We're gonna give you just a little preview so you can get caught up. Take a look at this and then I'll begin to teach. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. The text tonight suggests that you can have a friend... who hurts you.
Jesus is my savior. Jesus is my Lord, but we also are friends. When Jesus starts to teach this, he is teaching them how the relationship works.
If you're going to have a real relationship with God, you must be taught about faithful wounds. But if you don't learn how to be friends with somebody who wounded you, you can't be a friend of God. because God said pick up your cross and follow me if you're really my disciple I'm gonna take you through some painful places and I don't expect you to give up on me just because the going gets rough and the going gets tough you don't get to cut me off like I'm a machine So we have gone from relationship to reduction. So everybody's talking to you about increase, but I want to talk to you about reduction. You have to go through reduction so that you can increase your potency.
And if God saw fit... to cut you. He cuts you for a reason. Faithful are the wounds of a friend.
What I'm talking about is trusting God when it hurts. Faithful are the wounds of a friend. Retention.
and reciprocity. Retention is important. What good is it to gain if you don't retain what is gained?
The word that sticks is the word that saves. How much of this word is sticking? I said this must be reciprocal. If you stick with me, I'll stick with you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself except it abided in me.
No more can ye except ye abide in me. He says I'm gonna mirror your behavior if you stick with me I'll stick with you if you draw nigh to me Asa said if you draw nigh to me I'll draw nigh to you if you withdraw from me I'll withdraw from you. You know where you are the most effective?
It's where you're the most committed. The things that are living in your life the best are the things where you are the most invested. Change your investment, you change your return. If you operate in the principles, it will work for you.
Give and it shall be given unto you again. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together. The anointing you respect is the anointing you receive.
Oh Y'all don't hear what I'm saying. Hallelujah. Let's give God a praise, somebody.
I said, let's give God a praise, somebody. I said, let's give God a praise. I said, let's give God a praise.
So we are talking the third deposit on faithful wounds. And we're going to entitle tonight, Strap. Okay? Strap, like your mama had.
I know that's out of style, but back in my day, we had a strap. Now when they say strap, they mean they're packing. Brother walk up to you and say I'm strapped, you better leave him alone. He don't mean what your mama meant. But we're going to be packing tonight on the enemy.
Strapped for me is an acronym surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment plan. Surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment plan. You have to plan to survive. If you don't have a plan to survive you can't survive. I was talking to a friend of mine who's gone through a crisis recently and he's gone through a divorce and he says all the holidays I get depressed.
I said every holiday you should have a plan. Since you know the enemy is going to attack you on the holiday, don't just lay there and wait on him to overtake you. So whether you go bowling, go fishing, go do something, you need to have a strategy so you're not sitting in the house feeling sorry for yourself. You have to plan to survive or you won't.
You won't survive by accident. You got to be strapped for this. Are y'all with me tonight? Stand on your feet and let's go to the Word of God. John chapter 1 verse 9, I think it's down through 13, we're going to go through the Word of God.
And this is such a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful text. Oxymoronish in a way, because the text is committed to teaching us that Jesus is God. And yet it is teaching us that Jesus is man. Now careful here. I am not saying that Jesus is half God and half man.
That's not what I'm saying. Jesus is not half anything. He is fully God and yet fully man. We focus on the part that is fully God to the exclusion of the part that is fully man. Let me explain why that's dangerous.
He was fully God before Mary was ever born. He didn't come to earth to be God. He was already God.
He came to earth that he might be man. And as becoming fully man, it is so that he might be kin to me. And if I only see him as God and I don't see him as man, then he's not close enough to redeem me.
Come on somebody. Because he has to be kinsman, redeemer. Now most... when I go to John 1, I always want to talk about Jesus being God. In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
All things were made by Him, and without Him was not anything made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men, and the light shined in them. in darkness and the darkness comprehended it not.
Now there was a man who was sent from God, his name was John. He was not that light but sent to bear witness of that light saying, there is one who is coming after me who is mightier than me, whose shoes I am not worthy to light. I indeed baptize you with water but he shall baptize you with the Holy Ghost and with fire and finally and the word was made flesh. And so when we talk about in the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God, with and was God, we are establishing that Jesus is God incarnate.
And we get it again in the Word was made flesh, but in the middle we miss the humanity of Jesus. And the reason the humanity is significant, because it is there that we tabernacle with Him. It is in His humanity that we meet.
