that by using these two Christian spiritual techniques of being aware and anchoring, right?

You're already influencing which emotions you're going to experience, when you're going to experience it, and how you're going to express it. But you need the first two before the third one. If you have no control as to which emotion you experience.

If you have no control over when you're going to experience that, then you have no control to how you experience it. So the beware and the anchoring then helps us with the first two. So I may wake up with a depression, right?

And then when I identify that, anchor myself, right, into the joy of the Lord, which is my strength, then I'm actually influencing which emotion. I'm actually saying, look, I'm not going to fight with the emotion. I'm going to anchor myself in a verse that gives me another emotion, which is the opposite of the depression.

This is how it works. I'm going to anchor myself into that emotions, right? Which is going to be the opposite of anxiety. And in so doing then, I can influence when and how.

at which emotion I'm going to experience. So in other words, I'm not going to fight with my anxiety or depression. I'm just going to anchor in that verse because that verse brings the reality of the opposite.

emotion which is going to counter the negative emotion and that verse also would be able to help me that i'm is not like just because i wake up with an anxiety or depression feeling that i'm going to be 20 for the next 24 hours then i'm just going to feel anxious or depressed so so so if you are counseling a patient then this is what you want to help them to do and then you have to go on to the third bit which is processing your emotions why is processing the emotions important because as i told you before right emotions is actually an indicator of something okay in our life all right so and um so so because of it's an indicator of an of an event. So you want to trace back what is happening, okay, what is giving rise to the emotion, what is the substance behind the shadow. So in order to do that, we have to process. Now, if you are doing counseling, or if you are helping the person, right, you may, this is actually a journey. And this is something that you would keep on doing before you even go on to the transformation of the mind, and also beholding the Father's face.

phase. Otherwise, then the person can't get into those because the person is still struggling with the emotions. So for this healing journey, you actually need a journal, a schedule, an open heart to dialogue with God, an obedient spirit. And then, of course, then you have to learn some of the spiritual practices that I'm going to actually share with you about. A journal is very important because it records our milestones.

A schedule is very important because you set aside the time which is going to be your safe place, which is going to be your spiritual space that I talk about. Open heart is very important because it helps you to dialogue with God. And I was just meditating on David. I was just wondering why did God say that, you know, David is a man after his own heart? Because David has an open hard to dialogue with God.

An obedient spirit. So you have to work through that before you can actually go on to other bits. So processing your emotions, your journal, right, is a record of your healing journey and a record of your conversation with God, a record of his response to you and a record of.

your session with your prayer minister if you are being counseled. So that is very very important right and you when you have time you should go and read Job okay. Apart from the first few chapters which is kind of introduction you can look at Job as a journal. He was a journal about his struggle about him processing his depressed emotion.

And journaling is very important because it's also a sign that you own your healing. So for those of you who are involved in ministry, I would advise you that, you know, with every person that you help, you begin with the necessity of a person journaling. So your schedule is very important because your time, the schedule then has to do with the time, the place, and the frequency.

If you are doing it yourself, okay, with a journal, not less than weekly, because that is very important, because you need to have a schedule and a journal and an experience of processing at least once a week, right? And if you are doing, working with a minister, or if you are doing somebody, you know, with the counselling, it depends on how severe the problems that you are actually dealing with so Schedule builds good expectation and commitment. Schedule also fosters the sense of safe place, which is in chapter 12 and the spiritual space.

Because when you have a schedule, right, then after a while, your spirit will start to recognize that that is the time and that is the place where I'm going to meet with Abba Father. That is my safe place. I can do business. And then...

You also need to remember to journal your schedule so the happening of your schedule may become your personal memorial. Personal memorial is those significant events that you meet with God and then you profoundly experience his presence. Now that is very important because that would help you in the anchoring process one day. Because when you get back into that distressing high or low energy emotion, right, and you have a good time with the Lord, then that will become your anchoring in order to reverse in order to combat that distressing emotions that you have. So the happening of your schedule would become your personal memorial, okay?

So the next thing is an open heart to dialogue with God. So if you are doing, if you are processing your emotions, when you get into that plays. When you get into that schedule, when you have your journal out, right? So you normally begin with quieting your heart and then being aware and say, look, where is my emotion at the moment? So you begin with that.

Is it in that kind of comfortable axis and in that low energy, which means I'm content, I'm restful, I'm resting in the presence of Abba Father? Or is it a bit up that... It is still comfortable but I have a sense of excitement because God has given me a very nice day. Then you may end up then sort of giving thanks and then begin the day.

Or is it a negative emotion, an uncomfortable emotion? Is it high energy or low energy? So either it's high energy or low energy, then you go back to the anchoring with a Bible verse which gives you a positive emotions It could be the love and the peace and the faith for that high energy of anxiety, worries and anger. Or it could be the love and the joy and the hope for the low energy and uncomfortable emotion, which makes me depressed, which makes me have a sense of hopelessness, which makes me have a sense of dejection, which makes me have a sense of shame.

So this is the first two steps of your journal. Now, if you are doing prayer counseling, then you would go through the journal with the person or during the session itself, you would get the person through, okay, to being aware of the negative emotions, initially helping the person to anchor, then eventually the person then have to have the anchor. Then you can go on, right?

to say a prayer of confession as you are led. So then you go into some inner healing. Okay, what is it that you want to confess to God about that emotions, about things that are associated with that negative emotions? Invite the spirit to be present. And then you invite the spirit to link up the negative emotions to any historical event, people, situations, or experience in your life.

