put your hand on my thigh hello there this is ROM wills and today I'm gonna talk about the curse of the mask let me start off with a little story back many moons ago many many moons ago I was a was a 14 year old kid I was hanging out with my grandmother and we went to see a friend of hers and you know we went over the lady's house and the lady had I guess her granddaughter's or something and then three or four women while little girls actually girls 14 teenagers around my age and everything and so we all sitting there chilling and these these young girls they were decidedly unimpressed with me they wouldn't pay me any attention right and then just in conversation or my grandmother there with the type of game she had she probably picked up on some things they said i'ma show these little Alice she casually mentioned that I would be attending this high school in DC that you know at the time anyway it was a you know prestigious to say that you were going there at the time I'm not sure what it is now but she as casually mentioned I would be going to to this high school and it was like a switch went off these young girls who were pretty much ignoring me all of a sudden perked up and were paying me a lot of attention and were initiating conversation and everybody that was the first time really in my life that I saw how a man status can affect how women view him now when we talk about the mask I talk about you know in my books I talked about talked a lot about mr. Goodbar quite a few videos but you know and I've talked about the nice guy of course but in my books they're actually four categories of men now one of the categories that is also select just like mr. Goodbar and in fact in some instances may even get more attention to mr. Goodbar is the mask man now the thing with the mask right it's not a facade that a man is putting on it's not fake what it is it's the man status it's his occupation it's you know where he might live is everything about him but it doesn't have to do with his character basically when women see him they see the image that he's presenting you know they don't see a man who might be you know be very moral or very evil or has a bad character or you know great character when women see that man they see his mask which is his status you know where he lives how much money he's making and with many women is credit rating you know some women they get on the internet and try to find out everything about me now the problem well I go say it's the mask when I talk about the curse of the mask that mask can get a man a long way because what happened is a man I figure out early in life hey he missed a good bar you know he ain't that pretty boy but somewhere along the line he figures women will go for status and he will definitely go for money so what does he do he go out there give him money he gets some type of status you know in some cases depending on what the social class you know it might go out there to be the best drug deal out there or he might be that type who or joint assertive eternities or you know become get involved in a certain profession because many and anybody can attest to this and buddy goes anyplace with men and women in Iraq many men they don't they don't leave just with the conversation they leave with their business card and women actually play into that because many women are taught not to look at a man's character but rather his occupation you know their mothers are telling you tell me you know get you get you a ball when higher soviet social class get you a doctor get you a tourney you know get you that professional guy so when a woman looks at that man she's not looking at just him and he could be the kindest guy in the world somebody who love and support her but she's looking at his occupation that's the mask and like I said master get'em and a long way let's just face it in this in this culture if you have certain things a certain status you want to get certain privileges one of those privileges is attention from women who otherwise wouldn't pay attention to you and we've all seen it we've all we've all seen that we've all seen that one guy who you know women that pay attention to him and then we thought was on a suit or something all of a sudden it's like wow I wore that guy that pulls up to the club or wherever pushing that eClass you know but the thing is that we've been ain't dealing with him been doing with the e-class you know they not really dealing with his personality his uh you know his issues that he might be dealing with they don't with this professional so you have a class of men who you know they put that mask on they work they they get that mask on and they do that thing but there's a curse to that mask and any man who's worn that max knows what I'm talking about well then you can't really trust the women you dealing with because you don't know if they dealing with you or they deal him with your possessions like I know I've known several guys I'll give two examples I have in fact uh you know he's pretty you're probably watch this video would say oh yeah you were talking about me this dude kept two cars a lot of dudes do that they'll keep that real nice luxury car and they'll keep that hoody and when they meet a new woman they don't pick up the women in that luxury car they'll pick her up then the hooptie just to see where her head is that and a lot of women actually fail that test and if she complain and act all funny turning nose up he's like yeah okay I got and I had another friend who just dude paid a seventeen room mansion I mean this dude was making money but he was short two dates in a pickup truck and he makes sure it was nice and beat-up to see it so you know men and they learn that game they and it is a game you learn to play you learn to play that game now here's a problem with the mask and here's the curse of the mask say you got that mask or knee you actually meet a decent woman and she's feeling you you know she's really feeling the mask and you know but then you can't take that mask off because the mask is more than just two possessions and it's more than just the money but it's the attitude that goes with it is that elite attitude that nose up in the air