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I made this one just for you. Okay, so these are the five reasons why women prefer nonchalant men over alpha attitudes. I'm so tired and so lazy today. I'm not even going to talk about my community headman nation.
I'm not even going to mention the language of women. I'm not even going to mention that we crossed over 1800 members. I'm not going to say any of that today because I'm operating off sheer willpower. I don't want to.
I don't feel the need to talk about it today. These are the five reasons why women prefer nonchalant men over an alpha attitude. So number one, okay, this is what you have to know because I've tested all of this.
I've tested on dates what type of game works really well and sticks, what type of things come off as try hard, what type of things come off as over qualifying. This is what I found to be true. And I go on. a lot of dates every single week. Okay, and I've been doing this now for years testing this stuff.
So these are the five reasons why women prefer nonchalant men over an alpha attitude. Number one, first and foremost, here's what I have found to be true. When you're nonchalant, his low effort attitude is a turn on and it signals high SMV. It literally signals that you have high dating value.
Okay, this is what it signals. high smv so let me give you a few examples here if you're a guy and your whole attitude is you know i'm very assertive and i have this temperament about me that is you know very masculine and whatever i say goes and i'm the leader and this is me and yes yes i'm the one with all the answers okay what you're going to find is guys with a more assertive attitude subconsciously it screams effort like the woman starts to look at you and she goes look at all this effort that this man is putting in okay so what i have found to be true when dating women or when interacting with women on dates is all forms of effort with women tends to be anti-seductive any and all forms of effort means that you have to try anytime you have to try you what you're subconsciously signaling or subconsciously sub communicating is, hey, me myself as I am right here in front of you, I am not enough. And women don't like that.
They're going to think that you're insecure. So what I would recommend doing is make everything seem and appear effortless. So to tie into point number one here, when I tell you low effort attitude is a turn on and signals high SMV, what you're going to find is low effort.
subconsciously communicates that, hey, I was just born this way. Life is good to me. Life is effortless for me. And now you satisfy hypergamy, because you look like you can satisfy good survival traits.
If she looks at you, and she's like, wow, this guy doesn't have a care in the world. This guy appears like everything is easy for him. This guy appears like his whole life and lifestyle is effortless.
This is a good man to be with, due to the fact that things seem easy for him. So he must be highly skilled. This is what I have came to terms with.
This has been my own conclusion after testing these things day in and day out. And this is me after you know, going on hundreds of dates and testing all of these concepts over the years. So that's number one. Okay. Now number two, okay, this is the second reason why women typically prefer a nonchalant man who is not putting in a lot of effort.
What you're going to find is women are sensitive to vocal tone and prefer to feel zero negative emotion unless they are the ones facilitating the reason why it's happening. I know that that was long winded. So listen to me one more time.
Let me say this one more time. Women are sensitive to vocal tone. Okay, so we understand this, right? The way your vocal tone is, a lot of times will dictate a certain type of feeling.
Anything that is very brash or harsh can create negative emotion. So what I have found to be true is women are sensitive to vocal tone and prefer to feel zero negative emotion. negative emotion unless they are the ones facilitating the reason why it's happening.
They're facilitating the reason in their own mind to give them a reason why this negative emotion is happening. Let me give you an example. Instead of being brash or harsh, we understand and we know or we have all heard the saying that women like to feel a wide variety of emotions. Women like to feel an emotional roller coaster of ups and downs, highs and lows, good emotion. And then sometimes emotion that's not so good.
So you might be sitting there wondering, well, how do I do that? If women prefer to feel no negative emotion? Okay, think about this with me. They prefer to feel zero negative emotion unless they are the ones facilitating the reason why it's happening. So let me give you an example.
If she feels negative emotion, because maybe he's distant, okay, or maybe he hasn't called her or texted her a lot. That's going to create some space and some distance. Now her negative emotion that she's feeling at that moment works in his favor. So it needs to come from your absence, you not being with her and you creating space, distance and separation to make her miss you. So she continues to want to see you.
So here's what you're going to find any kind of harsh tone. Okay. Or like, let's say you have to micromanage everything you're controlling in every single circumstance where you you feel like everything has to be just micromanaged, that type of attitude will make her feel like you have low dating value. It will make her feel like things are not very effortless for you. And then she's going to just not want you.
Okay. And I wish that there was more explanation for it, but this is just what you're going to find is like women are sensitive to that vocal tone. Okay. So anytime you have that, that harsh tone to you, okay. The problem is that a lot of times.
Since she is not the one in her mind facilitating that emotion for herself, that's coming from your absence, it's going to start to turn her off. Now, this is the third thing that I've noticed. This is the third biggest reason why women prefer nonchalant men. Nonchalant men are present in the moment because they are not trying to build anything with her in that relationship and they are not trying to future pace anything with her.
When I say future pace, what that means is Men who act nonchalant and present in the moment like they don't care, they're never trying to look towards the future. Oh, you know, next week we should go to this restaurant. Next weekend after that we should go to, you know, this concert.
