okay so good morning good afternoon or good evening kung kailan niyo man ito pa panoorin so we will be discussing abnormal development in Adler's perspective or Adler's theory okay so let's start so abnormal personality according kay Adler people develop abnormal personality when their social interest is underdeveloped so uh napag-usapan natin nung last time na yun nga yung parang ah kumbaga yardstick ni Adler regarding sa kanyang ah sa pag-define if the personality of a person is good or yung well-being is good so if hindi na develop on social interest therefore ah hindi magiging maganda yung development ng personality niya so usually people with abnormal abnormal personality they also set their goals too high too high is TOO, live in their own private world and have a rigid and dogmatic lifestyle so rigid and dogmatic is like they are not flexible they are too much on their ways that's what they do in our life our problems are not always diverse One strategy may be effective on one situation, but another strategy may be, that same strategy will not be effective on other situations. So if you have a rigid or dogmatic lifestyle, therefore, you are not well-adjusted. You are too rigid.
So people with those kinds of personality, who cannot adjust, have abnormal personality, according to Adler. So what are the external factors? affecting abnormal development. So first is exaggerated physical deficiencies.
So although as I've said we all have our physical deficiencies but if the feelings about it is exaggerated it can lead to maladjustment. So it means even if you don't have physical deficiency, you will automatically have an abnormal personality so it's again it's just a matter of subjective perception and it's also the same if you have guys if you have you have no physical deficiency but in your subjective mind you have you have deficiency they might engage a my body this morphic disorder well I know when said on something or come here on something that is a Conti long know can you remember the is a public veto better than subjective perception alays is a big blunder to their personality or their personality, they will have an abnormal personality. So again, it's all about subjective perception. So another factor would be the pampered style of life.
I briefly touched on this in our last discussion. Pampered people have weak social interests but a strong desire to perpetuate the pampered parasitic relationship they originally had. with one or both parents so um unfortunately there are so many students that have this kind of life and as i mentioned orientation natin yung parang gusto nila ang grades nila lagi is laging line of nine pero yung effort nila is or yung performance nila is nasa line of seven or line of eight and they are characterized by extreme discouragement indecisiveness over sensitivity impatience exaggerated emotions and especially anxiety so they see the world with private vision and believe that they are entitled to be first in everything so parang yung mga ano mga ano ba yung tawag sa mga karen dito sa Pilipinas So if the US has a Karen, what is the name of the Marites? The Marites of the Philippines, the ones who are in line at MacDo, you know who they are.
And all the ID's of the senior citizens that they have, they give them so they feel special. Anyway, not all senior citizens are like that but there are a lot. They feel like the world must serve them. They have no advantage, they just have an advantage to us. They have a better life.
I don't know why. Maybe because they force people to serve them. They're afraid or something like that.
So they expect other people to look after them. And that's bad because it's not every day that you can see a person willing to serve you. And of course, it has its limitations. When they encounter people who are playing with you like me, they will look for their partner.
So, a pampered style of life can produce or can lead to personality. abnormal personality development. On the same vein, neglected personality or neglected style of life, children who feel in love and unwanted are likely to borrow heavily from these feelings in creating a neglected lifestyle.
So, abused and mistreated children develop social interests and little social interests and tend to create neglected style of life. Because if once they were neglected, they feel like they didn't receive enough and therefore it will be their goal to receive more. They lacked there so they need more of that when they grow up.
So in a way, they are the same with the pampered style of life but generally they are more suspicious. Their vigilance is higher to the point of not trusting other people. So it can be dangerous. Of course, if he doesn't trust other people, therefore, he can also fool other people for his needs.
So those are the two styles of life that are considered as abnormal according to Adler. So there are many more styles of life but generally, these are the two most Adler focused on it. So, is there any in your book?
Let me see. Oh, there's none. But I know there's still some.
I think that's in the master's. So anyway, those are the two styles of life according to Adler that can be considered as abnormal. So next, Adler also has... This is called safeguarding tendencies.
This is the same with defense mechanism of Freud. That's just that they are conscious. So Adler believed that people create patterns of behavior to protect their exaggerated self-esteem against public disgrace.
Adler said that personal superiority complex, they have to protect that because they know that the society will not accept it. so that society will not accept it and they will do safeguarding tendencies. So too much use of this, of course, can lead to inauthenticity. You open a plastic, which makes the final goal less clear because you're not being honest with yourself.