that like I'm high and mighty thing you know when you might be a naturally a more down-to-earth person so what happens you have that mask on and the thing about that mass is good for a one-night stand and it's good for a temporary relationship but what happens when that woman starts to see past the mask because you start doing with anybody long enough they gonna see the cracks you can't keep it up all the time and you know they eat class is nice to ride in but all of a sudden she just started thinking about some other things the curse of the mask is that thing comes off and then when a woman sees past the mask and she sees who you really are when it finally hits her like hold up yeah all this money is nice riding in this nice cars and I was going on these expensive vacations this night but the man underneath that mask is not something I want to deal with and see women they are not happy let me say it again didn't that happy with what they find underneath the mask in fact they get angry what they'll say is you're not the man I thought you were I said oh man if a woman says that to a man yes pretty much no longer his woman that's when you know you need to you know try to separate ways or what happens I'll make it amicable at that point but that's the curse of the mask and it's actually another curse and this was a story told to me by one of my college professors very wise man and he actually told it to the class we came into class one day and he talked about a man who had his face burned horribly in an accident and the man met somebody who worked in theater and this theatre person crafted a mask for this man to put on and before head this man wasn't really going welding like once he put on that mask he was getting everything money you know a little bit of Fame everything but then he was starting to see the dark side of that in the trouble that can come with that which you know always say there's another video it's another video but there's a there's a downside to join a lot of attention especially from women you know all the women out there aren't exactly you know sane let's just let's just keep it real there's going to be somebody who's gonna put sugar in your tank or gonna want to slash your tires for he stands outside your bedroom window with her like a nine millimeter you know I've known some guys who got shot I know one guy who actually got shot by one of his lovers so they ain't no joke and see anyway this particular man with the mask he started finding all the problems with it so what happened he whipped he went back to the theatre guy like look I can't take this anymore take off this mask and then when they do you know the other guy said okay he took off the massive new no theatre guy stepped back he looked at his face said the guy wanted to know what was wrong and the guy the theatre guy gave the guy mirror and a guy looked in the mirror his face had become a mask he was no longer who he truly was he had adopted demands and you know that's the curse No and I kind of shared that I was kind of moved to shared I was actually gonna do a video on something else today but like I say don't my last video I'm gonna get deeper most people out here most 99% of people myself included we're not really at our true selves that's all of us every single person anybody said it real you know what unless they've done some real spiritual work like I said I'm gonna get deeper I ain't holding back no more unless they did some to grill spiritual work they Dylan was some type of mask cuz mask isn't always about possessions it might be a defense mechanism that you adopted you know some in childhood some terrible traumatic could happen in telling you to adopt it some type of defense mechanism to deal with it to the point that it becomes a dominant part of your personality and you haven't been healed of that trauma that's a man's to uni uni defensive reaction you know in relationships it could be avoiding people or it could be trying to control people even playing games or even being attached to people and that would be that will be a separate video when I talk about counterfeit for some of us and we all work in the morning you know personally I would say I don't have a chronic version but maybe a mild version and I've been will be working through and everybody has everybody has one happy yet to meet a person who did in fact of a person say they did me probably do because it's it's just a part of life very few people are authentic but you do have some people who are working do it so you have to take off work to take off that mask because you know your face becomes a man then it just brings you time and like I said I was gonna do something else this but this morning you know I was moved to do it and I'm like I said let me get deeper sometimes spirit just moves me to say or do whatever not just go with it so I would say if you're watching this and you recognize that you're doing some things over you leaning on some things that you know it's not really you you know if you you know buy some car or follow the crowd or trying to obtain some status you know when it's not really intrinsic to who you are as a person then you voluntarily put it on a mask or if you're dealing with some type of defense mechanism going you know just everyday life I would say find a counselor that you can talk to find a healthy you can talk to if it's severe enough actually go you know see if you can find like a reputable therapist no joke on that so that's all I have to say today and if you look at the theme of most of my work it's about taking off that mask so I want everyone to take off that mask it's painful yeah it's painful but you can't keep wearing it because I say mask it's being in pain the face underneath that mask is not your true self you're not to chew it's not the true person that God made you to be you know if you have you choose the worse of God you have to work to be what God created and that what society wants you to be so anyway that's it for today just think about my message as I'd like to pay thankful as I like to say think on this so peace and blessings push a man push a man put your hand on my thigh me chills up and down oh man put your hand on my