I believe that every person has the ability to attract anything she or he wants and that by following four simple steps each one of us can reach new levels of awareness the entire universe works on one very simple sentence as you think so shall you be Dr Wayne Dyer is America's formost teacher of transformational wisdom author psychotherapist professor and lecturer he holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University Dr Dyer has written over 10 best-selling books including your erroneous zones real magic and manifest your destiny which have inspired 50 million readers worldwide now Dr Wayne Dyer presents his basic formula to help you change your life and get what you really really really really want ladies and gentlemen Dr Wayne [Applause] Dyer thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you so much you're very kind I um will be speaking this evening about um something that's very dear to my heart it's not really a canned speech it's not something that I've memorized I don't speak from notes I speak from my heart about something that I work on each and every day in my own life it is about a process that has been a growth thing for me the idea of there being levels of awareness ordinary human awareness and higher levels of awareness are something that you can do a lot of reading about and you can study spiritual literature but until you begin to put it into practice and live it each and every day it really just uh is something that is distant and more academic what I will be attempting to do here this evening is to share with you some very specific principles that I have uh studied and practiced with my family with my wife particularly and our children and my extended family I am not here to um uh prze from any particular point of view I don't represent any religion I'm not organizing anybody or encouraging anybody to join anything I have never been a joiner I don't pay any memberships any place I really don't think of myself as a very organized person period I think a truth is a truth very often until you organize it and then it becomes a lie very often because the organization becomes more important than the truth that we're attempting to uh teach so this is not really about getting people people to uh to agree with me when I was back in school I had professors who used to say if you want to understand poetry or if you want to understand a great novel or if you want to understand a great movie or enjoy it what you have to do is practice what he called willingly suspending your disbelief so that when you go into a movie theater for example you will see a two-dimensional screen and you don't walk in and say well that's just a two-dimensional screen with a lot of uh a lot of images that are being projected from the rear of the room from a projector and I'm not going to allow my emotions to be impacted or affected by a silly little thing like a projector uh if you did that you would not be able to enjoy the movie what you do is you willingly suspend your disbelief you just let go of any of your doubts and you just allow yourself to be entertain for a couple of hours and you say like all right Nicholas Cage can exchange faces with another man all right that's a possibility I'll buy it all right and they can uh uh go home and uh convince their wives even though they've just exchange faces and nothing more which was always a surprise to me that uh that this thing's really happening but what I'd suggest to you is that if you argued with that and said oh this is ridiculous or this is just not possible that you wouldn't be able to enjoy the movie and I suggest that you take what I'm speaking about here this evening some of it will conflict with some of the things that you have been conditioned to believe in some of the things that uh you may hold very dear to your heart and I'm not here to challenge them I'm not here to get you to change your point of view I'm not get here to get you to join some organization that I think uh will get you to be more enlightened I'm just offering you what comes from my heart uh principles that are involved in being able to reach higher and higher and higher levels of awareness so that things like Miracles and uh being able to attract into your life what has been missing up until now the ability to heal yourself of perhaps um diseases or processes of uh uh of difficulty that you've never been able to uh handle before the capacity to be able to uh create the kind of uh relationship that you would like to have the ability to uh even get a job that perhaps you haven't been able to get or to raise your level of prosperity um whatever it might be to sell your home if you've been having difficulty doing that that there is an energy in the universe there is something that is in each and every one of us and it's also in the universe and you are connected to it in a way that is often uh perceived to be uh oh aloof from us because it's invisible because it's in the world of what we call Spirit the world that is not material and I would like to suggest that you suspend your disbelief allow yourself to know that you're not a human being here having a spiritual experience but that is the other way around that you're a spiritual being having a human experience and the quality of your Human Experience is really much more dependent upon how you use this invisible intelligence and how you connect to this energy and once you have an awareness that you can never be separate from it that you and it and whatever you call it it doesn't matter it doesn't matter if you call it God if you call it divine presence if you call it Soul if you call it Spirit if you call it Consciousness if you call call it Christ Consciousness you can call it Buddha Consciousness you can call it Louise you can call it Edna you can call it Ralph Alan Watts once said that you can't get wet from the word water it isn't the word that allows you to experience water and whatever it is that you call it is something that is distinct from what it is when I was walking in here this evening on these beautiful grounds I saw some people looking at the flowers and the different plants that were growing and as they were looking at them there was one person who was obviously an expert a botanist of some kind and he was trying to explain to each one of the people what the name was the technical name for each one of the flowers and I was watching that and thinking it doesn't matter what you call it can't you enjoy look at that thing it's orange and it just came out of nowhere there's something very profound about enjoying it and and being there with it rather than being obsessed with labeling it there was a very famous Danish Theologian his name was saor kirkgard he once said that once you label me you negate me once you place a label on me and and put me into a compartment or a category of some kind I must then become what it is that you have labeled me to be so that we want to be able to live our lives and to practice principles of higher awareness without being so con consumed with what I call ordinary human awareness and ordinary human awareness is just the recognition or the belief system that I am a human being maybe I'm having a spiritual experience I'm not quite sure but higher human awareness what is sometimes in the East called City awareness in the west it's been called higher Consciousness or Christ Consciousness there's many names for it but when you get Beyond just knowing yourself as this body and this personality and this thing that you inhabit and begin to realize that who you are is that which was never born and can never die when you recognize your Eternal self and that's what this program is really about it's really about recognizing the power the energy the capacity to be able to do what it says in some of the most holy books that you've ever read that even the least among you can do all that I have done and even even greater things and that's not just empty words from holy scriptures that's a very powerful lesson that each and everyone of us can practice and live every day what I'd like to suggest to you and what this program is really about is that there are higher levels of awareness that are available to us a level of awareness that allows us to do things like and it may sound a bit strange but to manage the coincidences of Our Lives to be able to place our attention on what it is that we would like to create for ourselves in our lives to literally