hi thanks for joining me this is another one of my hot wife videos and today I'm going to talk about 10 things that I love about being a hot wife I hope you find this video useful maybe you could show it to your partner and see what she thinks if you enjoy this video make sure to leave a thumbs up and please do comment if you've got any thoughts on any of the things that I've mentioned and feel free to comment any video suggestions or questions you may have I might even do a Q&A at some point about being a hot wife so if you've got any questions then put them in the comments sorry about all the boxes and the mess I'm actually moving house this weekend very exciting currently my hands are crippled from painting I just stuck some makeup on literally just to do this video and then I'm going to be off to the house to paint the walls and clean and get ready for the move this weekend I can't wait it's uh it's our forever home we've been building up to this point for years and finally it's coming true and there's going to be some videos about our new home as well if you'd like to see that H yeah okay back to hot wiing 10 things I love I love this lifestyle so much number number one the freedom the freedom to sleep with whoever I like the variety I don't just have to sleep with one guy for the rest of my life and I love that I can experience different penises different body types different types of guys and girls and uh yeah it's just nice just having that variety I like to sample different things and uh it's fun it's fun getting to play with different people can I play it's freeing as well because I don't feel stuck just with one person if I see someone I like I know I've got that freedom to pursue them if I want to and it's a lovely feeling it is after having been in monogamous relationships previously to my current relationship I don't think i' ever want to go back to monogamy number two the openness and honesty between me and my partner is amazing and it's not just in our like relationship dynamic because we're so honest with our sex life and our feelings around sex it kind of bleeds into everything else as well so we're in a place where we can say what we really think to each other and it's okay even if one of us has something to say that we feel might upset the other one we still say it because we know how important it is to be honest about these things and not hide them from one another it's lovely it's so lovely we don't hide anything from each other I mean like 99.9% everyone's got a little secrets haven't they I hope maybe it's just me not all men have secrets we all have our secrets but yeah um we are we are very honest with each other and uh it's great for our relationship and I'm very thankful for it number three the excitement it is so exciting it just brings fun to our lives like a lot of additional fun we're often talking about it and joking about it in the little village that we're now about to move to we've spotted I spotted this guy running topless with uh long hair lovely body and uh a big bulge and so I told my husband about it and then he spotted this guy and he's like oh my God I saw the running guy and now we've got this this this running joke about this uh jogger who I've nicknamed Tarzan Tarzan and it's just fun it's just silly like we I don't know I just love that we have that I love that I can see a hot guy and I can tell him and then like it's even we've even talked about tazan in the bedroom it's just it's just exciting it's just nice that we can we can talk about stuff like that and all the rest of it as well like it's just we often text each other about like upcoming dates that I've got with guys or if if my husband finds a guy online that he thinks I like the look of he'll share it with me and it's it's exciting there's just always this little fun little spark that continues most days and keeps life interesting number four it enhances our sex life so things like reclaiming which is when my husband has sex with me after I've had sex with somebody else and it's uh very very intense uh we both get really turned on by it and it adds another element to our sex life also things like I enjoy being watched so if hubby's watching me that's a real turn on for me we often will talk to each other while we're in bed about guys that I've been with in the past guys that I want to be with I'll tell him about some of my ex-boyfriends that I particularly enjoyed it just just enhances everything gives it another element of naughtiness naughty naughty number five trust the fact that we're not going to cheat on each other because I mean if I want to cheat I can although my husband's he's not interested in sleeping with other people he knows that one day in the future if he decides he would like to then that is an option for him we don't have to worry about cheating because it's just not an issue for us because we can if we want to I mean you you will still probably get people who enjoy the thrill of doing something that they're not supposed to do so if I was like that or if my husband was like that then we might still cheat but thankfully like we're not interested in doing that but we just we just know that we have that trust there neither of us ever has to worry about the other one cheating because we can cheat if we want to so it's just not an issue number six knowing that my husband's fantasy is fulfilled I love it it makes me feel so good to know that this fantasy he had his whole life and he never told anybody I've made it come true and even now he even now seven and a half years into our relationship he still thanks me from time to time he'll still say thank you for making his dreams come true and I just love that I can do that for him it means so much to me makes me really happy to know that I'm doing that for him I mean I I'm I'm a bit of a giver and if he's like over the moon for me to sleep with other guys then