It is in his humanity that he bleeds. It is in his humanity that he can be touched by the feelings of our infirmities. A friend of mine works for a big major company, a delivery company, and he was showing me a picture of the warehouse. And I expected to see the warehouse like I grew up in with all the stacks of materials up in it. And you would be on those, I forget what you call them now.
What is it? Foil lifts, yeah, you'd be driving those foil lifts. You'd just drive one and spin it around and around and raise it up and pick up things.
All is gone. It's all machines. All machines and the machines increase the efficiency but loss of humanity.
What we can do better than machines is a gift of feelings. Yeah, it is through our feelings we cannot create a machine that can feel. We can create a machine that can calculate but not feel so it can't love. It can't have empathy.
It can't be creative. It can illustrate, but it cannot create, because it doesn't have the inspiration of feelings. So feelings are our friend, till they turn against us. Feelings are what inspires artists to paint.
Feelings are what makes one singer sing differently from another. It is a gift of uniqueness as unique as your fingerprint. It is through my feelings that I'm able to be inspirational and creative, but when my feelings turn on me then that gift becomes trauma to me. If I have a God who is robotical and cannot feel, then he cannot understand the feelings of my infirmity.
Jesus is God becoming kin to me so that he can be touched without hands but by my hands. feelings and so we're about to understand how Jesus experienced humanity the God man John 1 9 the true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world he was in the world he was in the world oh that's a big deal the angel started singing the the star lit up, the eastern star, the magic came to celebrate he was in the world. You don't get what a big deal it was for him to be in the world. Divinity had come down to humanity. He was in the world and through the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him.
If you've ever taken care of a loved one who has Alzheimer's, the day they don't recognize their own daughter, your heart is broken. He was in the world and he made the world and the world did not recognize him. Don't just read it, feel it.
You come in your house and your mama don't know you. It's me mama. Oh you're a pretty lady. What is your name?
I'm your daughter Clary. Who? Anybody know what I'm talking about? He was in the world, the world was made through him and yet the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own but his own.
Did not receive him. Have you ever came to your own and they did not receive you? That's rejection. He came to his own. I don't, I expect strangers to either be indifferent or reject me, but when I come to my own, for you to reject me is a wound.
It leaves a trauma. Now my feelings are turning against me because now they are not creative they are destructive. Now as we talk about this tonight we're going to delve into some things that are psychological.
But I'm not here as a psychologist. I'm here as a theologist to show you what God felt as man. Yet to all who did receive him. See, most of his own.
rejected him but to the elect group that did receive him to those who believed in his name he gave the right or the power to become the children of God Children born not of natural descent nor of human decision or a husband's will, but born of God. Whoo, that's a beautiful thing right there. Somebody shall strap. Spirit of the Living God fall fresh on us as we go into the Word of God tonight.
Let it materialize. Let it reveal itself like blinded eyes are open with enlightenment in our understanding and not... just our eyesight but insight that we might illustrate the abstract until it becomes concrete.
In Jesus name we pray. Amen. Somebody shout strap. Strap is surviving the trauma of rejection.
Jesus earns the right. To talk to us about rejection because he was rejected. He came into the world, the world was made through him, and yet it did not recognize him. That's painful. But then he came unto his own, and they did not receive him.
That's rejection. And there is a propensity when you are rejected. to build up battle scars where either you stop trying for fear of rejection or you develop a complex where you attack before being rejected. So that you don't risk having the feeling again.
Oh, are you going to come for me? I'm going to come for you before you come for me. I don't need you anyway in my life.
See, all of this is my defense mechanism because I don't want to feel that pain again. When we talk about rejection. That is the gospel. The whole gospel message is that the stone that the builders, come on church people, come on church people, wake up.
The stone that the builders, what? Has become the chief cornerstone. He couldn't be the chief cornerstone if the builders didn't. So rejection is a ministry that transports him into his. destiny.
So what Jesus begins to teach us first about that is that rejection also gives us direction. The stone that the builders rejected has become the chief cornerstone. Thank you builders for rejecting me.
Because your rejection directed me to become the chief cornerstone. a chief cornerstone, I could never be a cornerstone save you rejected me. So I either sit in my rejection and become traumatized or I rejoice in the rejection because it is through the rejection that I get direction into the...
How many of you are glad for the people you didn't marry? Come on talk to me a minute. Glad for the person who walked out on you. Glad for the job you didn't get. Glad for the prayer that didn't get answered.