So therefore, the final goal becomes more unconscious. So what are the examples of the safeguarding tendency? Number one is excuses. People, when they want...
to do something or they they are asked to do something they they always have excuses they might if only or you might yes but they might usually like you know gamit natin for example bag I own nothing I own a team of something even tau or I own nothing but take responsibility some opinions not in our momma stands not in sub so you know for example me nanny if I'm only more confident di mangyayari to if I'm only more confident nag naging member na ako ng ng grupo na to or if I only was in the right place in the right time in short swerte kung swerte lang sana ako well wala naman tayo I think all this unfair it's just that how you use your luck or on your unluckiness is where we have an advantage. Know your privileges, they say. So if I only did this and that, yes, I agree, but... These are the favorites of the families. So yes, I agree, but my mother, my father, my husband, my wife...
This is from high school. Some people are being mischievous. Yes, you can do it but my parents don't want it.
You don't want to be quiet, you just don't want to be mischievous. They don't want to take responsibility. But sometimes adults also do this if they want to avoid responsibilities. Because they don't want it. So this also happens when, for example, may kailangan kang gawin.
Actually, mas applicable to mga next example ko sa next. Safeguarding tendencies. Another safeguarding tendency is aggression. So Adler held that some people use aggression to safeguard their exaggerated superiority complex that is to protect their fragile self-esteem.
Ito yung sinasabi ngayon mga mayayabang they tend to be pikon. Mga minsan yung mga taong sobrang You think of who it is. And then when you say something that's like a joke, you say to the person who's being arrogant, you're arrogant.
He's like, who are you calling arrogant? You think of who it is. Erotic.
Anyway, so that's form of aggression. I remember when I was a kid, I said that. I said that he's not arrogant as an observation, as a matter of fact.
And then I was a little annoyed. I'm glad I was a kid when I was a kid. I run fast so that he won't fight me. I'm old, maybe I was in grade 3 then, maybe I'm done with high school.
That's how shameless I am. I'm just saying what I think. So, that's it.
Depreciation, that's one form of aggression. Tendency to undervalue other people's achievement and to overvalue one's own. These are our friends or the people we see that... I'm not asking them, but...
For example, you said you have an achievement and then you say, eh, that's not it anymore, I did better, this, this, this, that. It's like, who asked you, girl? So that's depreciation.
It's like, because they know that their achievement in life is not that good, it's like they just down another and then they overvalue them. So that they don't get hurt too much. Usually, other narcissists are like this.
Accusation tendency to undervalue other people's achievement and today but parang the same shot with long gamma Liata's a copy paste digna cool on one onion depreciation is the tendency to blame others a accusation I mean tendency to blame others of one's failure I bago hin nothing I should have checked first before recording. Tendency to blame others for one's failure. For one's failure.
Okay, so accusation, basically you're accusing other people. when you are failing. Nung high school, napakauso ng gantong type eh.
Yung leader nyo, kapag kunyari nagkamali kayo, parang hihiyaan nyo. Nagkamali yung presentation, parang lahat isisisi sa mga members. Pero yung nagkamali naman talaga yung leader.
So that's accusation. In general terms din, sa mga adults, nangyayari din to. For example, hindi ka naging successful sa buhay, sisisiin mo yung mga magulang mo, sisisiin mo yung...
boss mo, sisisiin mo yung mga kapatid mo. So that's accusation. Basically you're not owning your mistakes. You project it, you throw it out to other people.
And then meron din naman kabilag talagang accusation which is self-accusation. Some people use self-torture including masochism, depression, and suicide as a means of hurting people who are close to them. So self-accusation naman, it's If the accusation is out, the self-accusation is in the inside, but with the intention to hurt other people.
So, you know, the manipulative people that you believe will die or something like that. So, there are people like that. So, with self-accusation, people devalue themselves in order to inflict suffering on others while protecting their own magnified feelings of self-esteem.
So, it's like the dark of self-accusation. But there are some people who do this. If you know someone who do this, it's a red flag.
if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you should go away although of course it still depends on the case but it's hard to deal with especially if you don't know the person or you don't really care because there's an aggression if you do not know the cause, it's hard to anyway, so next withdrawal personality development can be halted when people run away from difficulties may have no mama iba of my problema in business magali timbus not a top model analysis no no hunting and along continue away long break not I know I know I know long I'll start I own hunting pagi hit up long soccer shift you know so moving backward tendency to end of course this withdrawal just like the other method of withdrawal is not effective. So tendency to safeguard one's fictional goal of superiority by psychologically reverting to a more secure period of life. Moving backward is like, instead of moving on in your life, you'll go back and be nostalgic of the past.
It's like you'll go back. This is what other elders always do. Our day, when people are getting old.
