Exploring the Prophet's Household Dynamics

These next two are crucial because what I really wanted to do is to as much as possible get into the house of the Prophet ﷺ and really understand the dynamics of that household and how things are forming especially in the early days of Islam. And so as I was putting together all of these notes and getting into these small narrations where you often get these snapshots into the lives and you know someone asked last week a very important question. Where when Ali is talking about being in the household of the Prophet and being the only one to sort of witness the Qiyam, witness the night prayer of the Prophet and Khadija. Where is Zaid? Where are the other children? What's happening here? And Allah knows best. We can only take what we can take from the narrations themselves. Of course, the way that families were raised back then, where kids were sleeping, aunts, uncles, it's a village type feel, right? Allah knows best. But, Hopefully what we can do through the series is start to inshaAllah take these isolated snapshots and then go one by one and start to see the trajectory through the eyes of that person that enters very early in into this story, this magnificent story of the Prophet ﷺ. And then through that, to be very honest with you, you're not just gaining an appreciation for each one of these sabiqoon, each one of these firsts, but really each and every single one of these stories makes you fall in love with the Prophet ﷺ all over again. Because one of the things that fascinates me is how he was able to make all of these people feel so special. You know, when you read the biographies of the companions, sometimes you really think like this person is the most important person in the story and then you read the next story. And that's the ability of the Prophet ﷺ to treat his family and his companions in a certain way that he wasn't just ignoring them and then... Focusing on this person here and this person there. However, the actual family of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, if he treated his companions this way, imagine what it was like to actually be his blood. Imagine what it was like to actually be in his household and to be treated in a certain way. And so each one of these is going to give us a different perspective. But these next two in particular, really building off of last week's where we talked about Ali will give us a very special Look at the life of the Prophet and at the household of the Prophet at this family of the Prophet. So before we get into the marriage of Ali and Fatima, quick recap of Ali and then let's bring Fatima into the story and then talk about these two coming together. So with Ali, we said his mother's name was what? I'm gonna test y'all's knowledge. Fatima. So we said there were a lot of Fatimas, right? There were a lot of Hinds and there were a lot of Fatimas. Those are the two names that you constantly see popping up. A lot of people named Hinds, a lot of people named Fatima. So Fatima bint what? What is his mother's full name? Fatima bint Asad. And the way you can remember that is that we said she wanted to, she actually named him first Asad after her father, which means lion. Okay, Fatima bint Asad. And we said that she was the first what? She was a first herself. Does anyone remember? The first, not Quraishi Muslim, the first Hashemi woman to accept Islam. Hashem was the tribe of the Prophet and his son. So she was the first woman who was a Hashemite from the actual family of the Prophet from his tribe to accept Islam. And we said that she was about the 11th person, the 10th or the 11th person to enter into Islam when you look into the order. Also another mother-like figure to the Prophet. Right? There's Umm Ayman and then there's Fatima bint Asad who raises the Prophet as a motherly figure from the age of 6 to 25, accepted Islam very early on, made the migration to Abyssinia, lived through the boycott, made the migration to Medina, went through all the hardships alongside the Prophet. And Ali was born about, as we said, 10 years before Prophethood, so about the year 600 exactly between 600-602 He was born and he supports the Prophet right away. We talked about how the Prophet brought Ali into the house. He told his uncle Al-Abbas, let's go to Abu Talib and help him out with his poverty. So let's take two of his children and raise them ourselves so that Abu Talib could deal with the poverty in his household. The Messenger of Allah goes with Al-Abbas, the Prophet walks up to Ali and grabs him. Al-Abbas walks up to Ja'far and he takes him and both of them would raise those two until they reached their adulthood. And we also said that one of the miracles is that Khadija did not breastfeed Ali, which would have made him haram for Fatima, which would have made him like a son, effectively a son to Khadija, had she breastfed him. But for whatever reason, it's the mercy of Allah to Ali radiallahu anhu and the wisdom of Allah and how that would play out. She never actually fed Ali though he was of that age and though it was natural for a child to be fed by a mother that had flowing milk in those days. So that's Ali, he comes into the house, as we said, accepts Islam right away. And that sight of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, Khadija and Ali praying in front of the Kaaba, praying Qiyam all alone, there was something there. Now, Let's talk about Fatima radiAllahu ta'ala anha and how she comes into and her nickname al-habibatu bint al-habib, the beloved one, the daughter of the beloved one. RadiAllahu ta'ala anha, may Allah be pleased with her and send his peace and blessings upon her father and her mother. She was born, according to most historians, she was actually born in the first year of prophethood. Okay, so according to... many of the scholars like Ibn Abdul Bar, Al-Hakim, Ibn Hajar, she was born the year that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation. So think about her birth, which would mean that when Khadija radiallahu anha was running up and down Hira to help the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam going through that stress, she could have been pregnant with her sixth child or fifth or sixth child because there's dispute about whether Abdullah is older or younger than Fatima. Or she would have been an infant. So according to some, she was born either right before prophethood, so she was literally a baby, when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation, or she was born right after the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation in that very first year. That's a special child, right? Just the circumstances of her birth to come in during that time period of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam's life where he just received revelation. And this is a gift that Allah gives to them. is special in and of itself. So she was the last of the Prophet's daughter. And I mentioned, I believe, a narration when we were talking about Khadija that the way that the naming worked was how? The Prophet named the boys, Khadija named the girls. And so Khadija named her Fatima. Who can guess why? Because guess what Khadija's mom's name was? Fatima. So her mother was Fatima bin Zaidah. So Khadija named her after her mother. And the word Fatima has an interesting meaning to it. So we said Khadija means what? I'm going to keep on quizzing you guys on the past halaqah so you can get it in inshaAllah. We said Khadija means what? Does anyone remember what the name Khadija means? See, Wanda's going through her notes. Where are you guys at? Where's everyone? Premature. Khadija means premature. So, and it's a very... There's no one else named Khadija. Alright, so the indication is that she was born very early for her to be given the name Khadija, premature. Fatima comes from the term Fatim, which is a baby that is full term and weaned. It's like the opposite, it's really interesting. Khadija is premature, Fatima is full term and weaned. And you know it's really you know so some of the scholars or some of them really you're not really looking at Islamic scholars here You're looking at I was reading what some of the scholars of language said They said that it could be that the Arabs used this name to indicate a very healthy girl that a girl was healthy Full obviously or you're naming after another Fatima But that that's the origin of it right full term weaned Went through the whole process of of being a baby, but of course as we said in the name the case of Fatima It's after the mother of Khadija. And Abu Hurairah radiallahu anhu says something very beautiful. He said that verily Allah has weaned Fatima and her offspring off from fire, from the fire of Jahannam, from her birth. So Allah has weaned her and her children off of that, that she would not touch it or drink from any of its punishment. So let's go through the children of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right quick and Khadija radiallahu anhu. First child is who? You guys are going to make this halaqa so much longer So if you know the answer I suggest that you say it Or if you think you're close you say it The first one is actually Qasim, right? Because I want you to get the full picture. Qasim was born around 12 years before prophethood, and he lived for about three years. So, you know, we know that the sons of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam died right away, but Qasim actually lived about three years. So this was a very painful, it's their first child, and died of some illness in the hands of Khadija and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Zainab, the oldest daughter of the Prophet was born about 599, a year after Qasim. And then there is Ruqayya who was born about two years after that, year 601. And then there's Umm Qulthum who some scholars say is less than a year younger than Ruqayya. So Umm Qulthum is immediate after Ruqayya. And then there is Fatima and we said Fatima is born around the year 610 when the Prophet received revelation. And then there's Abdullah who died at birth, okay? Or very close to birth. And then there's the last son of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam who was born, of course, in Medina. The only son, not from Khadija, but from Marya. And his name was Ibrahim. Very good, okay? So those are the seven children of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. So Khadija is the only child that actually grew up in Islam, okay? That was born and raised in Islam. Whereas the others were not. What's going on in the household of the Prophet at the time? Ruqayya and Umm Kulthum were both engaged when the Prophet received revelation. Does anyone know who they were engaged to? The children, the two sons of Abu Lahab. That becomes very difficult. The man who cursed the Prophet, who stopped him and humiliated him in public, his uncle Abu Lahab, who... humiliated him and then Ali rose to his defense that young child. Both of the Prophet's daughters were engaged to Utbah and Utaibah, the children of Abu Lahab, Utbah and Utaibah. Engaged, now engagements at that time of course would take place very early on. These marriages were arranged very early on. So, you know, Ruqayya was only about seven, Um Kurthum was about six. When you say engaged, that just means that it's understood that when they come of age, they'll be married. They'll be married to these people. Zainab was already married and her husband's name, anyone know? Seerah tests. Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah. So Zainab, the oldest, is married to Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah. Ruqayya is engaged to Utbah ibn Abi Lahab. Umm Kurthum is engaged to Utaiba ibn Abi Lahab. And you just have now Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha. When Fatima was born, the Prophet and again it could be the timing of it. I mean that could have a lot to do with it. The Prophet immediately looked at her in a different way, absolutely fell in love with this baby girl of his. And it's so much so that when Allah revealed, وَأَنذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الْأَقْرَبِينَ''Warn your closest relatives.''''Call out to your closest relatives.''''And warn your closest relatives.''The Prophet stood up and he said, he only called two people by name. He said, Ya Safiyyah bint Abdul Muttalib. Safiyyah was the mother of Al-Zubair. Safiyyah is the mother of Al-Zubair, the aunt of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. She was very close. Ya Safiyyah bint Abdul Muttalib. Ya Fatimah bint Rasulullah. Oh Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Salni ma shi'ti min mali. Ask me anything that you want of my wealth. Anything that you want of my property. لَا أَمْلِكُ لَكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ شَيْئًا I cannot testify on your behalf or I cannot do anything for you with God on the Day of Judgment. What that means is that you know how much I love you, my closest. And Ibn Hajar says the fact that the Prophet ﷺ named those two was for a reason. Safiyyah was his favorite aunt close to him. And she's a special aunt to the Prophet ﷺ. And Fatima was this unbelievably beloved child to the Prophet. So he's saying, even you two, and that's a message to everyone else, you have a responsibility before Allah that is an individual responsibility and it is not something that can be bought with money. I can't protect you, you have to do your part and answer the call of Allah. And that's why when the Prophet was even asked, if you remember the 40 hadith on social justice and we talked about this narration, where there was a rich woman, a powerful woman that stole. And they asked Usama Ibn Zaid to go talk to the Prophet and see if he can let it go because she's a very powerful woman And it's not right to punish someone who's so powerful and the Prophet Prophet said, even if Fatima was to steal, she would be punished. There's no favoritism here because you know where Fatima is to me. The fact that I would even punish Fatima, I'm not going to let someone go because, or you know, not hold someone accountable because they're from some powerful class or because they belong to something that is there. So there's some elements now that come into the household of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Later on, fast forward. To the death of Khadija the mother of Fatima the wife of the Prophet. When Khadija passed away, she was... and the Prophet would be attacked because remember Khadija died around the same time, only three days apart according to some narrations from Abu Talib. So the Prophet would be viciously attacked. in public at this point now. He had no physical protection on the outside. And when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would come home covered in blood, which by the way, according to some of the scholars of Sira, there were eight times that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was publicly beaten. Eight times. So we know of Ta'if and we know, but eight times that something was thrown on him or he was punched or he was hit. So when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is in public, he's fair game. When he comes home wounded, it's Fatima radiallahu anha that takes the role of... Playing the role that Khadija used to play. She's the one that really steps in and that starts to protect the Prophet ﷺ. Al-Hassan says that Fatima would be the one to clean the wounds of the Prophet ﷺ. And how old was she? About 10 years old. Think about that burden. 10-year-old girl walking up to her father ﷺ, having to clean up his wounds. and comfort him when Khadija was missing. And everyone knew Fatima's closeness to the Prophet, a 10-year-old girl. And at the age of 10, what was she nicknamed? Ummu Abiha, the mother of her father. Because of the hanan, the love and the compassion she would show to her father when she would see the Prophet struck, Ummu Abiha, it's like she was another mother to the Prophet. And one of the most painful narrations, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam hated to see her in pain. Absolutely hated to see her in pain because he knew this is a young girl that's been exposed. She didn't see the days of comfort and ease, which were really, you know, right before prophethood, where the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was at the max of his wealth, of his credibility in society. She didn't have that childhood. Her childhood was all oppression. Her childhood was witnessing her father rejected, beaten, her mother... becoming frail, dying due to the boycott. She witnessed all the hardship and one of the most painful narrations and this was the peak of humiliation of the Prophet was that because now he's fair game and they'd kick him in public, punch him in public, humiliate him, spit at him in public. Abu Jahl challenged Rukba ibn Abi Mu'it. Rukba ibn Abi Mu'it was a powerful man in Mecca and these are now the elites playing games with the Prophet at this point. Abu Talib is not here, we're not showing him any regard whatsoever. And the Prophet has been rejected from Ta'if, he doesn't have anyone to protect him. Abu Jahl tells, he challenges Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, he says, you really want to humiliate him? He said, next time he comes to the Ka'bah, because the Prophet would still walk to the Ka'bah and pray, even as they'd kick him, even as they'd spit on him, he'd still go and pray by himself. He doesn't have Khadija with him anymore. He says to Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, why don't you take the insides of a camel, slaughter a camel and take all of its guts, all of its intestines, all of its nastiness, collect them, and the next time the Prophet is praying in front of the Kaaba, go dump them on his back. This is just complete humiliation, utter humiliation. So Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, of course, he says yes. And Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it was a huge man, size of Abu Jahl and Umar, big man. And so he collected all of that filth and they watched the Prophet waited for him to go into sajdah, into prostration. And then he came and he dumped it all on the back of the Prophet. And it was so heavy on the back of the Prophet that it caused his body to collapse. So it wasn't like just a filth, right? Complete humiliation. Ibn Mas'ud narrates this incident because Ibn Mas'ud was someone that was almost beaten to death already next to the Kaaba. We'll talk about him at some point. He was a small man, didn't have a tribe, didn't have any protection. So he goes to the house of the Prophet to let the household know what had happened. The only one he finds, 10 year old girl Fatima and tells Fatima that your father, you know, what's happening to her father, that your father has been crushed by these camel guts, he's being humiliated, everyone's laughing at him, mocking him. And Fatima comes running out of her house to the haram, goes to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, crying so heavily and scratching the guts. off of the back of the Prophet. Think of that scene, right? This is the daughter of the woman that held him when he received revelation. And think about how painful it was for the Prophet. Right? This is, you never want to see your children see you like that, right? This is a next level of humiliation. So, and this is a long narration, the Prophet, this was one of the only times he actually prayed against his people. Meaning he prayed against Abu Jahl. Made dua against him. It's not often that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam makes dua against an oppressor. Almost always his prayers are for them. But he actually makes dua against Abu Jahl and Uqba bin Abi Mu'id in that moment. He sees the pain of Fatima Radhiallahu Anha. He comforts her and listen what he says. He says, لَا تَبْكِي Don't cry. إِنَّ اللَّهَ نَاصِرٌ أَبَاكِي God will support your father. Allah will give victory to your father. Don't cry, Allah will give victory to your father. And it didn't calm her tears. So the Prophet, that's when he raised his hands and he prayed against Abu Jahl and Uqba bin Abi Mu'it and those that had humiliated the Prophet in front of his father. Another narration after Khadija had died where the Prophet sees Fatima again. This is a girl that's been through what no girl should have to go through. Right, that deeply loves her father, witnessed that pain, and he says to her, كيف تجدينك يا بنيتي? How are you, oh my daughter? And she says, إني لوجع, I'm in pain. وإنه ليزيد ما بي أن ما لي طعام أكله. So what's increasing my pain even, is we don't even have food to eat. Right, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم did not even have food. Right, he goes days and nights hungry. And she's saying, we don't have food, so