Hello everyone, my name is Lana Savchuk and I would like to talk about five roles of a biblical wife. Now that does not make me an expert on marriage or anything of that sort, but I have a little bit of experience and I'm just gonna dive into the Word of God and we're gonna see where it takes us. So number one role of a biblical wife is a wife is a partner who rules over the creation with her husband.
So let's go to Genesis 1, 27 through 30. 28. So God created man in his own image. In the image of God, he created him. Male and female, he created them.
Then God blessed them and God said to them, be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. Now from this verse, we can see that both male and female.
God created them equally and he gave them dominion to rule and subdue the earth and to rule over the creatures, the animals. Now we have to notice that God did not tell Adam to rule over his wife just because he was created first. No, he gave both of them dominion and rule as partnership. So women were created from the rib of a man. to be beside him, not from his head to top him, not from his feet to be trampled upon him, but from under his side to be protected by him, near his heart to be loved by him. So a woman, first role of a woman is to be a partner in ruling of the creation that God has given them.
Now, number two, wife is a helper to her husband. Let's go to Genesis 2.20. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to all birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam, there was not found a helper compatible to him.
Now, when the Lord created Eve from the rib of Adam, he created her as a helper. When Adam was looking for that helper, it was not found a helper to him. Now, a word helper in Hebrew is Ezer. meaning a person who provides needed help and assistance. It's used 21 times in Old Testament, and 16 of those times it refers to God.
Now, being a helper, being a helper to your husband does not make you less than, does not diminish your calling as a helper. Now, if it refers to God as a helper, that is an honor because God is our helper. And it's an honor to be a helper and assistant.
Number three, wife is a crown of her husband. The husband is the head, but the wife is the crown, not the neck. Now, in our culture, people say the wife is the neck, she turns the head.
Now, that obviously is not scriptural, it's just cultural reference, which is against the word of God because it speaks of manipulation. And we know that manipulation is not from God. manipulation is literally part of witchcraft god created a woman woman to be in a place of honor in a place as a crown not as a neck to be manipulative and you know turning this way turning this way and in proverbs 12 4 it says an excellent wife is a crown of her husband but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones that is a pretty strong word a rottenness in his bones the wife who causes shame to her husband now what is a shame causing a shame to your husband i would say it's constant criticism is like cancer to your husband constant negativity putting him down nagging constantly you might say yeah because he is not a good man or he doesn't deserve to be honored or anything of that sort but you know that you you honor someone not because someone deserves it but because you're honorable wife that's why you should honor your husband even if he's not perfect i like how ruth graham said and i quote it is your job to love your husband and it's god's job to make him good and when we give that trust to the lord and we play our part of what god expects of us as wives to honor our husbands to be his crown not to embarrass him not to talk down on him in front of children disrespecting him in public that's huge and as women we have to understand that The primary need of a man is honor and respect. And if you give that to your husband, something's gonna start changing.
Something's gonna start happening in his heart towards you. Because when you speak and you feed that primary need of your husband, things gonna shift and change in your marriage. Number four is wife is to submit to her husband.
Now I know this one is tough to swallow. Maybe it sounds so... contrary from our culture how i'm not going to submit to men now i want you to notice that in the bible it says first peter 3 1 wives likewise submit to your own husbands that even if some do not obey the word they without a word may be won by the conduct of their wives and also ephesians 5 22 to 24 wives submit to your husbands as to the lord for the husband is the head of his wife you as also Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body.
Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Now, we must understand that in the Bible, we see this submission. It's mainly presented towards a husband, not necessarily women in general submit to men. Although I believe that women...
In general, they have to honor and respect men, just because this is how God wired both of us difference, our needs. But the part of submission to authority, and especially to men, to the husband, because God has placed him in the family, in a place of authority, according to the Word of God, and we see the submission of a wife to her husband, not necessarily women to men. Now, woman can have very strong character, which is absolutely fine. And she can run a huge business and be a CEO of that business.
And she has employees that men that submit to her. And this is absolutely fine. But when it comes to the family order, when it comes to being a wife, she might in the family, that powerful woman becomes more powerful if she obeys the word of God and submits to her husband. Now, submission does not make you less than we're not talking about submission as your your wife you're less than and a husband is better than you and now you are to submit to him none of that i want you to hear me submission in the bible you have to voluntarily give that place of honor to your husband okay it's almost like we're talking about a uh a rank but not We're not talking about worth, okay?