have the power to know that if I think about it and I keep it there and I keep that picture firm within me that there is an energy a source a capacity within me that is in the universe and that is also in me and that I can use this energy that I can manage it there are many ways to get the things that we want for ourselves in our lives but basically it all begins with how we choose to think as you think so shall you be seven little words that I think are perhaps the most important things that we can learn and master in our lives this old proverb notion that I become what I think about all day long and once you know that what you think about is what expands you start getting real careful about what you think about you don't allow your thoughts to be on anything that you don't want or that you wouldn't want to have manifest or show up for you in your life Emerson said the ancestor to every action is a thought and you can look at every spiritual tradition whether it's easn or Western whether it's ancient or modern whether it's civilized quote or uncivilized quote whether it's Tribal and there is in all of these Persuasions this idea that inside each and every one of us in a place that is not Material in a place that has no dimensions in a place that has no boundaries that in each and every one of us we have this power and we have this intelligence and you can never see it I've often said that when you die if you're going to die and 5 minutes before you're ready to leave they weigh your body and let's say it weighs oh let's pick a good number 150 lbs all right and then life leaves your body and they weigh your body instantly after you're dead and it still weighs 150 pounds so that your body weighs the same alive or dead before it begins to deteriorate and if that's the case then your life this thing that leaves your body and your body still weighs the same is weightless your life is weightless you can't put a dimension on it you can't put a measure on it who you are is that life and that life is not in the dimension of material it's like if I want to wiggle my finger I I just have to have a thought and the thought says I think I'm going to wiggle my finger and then I do this and you say well that's really no big deal but it really is a big deal because there's something invisible in here that says I'm going to wiggle my finger I've never seen that I've never been able to you can you can put that under an x-ray you can try to measure that and find out what it is in there that allows you to say I'm going to wiggle my finger and you can never find it it's not in this world if you will so I can do all the scientific studies and what I can do when I do these scientific studies is I can find the command center inside of me that allow and I can go to the brain and I can point to a specific point And scientists can do this and say there's the command center which allows you to have a thought I think I'm going to wiggle my finger but there's no computer and there's no scientists and there's no technology that can ever allow us to go inside and say there's the commander in the command center can't find it and that commander in the command center that weightlessness is the part of us that we just don't pay enough attention to and what I'd like to suggest here this evening is that once you start becoming aware of the power of thought and if you look around just look around you at everything that you see it all began with a thought we become what we think about about and that is probably one of the most important principles in learning to manifest but in my mind as I think about this idea of getting what you really want and being able to attract it into your life what what what we have to look at as basically the obstacles that we have conditioned ourselves and you notice I say that we have conditioned ourselves because I have never believed that we need to be putting the responsibility on someone else if you're conditioned it's because you have allowed yourself to become that and if we are condition if we conditioned ourselves to believe certain kinds of things and one of the things that we kind of believe and hang on to and and live with is this whole idea that um all of the things that happened to me in my past are what are keeping me from doing what I'd like to do today so we hang on to these things and we fill ourselves with blame you say I'm the middle child I'm the youngest child I'm the oldest child you know I'm an only child any one of those is a great excuse you know if you're the youngest child you can say well you know I never how could I be making decisions for myself and be a fully fully a fully functioning person today when I always had somebody else telling me what to do my whole life how could I think for myself if you're the oldest child you can simply say to yourself well how could I be expected to think for myself I always had to think for somebody else I was always doing it for somebody else and that leaves the middle child you know the classic identity crisis oh poor me my mother didn't even know my name she's always calling me by this one's name or that one's name so I don't know where I fit in so that takes care of everybody except the only child and of course the only child well your parents looked at you and said we won't be doing that again you have to live with that I don't so everybody with their birth order or with their mother liked their sister better or that we had enough or we didn't have enough or we had too much or we lived in the north we lived in the South I'm Too Tall I'm too short I've got too much hair I don't have enough hair it's falling out it's not falling out whatever it is we all have these excuses and I call all of these things that we hang on to and use to keep ourselves from reaching these higher places in our lives the wake I call it the wake and the wake is uh comes from a story that I heard Alan Watts tell one time and it was a very powerful story he said your life is like a boat and it's heading up the river at say 40 knots all right and as it's going you are somehow able to metaphorically stand on the stern the back of the boat and look down into the water now there goes your life in this direction and you're standing here and you're looking down into the water and you ask yourself these three questions the first question what is the Wake what is it what is this thing that you see and the answer the wake is the trail that is Left Behind that's what it is nothing more nothing less it's the trail that is Left Behind second question to ask yourself in this little metaphor what's driving the boat what's making this thing go in this direction the answer the present moment energy that's being generated by the engine and nothing more that's the only thing that's making the boat go in this direction and in this little scene this means it's the present moment thoughts that I have and how I am using them that is making my life go in this direction and nothing more because the third question is the most important and Powerful question and I've ever ever since I heard it I've always thought about this whenever I have a tendency to look back here and blame something is it possible for the Wake to drive the boat that is can a trail that is Left Behind make a boat go in this direction and of course the answer to that is no it can't it's just a trail that is left behind and in that trail there are an enormous number of things and every one of us has a wake and we have a whole lot of stuff in it and one of the problems that we have is that we have a tendency to look at the wake and all of the stuff that's in it to explain why it is my life isn't working the way I would like it to work so that um you can take a look at the experiences of your life I look at the experiences of my life and experiences of my life I spent some years in a a series of foster homes people have said to me H living in a foster home that must have been terrible I said no it wasn't terrible at all when you're 6 years old you don't wake up every day and say oh my God I'm living in a foster home isn't this awful poor me how come me and nobody else you don't do that you don't do that till you're 40 and when you're 40 and your life isn't working and you're bankrupt and you're a drug addict and and and you're falling your relationships are all falling apart and your family's leaving you and you say why is this happening to you you say what do you expect from me I had to live