Lecture on Finding Role Models

Introduction

• Initially found it difficult to identify role models.
• Realization: Everyone can be a potential role model.
• Importance: We subconsciously or consciously look for role models in our daily lives.

Cultural Challenges

• Culture of outrage and teardown.
• Difficulty in finding reliable role models as even good people may have hidden flaws.

Personal Experience

• Raised by a single mom with limited family interaction.
• Early role models were fictional characters:
  • Spider-Man: A nerdy teenager turned superhero.
  • Captain Kirk: Brave, loyal, never quitting, good with relationships.
  • Rob Petri (Dick Van Dyke): Talented, good friend, stable family life.
• Issues with fictional role models: Unrealistic perfection.

Realization About Real Role Models

• Realized that real people aren't perfect, yet they could still be role models in certain instances.
• Importance of recognizing and appreciating specific achievements or qualities rather than seeking overall perfection.

E. E. Cummings' Quote

• "It takes great courage to grow up and become who you really are."
• Inspired personal growth and acceptance.

Personal Development

• Gift of being recognized as a role model changed perspective.
• Struggle with self-esteem when comparing to perceived perfect role models.
• Shifted perspective: Recognize role models in terms of achievements or attitudes.

#RoleModel Initiative

• Use of social media to recognize and appreciate specific actions by people.
• Three Benefits:
  1. Acknowledgment of appreciated actions/values.
  2. Generosity in appreciating the person.
  3. Personal vulnerability in expressing genuine appreciation.
• Development of a personal "data set" of valued traits.

Aligning with Personal Values

• Realignment with personal life goals based on recognized values.
• Importance of resilience and learning from failures.

Quotes for Personal Growth

• Samuel Beckett: "Ever tried, ever failed, no matter. Try again, fail again, fail better."
• C. S. Lewis: "When I became a man I put away childish things including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown-up."

Conclusion

• Recognizing and appreciating non-perfection in oneself and others can lead to a fulfilling life.
• Encourage the practice of identifying role models by specific traits or actions and adapting personal growth strategies accordingly.

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These notes summarize the key ideas presented in the lecture on redefining how we view and choose role models, emphasizing specific values and actions over perceived perfection.