How many of you look back in retrospect and say, Lord, I... Thank you. That that didn't turn out like I wanted it to turn out because that would have messed up the rest of my life. It was good for me that I was afflicted.
Had I not been afflicted, I would have never known. So Jesus is the drum major who leads us through the process of rejection. And so you gotta, when you are rejected, you gotta have a plan to survive. Because there must be an elevation on the other side of the rejection. Because if through the rejection he became the chief cornerstone, then I must survive the trauma.
that is human incidentally through rejection to receive the direction that will place me on something better than what I lost. Something better than what I lost. If you're watching online, type online, something better is coming. If something better is coming, something lesser has to go.
Better and lesser can't occupy the same space. Physics. Two objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time. And if lesser is here, better cannot move in. So lesser has to go so that better can step in.
But what happens when I am addicted to lesser? What happens when I am in love with lesser? What happens when I am accustomed to lesser? Trauma.
So God can't bring better without moving lesser because you're addicted to lesser because lesser is your normal. And like any baby when you pull the nipple out of his mouth he's going to cry for the nipple at the expense of breakfast. Never will learn how to chew, never will eat a steak, never will have a hamburger, never will eat lasagna, never will be a vegan, never will have the discussion because he's addicted to lesser, he can't get to better and the process between lesser and better is traumatic. I get stressed when I leave the house. I leave the house because it's not my breath, I don't have to do it.
I leave the house. I don't want to hear all that noise. Because often the pathway to elevation is traumatic.
Because we are addicted to what was, we are not prepared to let go of it long enough to see what is. So surviving is a big word. I tell people when they go through grief and they lose a loved one and they ask me why I said don't try to understand it Just survive it Your peace will not come through trying to understand it because there are some things you understand till you get to heaven but in the meantime you have to Survive it so we're going into survival mode we got will We got to go into survival mode to see what's next for us.
But we got to be careful how we go into it. Go to Luke 13, 34 through 35, and I want you to get acquainted with this man. Jesus. Not the God Jesus.
The man Jesus is up on the Mount of Olives and he's sitting on the top of the Mount of Olives and he's looking down at Jerusalem after all of the miracles and the healing and the turning water into wine and the healing the sick and raising the dead and opening the blinding eyes and setting the captive free and traveling by foot for miles and miles and miles and fasting till he almost died and confronting demons and dealing with spirits and casting out leads. of demons out of people and raising people from the dead. It didn't work.
What do you do when you've done all you know how to do and it didn't work? One of my problems with church people Is that some of them are so deep that they act like everything works. I don't need you to teach me how to act when it works. I need you to teach me how to act when it doesn't work. When I gave everything I had, when I poured my all, when I emptied myself out, when I gave to the little.
when I pushed beyond my ordinary, when I drove past my guardrails and after all of that healing and walking on the water in the storm and speaking peace be still and raising Lazarus from the dead when all was said and done they still rejected him as the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords and the Messiah and he's sitting on the hill rejected. And kind of ticked off. And then the King James Brothers started to go, Oh!
But I'm in the NIV, so I'll drop the O. The O is important because he screamed it. Oh! Jerusalem! Jerusalem!
You who killed the prophets and stoned those who sent... those who were sent to you. How often I have longed. How often I have longed. How often I have longed.
This is emotional. How often I have longed. To hold you, to gather you, to take you in my arms, to gather your children together as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings.
And you were not willing. Sit in that for a minute. Don't run past that. Sit in that.
How many times have you gone all out and the other person was not willing? It takes two. You can't do this by yourself. We can't be a partnership by ourselves. I can't be married by myself.
I can't make this work by myself. I can't do the tango by myself. I can't sing the harmony by myself.
I've got to have... you tied to me to make this sound right. But you were not willing.
That's rejection. Look, your house is left to you desolate. I'm out of here. I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Jesus is saying, I have gone as low as I'm going to go to get you.
Now you can act like you don't need this if you want to. But Jesus said, there is a point. where I give up. That's the scariest thing about Jesus. It's the point where he gives up.
As long as he strives with me, he's not through with me. But the scariest criteria is my spirit will not strive with man always. He gives up. And he says, behold, your house shall be left desolate.
I'm gone. I could destroy you. I could swallow you up. I could send angels.
I could call fire down from heaven. I'm not angry. I'm through.
I'm done with this. Your house. It was my house.
