In this video, you're going to learn a new method for overcoming approach anxiety that I can guarantee you've never heard or used before. Approach anxiety. Let's be real, we all have it. You might tell yourself, "It's not approach anxiety. I just don't want a bad reputation. It's not approach anxiety. I just don't think any of these girls are hot." Well, you might be gay if that's the reason, but we'd like to tell ourselves we don't have approach anxiety, but it's a universal and it's the number one thing that holds men back in dating. Because you might think you're not good-looking enough, but guess what? If you approached a 100 girls, and you could do that in a weekend if you really wanted to, and you asked them all on a date, some of them would say yes. Chances are, you haven't asked a 100 girls out in your life. And you want to know how I know that? 46% of men in the US have never asked a girl out in real life, ever. Approach anxiety has gotten to the point where almost half of men never approach a girl. So, it's something that you're going to have to deal with, and it's something that once you overcome, you'll have more opportunities in dating than you ever thought possible. Now, approach anxiety is something that held me back for 5 years between the ages of 16 and 21. I learned about game. I learned about the idea of approaching and picking up girls or whatever, but I didn't approach a single time. I couldn't get myself to walk up to a girl. And it was something I tried again and again and again and I failed completely. But now it's something that is completely effortless. I'll show you a compilation of myself approaching girls and taking them home to show you that it's something that I have overcome. Just want to say I think you are absolutely beautiful. I don't mean to interrupt, but you're hot so I come home with me. No, he's not. Come home with me. And now you just have to take my virginity. Okay. zombie. Okay. Shall we go smoke? Is everybody still? Yeah. Stash of weed 10 minutes away this way instead of standing here like 8 hours. Let's go. And some cars against humanity. Yes. And I want to add that I'm someone who is diagnosed with panic disorder. I was diagnosed with the most extreme form of anxiety as well as social anxiety. So, I'm someone that had worse approach anxiety than you. I can guarantee it. The first time I went out to try and approach, I ended up going to get an EKG because I thought I was having a heart attack. That's how bad my approach anxiety was. So, if I could overcome it, anyone can. Now, you're probably wondering, what is the actual strategy? Well, it's something I picked up from a book called Dare, which is a bit of a cheesy title, but I'll get over that because the advice in it is very useful. It is a completely counterintuitive but very effective strategy for overcoming anxiety in general and panic attacks in general, but it's something you can easily apply to approaching women. Let me explain how it works. So, there's three steps. Whenever you feel anxiety, so you're thinking about approaching a girl that you see, but you just are starting to make excuses, you're starting to feel tightness, you're starting to feel resistance, the first thing you want to do is to tell yourself, "So what?" So what I mean is there's this attitude towards anxiety that we have of resistance. Anxiety is uncomfortable. It's something we want to get rid of, but trying to get rid of it is exactly what makes it worse. And the more you try to get rid of it, the more you resist it, the more it persists. This is something that I'm sure you understand through your own experiences. But once you just embrace, yeah, I am feeling a bit anxious. So what? It's not a big deal. So you're tell you tell yourself, so what? You're taking a a sort of glib non-serious attitude towards the anxiety and you don't say it out loud, but you say this in your head and you can follow it up with what's the worst that could happen. So, oh that girl might reject me if I approach her. So what? Like the worst that could happen is she says [ __ ] off, right? Or you're unattractive. So what? That's the worst that could happen. So that's the first step. The second is to tell yourself that you accept these feelings to take an attitude of nonresistance. So what you tell yourself is I accept and allow these anxious feelings or I accept and allow these anxious thoughts. And you repeat this in your mind. And over time, it's not going to instantly get rid of all anxiety, but over time, your mindset towards anxiety will change from one of resistance and fighting against it and thinking it's this enemy that you have to defeat, this dragon you have to slay to something that you're okay with. And people who don't have have anxiety, people who don't have a problem with it, that's what they do naturally. Everyone gets anxious feelings. Everyone gets approach anxiety, but some people, they literally think of it as excitement, right? They think of it as a positive endorphin rush. They're like, "I see this hot girl." And they're like, "Well, I might, you know, get to have a good time with her." Let's just say, right? They're thinking it's a good thing. Their heart is still beating fast. They still might, you know, get a little sweaty. They still uh get the same sensations, but they identify them differently. They define them as not something negative. And so that's the goal is you're starting to define these sensations that you've told yourself and conditioned been conditioned into thinking need to be resisted and changed and allowing them. And once you allow them, the cycle stops because anxiety is self-reinforcing. You feel uncomfortable. You think I need to get rid of this discomfort which makes you more uncomfortable. And then you get more uncomfortable sensations and it goes it gets worse and worse and worse. And for some people like myself, that can even turn into a full-blown