in a foster home my mother liked my sister better we were to this we were to and so it's like we take a look at all of these things in our wake and I'm not saying here that you shouldn't be in touch with your past and all of the things that are back there but to use it as excuses for why you can't get where you'd like to get today is something that you if you do that you will never get to this place that I'm talking about in this program which is this place that I call higher awareness Way Beyond ordinary human awareness one of the most powerful lessons that you can ever learn I had to learn as a young man my own father was a man who uh walked away he left he left home when I was just a baby left my mother who's sitting right here 107 years old is that no you're not 107 82 years old though and and with three little boys and all I had ever heard when he walked out about this person that my older brothers told me about and that uh when my mother got her family back together again when I was 9 years old and and did all that she could to uh to make a family again with all the hardships this was a man who never made a phone call who never sent a penny who spent some time in prison who was an alcoholic who died of therosis of the liver the age of 49 and was buried in a Popper's grave in buxy Mississippi and it wasn't until I went to his grave and was able to stand there and I used to dream about this man and have this enormous hatred for this person whom I had never seen just based upon what he had done to my own mother and to my brothers and so on and all of the stories that I had heard and all the research that I had done and I ended up at his grave 10 years after he had died when I finally found out that he was dead it was on the 27th of August it was 1974 and what I did transformed my life what I did is I believe I was sent there by God or whatever you want to call that Divine Spirit the divine presence and my life at that time wasn't working I was overweight my relationships weren't working my writing wasn't working there were a lot of things that weren't going well for me in my life at that time not badly but they weren't going at the level that I knew I was capable of getting to because I was filled with this hatred this anger this bitterness and so what I did is I stood there on his grave on this little marker in the ground and I said from now on I send you love I forgive you Mark Twain said that forgiveness is the the fragrance that the Violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it and once I let go of that anger and that hatred and all of my attachment to the bonding that I had done with these wounds and let go of that and cleared that out of my life my writing began to take place at a much higher level in fact I wrote aonia own in very very short time after that I began to get myself back in shape I began to eat better I began exercising keeping my uh got my weight down and the people that were supposed to come into my life like my beautiful wife who sits here with me this evening and all of our children some of whom are here this evening all of it was allowed to flow when I released that that energy of negativity and blame and hatred they say that you never die from a snake bite it isn't the bite and you can't be unbitten it's in the Wake what kills you is the Venom that continues to pour through you long after the bite has taken place and that's something we have control over and we can change and I'd like to suggest that what happens is that many of us Bond ourselves to these wounds of our past if I were to cut my hand just cut it and watch it my nature says flows up the wound and I just have to watch it and there's no doctor out there there's no medicine out there that's going to heal that wound there's something there's a healing stream that I am connected to that will allow that wound to heal so my nature says close up the wounds don't bond to them don't hang on to them close them up but supposing I say to myself oh no you don't there's no way I'm going to let you close up you see if I can keep you open and I can go to you and say look at this say what happened well look at this God I've got oh you poor thing look at that it seems to be getting worse it's getting infected isn't that terrible and if you practice this kind of a mentality when your nature says close up the wound but you keep it open before long you lose your hand and after that you'll lose your arm and the whole organism will be destroyed if you don't let your nature take over and your nature also says close up the wounds of your past close them up and often times we ignore our nature I had a great teacher that came into my life through his writing his name was nissar gadata Maharaj lived in India up until the mid 1980s and he wrote something called I am that which was very powerful and influential in my life and one of the things that he talked about when he was asked the question what's the difference between say a saint or a highly functioning human being a spiritual Master a spiritual teach teacher and the rest of us is that they have unconditional love in them and you don't or we don't and he said no he said Saints have unconditional love in them and so do you he said the difference between ordinary human awareness and higher awareness people is that they have nothing else inside of them that's all they have and it's almost like we have to learn how to get that in ourselves to be able to well I always like to use a metaphor of an orange I love the orange perhaps living in Florida is why but an orange is a simple metaphor you take this orange and you squeeze it as hard as you can squeeze it and you ask yourself what will come out and what comes out when you squeeze an orange ju orange juice never no matter how many times you squeeze it will Apple juice come out there's no mistakes you'll never get grapefruit juice out of this thing ever the only thing you'll ever get out of it is orange juice and the next question is why why when you squeeze an orange as hard as you can squeeze it does orange juice come out and I asked that question up in Toronto one time there's a little girl sitting right in the front row she said that's dumb it's a she said that's what's inside it has to come out I said well that's the answer you are really smart and she smiled she thought that was great but that's the truth the reason that orange juice comes out when you squeeze it is because that's what's inside now you extend the metaphor and someone squeezes you that is someone says something about you that you don't like someone behaves towards you in a way that you find offensive somebody does something or says something to you that you feel hurt by and out of you comes anger hatred bitterness tension fear anxiety stress and immediate you say the reason that comes out of me is because of how he said it or the way that she said that or because they did that but the truth is the reality is that what comes out is what's inside and if you don't like what's inside you can change it now if you ask me how does orange juice get inside of an orange I would say I don't know I can't figure it out that's a mystery to me I just enjoy the oranges of my life and give God the credit for that a lot of people think that other things make them the way they are they will blame their past they'll blame their parents they'll blame the economy they'll blame the Ayatollah they'll blame somebody for things that are going wrong in their life and one of the favorite things that we have to blame for why I'm upset at a particular moment is something called traffic traffic made me upset and I've always reminded myself when I'm in a jam or when I'm on the freeway and I'm trying to get someplace that traffic doesn't care that you have within you the opportunity in this moment to really work on these things that are perhaps debilitating or or creating anxiety or stress in your life that these are tests these are opportunities for you traffic doesn't care your anger is your choice and you can always choose to be be happy angry depressed miserable upset or you can choose to be fulfilled and do something positive In This Moment it's always up to you I'd like to give you what I think of as the great spiritual teachings of many various Persuasions there's a story that summarizes it it's the story of what I call the four philanthropists in a village the conquerors had come through and they had taken all of the men or many of the men