Overview
This lesson focuses on the concept of submission, especially within the context of marriage and Hebrew scripture, examining different interpretations and practical applications of submission from a scriptural perspective.
Introduction to Submission
- Submission is often misunderstood due to incorrect definitions or problematic relationships.
- Do not marry someone you struggle to submit to, as it undermines the purpose of order in marriage.
- Submission should not be forced; it should arise from respect and willing participation in shared goals.
Scriptural Foundations and Word Study
- Ephesians 5:21 emphasizes mutual submission out of reverence.
- Three Hebrew words connected to submission are introduced: anah (to watch intently/humble), kash (pretend obedience/withhold), and rafas (to trample/control).
- Genesis 16:9 is explored as an example, where Hagar is instructed to submit to Sarah.
Forms of Submission
- Rafas: Submission through force or control can lead to resentment and dysfunction.
- Kash: Pretend obedience or manipulation (withholding affection or resources) is also dysfunctional and undermines trust.
- Anah: Genuine submission involves humility, attentiveness, and service, which leads to healthy reciprocal relationships.
Lessons from Biblical Examples
- Sarah and Hagar’s story illustrates humility (Sarah) versus pride (Hagar) and their impacts on community and relationships.
- True submission is not about personal feelings but about fulfilling functional roles for collective benefit (the “nation”).
Practical Application of Submission
- Genuine submission involves intently observing, serving, and anticipating needs within the family.
- Avoid gossip or resentment by focusing on personal responsibilities and building the home.
- Reciprocal, attentive service fosters mutual care and functional relationships.
Mutual Submission and Reciprocity
- Submission can influence others positively and inspire mutual support.
- Acting functionally, even when the other person does not, can help restore balance and trust over time.
Emotional Management and Functional Living
- Feelings are unreliable; actions should be guided by principles (Torah) rather than emotions.
- Functional responses to dysfunction can transform relationships and promote growth.
Closing Reflections
- Submission in the Hebraic sense is about humility, functionality, and nation-building, not hierarchy or jealousy.
- Internalizing scriptural meanings of submission leads to personal and communal growth.