How to Never Run Out of Things to Say in Conversations
Introduction
- Awkward silences in conversation can be uncomfortable.
- Here are 5 tips to ensure you always have something to say.
Tip 1: "Reminds Me of" Technique
- Use your surroundings: When your mind goes blank, look around and say "That reminds me of..." to open new conversational threads.
- Follow-up stories: Relate your stories to others but avoid making it competitive to foster connections.
Tip 2: Ask Open-ended Questions
- Example: Instead of "Do you like Toronto?", ask "How do you like Toronto?"
- Encourages detailed responses and opens more threads.
- Why questions: Similar to how children ask, delve deeper by understanding motivations (e.g., "Why did you decide to get into consulting?").
Tip 3: Use Revival Questions
- Non-sequiturs: Revive stalled conversations.
- Group setting: "How do you guys all know one another?"
- One-on-one: "So what's your story?"
- Future plans: For those you know well, ask about their exciting plans.
Tip 4: Complimentary Cold Read
- Make observations: Comment on something you notice (e.g., "You look like you're into fitness.").
- Right or wrong: It opens up the conversation regardless of accuracy.
Tip 5: Flip the Script
- Comfort with silence: Allow silence to prompt the other person to speak.
- Mirroring: Repeat their last words to encourage elaboration.
Conclusion
- Using these tips can improve your conversation skills.
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These notes offer strategies to enhance conversational engagement and avoid awkward pauses.