Have you recently moved in with your spouse? If so, congratulations! That's so exciting! But- one thing that you may not be prepared for is the impact that moving in together can have on your sex life A lot of couples will report that after moving in together, sex either slows down it stops, or it becomes mediocre and boring But- not to worry, in today's video I'm going to give you 6 tips to make sure your sex life survives moving in together My first tip for making sure that your sex life survives moving in together is to ARRANGE FOR REGULAR CHECK INS At least once a week, meet as a couple and talk about how things are going, if there is anything that's bothering you if there is anything that you are needing that you're not getting Don't let stress and resentment build up Because what we know is that when there is stress and conflict within the couple, it affects your sex life Which translates into- LESS SEX My second tip for making sure that your sex life survives moving in together is to PLAN TIME FOR SEX A lot of people hate the idea of this because they think that sex should be spontaneous The reality is, once you move in together you start to take each other for granted. You see each other every day so it's so easy to brush sex aside because you assume that you can do it later, or tomorrow you could do it next week But, before you know it, it's been days, weeks or even MONTHS since you last had sex At the start of each week, choose at least one night that's just for the two of you You don't even have to have sex but at least you know that that time is protected in case you do want to. For those of you who hate the idea of scheduled sex, Let's face it- scheduled sex is better than no sex at all Am I right? My third tip for making sure that your sex life survives moving in together is to CREATE SEXUAL CHALLENGES Before you and your significant other moved in together, you probably didn't see each other every day Which meant that when you saw each other, you had to rush to have sex before the roommates came home, before your parents came home, before one of you had to leave So there was more excitement and anticipation Sometimes when we move in with our significant others that excitement, that urgency, can disappear In creating sexual challenges, things like having a quickie before one of you goes to work or having a set amount of hours where it's "hands off" Things like that can generate that excitement that urgency, that rush that can fuel your sex life My fourth tip for making sure your sex life survives moving in together is to SPEND TIME AWAY FROM EACH OTHER In all relationships, it's so important to maintain an identity as an "I" in addition to the identity as a "we" In doing so, when you're spending time apart, it enables you to miss each other which can create that excitement that anticipation, that can fuel your sex life In spending time apart, it makes the time that you have together more valuable and more sexually charged My fifth tip for making sure that your sex life survives moving in together is to MAKE AN EFFORT TO LOOK GOOD ONCE IN A WHILE A lot of people don't realize that there is a lot of prep work that goes in to having sex You want to shower, you want to shave, you want to do your hair, you want to do your makeup, put on nice clothes Before you moved in together, most of that prep work was done on your own Now that you're living together it's hard to be ready for sex all the time Let's face it- who doesn't love to wear sweatpants everyday? But, if you don't want it to affect your sex life Make sure that at least once in a while, you're making the effort to look good and finally, my sixth tip for making sure that your sex life survives moving in together is to have designated NO SCREEN TIME We live in a day and age of technology where everyone is on their phones, their laptop, their TV When you're doing that you're really taking away the chance for the two of you to connect and ultimately have sex Even if you're in the same room, If you're on a screen you're really not able to connect with each other So make sure that you have designated time where you can't be on your phone, your laptop, or have the TV going So you can just connect with each other and even have sex If you liked this video don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel for more videos coming soon! Follow me on Twitter: @KaseyLafferty On Instagram: KaseyLafferty on Facebook: KL Therapy or go to my website www.KLTherapy.com for more information and to book an appointment with me Until next time!