How to Stop Attracting Wrong Relationships

Introduction

• Message focused on single people and those not married.
• Everyone can benefit from understanding how to avoid wrong relationships.
• Satan can distract us through relationships.
• Author's book "Single Ready to Mingle" is available for free download.

Key Concepts

Satan's Distraction through Relationships

• Satan sends wrong people to distract us.
• Distractions can defeat us spiritually.
• Important to discern between God's blessings and Satan's bait.

Low Self-Image and Unhealthy Relationships

• Low self-esteem attracts unhealthy relationships.
• Like bleeding attracts sharks, insecurities attract exploiters.
• Relationships shouldn't be used as a cure for personal issues.

Importance of Identity

• Identity issues can lead to poor relationship choices.
• Importance of having a positive self-image.
• Avoid seeking a "Messiah" in a partner.

Strategies to Avoid Wrong Relationships

Pay Attention to Red Flags

• Notice early warning signs.
• Biggest red flag: if the person is not "in the Lord."
• Shouldn't have to pray for a partner to change before marriage.

Set Up Healthy Boundaries

• Maintain standards and boundaries.
• Healthy boundaries should be respected by partners.
• Avoid co-signing or merging finances before marriage.

Heal from Past Hurts

• Essential to heal from past relationships and traumas.
• Do not carry baggage into new relationships.
• Get over your ex before moving to the next.

Avoid Desperation and Loneliness

• Desperation can blur discernment.
• Trust in God’s timing.

Learn to Say No

• Say no when lacking peace about a relationship.
• Don’t proceed if you’re doubtful.

Lean on Wise Counsel

• Listen to advisors who might disagree with you.
• Acknowledging blind spots is crucial.

Preserve Personal Growth

• Do not lose yourself in pursuit of someone else.
• Healthy relationships should complement, not cancel, personal growth.

Conclusion

• Maintain trust in God’s timing for relationships.
• Aim to be whole in personal identity before entering a relationship.
• Relationships should be rooted in spiritual health and mutual respect.