I'm in emotional pain, and I'm in physical pain. So the Prophet ﷺ responds and he says, Oh my daughter, He said, oh my beautiful daughter, aren't you pleased that you are the master of all women? You are the leader of all women, the women of all the world. Look at the knowledge, understanding, adab of this young girl, Fatima radiyallahu anha. She says, Ya Abati, faayna Maryam abnata Imran? She said, Oh my father, but then where is Mary, the mother of Jesus? What about Maryam? How could I be the leader of the women of the world? What about Maryam? So the Prophet said, Talka Sayyidatu Nisa'i Aalimihah Fa'ala Hatha Maryamu Khayru Nisa'i Al Ummatil Maadiya Wa Khadija Khayru Nisa'i Al Ummatil Kainah He said that she was the leader of the women of her time. And in that sense, Maryam was the best woman of her times and Khadija was the best woman of her times. So there's a difference between Sayyida and Khayru. The best woman of all time is Maryam. And the best woman of her time is your mother Khadija. And Fatima radiallahu anha is one of those who perfected her faith. So two, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam mentioned four women who perfected their faith, had perfect faith, and that was Maryam, Asiya, Khadija, Fatima. So Fatima and her mother, imagine two women that had perfect iman, right? That had perfect faith. And some of the scholars, they said, why Fatima? Why does she have perfect faith and not the other daughters of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam? They were surely beloved to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. But why Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha? And some of the scholars, they said, number one, this is a gift from Allah that Allah gives to people, right? This is Fatima would exert herself in worship and you'll see her in her lifetime. She resembles the Prophet more than any other human being. We'll talk about that. No one resembles the Prophet like Fatima. She was a copy of the Prophet and that translated also into her nobility, her worship. Some of them said because she was born into the days of hardship and as opposed to her sister, she grew up watching her father tortured and she was the one playing the role of Khadija supporting the Prophet. She spent her... three years of her childhood in the boycott. She never saw the days of wealth like the other children of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. She made the hijrah with her father. So she actually migrated with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Medina at the age of 13. years old and she migrated with her sister Umm Kulthum, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, Sauda bint Zam'a, Aisha radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha and Aisha's mother Umru Man, which is the wife of Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with them all. So they all migrated to Medina together. So Fatima is attached to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam throughout his most difficult days. She is a woman who perfects her faith. I mentioned the qualities, the names. Does anyone remember from khutbah what were her other two names? 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Okay, because he'd become old enough to where he was of age and so he was separated from Fatima even though he grew up with Fatima and he was close to Fatima in age. So they grew up together, but Ali had moved on and that's why when they got to Medina, the Prophet paired him off with Sahal ibn Hunayf as a brother and the home of Kurthum ibn al-Hadim. A man by the name of Kulthum ibn al-Hadim, that's where all the young single guys stayed in Quba. So when they made hijrah, all the young singles went to the house of Kulthum ibn al-Hadim. So when the Prophet got to Medina at that point, again Ali is grown, he lives outside of the house of the Prophet. As for Fatima, she still lives in the house of the Prophet. So when they're building the house in Medina, she's there. She's right there with the Messenger. And What was the love of the Prophet like for Fatima? It was to a point that it used to make the others and the family of the Prophet a little jealous. Okay, and Ali was one of them. Usam ibn Zaid, he says that one day I was sitting, so this is now before Ali marries Fatima. We were in Medina and Ali and Al-Abbas sought permission, uncle of the Prophet and Ali sought permission to enter. So they came in and The Prophet asked Hussamah, do you know why they're coming at this time? He said, no. So they came in and they sat and they said to the Prophet that we've come to you to ask you who is the most beloved of your family to you? We were having a debate, trying to figure out who do you love most from your family. Now there's a similar narration where Amr ibn al-Aas asked the Prophet who's the most beloved of people to you? "And he said, Aisha, his wife. And then he said, Abu Bakr, Abuha, right? And then Umar. Here, it's like very specific, like from the family. So the Prophet, he said, أحب أهلي إلي فاطمة He said, the most beloved of my family to me is Fatima, my daughter. It was really interesting because in the other narration when he responded to Amr, Amr said, no, no, I mean from the men. Like it was weird for you to say that you loved your wife and you loved your daughter that much, right? So they had a similar understanding, said, Ya Rasulullah, we're not talking about that, we're talking about from the men. We get you love your daughter Fatima, there's no comparison to her. And in this narration, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam sees Usama Ibn Zaid and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says, أحب أهلي إلي من قد أنعم الله عليه وأنعمت عليه أسامة بن زيد He said, well the most beloved of the young men in my family, Okay? Is the one who Allah favored and I have favored, Usama ibn Zaid, who was the son of the adopted son of the Prophet. Who was Usama's mother? See if someone can catch it. We talked about her. Umm Ayman. Good. So Usama ibn Zaid. So the Prophet was talking about Usama ibn Zaid. And then the Prophet said, ثم علي بن أبي طالب Then he said, علي بن أبي طالب So al-Abbas said to the Prophet, جعلت عمك Akhirahum, you made your uncle the last of them? And you talked about Fatima and then Usama and then Ali and then you left me out, I'm your uncle. So the Prophet said, لأن علي قد سبق قبل الهجرة He said, Ali made hijrah before you. Ali migrated before you, took Abbas some time to embrace Islam and to come. So the Prophet said that. What does this mean now? What are the implications? Here's some beautiful narrations about what this would look like in Medina. Thoban, he narrates, he said, when the Prophet would leave Medina, the last person he would sit with is Fatima. And when he returned, the first person he would sit with was Fatima. Anytime the Prophet left Medina, last person he's gonna sit with is his daughter Fatima. First person he's going to sit with when he comes back is his daughter Fatima. Abu Tha'alaba gets more specific. He says when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to go on a journey or a battle, the first thing the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would do is he'd go to the masjid, pray two rak'ahs, then he would go to the house of Fatima and he'd take his time. So it's not like he'd just kind of go say Asalaamu Alaikum. This is after Fatima would move on obviously and get married. But it just shows you the love and the preference. And then he would visit his spouses. So before he would even go to his azwaj, before he even go to his wives, he'd go to his daughter Fatima. The last person to see before traveling, the first person to see when he got back, even when she got married, that was the place of Fatima. And what a father the Prophet is. What a lesson in fatherhood, just like everything else, he sets the standard. Here's... What Aisha says about Fatima and the relationship with the Prophet She says, مَا رَأَيْتُ أَحَدًا أَشْبَهَ سَمْتًا وَلَا دَلًّا وَلَا هَدْيًا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي قِيَامِهِ وَقُعُودِهِ مِنْ فَاطِمَى بِنْتِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ She said, I've never seen a person who resembled the Prophet in his look, in his walk, in his guidance, in his character, in everything that he did. Even in his standing up and sitting down, the way the Prophet would sit down and the way he'd stand up Fatima looked exactly like him. She acted exactly like him. She was a copy of the Prophet. And then Aisha says, وَكَانَتْ إِذَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ قَامَ إِلَيْهَا When she would enter into a room, no matter what the Prophet was in the middle of, he would stand up for her. فَقَبَّلَهَا And then he'd walk up to her and he'd kiss her on the forehead. And then he would hold her hand, فَأَجْلَسَهَا فِي مَجْلِسِهِ And the Prophet would sit her down where he was sitting. Look at this honor. And she says about Fatima, she says, وَكَانَتْ إِذَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا And when the Prophet would enter upon any gathering or any setting that she was in, she would rush. قَامَتْ مِن مَجْلِسِهَا She would stand up, she'd rush to the Prophet. She'd kiss him on the forehead, she'd hold the Prophet's hand, she'd sit him down in the chair or where she was sitting, and she adds one thing, she would kiss both of his hands, right? That's just a special relationship that everyone sees. You don't interfere with that relationship. You admire it, you love it, and This was a society where people used to bury their daughters alive. Think about that, right? Where Allah talks about the way they treated their daughters that when they would get the news that they had a daughter or a girl, you would see their faces darkened. And this is in that society that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is honoring his daughter that way? What a father, right? And you can't... I can't think of any father that does that for his daughter to that extent, right? And that's a lesson for all of us, especially. SubhanAllah, you know, part of that was certainly the loyalty of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. The same way with Khadija that he has to honor her because Khadija did things for him that no one else did. Fatima did things for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam that no one else did. And