All of those things. What you're going to notice is when you stop doing stuff like that, women will start to do those things to you on the date. She'll say, oh, would you like to try this restaurant sometime in this city? Oh, would you like to try, you know, this type of food? I know a great spot we can get drinks over here, you're going to start to hear all those things because you're no longer the one trying to future pace a relationship.
You're sitting there present in the moment. And since you're just enjoying that short time that you guys have together, or that small time that you guys have together now she actually wants to keep seeing you. So nonchalant men are present in the moment because they aren't trying to build anything with her or future pace a relationship with her. And when you do this, This is what I hear all the time.
As I started to do this and adapt these mindset principles on my dates, I now hear all the time, oh, you're so good at communicating. Oh my gosh, I finally found a man who can communicate. You're so honest with how you feel.
And it's because I'm keeping everything surface level and just fun in the moment. So, you know, you hear women a lot of times will say things like, oh, you know, men can't communicate. They never know what to say or. everything's always awkward, you're going to hear these things. When you adapt these principles, and you're right there in the moment, especially if you feel okay to speak your mind, you're going to hear this all the time.
Oh, you're so good at communicating. Oh, I finally found an honest man who just communicates what he's saying. You're going to hear all these things.
I hear it all the time. And I know that this stuff works because I test this every single week. Okay, that's number three. Now number four, a nonchalant man truly becomes her escape. from the logic of the real world.
So you have to remember that it doesn't matter how old a woman is. It doesn't matter. She's 21. It doesn't matter.
She's 41. It doesn't matter. She's 51, 61, 71. I don't care. Nobody wants to deal with the logic of the real world.
Oh, you know, every 30 days this bill is due. Oh, you know, I got to do my car maintenance at this time over here at this tire shop. Oh, you know, my insurance bill is due this day.
You know, now my cell phone bill. Oh, I got to go to Uh, you know, this work event, oh, my boss wants to have a meeting with me at the office next Tuesday, all this logic. Okay.
When you're a non- and you move with an effortless flow to you, that man becomes her escape from the logic of the real world. She can go on a hike with you. She can go to a movie theater with you and wherever it is, right? Or she can just be watching TV with you right at your house.
You are her escape from the reality of the logical world that she has to live in due to the fact that we all have bills. work and career obligations. And we all obviously have certain type of family obligations that we have to stick to. Well, because of that life gets stressful. When you are nonchalant, you are completely her escape for that one to two hours that you guys have together.
And that emotional escape in her mind, she starts to crave that. That is the fourth reason why you have to practice this and number five, nonchalant men have literally zero sense of time. So this is what I try to do when I'm with a woman on a date is I try to basically imagine that time doesn't exist.
And that man has zero sense of time. You see, when a woman is with a guy who has an alpha attitude, time is everything. Oh, I got 30 minutes and I got this meeting.
Oh, you know, I got this bill coming up, I got to pay this. Oh, I got to go do this. I got to go do this. And he's always micromanaging.
His mind is constantly almost in the office or his mind is almost always like, on that next task. And he's never there present in the moment. So a nonchalant man has no sense of time.
He's just chilling, completely chill, whatever happens minute for minute, hour for hour, that's fine. And the day just goes on. And that right there, once again, it ties back to point number four, he becomes her escape.
Stop thinking about how long you are spending doing things, especially when you're on that date, you sit there right in that moment, and you let the vibe dictate everything you let that vibe dictate the pace of the conversation. everything, you start to feel effortless. When you're on these dates, these women will say, Oh, you're such a good communicator. I feel so safe when I'm around you.
I feel like I finally met a man who understands me. I finally feel like I met a man who knows how to talk to me, you're going to hear all these things. And they will initiate a lot of the kissing, they will initiate a lot of the cuddling, you're going to notice they just snuggle right up to you. So that's what I'm trying to teach you how to do on this channel is I'm trying to teach you how to be a man. that doesn't have to put in a lot of effort because you're operating from a different skill set that you once did not have.
So what I just described to you this nonchalant, amazing attitude, I go even deeper into this when it comes to front end game and middle game. Okay, this is inside of the language of women. This is inside of our community front end game is how to act when you first meet the woman.
Middle game is how to act on the first one to three dates. If you think that This is starting to make sense with these five points. I advise you to see just how far I take it inside of my members community. I advise you to see just how deep I take these concepts when I'm actually showing you my step-by-step process that I use myself on every single date that I go on because I laid out everything for you A through Z.
Step one, do this. Now do this. Now do this.
Now do this. Now do this. Now do this. And I created sequences. Front-end game, middle game.
and back end game. And that whole sequence I call the language of women. This is why I'm telling you as a man, you have to learn, understand and master the language of women.
Because of that, because I know how amazing this process is. And because I know exactly how much this can impact your dating life. Join us inside of that. You'll love it.