Husband and wife, they're both worth the same. They are equal in the eyes of God in their worth, okay? But we're talking about the rank. You know how in the military, in the army, we have soldiers, we have surgeons, we have, I don't know, commanders, and it goes up the chain, right? And because of that order, the army can function well.
And so guess what? The Lord, in his wisdom, created this beautiful order in the family that a husband is placed as a head of the household which means he carries more responsibility okay more weight the lord will ask of him more he's responsible for his family but you as a wife he placed you underneath of him to honor him as the lord to respect him and to give him that place almost like a pedestal I know it might sound like it sounds completely contrary to our culture, but we are here talking about the Word of God, where we believe that the Word of God is a standard. And if we trust the Lord, He created us, and He created this beautiful institution, marriage. And we follow His example. If we follow this beautiful institution that God created, we will be blessed in our marriage.
Now, if you choose to follow the culture, you're going to see very fast that it actually does not work. Okay. So the word submission from Greek, hypotasso, means to place or arrange under. Often used as a military term, meaning to place oneself under the command of a leader. So you're pretty much voluntarily placing yourself under your leader, your husband, who is the head of a wife and a family.
And you're giving him that place. You're submitting yourself under that authority. And of course, husband is submitting himself under the authority.
authority of Christ. Martin Mauser said, submission is a humble attitude where obedience is rendered within a relationship. Submission doesn't make a wife less than her husband. Otherwise, Jesus would not be fully God because he submitted to the Father. Think about it.
Jesus being fully God on this earth, and even now he submits himself to the Father. So we see this beautiful order in the Trinity. how the son is submitting to the father, yet they have such a perfect harmony and how it works is absolutely beautiful. And the last one is a wife is a builder of her home. A wise woman, she builds her home, not just her career, okay?
And Proverbs 14, 1, it says, the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her own hands. And I encourage you, wives, women, let's build our homes. Let's create This beautiful and I believe that God gave a woman this natural ability to be a homemaker, to build her home.
And in Titus 2, 4 through 5, it says this, Then they can urge the younger woman to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one can malign the word of God. And the Bible teaches wives to be these homemakers, to create, to build their homes. You know, a 2018 study conducted by Welch has found working mom's clock on average 98 hours per week. Think about that. That's about the same as working two and a half full-time jobs.
And that is crazy, right? Our culture right now is trying to do this. Okay, you don't need to stay at home.
You need to climb your ladder of success. You need to do your business. They're trying to pull a wife out of the home not to raise her own children.
And guess what? Then someone else will be raising your kids. I would say, and I understand that there are single moms and there are circumstances where both a wife and a husband, they must work.
And you know what? We must do what we must do to take care of our families. But if you can, to stay at home, to raise your own children, it's better not to maybe make an extra buck, but to live on the money that you make if it's possible and to raise your kids at home. And daycares are so overcrowded in America.
They are expensive, so expensive. And guess what? You're going to work and you still have to pay for this daycare that is like literally many times it's not even worth it. So if you... if your husband works, if he brings the money, dedicate the season of raising children to specific task of raising them.
And then you can resume your career. There's nothing wrong with a woman building her career. And if you can, you know, dedicate this time, it would be the best.
And this is what the study actually also found that stay-at-home moms in their kids increased in child's school performance. Child has less stress and aggression, greater involvement in child's day-to-day life, and then wives, they feel good about their choices to stay at home and has less stress about the job. And I actually just recently talked to one of my young moms who have five kids, and she said when she made a decision to stay at home to raise her children, she said her stress level just decreased dramatically.
And I totally see that even though she has five kids and staying at home being a full-time mom is literally a full-time job. Okay. She's still working. She is still working with kids, but the stress level is a lot less because she is in her lane and she's dedicating this time to raise her kids. And so I just would like to encourage you moms, if it's possible for you to stay at home and raise your kids, it would be the best.
Now, if you cannot, if you are a single mom, there is absolutely no condemnation to you. I just pray that the Lord will give you strength, finances, provision, and financial blessing. And also blesses your motherhood and your ability to raise those kids without a father. And I just pray for your family to be whole in Jesus'name. Now, thank you so much.
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