So if I can go back to the very, very first few slides that I've shown you, right? So by doing that, you are actually there, okay? So you have this emotion in your limbic system. You're asking the Holy Spirit for enlightenment and say, is there something that is related in my experience that I store in my memory? Is there any significant events?

Is that got to do with some experience that I have, some situation, some people? And then you ask the Holy Spirit to give you some understanding, which is here. So what you are trying to do then is actually you are getting into that spirit, mind, emotion connection.

If you are only doing emotional regulation through the normal way, you are only dealing with a mind-emotion connection. But in this case, you are doing a spirit-mind-emotion connection. So you can see how powerful it is because you are actually submitting yourself, right, to the guidance of the Holy Spirit, which knows all things, who searches all heart, right, who doesn't miss a thing, because who knows the thought of God except His Spirit. So So this is where you are at. So you link up the negative emotions to any historical event.

Now, if you are doing a counselling or you're doing prayer ministry or you're doing the counselling, this is where you as a prayer counsellor, as a lay leader, as a pastoral care person, right, then can help the person through the prayer. And some of us, we need that. So having recognised and hopefully linked up the negative emotions, then do you need to lament about that?

Do you need to vent your frustration? Do you need to express any feeling of injustice? You've got to be authentic.

Never be afraid to be authentic. Just the other day when I was preparing this, right, God has actually brought into my mind, okay, Jesus at Gethsemane. So Jesus, one would say that Jesus the man, right, he was In a process of regulating his emotion, he was going through that emotional regulation. In him was that struggle about going to the cross.

And he vented his fear. He struggled through his desire for obedience, but also an anticipation of the difficulty. He was being authentic with God.

So if we want to process our emotions, we've got to be authentic, meaning be yourself, an open heart. And then you go on to an obedient spirit. Ask God what he wants you to do about that negative emotions. Does he want you to make some changes in your life? Does he want you to talk to the person whom you think is responsible for how you feel?

Or is he saying that let him deal with injustices because a lot of times When we experience negative emotions, we also have a sense of negative, of injustice, because we can link up people who are responsible for inducing their emotions in us. Do we have to confess some sins? Do we have to give up control to him? Do we have to seek help from our prayer minister?

Now, if you are doing a prayer ministry or you're doing some counselling with the person based on what I've introduced, right, then it might be a good idea for you to have some ideas of what are the normal things that you help the person to process. Notice that if you are doing it, you're not going to put words into the person's mouth, all right? You know, you just phrase it in a question and say, do you feel that God is speaking to you about making some changes? Do you feel that God is asking you, you know, to lament or to confess something?

So you are the mouth. peace of the Holy Spirit. This is what I mean by the spiritual space. So again, obedient spirit means be real, be authentic with your response. And your response could be, God, I can move on now, help me.

Or Lord, let me have radical acceptance and obedience. This is hard to change. Lord, I'm not ready. I'm sorry. I still want to talk about this.

I still need to talk. Lord, I need more time to resolve my emotions. Doesn't matter.

Your sessions will come to an end. If you are doing prayer ministry, that session will come to an end, but because of the journal, and the next time you picked up. That is processing emotions.

So we conclude then, okay, that spirit-mind-emotional-journal-connection-healing-journey prayer of thanksgiving. There's always a... a thanksgiving to God, expressing our gratitude, even though we may not have fully resolved that feeling. And by using that, we can end the session to move on to be still and know with contemplative prayer.

You may want to end up with that and just present to God, have a sense of silence, have a sense of really experiencing his presence, and then journal the sessions. with words or imageries, and then also consider if any positive encounter you have with God is actually your personal memorial. Now this is very important.

If you read the book of Job, you realize that God didn't answer Job or his query, because basically Job has to say, look, it is not my sin. I've done nothing wrong. I need to talk to God and I need to vent my sense of injustice to God.

And did God reveal to him? At the end, what happened? Did God tell Job and say, hey, by the way, you know, this is just a contest between Satan and I. You have won.

Did God say that? God didn't say that. We know that because, you know, we are after the event.

We look at the movie, but we look at the introduction. Job didn't know. God only declared and said that, Job, I'm the Almighty God, all right?

You were not even there when I created the universe. You don't even know anything. How did Job then conclude it?

How did Job got his healing? He got the healing because he moved on to step three, be still and know that I am God. Basically, this is what God wanted Job to do. And that actually brought about healing. So in our processing our emotions, sometimes we may not know, okay, but having know the knower then that helps with the resolution of our emotions.

So you can move on to step three. And if you are doing it with someone, if you are the prayer counselor, you just spend a time of silence together. And after that, allow the person to reflect on what actually happens.

So that is basically what I want to share with you. I just want to... It doesn't matter what sort of treatment the person is getting, okay, if you are dealing with a Christian brother or sister who is struggling, this thing about helping with basic emotion regulation is the step one, is something that every one of us who struggle with anxiety, depression or fear needs to do. But not only that, it's also something that all of us, if we want to enjoy good mental health, and mental well-being irrespective of whether we struggle with anxiety, fear or depression. This is something that we need to do regularly.

Okay, so what I like to do now is actually just to stop the recording and then I will go on to some questions and answer. I just have to stop the recording.

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Emotional Regulation and Christian Spirituality