Lecture on Making Dazzling Conversations with Vanessa Van Edwards

Introduction

• Vanessa Van Edwards, author of Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101
• Discusses science behind having a good conversation

Key Points

Intention

• Set a clear intention before any conversation or event
  • Examples: networking, meeting new people, having fun, learning about someone
• Helps guide the conversation and avoid awkward pauses

Approach

• First impression starts when you see someone, not hear them
• Approach with open body language
  • Hands visible, shoulders down and back
  • Smile as your opening line

Opening Line

• Best opening line: simple greeting like "Hello, how are you?"
• Follow up with your name and continue the conversation naturally

Conversation Sparks

• Look for non-verbal cues like the eyebrow raise to find interesting topics
• Set intention to guide questions and find mutual interests
• Engage curiosity to make the conversation more lively

Ending a Conversation

• Use a "future mention" to shift focus from present to future
  • Example: "What are you doing this weekend?"
• End with a polite wrap-up based on the future mention

Making Others Feel Comfortable

• Use the "pivot out" body language to show openness
  • Angle your body and toes outwards to signal approachability
• Avoid being on your cell phone to look approachable
• Holding a drink can make you feel more comfortable
• Position yourself in high-traffic areas like near the bar or food

Conclusion

• Vanessa Van Edwards encourages to practice these techniques
• Suggestions for further learning: her books and videos on the subject