So that's moving backward. or in a personal way For example, instead of challenging yourself to upgrade since you've been working for a long time and then there's an opportunity that's a bit harder but there's a higher reward. And then, so that the person won't be hard, I'll just stay here.
I'll just go back to where I was. So that's a move. Actually, this example is standing still.
The one who doesn't want to move. The moving backward is accurate. actively going to the past, standing still is just stopping.
I'm okay here, I don't want to upgrade because I might lose. And then, of course, hesitating, a.k.a. procrastination. And this is one of, I think, the darkest part is constructing obstacles or handicapping, some people build a straw house to show that they can knock it down. by overcoming the obstacles. Ay, hindi pa pala ito, handicapping.
But walang handicapping dito sa book ninyo? Meron bang handicapping sa book? One strong. Ah, wala. Pero handicap is also one.
Now, with constructing obstacles, yung parang these people, in order for them to feel like they do not... In order for them to not feel the difficulty, they will create a problem that is imaginary or it's not true or if it is true, it's just a normal problem and then they will solve it. And upon solving it, they will feel like, ah, I'm good. Instead of solving the real problem, they will solve the problem of others.
For example, COVID. So, until now, there are still no vaccines in all. A lot of blunders have happened. So, what will other politicians do? They will look for another problem to solve.
So, that's a political perspective. In a personal sense, it also happens. And then, if they fail, they can always make an excuse.
And then next is the handicapping, I'm talking about handicapping but same with excuses, you put a handicap on yourself, like if you face a problem, it's the problem that you know you can't solve or it's impossible and then what you will do is you will enter a problem that is unsolvable and then you just handicap yourself, you make excuses like Ah, sobrang hirap kasi yan kaya hindi ko talaga masasolve. Eh, pinasok mo talaga yun knowingly you will not solve it. Talagang hindi mo sasolve.
So that's another form of safeguarding tendencies. So another concept na, so yun yung safeguarding tendencies, they're like defense mechanisms but more conscious. And next, yan na-mention natin ito nung first meeting natin, yung masculine protest. So in contrast with Freud, Adler believed that the psychic life of women is essentially the same as that of a man and that a male-dominated society is not natural but rather an artificial product of historical development so As Adler said, there is no difference between men and women in terms of their psychic life. So there is no difference.
It's just that our history is filled with male-dominated society, patriarchal, especially in the West. So it seems like men have the privilege to become more powerful than women. And when women become powerful, males are very insecure about it. it because you know uh like the protest you can call a lucky hand so again of classic development according K Adler so this is in contrast with Freud as I've been a Freud you know women are just envious about penis or something like that so according to Adler cultural and social social practices not anatomy influenced many men and women to over emphasize the importance of being manly a condition he called masculine protest so I'll Alfred Adler like powerful women in fact the one she married is a feminist very very powerful eventually they also divorced but Adler said that's okay because I married a strong woman so Adler is fond of strong women and I must agree with him women are strong especially psychologically strong than males because males are dumb Males are dumb in an emotional way.
Men do not know their emotions. They cannot feel or they cannot decide or they cannot label their emotions. Therefore, they cannot express it. And therefore, they are not expressing it, making it more unconscious.
And because it is unconscious, it will cause problems. Meanwhile, females are very vocal about it. so they are more likely to become psychologically healthy.
The advantage of men is that our bodies are strong. That's all. But in terms of psychic life, I think women have a more complicated psychic life than males. So I disagree with Adler.
I disagree with Adler that essentially the same thing is the case with men and women. No, women are more powerful than men in terms of their psychic life. Sorry, men. Okay, so application part, this is usually the favorite of students about Adler, the family constellation.
Because here, it's more related to many. So, although people's perception of the situation into which they were born is more important than numerical rank, Adler did form general hypothesis about birth order. So, these are the traits according to Adler. of the oldest child, second child, youngest, and only child.
So, these traits are built according to Adler based on the treatment of parents and of course, the subjective perception of the children. And this family constellation actually starts when the firstborn is born. You watched the video I made. The way that the parents are hands-on on different phases of their family planning or family making affects the way they give attention, they give care to the children.
And therefore, the interpretation of the children is very unique in their own way, every birth order. So for example, for the oldest child, because they are the first children, Most likely parents are very excited and they're very excited. They give their all. Talagang maingat, talagang lahat, pinag-iisipan, lahat inaano, lahat parang pinakikibaran, parang ganun, inkapampangan. So, yun yung parang tendency nila.
And dahil yung bata is laging kasama yung mga parents during that time, usually yung mga values ng parents is nalilipat talaga. It's like a carbon copy of my parents' phone. yung first child nila.