My house shall be called a house of prayer. Now it's turned it over to you. You take the deed, your house. When God gives it back to you, be scared. Your house shall be left desolate.
My reward to rejection is absence. You don't want this? I'm out. I am so out that even arrested, I will not be crucified in your city limits. The Bible said that Jesus, the Lamb of God, the divine sacrifice, refused to die in the temple like a sacrifice, but he died outside of the camp.
I won't even dignify you with dying on your property. Your house is left desolate. The fact that I am crucified outside of the camp is a sign I'm through with you.
You have been left desolate. The scary thing about the church and the end time and the understanding of eschatology, one of the scariest scriptures is in Revelations when he says, behold to the church, I stand at the door and knock. At first he was in the midst of the church and now he has walked out the door of the church. How did Jesus end up knocking at the door of the church?
Have we accepted religion but rejected Jesus? Have we accepted our rituals, our routines, our ordinances, our expectations, but we have rejected Jesus? How did we go to the feast and forget Jesus? How did we load up the family, Mary, and go back home and forget Jesus?
When Jesus is the Feast of Unleavened Bread, Jesus is the Feast of Weeks, Jesus is the Feast of Pentecost, how can you have a feast and walk off and leave Jesus and go a day's journey before you notice that your child that is born of God is gone? How does your mama forget you? And your daddy forgets you. And they're so caught up in their conversations that their day's journey are more down the road before they notice, where the baby? Where the baby at?
Where the baby? Where the baby? Where the baby? And then they start searching. Jesus experiences rejection just like you.
Not as God, but as man. With feelings that longed to gather you as a hen to other chicks, but you would not. I'm just sitting up straight.
Let me hear it because I got more. I really ain't got to the point yet. Come on, go to Mark 15, 33 through 36. I got to hear it because the point is big. At noon, now he's on the cross, he's outside the camp. At noon, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon.
Come on. And at three in the afternoon, Jesus cried out in a loud voice. He was crying on the mountain and he was crying, now he's crying again, Eloi, Eloi, lama sabbathane, which means my God, my God, why? Have you forsaken me?
I prayed to you if it be thy will pass this bitter cup for me. It was obeying you that got me on this cross. I want to talk to some people that obeyed God and got in trouble.
You told me to come here and I lost my job. You told me to buy this house and they ended up repossessing it. You told me to marry this person.
You told me to go to the cross. Eloi! Eloi! Lama sabachthani!
Not only is he experiencing it as the son, but he is experiencing it as sin. Because on the cross he is not the son he is sin the Bible said he became he became Come on battle scholars. He became sin who knew no sin that we might be the righteousness of God. It goes on to say he became poor that through his poverty we might be made rich.
That's really not talking about money baby. He became sin so before he is calling him father, father forgive them for they know not what they do but when he becomes sin he calls him God. Eloi Eloi lama sabbathadee my God my God why has thou forsaken me?
I just want to know why you rejected me I just want to know why you abandoned me When some of those standing near him heard this, they said, listen, he's calling Elijah. Someone ran and filled a sponge with wine vinegar and put it on a staff and offered it to Jesus to drink and then said, now leave him alone. Isn't it funny how people bring what you don't need when you're crying out? For something else, here they come with some vinegar. I did not ask for vinegar.
Now this was done that the scriptures might be fulfilled but this is a futility of flesh when they perceive your need but they don't have the answer. They bring their solution into your trauma. That's how you end up married to weird people.
Because they bring their solution into your trauma. And you're trying to figure out why and they come and say I'm the answer but they ain't. For they thought he called on Elijah, but he didn't.
And they think they can fix you, but they can't. So stop trying to fix me, because only God can fix this kind of trauma. So they said, now leave him alone and let's see if Elijah comes to take him down, he said.
When I started studying about rejection, I bumped into abandonment because they're intertwined. They're not the same, but they're so similar. Rejection is the fear you won't say yes. Abandonment is the fear you won't stay.
Abandonment is our first fear. It's a primal fear. It's an infant's fear. A fear universal to the human experience. No matter black, white, or brown, rich or poor, it's a common fear.
As infants, we lay screaming in our crib, terrified that when our mother left the room, they were never coming back. Abandonment is a fear that we will be left alone forever with no one to protect us, to see to our needs. And there's something about being left alone. For the infant maintaining attachment to its primary caretaker is necessary for its survival.
Who do you have to have or what do you have to have? And how do you handle the fear that it won't stay? Ooh, it got quiet. The potter's house is at its best when it's quiet.