the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam honored that to a great extent. So anyway, Ali and Fatima grew up. Together now let's get to the marriage. When does the marriage take place? The battle of Badr just took place They're in Medina. There was a great incident of sadness of tragedy that happens on the day of Badr Does anyone know what it was? Anybody? They called it the day of great joy and the day of great sadness because it was the victory of the battle of Badr But there was a day of great sadness too. The death of Ruqayya, the daughter of the Prophet. Ruqayya got sick before Badr and that's why Uthman ibn Affan did not go to the battle of Badr. He stayed back and he took care of Ruqayya. He took permission from the Prophet to take care of Ruqayya. And Ruqayya died on the same Same day that Badr was won. So while the Sahaba are celebrating and this was a great victory from Allah, the news comes that the daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has died and that Ruqayya and that Uthman RadhiAllahu Anhu was in great sadness. And they were sad both for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and for Uthman because Uthman was a very special and beloved person. What did the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam do after the death of Ruqayya? Uthman RadhiAllahu Anhu, the Nureen, the possessor of two lights, married Um Kurthum. the next daughter of the Prophet. So at this point now, Zainab is still in Mecca. She's with Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah. Ruqayya was married to Uthman, actually went to Abyssinia with Uthman, passed away. Umm Qurthum has moved out from the house and lives with her husband Uthman. So Fatima is the last one in the household of the Prophet. Now, can you imagine If you love the Prophet, right? And you saw how much he loves this girl. And she is the female version of him. Can you imagine how many people wanted to marry Fatima? So at the top of that list, Abu Bakr and Umar both proposed for the hand of Fatima, right? Both of them came to the Prophet. First Abu Bakr and then Umar, and they asked for her hand. The Prophet said, He said, just wait, give me some time. And then the Prophet said, she's young. Meaning he had someone else in mind. When the Prophet turns away Abu Bakr and Umar, something's up. That means he has someone else in mind for her, right? Because you're not going to turn away Abu Bakr and Umar unless there's something special planned. And of course, Abu Bakr and Umar are closer to the age of the Prophet. So there's someone else that the Prophet has his eye on. So, how do we get Ali into the picture? One of the coolest things about this long narration is narrated by Al-Hassan. So it's how I met your mother, narrating from Ali, Fatima, how my parents met or how they got married, right? So Ali radiallahu anhu says that, I thought about it, but I was like, he turned away Abu Bakr and Umar, no way I have a chance. Right, so whoever he's got his eye on, it's not me, right? Ali radiallahu anhu thought, there is no way the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was thinking about me. So the year is, this is right after Badr actually, so the year is 622 or 623. Ali radiallahu anhu, they're still young. Ali is about 23. Fatima is about 16 years old. They're still pretty young. Now marriage age was much younger than 16. People would get married 10, 11, 12, 13 at that time, right? Children were different at the time, right? So Ali, he tells this narration, he says that, I was sitting in the household of someone from the family, so it was like his aunt or an uncle, one of the Hashemites. And he said that the family started to talk to Ali, he said, why don't you go ask for the hand of Fatima? He said, particularly there was an old female servant in the household. We don't know her name from the narration, but you can kind of get the picture. She said to Ali, you know, I think the Prophet has his eye on you. And Ali said, after Abu Bakr and Umar, you think he's going to marry his daughter to me if he turned away Abu Bakr and Umar? No way. So he said, she kept on pushing me. Until finally I said to her, Do you think I have anything to get married with? I don't own anything, I'm poor. Remember we talked about the poverty of Ali. So even if I went to the Prophet, I don't even have enough for a mahr, for a dowry, for a gift, for a wedding. I can't afford anything. How am I going to go to the Prophet? She said, listen, if you go to the Prophet, he'll marry his daughter to you. So maybe she had a hint or whatever it is, but she said, he will do it. And then Ali says, Abu Bakr, Umar and Sa'd ibn Mu'adh, Sa'd, one of the chiefs in Medina, they all encouraged me to go ask for her hand. So meaning either the Prophet confided in Abu Bakr and Umar that he is the one, or they just had a feeling like, Like he's probably got his eye on you, right? So after all of these people tell him to go to the Prophet ﷺ, he said, finally, I gathered the courage to go to him to ask for a hand. So he said, I got to the house of the Prophet ﷺ, feeling confident I can do this. Imagine the pep talks to himself. He says, I sat in front of the Prophet ﷺ, and he said, I completely went silent. I could not say a word. And he says, جلالة وحيبة إلى رسول الله Just out of the glory and the respect, the love of the Prophet ﷺ. I couldn't say a word. So he says, I sat in front of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and I stuttered a few times, mumbled a few words and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was looking at me. So after some time, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says, ما جاء بك يا ابن عمي What brought you to me, O son of my uncle? And Ali radiAllahu anhu was so eloquent, one of the most eloquent men amongst the companions of the Prophet he said I tried to say a few words and I made no sense whatsoever And I was shaking, sweating, nervous, shivering. The Prophet said, do you need something? Are you okay? And he said that I still couldn't say anything. So he said, finally, the Prophet, he smiled at me and he said, Maybe you came to ask for Fatima's hand He knows why he's there right so I'm gonna make it easy for you لعلك جئت لي تخطب فاطمة He said maybe you came to ask for Fatima's hand in marriage So he said I put my head down and I said نعم يا رسول الله يسوء Messenger of Allah He said okay good. Do you have anything to you have a gift you have a مهر لك بمهر Ali said I actually don't have a مهر. I don't have anything to get married with So the Prophet pointed to his dira'pointed to a shield. He said you've got that right? He said yeah, Prophet said how much is it worth? He said about four dirhams. It is nothing Right four silver coins four dirhams. Prophet said go sell it and come back to me and bring that as a mahr That's good enough for a gift Subhanallah. Now you see Fatima and then you see a whole community that is absolutely ecstatic to see this marriage of these two people that are so beloved to the Prophet. So the Prophet then went to Fatima. Ali, easiest proposal ever. Hardest and easiest ever, right? He only had to say a total of like four words, walks out, And he got it, right? He was the one that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had his eye on for Fatima. So he goes out. Now the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has to go to Fatima and ask Fatima if she wants to marry Ali. Fatima radiAllahu anha wanted to marry Ali. But to have your father come and ask you with that, I mean, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam coming to her and asking her, saying, you know, Ali radiAllahu anhu came and asked for your hand. Are you okay with it? Right? Fatima radiAllahu anha turned red. Completely overtaken by Hayat, by modesty, she couldn't say a word. The Prophet is dealing with two people that are not speaking and formulating this marriage, putting it all together, right? So the Prophet, he made sure, and this is where the Fiqhi ruling actually that in marriage, you know, because the woman has to consent, right? That's one of the rulings, right? But if you ask her and you're very explicit and she doesn't want to actually say yes, but she kind of indicates or she state, then that can suffice. as her approval for the marriage, right? Because the Prophet said, do you have any objection? And she couldn't say anything. So the Prophet took that affirmed that her quietness was not because of rejection. He knows his daughter, but because of her modesty, her Hayat, she just didn't want to come out and say yes, right? So, and there's a very funny narration. While they were discussing arrangements, so now the Prophet got Ali, he got Fatima. And this is where the... I'm gonna shatter your image of the Sahaba, physical image of the Sahaba a little bit, alright? So the Prophet was talking to Fatima about the marriage and Ali was known to have a big stomach. Surprise, surprise. Big man, right? Ali's biceps were the biggest biceps amongst the Sahaba. They said that if you put two hands around the bicep of Ali, you couldn't close your hands. But he also had a stomach and... Fatima joked with the Prophet. She says, زوَجتني لعظيم البطن You married me to the man with the big stomach. Right? So the Prophet laughed and he said, إِنَّهُ لَأَوَّلُ أَصْحَابِي سَلَمًا وَأَكْثَرُهُمْ عِلْمًا وَأَعْظَمُهُمْ حِلْمًا Beautiful description. Prophet said, he was the first of my companions to embrace Islam. The most of them in knowledge. أَكْثَرُهُمْ عِلْمًا وَأَعْظَمُهُمْ حِلْمًا And he has great patience. Hylm is forbearance, the way you treat people, right? Patience with people. So, Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam once took it as, even though it was a joke, he took it as an opportunity to praise him and to speak about his character. So anyway, Ali radiallahu anhu says, I went to the marketplace and I'm selling my dira. The only thing I own is my shield and I'm selling my dira. He says, so Uthman... Allah saw me in the marketplace for sale on my shield that I'm selling my dira. Uthman is about to be his brother-in-law, right? Uthman is married to Ruqayya and then Umm Kuthum. So he says, Uthman came to me and said, how much are you selling it for? He said, how much would you pay for it? Now he told the Prophet ﷺ it was only worth four dirhams. Uthman said, I'll give you 400 for it. He's trying to make things a little easier for him, right? So Ali