And then sa mga second child naman, yung mga middle child usually, dahil sila na yung pangalawa, parang medyo alam na ng mga magulang kung ano yung gagawin tsaka hindi gagawin. So parang medyo hindi na ganun ka hands-on or hindi na ganun ka dami yung time na binibigay nila dun sa middle child. So therefore, parang nagkakaroon ng you know, feelings of neglect or something like that and then with the youngest child naman magbabalik yung excitedness kasi nga last child na lang so parang bibigig lahat although not that There are some differences between the firstborns because they also have their knowledge and wisdom in taking care of the children. So that's on the parent's side. So there's nothing on the sibling's side.
So on the sibling's side, their subjective perceptions will also vary depending on how their dynamics will be. So for example, older children. because they are the first, usually they are more confident, they are more bossy. Usually they are the ones who don't work or are lazy because they can only command their siblings. And then for the middle child, we will start with the last child, the youngest, because they are the youngest, so they are like the baby of all.
baby ng mga parents baby din ng mga siblings so they are more likely to have a pampered style of life but uh they they can excel on everything they want to do usually naa-adopt nila lahat ng mga traits ng mga ng mga parents as well as the siblings because sila yung mga nag-raise parents and the siblings so they they tend to have a more uh more more diverse uh interest compared to other siblings. And then the middle child, usually they are the reconcilers. Because when the oldest child and the youngest child usually fight, usually the middle child will be the one. And usually, the work is always handed over to the middle child because the oldest will be in charge, that was a poppockety Middle, middle will go to the youngest, the youngest will not notice since he or she can get away with it. And in the end, the middle child will still work for the people who are making it.
So usually, what happens is that the second child, they tend to become more independent because they can do things on their own. They are also highly competitive because they are competing with the oldest, they are also competing somehow with the youngest. but it's not not really competition. They felt neglected so they have the tendency to show off. Those subjective perceptions of course varies from person to person, from families to families, depending on their circumstances and of course their heredity.
So as Adler said, these traits are possible traits. He didn't say much about only child, only that he said basically only child can either become an oldest child or the youngest child. In other words, he's the same as the oldest or youngest. There's no in-between. Okay?
So, they're a bit at odds with the middle child. In other words, when the only child meets the second child or middle children, they tend to have interesting dynamics. with their traits. So this, just read it, you already know these.
Oldest child, they tend to be the leader type, good organizer, they're sure of themselves, so therefore they're always right, and others are always wrong, highly critical, and cooperative. So the second child, she has more positive traits. Because Adler is a middle child. And actually, me, myself, is a middle child.
I'm not the second, but I... I am also the second child. So, we are four, the eldest and then I have a sister who is a special on the specials population. And she has a high D, intellectual disability.
So, I'm basically the second child and then I have the youngest. So, highly motivated as you can see. Cooperative, no, somehow moderately competitive. Highly competitive, yeah, somehow.
Especially before. And easily discouraged. Yeah, I don't know.
I'm not. So yeah. And the second child is very independent.
Youngest child, realistic and ambitious, pampered style of life, wants to excel in everything. So these are some traits. But again, these are not 100%.
And they even did the research about this. There are papers about this. this and uh and wala sila nagiging itong connection because obviously sabi nga ni Adler it's not one to one. Gumbaga hindi porkay middle child ka eh o automatic independent ka.
Most likely lang pero hindi automatic. Depende pa rin yan sa magiging subjective perception. After all Adler's psycho Adler's psychology or individual psychology is focused on the subjective feelings and interpretation of the people. about their environment and then of course early recollections then so early collections as mentioned personality is consistent and usually this consistency goes to uh to take advantage of this consistency ask for the client or the patient or the person's early recollection and you will have an idea on his or her style of life or even the personality as a whole so because So these early recollections, it's not about if it is valid, if these memories really happened, but it's the memory that they chose to remember despite everything that happened to them because it holds something, it holds meaning.
It has meaning for that person. So if you ask what your earliest memory is, you will see that the theme ng earliest memory niyo is fitting on your final goal or in your style of life. So for example, me, I have an early recollection of dissecting a cocoon, of a caterpillar, because I'm curious about what's its contents. Ayan, ginawa ko yun. And then I also have this memory of crossing a road.
So then sa dati kong school, and I have memories of thinking about the consciousness of other people, what will happen if my consciousness will be transferred to other people's consciousness, will I be the same or will I be that person? I was thinking about, siguro kinder yata, prep, di ko alam. And so on. And also, those earlier memories can help you choose your career. Sabi nga nila, if you want to know your career, look back on your childhood, ano yung mga ginagawa nyo na nage-enjoy kayo.