who were warriors at the time and they had placed them into this prisoner of war camp right in the village and many of the villagers knew that their compatriots were imprisoned and the first philanthropist was a person who had great wealth and he went to the people who had the prison and were in charge of it and he said to them I understand the men are not able to have fresh water and cold water I would like to donate all of my earnings and everything that I have to purifying the water for them and making sure that all of the will not be sick and he was granted that and he felt like he had fulfilled his destiny that he had done what he was here for the second philanthropist discovered that the men were sleeping on rocks and that they were cold at night they didn't have blankets and he took all of his funds and he said to them I would like to provide bedding and blankets for the people so that they will be comfortable when they sleep at night and he was granted that right and he donated his money for this purpose and again he felt that he was F filling his Destiny the third philanthropist discovered that the food that they were eating was inadequate that they were just given uh beans and and uh and water and some bread and so he said I own a farm and I'd like to grow all of my food and I'd like to take this food to all of these prisoners and he was granted that right and all three of these great philanthropists in the village felt that they had really completed their mission for why they were here but the fourth philanthropist was a saint he was living not at ordinary human awareness but at higher Consciousness levels and he went and he found out where the keys were and he went to the prison at night and he released all of the prisoners and this little metaphorical story really tells us that when we are living at ordinary human awareness there's nothing wrong with those who are out there who can help us to suffer in Comfort all right and many of us have learned to do that and accept that and say all right as long as I'm comfortable even if I'm suffering it's okay but there are those who have keys and those keys can open the prisons one of the great teachers in my life was Carlos castanada and Castaneda talked about his teacher who was what they call an augu a and a Native American term that uh refers to uh all that is knowable and he his teacher told him that your life is like being born into a uh a room a mansion if you will that has a thousand rooms but you're born into one room and this one room is called daily human awareness and the only way you can get in is through concep and birth you're in and the only way you can get out we are taught is to die so we spend our lives in this mansion in one room even though there's 999 other rooms we don't know how to get out into those rooms unless we die so we wait to die and what his teacher told him is I can teach you how to get out of the room of daily awareness and into the other 999 rooms and if you stay with me and learn all that I have to give you I can teach you how to get out of the house alt together without having to die and what we have to do in order to get to that place where we can take the keys and unlock the self-imposed prisons or the prisons that we have given ourselves on the basis of what we have come to believe is our limitation ations what we can and can't do we have to let go of that and I call it rewriting our agreement with reality we literally have to make a a whole new contract with what it is that I perceive to be what is possible for me and in order to do that we have to shift out of the things that we have come to believe in and everything that you came to this program watching tonight that you believe in was handed to you You by someone else outside of you was handed to you by the experiences or testimony of someone in the past and because it comes from outside of you there is still an element of doubt and this element of Doubt isn't bad but it keeps you from reaching higher levels because what you think about is what expands and if you're thinking doubt then doubt is what expands William Blake said if the sun and moon should ever doubt they would immediately go out so how do we get past what we believe in or what has been handed to us and still honor it and be grateful for all of the teachers and all of the people who have come before us so what we have to learn to do is let go of that tribal Consciousness and shift to what I call a knowing now there's a big difference between what you believe and what you know everything that you know is something that you have made conscious contact with conscious contact so there's nobody out there watching there's nobody in this world who knows how to swim who learned it by somebody else telling them that you can swim or by watching Mark spits go through the water or by uh observing other people doing it you may remove some of the doubt but you will never know how to swim until you get in the water and Blub around a few times and then do it and then you'll have a knowing and that knowing is something that you'll never lose just like riding a bicycle or dancing the Macarena or making a a lemon mering pie or anything that you know how to do it's because you've made conscious contact and I'd like to suggest that there's a big difference between knowing about a divine presence knowing about a sacred awareness knowing about God and knowing god there's a big difference differ just like there's a big difference between knowing about the possibility of being able to heal myself of something that is bothering me perhaps a disease process I perhaps May believe that it's possible because I've read other people and I've heard others say it and I've read the testimony and I've listened to the tapes and I've gone to the seminars but until you have made conscious contact with it you'll never know it and I'd like to suggest there are there's a wonderful poem I'd like to share this poem with you it's uh written by a wonderful woman her name is Valerie Cox and she lives up in Seattle and she's written quite a bit of poetry this particular poem really speaks to me to the difference between what you know and what you believe in immerse yourself in this in these words a woman was waiting at an airport one night with several long hour hours before her flight she hunted for a book in the airport shop bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop she was engrossed in her book but happened to see that the man beside her as bold as could be grabbed a cookie or two from the bag between which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene she munched cookies and watched the clock as this gutsy Cookie Thief diminished her stock she was getting more irritated as the minute tick by thinking if I wasn't so nice I'd blacken his eye with each cookie she took he took one too and when only one was left she wondered what he'd do with a smile on his face and a nervous laugh he took the last cookie and broke it in half he offered her half as he ate the other she snatched it from him and thought Oh Brother this guy has some nerve and he's also Rude why he didn't even show any gratitude she had never known when she had been so G and sighed with relief when her flight was called she gathered her belongings and headed to the gate refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate she boarded the plane and sank in her seat then sought her book which was almost complete as she reached in her baggage she gasped with surprise there was her bag of cookies in front of her eyes I love that I love that if mine are here she moaned with despair then the others were his and he tried to share Too Late to Apologize she realized with grief that she was the rude one the ingrate the thief the Cookie Thief and all of us in some ways are cookie thieves I have eight beautiful children our youngest little girls eight years old one of the things that you do when you become enlightened and become a guru like me that'll be the day is when we place something that is important to know where it is we practice mindfulness so that we never misplace anything so obviously having reached this exalted level of awareness in my home with my eight children I never misplace anything so I place my keys right here in a certain spot but my little girl has this wonderful habit of taking my keys and hiding them on daddyy in the morning so that she can watch me flip out as I look for the keys and I'll