Lecture on Routines and Neurodivergence

Introduction

• Speaker's conflicted relationship with routines.
• Influence of online creators showing perfect routines.
• Struggle with maintaining these routines.
• Personal challenges: Depression, anxiety, ADHD, and autism.

Realization and Change

• Traditional routines don't work for everyone, especially neurodivergent people.
• Speaker's self-research on ADHD and routines.
• Development of a new method, the "Honeyman Method".

The Honeyman Method

• Designed for Neurodivergent individuals with varying energy levels.
• Three types of routines:
  • Ideal Routine: For high-energy days.
  • Most Likely Routine: For average days.
  • Minimum Routine: For low-energy days.

Detailed Breakdown

1. Ideal Routine

   • High-energy days plan.
   • Activities: Bathroom tasks, 45-60 minute dog walk, nutritious breakfast, hair and makeup, journaling, to-do list, emails.
   • Acknowledgment that these days are rare.

2. Most Likely Routine

   • Adjusted for average energy days.
   • Shorter dog walk (20-30 minutes), simpler breakfast (e.g., avocado toast), less detailed grooming and planning, skipping emails/journaling if necessary.

3. Minimum Routine

   • For low-energy days.
   • Simplified tasks: Basic bathroom tasks, minimum dog walk or just letting dog in backyard, quick/easy breakfast (e.g., cereal), minimal grooming or staying in pajamas.
   • Acceptance and normalization of low-energy days.

Implementation and Customization

• Encouragement to customize routines: Start with ideal, then adjust to most likely and minimum versions.
• Minimum routine focus: Ensure some form of self-fuel (e.g., breakfast).
• Example: Clients with severe low energy might only aim to eat breakfast as a minimum routine.

Conclusion

• Emphasis on the flexibility and adaptability of routines for neurodivergence.
• Benefits: Feeling of structure (autism) and flexibility (ADHD).
• Invitation for feedback and questions from the audience.