Kasi usually yung mga yun, yun yung mga memories na pinili nyo dahil sila yung mas consistent sa personality ninyo. So yun, kung yung early memory nyo is related sa psych or humanities, good. Pag yung early memory nyo is related sa mga machines and all, ayun, mag-ship na kayo.
So early childhood and mental health related issues. So, early childhood, usually, there are early childhood health-related issues like asthma. When they're young, they tend to collect that more often and therefore, it affects their life.
For example, the kind of people in high school that do not really participate on PE. That's why when they participate, it's like, just go there, you'll be sad. What happens is, you play volleyball, and when you play volleyball, they'll just look at the ball. and then they will be affected as they grow up.
So, those kinds of people, just ask your classmates, especially those who are not good at sports. Usually, they have some kind of health-related issues when they were children. So that's why they were they were not able to explore their athletic side if they have athletic side so we will again in our early memories or early recollections really uh is a tool to help you or the therapist to know more about the style of life of the person uh next psychotherapy psychotherapy it's obvious if abnormal development So for the psychotherapy of individual psychology, teach your client to have social interest.
So through the use of humor, warmth, Adler tried to increase the patient's courage, self-esteem, and social interest. Especially self-esteem. Because self-esteem affects the way you look at things, especially yourself.
So if you see yourself as worthless, of course, that will really manifest. on everything that you do. So in psychotherapy of Adler, parang pinapatas din yung self-esteem. So that yung mga bagay-bagay, magbabago yung paningin natin sa mga bagay-bagay, especially about sa sarili natin.
So although Adler was quite active in setting the goal and direction of the psychotherapy, he maintained a friendly and permissive attitude toward the As I've mentioned in the video, mas friendly siya. sa therapy compared kay Freud na. Very confrontative, analytical, and distant sa psychotherapy niya. So, Critique of Adler, usefulness of a theory.
It generates a lot of research. It organizes a lot of data, especially how subjective perception really affects people. It also guides action.
psychotherapy yeah I can't decide effective shot and until now Actually, I also use Adlerian techniques in assessing people whenever I interview them. Internal consistency is a bit clunky because if you notice, if you notice that when I'm discussing Adler, his arguments are a bit circular. It's not that consistent. What is your final goal? It depends on your subjective perception.
But your subjective perception will also depend on your final goal, etc. It's internal. I mean, it's cyclical.
And it's a bit fallacy in logic. It's a circular argument. The chicken and egg problem is always happening.
So it's a bit clunky there. Definitions are not also precise. Creative power for example is... What is creative power?
Is it willpower? You can equate it with many things. Willpower, hope, control. It's very vague. So, that's it.
Somewhat parsimonious but not that parsimonious for me. The book said that it's above, average with parsimony but for me, it's not parsimonious. I think I understand more when Adler, who was my master's student, said that I'm a fast person. So, I don't know if it's true.
Although, I don't know. Maybe my teacher is also guilty because he focused on Freud. Adler is not that smart. So, there. In terms of concept of humanity, it's very opposite with Freud.
So, Adler believed that people have free will despite having determined genes and biology. Teleological, low on causality. Okay, so teleological meaning more on future-oriented. And he's not too concerned with the past. Actually, he's present and future-oriented if you look at it.
moderate unconscious lang moderate lang yung influence ng unconscious parang side note nga lang siya tapos optimistic din compared kay freud and of course social factors is more ano maga maraming maraming influence ng social factors kesa sa biology and of course unique ang perspective niya sa mga tao kasi yun nga subjective perception diba obviously so it's very different with freud very opposite pole sila Good bye. Actually, there are three of them. There are three of them. Good things come in three. Trinity.
If Marvel has Iron Man, Captain America, and Thor, Psychoanalysis or Psychodynamic Perspective has Freud, Adler, and Jung. So, Freud is very objective, very analytical. the Adler is very subjective, and Yong is in the middle. So we'll talk about him next week.
So that's Adler. It's very refreshing compared to Freud. It's more relatable. You won't be like, hmmm, you won't be like that.
You'll be like, oh yeah, you'll be like that. It makes more sense to many people. But that doesn't mean to say that Freud is useless. I'm just saying that masyado yung iba. Masyado kasing harsh yung tigat ni Freud.
And this Adler, yung kay Adler masyadong sweet. Kung baka. So that's how.
Yung kay ano naman, yung kay Jung yan, mapapa, ha? Ganon ka. Kasi weird yung kay Jung.
Okay? So that's it. Thank you for listening.
Pasensya na din sa maabang downtime. Skip nyo na lang. Mabilis lang naman. okay so thank you for listening have a good day bye