say sage how many times has daddy told you don't hide my keys in the morning daddy you told me not to do it I don't hide your keys anymore come on where did you put my keys the last time they were in your dollhouse where did you put daddy you told me not to do it and then of course my 12-year-old daughter Serena loves to just assume this stance she's watching me raise my voice she'll say I wonder what all those people would think of Mr positive if they could see him right now get lots of reminders so I give up I say look when I come back out here I want those keys here and I go back and I get my clothes on and I reach in my back pocket and there are my keys right where I had left them the night before in my pocket and there's a fine line I think between being a guru and being a jerk all right and I probably crossed that line more times than I should be admitting here on television but this idea of being a Cookie Thief and creating a knowing a knowing is something I did a benefit uh along with my wife a couple of uh years ago with a man uh on Maui uh whose name is Michael Koff who had been uh injured uh in a uh in an accident he he's a quadriplegic or paraplegic and at that meeting when I was over there was was a a man who lived on another one of the islands who was known as a Kahuna A Healer an ancient healer from Polynesia and he was introduced to me and he said that was a nice talk and so on and I said um how do you get to be a Kahuna you know you take Kahuna 101 I mean uh what courses do you take what how does this work out and he said no he said kahunas are raised to have no doubt to have no doubt to have a knowing and he said when a when a knowing confronts a belief in a disease process The Knowing will always Triumph and that knowing is something in which you say you are healed and healing takes place one of the great stories of knowing is again with our little girl Sage who uh we were uh spending the summer uh in our summer home and we went to visit the this dermatologist and sage has had this thing called Flat warts for the last uh well since she was 2 and a half years years old from 2 and A2 until 7 which is over four years she had these flat warts and not only did she have them around her face around her uh mouth and around her nose but they were getting worse they were moving up and they were getting up around her eyes and so on and we notice that that they were getting progressively worse even though all of the places that we had taken her had said they will go away she'll outgrow them but it didn't seem to be that way and they always said it would be a few months well years had gone by and she still hadn't so we were over my my my friend's uh this dermatologist on uh in kii and he um I said uh Kenny as long as we're here would you mind taking a look at uh at Sage my wife was there and he took these big white light and he put it in her face and he said uh you've got flat warts she hates that term she never wanted to call them flat wart she calls them her bumps all right she just called them her bumps so um he said to her but the good news is that when you get married you won't have them well she's seven and a half going who's this dork you've got me talking to now and then he said to her something he said you know we can't burn them off and there's no medicine that we can give them but he did say something to the effect that the ability to rid yourself of these things is within yourself and that if you can call upon that healing capacity in you and begin to talk to these bumps in a way in which you ask them to believe that you have a much greater chance of getting rid of them faster than anything that I could give you and we certainly can't burn them off because we might Sky you're pretty face and that's basically the message that he gave us I'm paraphrasing it so we went back that night to where we were staying and there was a whole bunch of kids there as there always are when uh when we're say and all their friends were there and we walked into the bedroom and it was late at night and over in the corner in a uh on her air mattress was sage and she had the blankets pulled up over her head and she had a flag flashlight underneath the blankets and I went over and I lifted up the blanket I said honey is is everything all right she said sh I'm talking to my bumps and I left the room and I came into my wife were in the other bedroom I said honey you're not going to believe this but Sage is in there talking to her bumps isn't that great the next night we did the same thing that was the second night the third night the same thing now that was th on Friday this happened on Monday on Friday as God is my witness on television every single one of those bumps was gone and has never reappeared since un knowing you see there is a stream of healing that is something that we can plug into it's very much like electricity people say well in ancient Greece there was no electricity there was electricity we just didn't plug into it that's all and there's a stream of healing and when we go into that stream of healing with a knowing we go to a higher level within ourselves and we don't allow any doubt in basically in every single one of us every human being out there there are two of us there's two people the first person in each uh person is called the ego or I call it the ego e g o Earth guide only all right this is the part of us that says who I am is separate from you separate from God separate from my environment and therefore I'm in competition with and my value is based upon how much I get how much my stuff is worth how much better looking I might be or how much more uh attractive I might be how much more money I might have the value of my possessions and so on what is mine so it's not mystical awareness which says I am connected it is that individual lower level of awareness which says my ego this is mine also in each and every one of us there's another person and this other person is called what I call the sacred self or the higher self and this sacred or higher self really doesn't care how much you get it doesn't care who you're better than it doesn't care how much stuff you have it's not interested in any of that the problem is that we very seldom listen to it we pay very little attention to it this higher or sacred part of us wants only one thing it wants us to be at peace at peace whatever choice you make in every interaction you have make the choice to be at peace your sacred or higher self says whereas your ego says oh no no no no it's much more important to be right and so we find people in relationships struggling struggling a lot and one of the things that they struggle about is who's right and who's wrong most of the fights that you have in your relationships really basically when you often times you forget the details but it's basically about who's right and who's wrong so that if you want to have your higher or your sacred part of you ruling in your life I suggest this to you practice being kind rather than right when you have the choice and you have the choice in your relationships with your spouse and your ex-spouse with your parents with your grandparents with your in-laws with strangers on the freeway with flight attendants with Waiters with whomever you interact if you can just subdue this ego part of you which says it's important for me to be right which will introduce you to stress and anxiety and fear and so much of the stuff that I talked about earlier and instead say how can I suspend this part of me and allow the allow the part of me that wants to be at peace that wants to be happy that wants to be fulfill and if I said to you I'm going to give you a magic wand and with this magic wand I am going to allow you to just wave it and get anything that you want whatever you want you can have this you can have this car you can have this this the nice clothes over here you can have this home whatever it is or I said to you in lie of that I'm going to give you another wand and you can wave this and for every moment for the rest of your life you'll be at peace whatever comes along you'll be able to choose peace and basically we know that we're only here for a very short time and being able to choose peace which is what the sacred part of you begs you the higher self once you get that you begin to shift away and you stop telling yourself that the people who are close to me in relationship with me are the people who don't belong there I remember my wife