said, sure, this is great, right? Uthman's trying to be charitable, but hey, you like it, you value it. Uthman is a rich man, he's the opposite of Ali. Ali in terms of his financial circumstances, I'll give you 400 for it. So he gave him 400 and Ali said, so I gave him the dara and then after he gave me the 400 dirhams, he handed the shield to me and he said, this is my wedding gift to you. So he got his 400 dirhams from the marketplace and he kept the shield. So he said, I went back to the Prophet and I told him what happened. So he said the Prophet, it's one of the many occasions where the Prophet made dua for Uthman. And he said, may Allah be pleased with Aba Amru referring to him. And he said, he's the most generous of son-in-laws. Praising again the generosity of Uthman. This was Uthman, big heart, always the first, right? To spend and to, when he knows even that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would love to see that charity. This is Uthman, uses his wealth, makes it easy for Ali. And then comes the wedding preparation. Ali said, I sold some other things, just whatever I could find, completely emptied out my house. He said, I had 480 dirhams. Okay. And so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, so what's the mahr gonna be? He said, 480 dirhams. I want you to take a moment and think about this. The mahr of the queen of Jannah, leader of the women in paradise, is 480 dirhams. Some people have abused this concept so much. Turn it into a price, a value. It's supposed to be a gift to symbolize a union. It's supposed to set the tone for ihsan, for excellence, the gift giving of the husband to the wife. And some people have abused this concept so much, turned it into like an insurance plan or something like that, right? Like 20,000. It's like, where did this 20,000, 30,000, 40,000, where does this come from, right? It's not, the spirit of it is there. Now, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam did not limit. He didn't top it off. But the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, the best of mahr and the best of weddings are the ones that are the least expensive. There is khair, there is barakah, there's something beautiful and blessed about a simple wedding, a simple mahr. Don't overdo it. You know, that money that you're spending to show everyone who you are and what you are. That money will die the same night. It will go to waste and it might even be sinful. It might even be israf. It might even be an extravagance. And then you could have used that money for something so much better, right? So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in his own example, and that's why in the Hanafi school, many of the Ahnaf became their history, right? The Mahar al-Fatimah, right? The Mahar al-Fatimah is the Mahar at the time of marriage, right? Just the gift, the dowry at the time of marriage. So this is the leader of the women in paradise. Sayyidatun Nisa al-Jannah. 480 silver coins, a few dirhams. Ali asked the Prophet, he said, what should I do with it? So it's not just that, the Prophet said, اجعل الثلثين في الطيب و الثلثا في المتاع He said, use two thirds of it to buy her some perfume and use one third of it to buy some furniture. Take the 480 and get it ready. Go get her some perfume, go get her some furniture for her house. So Ali, this is where the community starts to come together now. He said, so I had no idea how to buy perfume, never bought perfume in his life. He said, so Bilal went with him and Bilal helped him buy some perfume for his wife Fatima. And he said, I gave the rest to Umm Salama. We're bringing in now some heavyweights, right? Some senior Sahaba. This is the excitement of the community. And I asked Umm Salama to use whatever was left. to buy what was necessary for the bride for her preparation. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam then gave some money to Abu Bakr and he said to Abu Bakr to buy some clothes for Ali and Fatima. And then he sent Ammar Ibn Yasir radiallahu ta'ala anhu and he said, make the preparations for the wedding. So when they went out to the marketplace, now you got Abu Bakr and Ammar Ibn Yasir going out shopping for their wedding. Ammar radiallahu ta'ala anhu said, I would show everything to Abu Bakr for approval. He would approve it. We'd buy it. We came back to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, brought the stuff. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam made dua for barakah. for blessing in the few items that we bought. Masrook radiAllahu anhu says that Aisha and Umm Salama were given the responsibility to prepare the home of Ali and Fatima. So look at how simple these people are. Aisha and Umm Salama took some mud from the valley, they prepared it, they cleaned it, and they turned it into, they said, we made it into cushions. with our hands, put a simple cloth over it, and we made it into cushions from our hands. They took some dates and some water. They placed a wood in the... You know, I hope that one day we can actually create these simulations to show people this. I know there have been some attempts, but it would just be beautiful to see it. They put a wood in the corner where they could hang their clothes and they also had some hooks on the wood so that you could hang some of your water vessels. And then the story of this marriage becomes... Kitab al-Nikah, Baab al-Waleema in the Sunan of Ibn Majah. Baab al-Waleema actually starts off with this. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself made the bed. How do you make a bed? The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam with his own hands, he took palm leaves, he took wood, he stuffed the wood with some of the palm leaves. And then the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam took a velvet cover, took a pillow. That was made of animal skin filled it with some of the palm fiber as well That was their cushioning on the inside and the Prophet left for them a pot And he left for them a water skin and he left for them a couple of stones that they could grind grain with This is the making of the house of Ali and Fatima. Ali narrates He said we had one bed in our house, and he said it was everything for us He says it was our bed at night. It was our couch during the daytime And he said, and we would feed our animals off of it. And he said, we never had a servant. We never had a jariyah in our home, which is a story that we'll talk about next week, inshallah ta'ala, as we continue. So this is, subhanAllah, the simplicity of that coming together. Asma'radiallahu ta'ala anha said, the best wedding I ever saw, the best waleemah I ever saw, was the waleemah of Ali and Fatima. All they had was some barley, some dates, and some hayse. Hayse is date paste. Some hayse. Which they eat in the desert and that was the wedding meal of Ali and Fatima and it was the happiest day That they remembered in Madinah, SubhanAllah seeing that wedding the joy of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam The simplicity of this wedding that's setting the tone for everybody to how they approach these celebrations and how they approach their weddings Finally the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam sent Ana Sadi Allahu Anhu, he called Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman, Wa Ba'du Al-Ansar and some of the Ansar They bore witness to the wedding and the Prophet says أُشْهِدُكُمْ أَنِّي قَدْ زَوَّجْتُ فَاطِمَةٌ مِنْ عَلِيْهِ عَلَىٰ أَرْبَعَ مِئَةِ مِثْقَالٍ مِنْ فِضَّةٍ The Prophet said, I bear witness in front of you that I have married my daughter Fatima to Ali for 400 small silver coins, for the 400 dirhams. The first night, these two people who couldn't even talk, to express, Their desire to marry one another, that was a hard wedding day. So the Prophet ﷺ told Ali رضي الله عنه at the Waleema, he said, go home. And he said, before you're intimate with each other, he said, wait for me and I'll come to you. All right. So Ali رضي الله عنه said that I came home and he said, Umm Ayman brought Fatima to the house. So the Prophet ﷺ sent Ali to the new house, the bed. Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha went home with Umm Ayman radiallahu anha. And he said, we sat there and we just waited for the Prophet ﷺ. Super nervous. I mean, anxious. What's he going to say? This is, it's hard, right? To be the daughter, the son-in-law of the Prophet ﷺ. To have him as your father-in-law. He said, so the Prophet ﷺ walked in. And. We were both sitting there and they were both shaking, nervous, anxious. The Prophet said, don't stand up. He told them to stay there. He took the water in their house, the water jug. This is so beautiful, SubhanAllah. He made wudu'with the water. Prophet said, tawadda. Then he made wudu'into the jug. So he told Ali to come. Ali came. The Prophet poured the water on him and made dua for him. Then he sent Ali to sit down. He told Fatima to come. Fatima was shivering from her Hayat when the Prophet called her. So the Prophet comforted her. He said to her, do not worry. He said, I've married you to the most beloved person in my family. I'm marrying you to someone. Don't worry, you're okay. I'm marrying you to someone special. I'm marrying you to Ali radiallahu anhu. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made wudu and he poured water on Fatima radiallahu anha. He embraced her and listened to this beautiful dua and we'll end with this inshallah. What a father, subhanAllah. He said, اللهم بارك فيهما و الله bless them فيهما وبارك عليهما و الله bless them فيهما is what is between them and upon them. Bless them in what is between them. And bless them in what is upon them. وَبَارِكْ فِي شِبْلِهِمَا And bless them in their offspring. So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam did his wudu, he wiped the water over, poured the water on her, made that dua for her and Ali, and then the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam walked out. And that was the way that this blessed union came together. We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to make beloved to us the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his family and his companions and to allow us to be Like the Prophet and his family, his companions, to allow us to not just love them, but to allow us to also manifest those beautiful noble qualities that we speak of and we ask Allah to join us with them all. Allahumma ameen.