Any threat or disruption to that relationship arouses a primal fear. A fear that is embedded in the hardware of our brains. A fear we carry into adulthood.
Abandonment. Once. You show me you could leave.
I always question if anyone will stay. So before I learned to walk or talk or anything else, some of you had already experienced abandonment. And it alters the way you interact with other humans because you have been pre-wired with the supposition of being left.
Oh, Jerusalem, Jerusalem. How often would I have gathered you as a hen would her chicks? But she would not. And I survived. But I bled over it.
I bled long and hard over your abandonment because maybe if you had accepted me as king there would not have been a cross. So I bleed. And there are people in this room who bleed.
When children experience feelings of disconnection, they do not have the defenses to fall back on like adults do. Their wounds may not heal, but instead float beneath the surface of their lives right into their adulthood. Let's talk just a minute about how abandonment affects the brain and I'm going to move on.
The brain shutting down occurs because the pain is too great. That after the initial crying, screaming, kicking, fighting fit we have, pleading, begging. Children often disappear into a state of disassociation, a coping mechanism whereby we bury what we can't fix. This disassociation happens as they are unable to cope with the depth of their fear from abandonment and the resulting emotional pain. Can I go deeper?
All of that was the setup. It takes me a while. This is how I cook, it takes a minute.
When I started thinking about Strap, surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment, it took me to 2 Samuel 13, 4-22. And if you'll go there with me, this text is Shakespearean. It is a complicated tale that would make movie.
It is a crisis in the house. Wait a minute. Don't read yet.
Y'all trying to get ahead of me. We have seen... It's crisis outside the house, but this is the crisis in the house.
These are the king's kids. When trauma gets in your house, it's a mess. When you got trauma on your job, at least you get off at five o'clock. When you got trauma at church, you can get up and leave.
When you got trauma in your house, how do you get out of the trauma when it's in your house? And it's in David's house and there's probably a lot of reasons why it's in his house and there is some question as to whether Jesse was David's father in sin. Did my mother conceive me in iniquity? Was I born?
There is some question that why Jesse did not call David out to be anointed by Samuel though he invited all the other sons. Have you ever been the one they didn't call? The one they didn't like. The one that was abandoned out there to take care of the sheep. And they called all the ones to the party and just...
We forgot! You know you're welcome! You know you're welcome, child! We didn't have to invite you. You invited everybody else.
I'm touching some nerves, I know, but it's gonna be okay. David was the uninvited person and the trauma follows him all of his life and we see the rollercoaster ride of his spirituality and his carnality and he's up and he's down and he's back and he's forward and he's going in and he's going out and he worships God. And he needs God, and he calls on God, and he's anointed of God, and he's blessed of God, and he's favored of God, but he's still got trauma, y'all. Just because you're gifted doesn't mean you don't have trauma. Just because you're anointed doesn't mean you don't have trauma.
Just because you know scriptures doesn't mean you don't have trauma. Oh, come on, talk to me somebody. Just because you make money doesn't mean you don't have trauma. Just because you got a nice house doesn't mean you don't have trauma.
trauma. Just because you fine don't mean you don't have trauma. Just because you built don't mean you don't have trauma.
Just because you got a PhD don't mean you don't have trauma. Just because you're a CEO doesn't mean you don't have trauma. Just because your hair goes all the way down your back and it's real you didn't buy it don't mean you... They have trauma. Let's go in David's house and talk to his kids.
He asked Amnon, why do you, the king's son, look so haggard morning after morning? Won't you tell me? What's wrong with you, man?
You've been looking bad lately. What's going on with you? Amnon said to him, man. I don't want to talk to you about it. Because you wouldn't understand if I told you.
You want to know why I'm losing weight and you want to know why my countenance is falling and you want to know why I've stopped eating and why my skin is pale? Okay, I'm gonna tell you, I'm in love with Tamar. You didn't hear me?
I'm in love. I said I'm in love with Tamar. Tamar?
Your brother Absalon's sister? Yeah, I'm in love with my half sister and that's the problem. But Jonadab is his friend.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are evil. So Jonadab gives him, he helps him be evil. Go to bed and pretend to be ill.
I'm going to help you get your sister. When your father comes to see you, say to him, this is what you've got to say to him. Now listen, get this right because you've got to say it right.