panic attack where you end up in the emergency room because you're certain you're dying because that's how absolutely uh anxious you end up becoming. So that's the bas that's the second step. The third step is to tell yourself bring it on to take a mentality of you know what yeah I feel anxiety. I don't want to approach this girl. there's a part of me that is uncomfortable that you know I'm worried about rejection. My ego is getting involved. Bring it on. And then you just start walking towards her. You just start the process of moving towards her. You don't come up with exactly what you're going to say. You don't think about how the whole conversation is going. You don't think, "Oh, how am I going to actually pull her later?" or whatever, which is what guys tend to do is think eight steps ahead. That's just going to get you into analysis paralysis. you just start walking towards her. What's going to happen is you eventually get close enough that you're going to have to say something or it would be awkward. But the key here is it and it might sound like a a minute point, something not important, but it actually is. When you're thinking about what do I say? How do like that's a lot more pressure than just okay, well, I can start moving one foot in front of the other towards her, right? Anyone can do that. And so once you start doing that, you're building momentum towards actually doing the approach, right? And it might sound kind of silly, but try it and trust me, it works. And when you go up to her, you know, maybe you don't say anything, you completely freeze and it's awkward as [ __ ] That's possible. But even if that happens, you're still uh going to get some momentum from that because you're actually going to start a conversation. She's going to start talking like, "Uh, hello." Right? Eventually, she's going to talk and you might even be able to recover it. But most likely, once you get up to her, you're going to say something, right? You're like next to her. You're just going to come up with something to say. And taking that first step of moving towards her, that's the easiest place to stop yourself from getting stuck. Now, it can help to have a default opener in your mind. Now, there's a million you could use. I've talked about a bunch of different ones on my own channel, even with infield examples. I'll link some of those videos somewhere on this video. But as a basic one that you can use, one that I actually got from Todd V, but he got it from one of his clients, which is, "Hey, can I ask you a very important question?" And she's like, "Uh, okay." I mean, sometimes they say no, but it probably wasn't going to happen anyway. So, say, "Uh, yeah, okay." And with some drama, what's your name? Now, it's slightly, you could say, goofy. Uh, it really depends on your delivery, but more importantly, it gets their attention. It gets them to stop and wonder what's happening next. So, it gets a little bit of investment. And it's also playful. So, it's a very easy opener you can use that works. So, you have something, you know, in your back pocket to use if nothing else comes to your mind. And that's it. That is a very simple and effective strategy for overcoming approach anxiety. Now, this is something that's not going to happen overnight. It's not something where you just go out once and then your approach anxiety is gone indefinitely. It's a process. But over time, over the course of, say, a month, if you're going out to approach women on a consistent basis, if you do this, your approach anxiety will fade more and more until it's not really a problem. Now, this won't matter if you're not going out to approach women in the first place, which is why I highly recommend that you just schedule it on your calendar. You treat it like you would the gym, learning an instrument, or if you're building a side hustle, right? You're trying to build an online business. Well, if you want to be successful, here's what they do. They schedule it, right? Uh I literally personally just use a calendar and I schedule my game sessions in advance. It's something that, you know, it's very easy to I don't need to do that. But really, the problem is at first, you're not going to want to go out to approach women. For 99% of guys, you're not going to want to do it. So, you don't want to leave it to whether you feel like it in the moment, right? It's Friday comes around, you're like, I don't feel like going out. So, you don't you want to just make a pre-commitment to where it's not an emotionalbased decision. And don't commit to like go out four hours a day right away or something, but just make a commitment to go out, let's say 30 minute sessions, maybe a bit longer in the weekend, and build on that over time. And if you just follow your commitment, you will start getting results from approaching women very quickly. And you'll find that your approach anxiety, although it may be overwhelming at first, like it was for me, will fade away and stop being a problem, as long as you're willing to go through the initial phase where, frankly, it is stressful. It is difficult. You have to expect that, expect it to be hard at first. Tell yourself that you're willing to go through that to get the dating results you want to start dating attractive women and not being a [ __ ] like the 46% of men who've never even asked a girl out. But you do have to accept that there will be a period of a couple weeks to a couple months depending on how often you go out and what your starting point is where you do have a lot of resistance where it is anxietyprovoking and stressful. But over time going out and approaching women will actually become extremely fun. It will be something that is enjoyable for its own sake. And you know, the getting laid part will almost feel like a bonus. But getting there will require some discipline. It will require some willpower. But with that said, I hope you enjoyed this