Where is Zaid? Where are the other children? What's happening here?

And Allah knows best. We can only take what we can take from the narrations themselves. Of course, the way that families were raised back then, where kids were sleeping, aunts, uncles, it's a village type feel, right?

Allah knows best. But, Hopefully what we can do through the series is start to inshaAllah take these isolated snapshots and then go one by one and start to see the trajectory through the eyes of that person that enters very early in into this story, this magnificent story of the Prophet ﷺ. And then through that, to be very honest with you, you're not just gaining an appreciation for each one of these sabiqoon, each one of these firsts, but really each and every single one of these stories makes you fall in love with the Prophet ﷺ all over again. Because one of the things that fascinates me is how he was able to make all of these people feel so special.

You know, when you read the biographies of the companions, sometimes you really think like this person is the most important person in the story and then you read the next story. And that's the ability of the Prophet ﷺ to treat his family and his companions in a certain way that he wasn't just ignoring them and then... Focusing on this person here and this person there. However, the actual family of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, if he treated his companions this way, imagine what it was like to actually be his blood. Imagine what it was like to actually be in his household and to be treated in a certain way.

And so each one of these is going to give us a different perspective. But these next two in particular, really building off of last week's where we talked about Ali will give us a very special Look at the life of the Prophet and at the household of the Prophet at this family of the Prophet. So before we get into the marriage of Ali and Fatima, quick recap of Ali and then let's bring Fatima into the story and then talk about these two coming together.

So with Ali, we said his mother's name was what? I'm gonna test y'all's knowledge. Fatima. So we said there were a lot of Fatimas, right?

There were a lot of Hinds and there were a lot of Fatimas. Those are the two names that you constantly see popping up. A lot of people named Hinds, a lot of people named Fatima.

So Fatima bint what? What is his mother's full name? Fatima bint Asad.

And the way you can remember that is that we said she wanted to, she actually named him first Asad after her father, which means lion. Okay, Fatima bint Asad. And we said that she was the first what? She was a first herself. Does anyone remember?

The first, not Quraishi Muslim, the first Hashemi woman to accept Islam. Hashem was the tribe of the Prophet and his son. So she was the first woman who was a Hashemite from the actual family of the Prophet from his tribe to accept Islam.

And we said that she was about the 11th person, the 10th or the 11th person to enter into Islam when you look into the order. Also another mother-like figure to the Prophet. Right? There's Umm Ayman and then there's Fatima bint Asad who raises the Prophet as a motherly figure from the age of 6 to 25, accepted Islam very early on, made the migration to Abyssinia, lived through the boycott, made the migration to Medina, went through all the hardships alongside the Prophet.

And Ali was born about, as we said, 10 years before Prophethood, so about the year 600 exactly between 600-602 He was born and he supports the Prophet right away. We talked about how the Prophet brought Ali into the house. He told his uncle Al-Abbas, let's go to Abu Talib and help him out with his poverty. So let's take two of his children and raise them ourselves so that Abu Talib could deal with the poverty in his household.

The Messenger of Allah goes with Al-Abbas, the Prophet walks up to Ali and grabs him. Al-Abbas walks up to Ja'far and he takes him and both of them would raise those two until they reached their adulthood. And we also said that one of the miracles is that Khadija did not breastfeed Ali, which would have made him haram for Fatima, which would have made him like a son, effectively a son to Khadija, had she breastfed him. But for whatever reason, it's the mercy of Allah to Ali radiallahu anhu and the wisdom of Allah and how that would play out. She never actually fed Ali though he was of that age and though it was natural for a child to be fed by a mother that had flowing milk in those days.

So that's Ali, he comes into the house, as we said, accepts Islam right away. And that sight of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, Khadija and Ali praying in front of the Kaaba, praying Qiyam all alone, there was something there. Now, Let's talk about Fatima radiAllahu ta'ala anha and how she comes into and her nickname al-habibatu bint al-habib, the beloved one, the daughter of the beloved one. RadiAllahu ta'ala anha, may Allah be pleased with her and send his peace and blessings upon her father and her mother.