and I we often talk about this and we we we've been together a long time we've had many children together and we have a very wonderful loving relationship thank you but we'd often and one time I said to her or she said to me you know we love each other but this doesn't sound like love it sometimes the way we talk to each other doesn't sound like love let's practice let's practice with each other being kind rather than being right and it was transformative that that when we had that walk that and doing that with your children and doing that with a waiter I mean a waiter who comes to you and is like you know hassled and razzled and has been busy and all of that and your ego says wait a minute I'm here and I'm important and I have a right to be served and I have a right to be served now that's the ego part of you if this if you can suspend that and say you know you are a lucky man tonight you got somebody who's dealing from his sacred self and I understand and you take your time and you come to me and you bring it at your convenience whenever you can I'm willing to I'm willing to suspend my you know what you'll get served so fast and with such gratitude just for being kind if you practice it every single one of us are in relationship whether it's with our husbands and wives with our ex-husbands and wives with our children our grandchildren whether it's with people we drive along the freeway next to whether it's with waiters and waitresses or baggage handlers or flight attendants or uh people that we are in line to get into the movie We're All in relationships and we interact with each other all the time and probably the best lesson that I've ever learned in my life about how to be in a relationship in a way which is powerful and happy and fulfilling is to remember this sentence when you have a choice and you always do to be right or to be kind start picking kind the ego part of us wants to be right how dare you not serve me as fast as I think I deserve to be served how dare you say something to me and immediately we want to make that other person wrong and make ourselves right but there's a part of each one of us that wants to be happy wants to be at peace and that part of us says it doesn't matter whether you're right it doesn't matter about your ego all you want is to be at peace so pick kind this kind of an attitude if we had more of this not only in our own personal lives would we improve virtually every relationship we have with all of the people closest to us and all of the strangers we interact with but on our planet as well we would begin to understand the wisdom that on a round Planet there's no choosing up sides that we're all one we're all breathing the same air we're all drinking the same water we're all being warmed by the same sun and as they say as the Native Americans used to say no tree has branches so foolish as to fight among themselves it applies in your relationships and it applies as a people as well well I've often said that in any relationship in which two people agree on everything one of them is unnecessary right so it isn't about getting somebody who's just like you in fact your soulmate is the person that you have a lot of difficulty with your soulmate's the person you can't get rid of they just keeps showing up you you you say this they say that and there they are they're back again and they never go away they keep showing up in your life and every everybody has these people these are our greatest teachers because anybody in your life who can push a button and send you into a frenzy is the person who's your greatest teacher you know why because they teach you that you haven't mastered yourself at this moment you don't know how to choose peace and of course in Miracles there's a wonderful line it says I can choose peace rather than this whatever it is I can choose peace my soulmate my wife is one of of my soulmates I mean she knows how to push those buttons she's really good at it and she's one of my greatest teachers I remember saying to her one time honey do you love me for who I am or for what I've been able to do for you I just want to she said that you call yourself a spiritual person I can't believe you would even ask a question like that she said I don't love you for what you can buy for me or what success that you've had or where you are on any bestseller list I love you for who you are and I will always love you I said well I was just asking I said what if I was just Joe sixpack you know and I was just bringing home you know a a meager salary and so she said I will always love you for who you are she said I would miss you but I would always love you she knows she's got that and all of us have soulmates my daughter Serena who's uh just turned 13 my teeny Boer she came home from school one day she said there's a rumor in our school she saw somebody had seen me on television that you actually wrote a book about how to raise children tell me it isn't [Laughter] true I said honey you can come and hear me speak would you like to come and hear me speak I said people actually pay to hear me speak she said why she's she's got that all right she's she's but her soulmate is her sister summer who is now almost 15 but when Serena was 12 and summer was 14 my wife was away working on a book of hers and I was taking care of everything at home while she was working on her book about a spiritual approach to child birth and infancy care and she's as qualified as anybody to write about that I can tell you and I was making breakfast I was making waffles for them in the morning at the toaster and uh she mixes all this stuff up it's a lot easier to just put them in and summer and ser was sitting at the back table in the kitchen and I heard summer say to Serena out of nowhere about 6:30 in the morning if you didn't have any feet would you wear shoes and I turned around I said where is this going and and Serena went that's ridiculous what do you mean if I didn't have any feet would I wear shoes she said of course not and summer said to her then why are you wearing that bra everybody's got a soulmate stormed out of the room it was all but it isn't the people who agree with us it isn't the people who tell us the right thing it isn't the people who always uh find us you know just perfectly smelling good and so on there is an element of understanding that everybody who shows up in our life has something to teach us many people have said to me that they have observed in my writing and in my teaching over the years that I have um changed I've evolved if you will that when I first wrote erroneous owns and pulling your own strings and books like this that I was really talking about something much different than I'm talking about today which is spirituality higher awareness higher Consciousness and it's true because one of the great teachers again in my life was kyl Jung and in Modern Man In Search of a soul he said that there are archetypes there are stages that we go through when we reach adulthood he said those stages work like this he said it starts out with the athlete when you reach adulthood and he called it the athlete not as a put down of athletes but as the time in our adult life when our primary emphasis is on our body what it can do how strong it is how fast it can run how much it can lift how beautiful it is and so on and we believe that we are a body if you will perhaps with a soul he said the second stage is what he called the stage of the warrior and this is the time in our adult life when we take ourselves out of our physical in uh self if you will and we take this body out into the world and we do what Warriors do which we attempt to conquer we attempt to defeat we attempt to get as much as we can it's the age of the ego it's the time when we're saying what are my quotas what's in it for me what can I get and we go through that stage and I believe that I was writing earlier in my life to teach people how to be better athletes and better Warriors because that's where I was in my life in those days and the shift has taken place for me as well Yung said that the Third third uh archetype is what he called the the uh archetype of the uh of the Statesman or the stateswoman and this is when we finally get to a place in our adult life when we stop saying what's in it for me how much can I get how much can I accumulate and we begin to ask the question how may I serve what are your quotas and serving others becomes much more important than our own egos