high school was a bit of hell for me I had very good friends but I was always so scared to open up to them to express my vulnerability I was so insecure I always looked up to these SS these athletes who everyone wanted to be friends with all the girls wanted to date them and I wanted to be like them so bad because I wanted to be Lov too but I felt like the more I tried to be charismatic the more tried to be like these people the more people would see me as too up myself too egotistical and they could easily see through that through insecurity I was very insecure and that's why I was acting like it because it wasn't me we're a social animal we can see through that easily so what do you do you start trying harder you start meing in class you start acting nonchalant nothing affects me even though one struck in your ego and your F that's not Charisma that's arance you're trying to protect something protect a part of yourself I regret a lot about my childhood I wish I pulled those insecurities out so I could genuinely be confident I could experience My Teenage life to its fullest I didn't do that cuz I was always the kid who tried too hard I wish I was more like the people around me unfortunately I'm not and if anyone from my high school is watching this video you will you'll be able to clarify that I got to a point where I realized that I'm going to be the weird kid the rest of my life I'd rather be confident and charismatic and the weird kid than be awkward and timid and the weird kid at least there's one positive so after studying Charisma for i' say a good five plus years I think I have a lot of knowledge I can share with you how I went from this hello everyone welcome back to another video today's video I'm not going to be bringing you a workout video but instead I'm going to give be giving you five tips how to get ads in 4 weeks I had no o to me to someone who grew 1.5 million Subs in a year on YouTube due to my speaking ability and ability to connect with someone approaching women or is is a lot easier to me now and I've made Amazing Friends Along The Journey that I can definitely call brothers so give me 7 8 9 10 minutes of your time and hopefully I can transform you the same and save you five years we are going to follow this road from boring to Magnetic I believe there are five things that make someone truly carismatic and if you can Master these five things you're sweet so we're going to go through each of these checkpoints in order from what you should develop first to what you should develop last so you can become magnetic first of all what is charisma in my opinion Charisma Is possessing a trait that other people want or lack that makes you very exciting that makes you very unique this could be a natural sense of humor this could be inspiration when someone's around you they just smell inspiration they want to get to work this could be ambition this could simply be confidence uplifting people excitement a trait that the majority of the population lack but they want I believe mine is inspiration and ambition but I'm going to show you how you can use any trait to make you extremely attractive to both women and men or in checkpoint two what makes someone like Bruce Wayne or Batman very charismatic what makes someone like James Bond very charismatic they each share a strong sense of purpose in their life Bruce Wayne's parents died he wants to save Gotham from crime that's a very very strong purpose in his life he's naturally going to be a bit more expressive he has emotions that he is expressing making him charismatic he's not just drowning himself in drugs and alcohol to suppress his feelings he's doing something about it so checkpoint two is to develop a strong purpose within your life something Beyond yourself and if you have that purpose well be more of it this is who you are this is who you're destined to be you're meant to change the world if you don't have that purpose let me show you a process where you can develop it in like 30 seconds go back to your childhood what were you naturally good at when opinions of others did not matter what were you naturally attracted to with me I was naturally attracted to video games and music I love those two things music is another way to express yourself I'm expressing myself through this camera and what's something you hate about the world what is something that just annoys you it could be seeing alpha males on Instagram who think they're better than everyone that's something that I would probably hate don't like to say that but yeah it's probably something cuz I can sense insecurity cuz I used to be like that I hate inauthenticity and through this I can make people more authentic through making videos I've paired what interested me in childhood with something I don't really like in the world into what I'm doing which gives me a strong purpose like I've wrote what is purpose up there what is charisma and this doesn't have to be very big it can just be something you do outside of work it doesn't have to be your full-time job number three I believe there's three types of charismatics the first type of charismatic is the introvert charismatic this is more so someone like Bruce Wayne or Batman he can be extroverted but he's more introverted this being an introvert does not mean you are socially anxious it just means that you recharge better when you are alone you choose to be alone when you are exhausted lean into that you're not common to see you're mostly silent your words and your presence hold more value let that be you don't be afraid of saying less when you say something you speak from the chest with confidence because you have a strong purpose in your life you are here for a reason you're allowed to express yourself you got to have that confidence with him the second one is an extrovert you if you're an extrovert you thrive of the attention of others you thrive off of the validation which is normal it's human nature I do as well everyone thrives off of other people's validation it's not a thing lean into that and then there's the more ambiv you kind of both this is someone like Tony Stark Iron Man he's loves being the center of attention but he loves being alone to work on his technology he likes to isolate himself the point of this is that you do not need to be an extrovert to be charismatic I'm an but I love talking to the right people you have to lean into that lean into your I guess archetype point4 let's be honest nowadays Charis Charisma has a lot to do with looks if you are underdeveloped you can still be charismatic but it's just harder because of social media and the value that we put on looks so I guess checkpoint four is to try and maximize your looks as much as possible I'm not going to sit up here and say I'm some model because I'm not I'm probably a 6 out of 10 at best but it's all the simple you know the drill it's your your diet the water it's Health maxing you health max to looks Max one thing that you can do if you don't really know how to improve your appearance is to go get take a photo of yourself go on chat jbt and tell it to analyze things that you could improve upon that you can control you lock in for the next 6 months you will probably be at your Peak maybe a year you will probably be at your Peak and I know if anything like me you used to think like maximizing your appearance trying to look attractive is for it's a people who just Thrive off of attention and want all the attention but that's true we want to be loved we have to be you do have to be confident in your appearance in my opinion at least maybe you're more confident than me and you don't need [Music] that okay checkpoint five the last point in my opinion to being more charismatic and being more magnetic we've went through all this and it seems very selfish the last point is to forget about all of that somewhat forget about all of that and focus your attentions on other people be more interested in other people than yourself everyone is insecure everyone it is human nature some people are more than others become an expert in Psychology if you're not studying psychology read people when you're talking to someone hear their tone of voice forget about your own insecurities they don't matter everyone has them everyone's insecurities are much deeper than you think the more and the deeper someone judges you is just a reflection of their own insecurities you have to somewhat forget about yours learn to laugh at them learn to laugh at your own insecurities something that you hate it's your nose your eyes the way you speak learn to laugh at it this is who you are if you can't change it you can't change it if you build all of this off ego you are you're I struggle with that of course this is going to be somewhat ego I get attacked Sometimes some people call my work you know you know you're 19 years old you have no experience you shouldn't be making these videos it hurts sometimes because this is my purpose I want this to be my purpose and it hurts sometimes it hurts me ego but I have a again I have a strong purpose in my life I'm not afraid to make mistakes I know everyone does at least I tried that's what I say to myself at least I tried to help at least I tried my best in the moment what I I did what I thought was best probably yapping too much for the point I'm saying here learn to separate your insecurities from yourself that's a different person you are the obser deserver of them learn to accept them that's your character everyone has them but you must challenge them understand that they are not as deep as you think your fears are over exaggerated everyone lives in their own head we're all by social media all right it's important to understand that if you can be the person who genuinely listens to someone they're going to Crave Your Presence be more sympathetic understand that people go through a lot more than you be that sympathy for them and if you pair that with all of this I truly believe you're a very charismatic person hope this was valuable you actually have to put in the work and be disciplined it's not going to come overnight and I will catch you in the next one peace