You've got to say it right. I want you to tell him, I would like my sister Tamar to come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare the food in my sight so I may watch her and then eat it from her hand.
So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, I would like my sister Tamar to come and make some special bread in my socket. I think I might eat it if she cooked it. I haven't had an appetizer in a long time. But if she cooks it, I eat it.
So David sent word to Tamar, his daughter, at the palace. Go to your brother's house and prepare some food for him. I got to go down there and see about my brother.
He's sick. She went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. She took some dough and kneaded it and made the bread in his sight and baked it. Then she took the pan and served him the bread. But he refused to eat.
I think I could eat better if we were alone. You see why I say it's Shakespearean? Send everyone out.
So everyone left him. Then Amnon said to Tamar, Bring the food here. Over here, now.
Over here. Bring it over here. Because I'm going to eat it in the bedroom. From your hand. And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom.
But when she took it to him to eat, he slashed her and said, come to bed with me, my sister. Y'all didn't know this kind of stuff was in the Bible, did you? That's why you need to come to Bible class.
This is like a Tyler Perry movie, ain't it? Y'all can't even breathe or nothing, y'all looking down. No! No! No!
Get away! No! She said, don't, don't, don't, don't do this! Don't force me such a thing!
We shouldn't do this in Israel. We're supposed to be church people. Don't do this.
Don't do this wicked thing. It should not be done in Israel. What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? You see she was a virgin.
And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king.
I tell you what, speak to the king. He will not keep me from being married to you if you go about it the right way, but he refused to listen to her. And since he was stronger than her.
He raped his sister. And when he was finished doing what he did, he hated her with intense hatred. Now this next line is where I told you the story.
In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, get up and get up. out. No, no, no, she said to him.
Watch this. Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me. In other words, she says abandonment is worse than rape.
I am more broken because you left than I am because you raped me. How could you rape me? Like you wanted me that bad and then hate me and yank me from the pinnacle of an explosive passion boom to the floor of complete rejection and now I feel like nothing. Because... Not because you raped me.
That's bad. That's horrible. That's wrong.
It's a sin. It's evil. It's obnoxious. It's nasty.
But you left me... strapped. Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.
But he refused to listen to her. He called his personal servant and said, get this woman out of my sight and bolt the door after her. So his servant put her out, bolted the door after her.
She was wearing an ornate robe, for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore. But now the robe is a lie. So she put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing.
She thought her life was over. She put her hands on her head and went away weeping aloud as she went. Her brother Absalom said to her, What Hamnon do?
Your brother been with you? Be quiet for now. My sister, he is your brother. Don't take this thing to heart.
Don't let this get in your heart. The fact that it happened doesn't mean it got to your heart. Don't let this get to your heart.
And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom's house. A desolate woman. When the king heard about this, he was hot, man. And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad. He hated Amnon because he had disgraced his sister.
Absalom kills Amnon. And it all happened in the house. Surviving the trauma of rejection and abandonment requires a plan. And the reason the room is quiet is not just because I am dramatic, though I am. The reason the room is quiet is because almost every person in here has some sort of story that I just triggered.
And you have the trauma and the rejection and the abandonment. You ain't got no plan. And so you buried what you couldn't get rid of, hoping it wouldn't go away. This is my problem with the contemporary church, because all we want you to do is praise.
The old church, we used to wail. Oh Lord, oh Lord, oh Lord, oh Lord. Jesus, Jesus, send your power Lord.
Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. Oh, yeah.
If I could sail away. Yeah, Lord. And we. They're learning that there's something about wailing before God that is more therapeutic than therapy itself. That it releases a mechanism down in the entrails of your soul that out of your belly flows rivers of living water so that the stench of what you've been through cannot stagnate inside of you.
Somebody just open your mouth for a moment and just shout unto God. Just shout unto God. Go down in your basement. Pull it out of your cellar and shout unto God. Go down in your belly and shout unto God.
You don't need words. Just shout. Hey, hey, hey, I gotta get this out of me.
It can't stay in me. I can't drink it away. I can't smoke it away.
I can't sex it away. But I opened my mouth to the Lord. This poor man cried.
And the Lord heard him. Somebody cry out. I gotta cry out, I gotta cry out, till I break the yoke.
I gotta cry out, till I break the chain. I gotta cry out, till I break the chain. I gotta cry out till I break the rejection.
I gotta cry out till I break the curse. Somebody open your mouth. The devil don't want you to open your mouth. The devil don't want you to open your mouth.
