hello everyone welcome back to my second Channel today I want to talk about how to become unfuckable with and lowkey unplayable but I want to dedicate a whole other video to the other topic so what I Define as UNF is basically you are in control of your emotions no one can emotionally hurt you without your permission no one can get inside your head you are un because if you're detached and you're like I know you're just projecting or I'm so good over here that you can do nothing to hurt me you are unfuckable is it easy to become un no even I am not 100% un all the time I'll tell you the days where I would say that I am unbeatable it's when I woke up early I meditated I feel really in control of my emotions I did everything on my to-do list because therefore I built confidence with myself that I know if I say something I'm going to get it done um the days where I am very [ __ ] with and people's energy really really affects me is when I wake up and I don't do any of those things like I don't have my morning routine down and I don't do anything on my to-do list because every time you don't do something on your to-do list or you say you're going to do something and you don't do it you are actually losing confidence and trust with yourself and if it happens enough times you subconsciously know that hey when I put down something on my to-do list I'm not going to do it because I don't trust myself and that is the worst feeling so when people come to me and they say Sone I have no confidence it's like well why should you have confidence to begin with do you trust yourself do you do the things you say that you're going to do if not you actually have no reason to be confident therefore the first step to being unfuckable with is to have trust with yourself because that trust with yourself will lead to confidence especially in whatever area you're practicing second of all you need to know yourself Inside Out Shadow work know all your flaws you don't need to be perfect nobody is perfect it doesn't matter how much healing people say you need to do cuz actually healing in this life is never complete like personally I would be like oh I've gotten over everything that I thought bothered me I know every single part of myself and then boom something comes up I introspect a little bit too hard cuz my brain never shuts up and I figure another floor out and it's exhausting and to be honest it gets to the point where it's kind of pointless but what I'm saying is when you know every part of yourself you are actually so unfuckable because so let's just say you're really ignorant about your flaws and who you are but you know to other people they can see it someone can easily point this out to you and boom a ruins your day it makes you spiral out of control if you know all your flaws you know every area you need to work on nobody can tell you the work you need to do nobody can also use your flaws as a weapon against you know yourself inside out I really recommend therapy like every video I talk about it why therapy in my opinion a therapist does not actually need to solve all your problems for you more often than not they're just going to make you more aware of what's going on in your life and what's going on in your brain and lots of people lack self-awareness so therapy helps you build self-awareness I use better help I work with better help than my favorite sorry thank you better help for sponsoring this video better help is the world's largest online therapy service and they're on a mission to make therapy more affordable and accessible to everyone around the world this is an important mission for better help because finding a therapist is really really difficult especially when you're limited to a few options in your area and as I always say therapy is like dating so with better help you can get a new therapist free of charge if you want to change but if you were to go in person you need to go get a new medical referral go hunt for a new therapist and that's really annoying and costly also by the way you guys better help has financial aid so if you can't afford it they have financial aid all you need to do is fill out a questionnaire and then better help will match you with the perfect therapist for you and it will take as little as a few days it's easy to sign up and get matched with a therapist you can use my link right here to get 10% off of your first month of therapy so guys if you're struggling you want to become more self-aware use my better help link I promise you won't regret it and I really really really I'm an advocate for therapy sponsored by better help or not so continued you guys you don't want to be the type of person who was not self-aware because then you're also never going to improve you're never going to have great relationships as well you're going to be ignorant people will also see your ignorance and lose respect for you thirdly get outside of your comfort zone the more you get comfortable with being uncomfortable that is going to help you grow and if you put yourself through so many uncomfortable positions it really doesn't matter if somebody else tries to put you in an uncomfortable spot now cuz you've dealt with all the uncomfortable situations you have that confidence with yourself that you can get through it that you know what to do in this situation and babe you're unfuckable if you don't get out of your comfort zone you're also never going to excel you Excel when you do things that you don't usually want to do when you try new things things and it will also help create a new and better you now if we're talking about unfuckable in relationships AKA unplayable as well especially in the dating game you need to decenter the opposite sex from your life and detach watch my Detachment video guys this lighting oh my God hold up okay you need to Des Center the opposite sex from your life because if you don't have a life a high quality life you actually like and your entire focus is on finding a partner everything that person does that you're dating is going to have such a massive effect on you when you care too much that is when people have that effect as well and I find especially I am affected by other people's actions the most when my life is not going well or I don't feel like I have control in my life going back to point one when I said I don't do my morning routine or I don't do the things on my to-do list that is when I feel out of control and that is also when other people can really really affect me I promise if you have control of your day your emotions you're unfuckable you're unplayable whatever other people do it's like you have this mental Clarity you just know it's got nothing to do with me and I know that when I'm in a very good mental state also get off your phone I guys when I'm abroad I spend like 10 hours on my phone a day this is where my energy is so low everything everyone does affects me and when I'm not on my phone when I've done my meditation when I've done my work I'm so like the Zen that I really feel like nothing can affect me I'm so in control of my emotions on this topic you need to get self-esteem going on lots of dates where the man is playing you or the woman is playing you that's going to lower your self-esteem if you're doing that maybe take a break from it build yourself up again second of all maybe like get off social media especially if you're watching content after content of all of these Attractive people or successful people and you feel really really low in life get off of it build your self-esteem up how do you do that by point two building confidence with yourself confidence is a lot of repetition and Trust I'll give you an example you're not confident about your appearance maybe make a list of all the times somebody complimented you or screenshot whenever someone complimented you put it in your phone put it in an album whenever you feel ugly pull it up oh hey I've got the receipts here I just checked my brain I know that my brain's capping I'm attractive it says on my phone I did that when I was younger and I would have like wavering periods of confidence I would literally screenshot what other people said to me now I'm not like saying you know go find external validation necessarily but I just recommend this tactic to almost fact check yourself because sometimes we can get on a hole cuz sometimes we can get in a hole and be like oh my God I'm so ugly like no one likes me hey I got the receipts here this is not true and your brain is like oh true I'm just like spiraling out of control but in terms of work or I'm not confident like U say at school or public speaking you need to ask yourself do I have a reason to be confident did I do the work no if you didn't do the work why should you be confident I come off as a very confident person people say but 100% there are things I'm not confident at and they are the things that I have not put effort into becoming like a master at or practicing people are like oh how are you so confident on YouTube babe I've been doing it for years like if I've been doing YouTube as my job for 5 years and I'm not confident there is an issue here right but also YouTube became my job because I mastered it I have every reason to be confident what's the recap guys get out of your comfort zone build confidence build trust with yourself build a complete and fulfilling life decenter the opposite sex practice Detachment um get therapy therefore know yourself inside and out so no one can use your flaws against you and yeah I hope you guys enjoyed this video and private Community is coming soon it's going to be the best [ __ ] community on YouTube you want to grow a business all of my secrets my marketing everything interviews private content everything you could want it's going to be out soon okay