until ultimately we reach what he called the stage of the spirit the archetype of the spirit when we finally begin to recognize that that this is not our home what it means in the Holy books when it says you are in this world but you are not of this world and these four stages represent also where we can look at our own self how am I doing going through these to what extent do I find myself consumed with my own quotas what's in it for me how much can I get and ask ourselves that question as we begin to interact and deal with other people being able to manifest being able to be attract into our lives what it is that we'd like to attract into our lives boils down to a formula that I'd like to share with you here this evening and this formula is one that everyone that I know who is able to get things into their life practices this I call it the four relies all right so that what you really really really really want you will get and these four really stand each of them stands for something and if you look at people who are good at some people call them lucky some people call them highly Spirit or whatever it might be but they are good at getting what they want in their lives and here are the four relies the first one says I wish so what you really wish for everything that you'd like to get into your life starts with a wish it's a thought I wish I could get that job I wish I could get that promotion I wish I could lose weight I wish I could get rid of that addiction that I have I wish I could whatever it's a wish so you have to start with a wish the second really stands for what you desire what you really wish and desire and the difference between what you wish for and desire is in what I call asking ask and you shall receive ask and you shall receive it's not empty words be willing to ask when I get stuck sometimes writing and I just not quite sure where to go or whatever I just leave the typewriter I leave the yellow pad that I'm writing on I walk over to the couch and I get into a meditation and I say I would like some help in having this become clearer as to how to express it and it's always there sometimes the phone will ring and my wife will call and she'll say did you know that this was in the mail and I'll say read it to me and it'll be exactly what I needed sometimes it just comes in the in the a thing that I call an Intuition or an Insight whatever it might be the third really stands for what I intend so now you shift away from what I wish for and ask for and you frame it in such a way that you intend to create it I intend to create this whatever it might be whether it's a healing whether it's a a losing of weight whether it's getting rid of an an addiction whether it's creating Prosperity I intend to create it and if you notice people who are good at manifesting they don't mince those kinds of words I will do it and someone say well what if it doesn't work out you say well then I'll just learn whatever I have to learn from it not working out but I intend to create this in my life there's an intention and the intention is so powerful that you become independent of the good opinion of other people you're not checking it out with the tribe you're not checking it out with what everybody else out there said you should do or shouldn't do you're saying to yourself I intend to create it and I often tell people don't tell anybody else about what you want to manifest don't make it a big statement instead keep it to yourself and they say why do you want to say that I say because the minute that you do you invoke ego and in quantum physics there's a simple line that says particles themselves are not responsible for their own creation another way of saying that is the way Way St Paul said it that which is seen he said hath not come from that which doth appear that is the source of everything over here it's not over here it's in this invisi and once you invoke ego you have to defend it you have to explain it you have to get the tribe involved in it and before long you've lost the capacity to manifest it's a spiritual journey inspiration in spirit when you're in inspired in spirit the fourth really stands for passion passion that is I am absolutely passionate about it and I intend to create it with that love one of the great books that one of my teachers sent to me from ancient India written like 3,000 years ago has a line in it that says to attempt to manifest what you want without passion is like dressing up a corpse so you take this corpse and you put a tuxedo on it and you dress it all up and you put all the makeup on it and you take it out into the world and you say now see what you can get for me but basically it's dead inside and if it's dead inside that is if it lacks passion if you lack passion you're not going to be able to attract it into your life so what you wish for ask for intend to create and have passion about you'll get you'll get it that's the good news the bad news is that what you really really really really don't want you will also get and this is one of the most difficult things for people to understand and when you're dealing with the tribe and you're dealing with what is and what what everybody else tells you is impossible and somebody might be watching this and say well that's just a lot of nonsense I mean you can't just put your attention on something think about it and have it come true it involves a whole lot of other stuff like that you see here's how it works you cannot attract thin from I hate being fat because if what you think about is what expands and what you're thinking about is hating being fat then hating being fat is what you will continue to manifest you act upon what you think about you cannot attract Prosperity from an inner Consciousness that says I I hate being poor I despise being poor because if you despise being poor if you're angry about being poor then being angry about being poor or despising it is what you will continue to act upon and you'll be able to say see now that's it gets worse you cannot manifest what you want if your attention is on what is if your attention is on what is and the circumstances of of your life that's where your thoughts are then you will continue to create what is into your life you've got to figure out a way to get your mental images your energy your attention your higher awareness off of what is and onto what you want and every time your thoughts are on what is you shifted to what do I want and it's even worse than that you cannot manifest what you want if your attention is on what always has been this is the way things are you'll hear people say it to you all the time these are the circumstances of life don't you understand this is reality wake up these are the way things have always been there's always been poor people you're one of them that's just the way it is and you watch that person and being poor continues to manifest into their life if you keep your attention on what always has been then what always has been is what you'll continue to manifest as you think so shall you be these aren't empty words folks this is reality and the worst and ugliest of all is this you cannot manifest what you want into your life no matter what it is if your attention is on what they want for you or what they expect for you or what they tell you are your limitations or what you can do because if your thoughts are on what they want you can cannot put your attention on what you want what they want will continue to manifest and you might be in a tribe that always turns left and all you want to do is make a right turn and you go to all the tribal elders and you say look I just want to make one right turn and they say wait a minute in our tribe we only turn left we've always turned left that's the way this tribe has always been and so they will have an emergency meeting and they will convene all of the elders to get you to come to your senses Jackson Brown has I think one of the great poets on our on our planet great singer he has a song called for a dancer in there there are words to this effect he says just do the steps that you've been shown by everyone you've ever known until the dance becomes your very own which is what most of us are doing we're doing the steps that we've been shown by everyone we've ever known and the dance has become our very own and later on in the song he says something to the effect of into a dancer you have grown from the seeds someone else has thrown go on ahead and throw some