Lecture Notes: Why People Fail at New Year's Resolutions & How to Succeed

Introduction

• Focus: 10 reasons why people self-sabotage New Year's resolutions.
• Format: Each reason paired with actionable advice.
• Resources: Second YouTube channel, podcast "Self Obsessed," and sponsorship by Squarespace.

Reason 1: Overwhelming Goals

• Goals are too large and seem unachievable.
• Solution: Break down large goals into smaller, trackable steps.
  • Example: For a job promotion, set smaller monthly goals (networking, skill development).

Reason 2: Perfectionism

• Fear of failure prevents progress.
• Solution: Embrace failure and view it as progress.
  • Successful people have more failures than successes.

Reason 3: Not Wiping the Slate Clean

• Need for personal growth and mindset change.
• Solution: Reflect on self-sabotage, triggers, and distractions.
  • Change mindset, environment, and social circle to align with goals.

Reason 4: Lack of Purpose

• Goals lack a deeper 'why'.
• Solution: Define a meaningful purpose behind goals.
  • Example: Wanting to help family, achieve financial freedom, or support causes.

Reason 5: Waiting for the Right Time

• Perfectionism leads to procrastination.
• Solution: Start immediately with available resources.
  • Example: Use Squarespace to start a business or side hustle.

Reason 6: Poor Habit Forming Strategy

• Lack of routine makes habits hard to stick.
• Solution: Establish a routine with triggers and rewards.
  • Example: Set a bedtime routine and reward system.

Reason 7: Ignoring Manifestation

• Overemphasis on hard work without visualization.
• Solution: Pair work with visualization and manifestation (e.g., lucky girl syndrome).

Reason 8: Not Allowing Breaks

• Lack of flexibility in routines.
• Solution: Have a 'backup day' to catch up or rest.
  • Example: Use Sunday as a backup/reward day.

Reason 9: Focusing on the Year, Not the Day

• Overwhelm from long-term goals.
• Solution: Focus on daily progress and micro steps.

Reason 10: Lack of Reflection and Pivoting

• Sticking rigidly to plans without adaptation.
• Solution: Reflect regularly, document progress, and adapt.
  • Use journals or voice memos to track and learn from experiences.

Conclusion

• Encouragement to stay focused on goals and growth.
• Invitation to share thoughts and favorites from the list.