welcome back to my channel so today is my zetaversary march 9th 2016 is my zetaversary so today i actually am four years into zeta phi beta sorority incorporated which is crazy to think about but yeah so today's video i decided i wanted to go ahead and say down and talk about whether or not I regret joining my organization and if I sometimes think about whether or not I should have in the first place, which is basically regret. So first and foremost, I joined this organization my sophomore year of college. 2016 I was a sophomore and I joined in the spring, March 9th, and then I was a Zeta for the rest of that remaining semester and then I was a Zeta junior and senior year. So both of those years, it was just myself and my deuce on campus.
Now it was a lot of workload because I was president both years and it was just, it was just a lot. And my senior year, my deuce actually went ahead and studied abroad. So it was just myself on campus and it was just, it was a lot of work because I was maintaining. of my GPA I had clubs I had jobs at two jobs or three jobs two or three jobs and then I also was president of my organization had all the community service had to do all the events on campus it was just a lot so in that time I did have regrets because I was like why did I join this chapter it's so small we ended up actually um what is it called again when you I don't know what to call reactivate but it's it's a it's a term for basically when you bring a chapter back once there's no more girl on campus and there hasn't been any lines in a while. So that's what me and my dudes did.
We actually reactivated our chapter. So with that, there was no Zetas before us for a couple years on campus and it was just kind of me for that entire senior year. So I was stressed out and I did regret joining in that time.
Now when I graduated college, I went ahead and I joined the graduate chapter, my graduate chapter from my undergrad chapter. I did that for a year. I did not enjoy that.
I actually really, really hate it. hated being part of a graduate chapter and I am going to make a whole video on graduate chapters whether or not it's for you what you're going to do kind of the feel of what a graduate chapter is it's completely different than an undergrad chapter completely different so I did that for a year hated that again once again regretted why or questioned why I joined the organization because I joined for specific reasons and I kind of got that but I didn't always get it full blown and then after a year I ended up joining the military so I kind of have just been a Zeta since then. And I've talked to some of the Zetas at my local college. I've gone to some of their events, but I'm not really part of the chapter, which I'm trying to get a little more involved probably in the next year or so.
Actually start going down to the college and get involved in that undergraduate chapter, that graduate chapter. And yeah, go from there. But overall, I had a lot of regrets throughout my Zeta life or Zeta career, would you say? I had a lot of regrets because I joined such a small chapter.
And it was me with a lot of responsibilities. I have regrets as far as how I was being treated in my organization based on the chapter I was a part of. It was just a lot.
Like, it was a lot going on with me and my Zeta hood. And then Greek life in and of itself is just a lot to navigate. And I was by myself.
Once at a time, it was just me and my deuce. And when she wasn't around, it was just me. So it was like, it was hard. It was really, really hard. And I went to a college that wasn't.
and near all the other colleges. So I went to the college in the woods. So a lot of people didn't know our chapter. A lot of people didn't really come and see our school.
A lot of people didn't know their way to our school. So it was like, it was really hard trying to get connections and make friends and make sisters and bonds and things like that. So in that way, I did regret it oftentimes. And I was like, this is such a lie.
Like I did, I'm not getting a sisterhood that they promised me and blah, blah, blah. But. When I graduated, I looked back and I was like, you know what, I probably could have went without being a Zeta my college career. And then it didn't take me until within the last maybe year and a half to really feel like, no, like that was a good decision. like that was something that built my character it built my self-esteem it built my communication skills it built my drive to complete things on my own because I was always by myself so it motivated me way more to just get things done on my own pin on myself to get things done right the first time so it taught me a lot of good skills uh being part of a small chapter and also being a zeta but I wouldn't I would I would be lying if I say I didn't have regrets throughout you know throughout actually being part of it now do I recommend Greek life I am an advocate for Greek life you know I love Greek life I feel like it's a great community to be part of the black Greek life it's awesome it has so much history and so many great things you encounter through Greek life that you probably wouldn't through just regular career um college career um but yeah so overall I guess I could say that I don't regret joining my organization and that's something to really think about before you join like whether or not you see yourself being part of that organization for the rest of your life because that's what it is it's a life commitment once you become a Zeta you die a Zeta so it really is a life commitment and you have to think about whether or not that's something you want to carry with you for the rest us to be alive and then if you want your children to join an organization whether or not you want them to be a legacy and following your footsteps so it's just a lot to consider I know it's it's really heavy but I'm sure my other Zetas that are subscribed to me and older Zetas, they can attest for the fact that once you're a Zeta, you're a Zeta for life.
And it's something you really have to commit to. It's a lot of work. Zeta by way of sorority is a business. That is why it's incorporated. So it's a business.
It's work. It's not just all fun and games. Undergrad is a great time, but there's still work to be done, especially when you're part of a small chapter.
So I really hope you enjoyed this video. I don't think it was helpful. I don't you know, it's kind of just a self-reflection for me making this video and kind of giving you guys a perspective of What to look forward to after the undergrad and once all the glitz and glam was gone It's all the step shows are over things like that kind of sitting back in myself and seeing whether or not I really feel like I made a good decision joining the organization that I did.
And I do have some regrets as far as, like, the sisterhood piece, but that's something I can't help. And it's kind of one of those things that you kind of have to pick and choose your battles because everything you can't control. And that's something I couldn't control, the chapter that, the construction of my chapter and the chapter I joined because it was just the one at my college and I didn't have another opportunity. I wasn't going to transfer schools because that would have been... extremely dramatic to transfer schools just for a sorority and no I'm going to school to get my education so but yeah so I hope again I feel like I was about to end this video and then I started talking again but I hope you guys enjoyed this video I'm sorry I rambled a little bit but give me a thumbs up if you enjoyed it comment down below and I'll see you guys in my next one and as always stay royal bye guys