seeds of your own somewhere between the time you arrive and the time you go home and then the kicker it always gets to me when I listen to this song he said because in the end there is one dance you'll do alone and it's like letting go of this tendency to be a dancer to be doing the steps that we've been shown by everyone we've ever known and then it becomes our own and then we pass it on and we pass it on to break that chain we have to shift our attention off of what we don't want and onto what we do want and this goes for everything I was at a doing a book tour up in Chicago I get off the airplane and a woman picks me up and she's got a doozy of a cold like you know snoo as my kids call it coming out of her nose onto her dress I mean it was and I was in a in this little Honda with her for 2 days and she so I said to her something to the effect I can't remember what it was I I know she didn't like it but I said something to the effect of oh it's been 20 years since I've had a cold like that and she said oh that's just what I needed to hear it's people like you who go around telling us normal mortal human beings that when we have a cold we should be feeling guilty she said I don't appreciate that at all she said coals are just things that happen to us I said well I understand that I said but I just don't think like you she said well what do you think I said well tell me what you think you're the one with the cold she said well I think colds are viruses and that they're in the air and they're going to land on us every once in a while and when they do we shouldn't be feeling guilty about it and feeling bad about it and people you like you writing books about it to make us feel worse I said look we're on the same page here I said I believe just like you I think that colds are in the air and that they're viruses and that they land on us she said well how come you don't get a cold then I said because when they land on me I talk to them she said you talk to viruses I said of course she said well what do you say well I say to it look you've landed on the wrong immune system I'm not going to talk about you to anyone I'm not going to complain about you I'm not going to give you any attention and you no room to flourish on this immune system you're just not going to do your work here but there's a lady in Chicago who's waiting for you now you laugh and you think that that's silly but I'm telling you that when you keep your attention on what you don't want what you don't want is what will keep manifesting into your life addictions have been described as never getting enough of what you don't want or what you despise so we keep our attention on what we don't want and what we don't want is what we keep seeking after and then we despise it when we put our attention on what we do want when we shift to a place called unconditional love and begin to view it as something that I don't have to be dependent upon you can shift right out of it the currency for attracting what we want into our lives is our thoughts as you think so shall you be begin to place them on what it is that you want and you'll start seeing it shift over and over again and people who are terrific at getting what they want you start getting inside of their head and say what do you think like what how are you organized in here and you know what they always say I never ever allow my thoughts on anything that I don't want and no matter who out there is saying yes but you can't do this yes but you can't do that I never allow that kind of energy I don't I shift away from that energy instantly that's what separates Great masters from ordinary human awareness I have been talking during this program about a Consciousness an awareness a level of functioning or living or thinking which involves something that I call spirituality it doesn't it doesn't it isn't restricted in any religious way it is a Divine intelligence an organizing intelligence that is everywhere at once some people call it God some people call it Soul some call it Spirit back in the times of slavery there was a young man his name was John Newton he was 23 years old and he had what is called A in Japanese it's called excuse my Japanese but it's called Satori I'd love to say that Satori s a t o r i and it means instant Awakening the idea that you can create something in your life now in Zen they have a proverb that says when the student is ready the teachers will appear so it's just being ready and so you don't have to go through this long involved process to get to Enlightenment where you get it 5 minutes before you die instead you can have it when you are ready the Native Americans they have a word called nat in the alute Indians Nat and it means great seeing like I don't see I don't see I don't see and there it is I see and it's like it's like in a dream when you just have this Awakening this light goes off and you just know it's in intuition if you will intuition has been described as you know if prayer is you talking to God then intuition is God talking to you it's like hearing that voice and you know it and John Newton this 23-year-old sea captain had a a a ship full of uh human cargo that he was bringing from the west coast of Africa to the new world as slaves and he had this sator this Awakening and in this moment of Awakening he realized that what he was doing was horrible and defenseless in terms of his own inner sense of morality and he wrote down on the envelope the words to a song called he called it Grace I once was lost and now I'm found and it was Grace that taught my heart to feel it was grace that brought me home he shifted away from his material world and his his being a warrior to being a spiritual being in an instant which is available to every single one of us and he wrote These enduring lines and I have asked my beautiful 16-year-old daughter one of six beautiful daughters that I have her name is Sky and she's just 16 years of age and she really in my heart I've often said to my wife that that sky is just about one of the nicest human beings I've ever known the fact that she's my daughter I know may sound like it's Prejudice but this is a a person who comes every night and says I love you to not only my wife and to myself but all of her brothers and sisters who is kind beyond anything I could ever imagine and you know from the time that she was a baby just this High she always knew what she wanted she knew she didn't believe she knew I'm going to be a singer and I'd say well skot you know you've got to go to you got to study this you got she said no I'm going to be a singer and she would never hear of anything to the contrary and if we were walking through a mall and someone would say and she'd be 2 years old up up to my knees and then someone would say something to it she would just sing a song for them and she'll do it at any time she had that knowing she really really really really with passion has always known it and sings all the time and lightens up our house and my life and my wife's life in just the most magnificent of ways and I ask her if she would please come tonight and sing this song for this program to close it with as beautiful a rendition of of Amazing Grace and listen to the words it isn't just my pride in my little girl singing It's the message the message of finding yourself and reaching that higher level so ladies and gentlemen my beautiful daughter sky sky Dyer singing Amazing Grace [Music] Amazing Grace How Sweet the Sound let's sa a r like me [Music] I once was lost my love when found was blind but now I see was Grace that t my heart to feel and Grace my fears fre how preious to that Grace of PE [Music] the high first be through many Jers TOs and S I have [Music] was Grace that me save this one and gra shall lead me [Music] home amazing Gra How Sweet the Sound let save are R like me my once was lost was lost but I'm found what blind but [Music] now [Music] see I miss that I know you didn't that was beautiful my wife I once was lost and now I'm found the message of that song is the message of this program you get rid of the snares of your life you'll let go of all of the things that keep you from reaching that exalted level of spiritual awareness and you'll find yourself coming home and when I say coming home I mean returning to your Source not the ego which believes you're separate from it but your sacred highest self which knows God bless you and thank you for watching good thank you very much thank you [Music]