She was born, according to most historians, she was actually born in the first year of prophethood. Okay, so according to... many of the scholars like Ibn Abdul Bar, Al-Hakim, Ibn Hajar, she was born the year that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation.

So think about her birth, which would mean that when Khadija radiallahu anha was running up and down Hira to help the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam going through that stress, she could have been pregnant with her sixth child or fifth or sixth child because there's dispute about whether Abdullah is older or younger than Fatima. Or she would have been an infant. So according to some, she was born either right before prophethood, so she was literally a baby, when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation, or she was born right after the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam received revelation in that very first year.

That's a special child, right? Just the circumstances of her birth to come in during that time period of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam's life where he just received revelation. And this is a gift that Allah gives to them.

is special in and of itself. So she was the last of the Prophet's daughter. And I mentioned, I believe, a narration when we were talking about Khadija that the way that the naming worked was how? The Prophet named the boys, Khadija named the girls. And so Khadija named her Fatima.

Who can guess why? Because guess what Khadija's mom's name was? Fatima.

So her mother was Fatima bin Zaidah. So Khadija named her after her mother. And the word Fatima has an interesting meaning to it.

So we said Khadija means what? I'm going to keep on quizzing you guys on the past halaqah so you can get it in inshaAllah. We said Khadija means what?

Does anyone remember what the name Khadija means? See, Wanda's going through her notes. Where are you guys at?

Where's everyone? Premature. Khadija means premature. So, and it's a very... There's no one else named Khadija.

Alright, so the indication is that she was born very early for her to be given the name Khadija, premature. Fatima comes from the term Fatim, which is a baby that is full term and weaned. It's like the opposite, it's really interesting.

Khadija is premature, Fatima is full term and weaned. And you know it's really you know so some of the scholars or some of them really you're not really looking at Islamic scholars here You're looking at I was reading what some of the scholars of language said They said that it could be that the Arabs used this name to indicate a very healthy girl that a girl was healthy Full obviously or you're naming after another Fatima But that that's the origin of it right full term weaned Went through the whole process of of being a baby, but of course as we said in the name the case of Fatima It's after the mother of Khadija. And Abu Hurairah radiallahu anhu says something very beautiful. He said that verily Allah has weaned Fatima and her offspring off from fire, from the fire of Jahannam, from her birth. So Allah has weaned her and her children off of that, that she would not touch it or drink from any of its punishment.

So let's go through the children of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right quick and Khadija radiallahu anhu. First child is who? You guys are going to make this halaqa so much longer So if you know the answer I suggest that you say it Or if you think you're close you say it The first one is actually Qasim, right?

Because I want you to get the full picture. Qasim was born around 12 years before prophethood, and he lived for about three years. So, you know, we know that the sons of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam died right away, but Qasim actually lived about three years.

So this was a very painful, it's their first child, and died of some illness in the hands of Khadija and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Zainab, the oldest daughter of the Prophet was born about 599, a year after Qasim. And then there is Ruqayya who was born about two years after that, year 601. And then there's Umm Qulthum who some scholars say is less than a year younger than Ruqayya. So Umm Qulthum is immediate after Ruqayya.

And then there is Fatima and we said Fatima is born around the year 610 when the Prophet received revelation. And then there's Abdullah who died at birth, okay? Or very close to birth.

And then there's the last son of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam who was born, of course, in Medina. The only son, not from Khadija, but from Marya. And his name was Ibrahim. Very good, okay?

So those are the seven children of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. So Khadija is the only child that actually grew up in Islam, okay? That was born and raised in Islam.

Whereas the others were not. What's going on in the household of the Prophet at the time? Ruqayya and Umm Kulthum were both engaged when the Prophet received revelation. Does anyone know who they were engaged to?

The children, the two sons of Abu Lahab. That becomes very difficult. The man who cursed the Prophet, who stopped him and humiliated him in public, his uncle Abu Lahab, who... humiliated him and then Ali rose to his defense that young child. Both of the Prophet's daughters were engaged to Utbah and Utaibah, the children of Abu Lahab, Utbah and Utaibah.

Engaged, now engagements at that time of course would take place very early on. These marriages were arranged very early on. So, you know, Ruqayya was only about seven, Um Kurthum was about six. When you say engaged, that just means that it's understood that when they come of age, they'll be married.

They'll be married to these people. Zainab was already married and her husband's name, anyone know? Seerah tests. Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah.

So Zainab, the oldest, is married to Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah. Ruqayya is engaged to Utbah ibn Abi Lahab. Umm Kurthum is engaged to Utaiba ibn Abi Lahab. And you just have now Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha.

When Fatima was born, the Prophet and again it could be the timing of it. I mean that could have a lot to do with it. The Prophet immediately looked at her in a different way, absolutely fell in love with this baby girl of his.

And it's so much so that when Allah revealed, وَأَنذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الْأَقْرَبِينَ''Warn your closest relatives.''''Call out to your closest relatives.''''And warn your closest relatives.''The Prophet stood up and he said, he only called two people by name. He said, Ya Safiyyah bint Abdul Muttalib. Safiyyah was the mother of Al-Zubair.

Safiyyah is the mother of Al-Zubair, the aunt of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. She was very close. Ya Safiyyah bint Abdul Muttalib. Ya Fatimah bint Rasulullah.

Oh Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Salni ma shi'ti min mali. Ask me anything that you want of my wealth. Anything that you want of my property. لَا أَمْلِكُ لَكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ شَيْئًا I cannot testify on your behalf or I cannot do anything for you with God on the Day of Judgment.

What that means is that you know how much I love you, my closest. And Ibn Hajar says the fact that the Prophet ﷺ named those two was for a reason. Safiyyah was his favorite aunt close to him.

And she's a special aunt to the Prophet ﷺ. And Fatima was this unbelievably beloved child to the Prophet. So he's saying, even you two, and that's a message to everyone else, you have a responsibility before Allah that is an individual responsibility and it is not something that can be bought with money.

I can't protect you, you have to do your part and answer the call of Allah. And that's why when the Prophet was even asked, if you remember the 40 hadith on social justice and we talked about this narration, where there was a rich woman, a powerful woman that stole. And they asked Usama Ibn Zaid to go talk to the Prophet and see if he can let it go because she's a very powerful woman And it's not right to punish someone who's so powerful and the Prophet Prophet said, even if Fatima was to steal, she would be punished. There's no favoritism here because you know where Fatima is to me.

The fact that I would even punish Fatima, I'm not going to let someone go because, or you know, not hold someone accountable because they're from some powerful class or because they belong to something that is there. So there's some elements now that come into the household of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Later on, fast forward. To the death of Khadija the mother of Fatima the wife of the Prophet.

When Khadija passed away, she was... and the Prophet would be attacked because remember Khadija died around the same time, only three days apart according to some narrations from Abu Talib. So the Prophet would be viciously attacked. in public at this point now. He had no physical protection on the outside.

And when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would come home covered in blood, which by the way, according to some of the scholars of Sira, there were eight times that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was publicly beaten. Eight times. So we know of Ta'if and we know, but eight times that something was thrown on him or he was punched or he was hit.

So when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is in public, he's fair game. When he comes home wounded, it's Fatima radiallahu anha that takes the role of... Playing the role that Khadija used to play.

She's the one that really steps in and that starts to protect the Prophet ﷺ. Al-Hassan says that Fatima would be the one to clean the wounds of the Prophet ﷺ. And how old was she?

About 10 years old. Think about that burden. 10-year-old girl walking up to her father ﷺ, having to clean up his wounds. and comfort him when Khadija was missing.

And everyone knew Fatima's closeness to the Prophet, a 10-year-old girl. And at the age of 10, what was she nicknamed? Ummu Abiha, the mother of her father.