Out of the belly of the fish cried I. I was down in the belly of the fish but I opened my mouth and I cried out. Send for the women of mourning and let them take up a wailing.
Send for the women of mourning and let them take up a wailing. When Zion travails, sons and daughters shall be born. We don't travail anymore. We're cute, but we don't travail. We dance, but we don't travail.
We dress up but we don't travail. Travail. Sisters, show them what travail is.
Travail. Travail. It's labor. Travail is labor.
Travail is gut-wrenching. Travail, you break blood vessels in your face. When you travail, you cry out to God, I dare you to travail. You only travail.
You only travail when you're tired of carrying it, when you're tired of walking around in it, when you get sick and tired and your back is hurting and you want it out. If there's anybody in here that wants to get it out, I want you to travail. I'm not gonna hide it. I'm not gonna bury it.
I'm not gonna make excuses for it. I'm not gonna use anger to hide it. I'm not gonna use drugs to hide it.
I'm gonna prevail. I'm gonna get it out of me. Open your mouth and holler.
Open your mouth and holler. Open your mouth. Open your mouth. Till a yoke breaks.
Open your mouth. Till a weight lifts. Open your mouth.
Till the enemy's defeated. This poor man cried under God. Something is about to happen in this place.
Open up your mouth. I gotta get it out. You go ahead and be cute, but I gotta get it out before I kill myself, before I kill my marriage, before I kill my prophecy, before I kill my promise.
I ain't worried about my husband. I ain't worried about my child. I gotta get it out of me. Get it out.
Get it out. Get it out. Get it out tonight.
With your mouth and get it out tonight. Get it out. Get it out.
Abandonment. Your rejection, your story, your anger, your frustration. Get it out. I gotta get it out.
Before I mess up my life, I gotta get it out. I'm tired of being up at night. I gotta get it out.
I'm trying to try to eat over top of it. I'm getting fat over top of it. I'm getting frustrated over it. I gotta get it out.
Open your mouth. The devil don't want you to be free. But I double don't dare you to open your mouth. I got a plan, plan, it's service. Till I get it out.
Open your mouth and get it out. Yeah! I gotta get it out. I gotta get it out. I gotta get it out.
I gotta get it out. I'm tired of being depressed. I'm tired of being suicidal.
I'm tired of being frustrated. I gotta get it out. out you gotta be cute but I gotta get it out you gotta be important but I gotta get it out haha you gotta be dignified but I gotta get it out I gotta get it out I gotta get it out tonight! Throw both your hands up and shout out to God! Oh!
Gotta get it out! Yeah! Yeah! Gotta get it out! Gotta get it!
Gotta get it! Get it out, Get it out! Get it out! Get out of my house!
Get out of my children! Get out of my grand babies! Get out of my mama! Get out of my daddy! I gotta get it out!
I gotta get it out! I gotta get it out! Yeah!
Gotta get it out! Hey, hey, hey, oh, Yeah, yeah, that baby coming, uh-huh, it's coming out, it's coming out, ha, oh, shot pop, oh, oh, shot pop, I feel it, it's coming out, yokes are breaking all around this room, it's coming out. releases happening in this place it's coming out God is doing surgery here c-sections are happening yokes are breaking depression is breaking things are buried are coming up out of your belly this poor man cried and the Lord heard him give God something he can hear Give God something he can hear.
Give God something he can hear. Give God something he can hear. Give God something he can hear.
Give God something he can hear. Give God something he can hear. Give God something he can hear.
Lay your hands right on his back. he could hear give God something he can hear give God something he could hear you're watching online give God something he could hear you're watching on the internet give God something he could hear Give him something he can hear. Give him something he can be.
Give him something he can hear. Give him something he can hear. Oh! Give him something he can hear. Cry out to the Lord.
Don't you know if you open your mouth, you get the victory tonight? Months of bitterness, years of pain, decades of confusion. If you open your mouth tonight, out of your belly. Out of your belly.
Watch this. I'm almost finished. Here's the plan.
Isaiah 53, 3 through 4. He is despised and rejected of men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief, and we hid as it were our faces from him. He was despised. and we esteemed him not. Surely, surely, surely, surely. Somebody say surely.
Surely, surely, surely. He hath borne our... Creeps and carry our sorrows. Why are you carrying what Jesus has already carried?
He was rejected. He was abandoned so that he could carry your grief. If you carry that grief home tonight, you're a fool.