you know I mean it's a win-win I get to please him and I get to please myself so it's lovely it's really nice especially when when he first told me that he he liked the idea of me being with other guys after the initial questions and things I have another YouTube video about how I got into the hot wife lifestyle so have a look at that yeah after the the initial questions it was just nice to know that something he' held inside and felt ashamed of his whole life I could now make it come true and take away that shame from him and turn it into something really really wonderful and fun for both both of us it's a lovely feeling number seven confidence it really has helped with my confidence it makes me feel desired it's lovely to know that guys are into me when you're in a monogamous relationship you you've just got that one partner showing desire for you but when you can have dates with other people it's just lovely to to get that attention from different people and makes me feel sexy makes me feel wanted and desired and it's a good confidence boost I love it it's uh yeah especially when like I mean I'm I'm no spring chicken I'm 38 nearly 39 and it's nice to know that guys in their 20s still want to do it with me makes you feel quite good yeah I like that number eight the ability to express myself sexually so if there's ever anything I want to try I can it allows me to explore I'm very in tune with what I like because I get to try different things I get to try different guys different guys do different things maybe sometimes I'll be with some someone and they'll do something no one's done before and I'll be like oh and I'll tell my husband about it and be like you need to do this all sorts of things like I really enjoy being with strangers sleeping with someone that I've just met is exciting and I get to do that I can explore if i' if I've got any fantasies which I want to try I don't think I currently have any that I haven't tried yet I know I do have some but I know I can I can try them I have the freedom to do that and it's a nice feeling I don't feel stuck I feel like I can explore and people change over time as well so what I'm into has definitely evolved and I've tried different things some things that used to really rock my world don't really do it for me anymore and there's some things some new things that might pop into my head and I'm like oh I wonder if I'll enjoy that so I know that I can give it a go and uh see whether I like it or not yeah it's cool cool number nine not having to deal with jealousy so I see a lot of couples who say the female will wear a short dress and her husband will feel uncomfortable with her wearing that because he doesn't want guys to look at her I don't have to deal with that I haven't got that problem I can dress how I like and my husband feels proud to show me off I don't have to worry about him searching through my phone I don't have to worry about searching through his phone like we we use each other's phones interchangeably we share everything we we're not worried about oh is he hiding something or is she hiding something there's just no jealousy or paranoia there at all completely different to most of the relationships that I've had in the past yeah there's just there's no jealousy it's just all very relaxed very relaxed laid back very rarely do we have any arguments and if we do they're nothing to do with jealousy they're usually lately about renovating our house and him not agreeing with my choices of bold colors because he's a minimalist and likes everything to look like a doctor's waiting room be is [ __ ] anyway yeah no jealousy it's cool and finally number 10 and that is not conforming to a traditional not conforming to a traditional monogamous relationship so if you told me I could never have cheese again for the rest of my life I'm going to want cheese even more than I would have before cheese it's just the the way humans are I think we want what we can't have and I don't have that problem cuz I can have what I want so and it's also kind of I don't know I've always been a little bit of a rebel I suppose and I get a little bit of a kick out of being a bit naughty I don't know it's just kind of it's kind of fun being around like regular people say a family dinner or something knowing in my mind that I'd slept with somebody else last night [Laughter] and they haven't got a clue I don't know it's just nice to conform it's nice to break the mold a little bit it suits my personality I've I've always kind of seen through life's what's the word I'm looking for uh rules what is the word I'm looking for yeah I've always seen through life's rules and the way that we're supposed to do things and I've always questioned that we only have One Life why should we follow rules that were set by people that lived thousands of years before us there's no reason we need to spend our life with one person if we don't want to As Long As everybody's happy nobody's getting hurt then why not it's just nice it's just yeah I'm not stuck I don't feel trapped I think a lot of people struggle in monog relationships knowing that they have to spend the rest of their one life with one person and that's why so many people cheat because I just don't think that's realistic if you want to sleep with multiple people and you choose to be monogamous you're just cheating on yourself you're cheating yourself of the life that you could have if you want I know it's not easy to find somebody who's up for non monogamy because a lot of people that's what they know that's what they they just believe is the norm although a lot of minds are changing a lot of people are evolving and it's becoming more non- monogamy is becoming more normal these days but uh yeah it's just nice not to be stuck anyway that's my 10 things I love about being hot wife I hope you've enjoyed thank you so much for watching and and uh I'll see you next week bye