Because of the hanan, the love and the compassion she would show to her father when she would see the Prophet struck, Ummu Abiha, it's like she was another mother to the Prophet. And one of the most painful narrations, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam hated to see her in pain. Absolutely hated to see her in pain because he knew this is a young girl that's been exposed.

She didn't see the days of comfort and ease, which were really, you know, right before prophethood, where the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was at the max of his wealth, of his credibility in society. She didn't have that childhood. Her childhood was all oppression.

Her childhood was witnessing her father rejected, beaten, her mother... becoming frail, dying due to the boycott. She witnessed all the hardship and one of the most painful narrations and this was the peak of humiliation of the Prophet was that because now he's fair game and they'd kick him in public, punch him in public, humiliate him, spit at him in public.

Abu Jahl challenged Rukba ibn Abi Mu'it. Rukba ibn Abi Mu'it was a powerful man in Mecca and these are now the elites playing games with the Prophet at this point. Abu Talib is not here, we're not showing him any regard whatsoever. And the Prophet has been rejected from Ta'if, he doesn't have anyone to protect him. Abu Jahl tells, he challenges Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, he says, you really want to humiliate him?

He said, next time he comes to the Ka'bah, because the Prophet would still walk to the Ka'bah and pray, even as they'd kick him, even as they'd spit on him, he'd still go and pray by himself. He doesn't have Khadija with him anymore. He says to Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, why don't you take the insides of a camel, slaughter a camel and take all of its guts, all of its intestines, all of its nastiness, collect them, and the next time the Prophet is praying in front of the Kaaba, go dump them on his back.

This is just complete humiliation, utter humiliation. So Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it, of course, he says yes. And Uqba ibn Abi Mu'it was a huge man, size of Abu Jahl and Umar, big man.

And so he collected all of that filth and they watched the Prophet waited for him to go into sajdah, into prostration. And then he came and he dumped it all on the back of the Prophet. And it was so heavy on the back of the Prophet that it caused his body to collapse.

So it wasn't like just a filth, right? Complete humiliation. Ibn Mas'ud narrates this incident because Ibn Mas'ud was someone that was almost beaten to death already next to the Kaaba.

We'll talk about him at some point. He was a small man, didn't have a tribe, didn't have any protection. So he goes to the house of the Prophet to let the household know what had happened.

The only one he finds, 10 year old girl Fatima and tells Fatima that your father, you know, what's happening to her father, that your father has been crushed by these camel guts, he's being humiliated, everyone's laughing at him, mocking him. And Fatima comes running out of her house to the haram, goes to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, crying so heavily and scratching the guts. off of the back of the Prophet.

Think of that scene, right? This is the daughter of the woman that held him when he received revelation. And think about how painful it was for the Prophet. Right?

This is, you never want to see your children see you like that, right? This is a next level of humiliation. So, and this is a long narration, the Prophet, this was one of the only times he actually prayed against his people.

Meaning he prayed against Abu Jahl. Made dua against him. It's not often that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam makes dua against an oppressor. Almost always his prayers are for them.

But he actually makes dua against Abu Jahl and Uqba bin Abi Mu'id in that moment. He sees the pain of Fatima Radhiallahu Anha. He comforts her and listen what he says.

He says, لَا تَبْكِي Don't cry. إِنَّ اللَّهَ نَاصِرٌ أَبَاكِي God will support your father. Allah will give victory to your father.

Don't cry, Allah will give victory to your father. And it didn't calm her tears. So the Prophet, that's when he raised his hands and he prayed against Abu Jahl and Uqba bin Abi Mu'it and those that had humiliated the Prophet in front of his father.

Another narration after Khadija had died where the Prophet sees Fatima again. This is a girl that's been through what no girl should have to go through. Right, that deeply loves her father, witnessed that pain, and he says to her, كيف تجدينك يا بنيتي? How are you, oh my daughter? And she says, إني لوجع, I'm in pain.

وإنه ليزيد ما بي أن ما لي طعام أكله. So what's increasing my pain even, is we don't even have food to eat. Right, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم did not even have food. Right, he goes days and nights hungry. And she's saying, we don't have food, so I'm in emotional pain, and I'm in physical pain.

So the Prophet ﷺ responds and he says, Oh my daughter, He said, oh my beautiful daughter, aren't you pleased that you are the master of all women? You are the leader of all women, the women of all the world. Look at the knowledge, understanding, adab of this young girl, Fatima radiyallahu anha. She says, Ya Abati, faayna Maryam abnata Imran?

She said, Oh my father, but then where is Mary, the mother of Jesus? What about Maryam? How could I be the leader of the women of the world?

What about Maryam? So the Prophet said, Talka Sayyidatu Nisa'i Aalimihah Fa'ala Hatha Maryamu Khayru Nisa'i Al Ummatil Maadiya Wa Khadija Khayru Nisa'i Al Ummatil Kainah He said that she was the leader of the women of her time. And in that sense, Maryam was the best woman of her times and Khadija was the best woman of her times.

So there's a difference between Sayyida and Khayru. The best woman of all time is Maryam. And the best woman of her time is your mother Khadija.

And Fatima radiallahu anha is one of those who perfected her faith. So two, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam mentioned four women who perfected their faith, had perfect faith, and that was Maryam, Asiya, Khadija, Fatima. So Fatima and her mother, imagine two women that had perfect iman, right?

That had perfect faith. And some of the scholars, they said, why Fatima? Why does she have perfect faith and not the other daughters of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam? They were surely beloved to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. But why Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha?

And some of the scholars, they said, number one, this is a gift from Allah that Allah gives to people, right? This is Fatima would exert herself in worship and you'll see her in her lifetime. She resembles the Prophet more than any other human being.

We'll talk about that. No one resembles the Prophet like Fatima. She was a copy of the Prophet and that translated also into her nobility, her worship.

Some of them said because she was born into the days of hardship and as opposed to her sister, she grew up watching her father tortured and she was the one playing the role of Khadija supporting the Prophet. She spent her... three years of her childhood in the boycott. She never saw the days of wealth like the other children of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. She made the hijrah with her father.

So she actually migrated with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Medina at the age of 13. years old and she migrated with her sister Umm Kulthum, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, Sauda bint Zam'a, Aisha radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha and Aisha's mother Umru Man, which is the wife of Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with them all. So they all migrated to Medina together. So Fatima is attached to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam throughout his most difficult days.

She is a woman who perfects her faith. I mentioned the qualities, the names. Does anyone remember from khutbah what were her other two names?

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A man by the name of Kulthum ibn al-Hadim, that's where all the young single guys stayed in Quba. So when they made hijrah, all the young singles went to the house of Kulthum ibn al-Hadim. So when the Prophet got to Medina at that point, again Ali is grown, he lives outside of the house of the Prophet. As for Fatima, she still lives in the house of the Prophet. So when they're building the house in Medina, she's there.

She's right there with the Messenger. And What was the love of the Prophet like for Fatima? It was to a point that it used to make the others and the family of the Prophet a little jealous. Okay, and Ali was one of them. Usam ibn Zaid, he says that one day I was sitting, so this is now before Ali marries Fatima.

We were in Medina and Ali and Al-Abbas sought permission, uncle of the Prophet and Ali sought permission to enter. So they came in and The Prophet asked Hussamah, do you know why they're coming at this time? He said, no. So they came in and they sat and they said to the Prophet that we've come to you to ask you who is the most beloved of your family to you?

We were having a debate, trying to figure out who do you love most from your family. Now there's a similar narration where Amr ibn al-Aas asked the Prophet who's the most beloved of people to you? "And he said, Aisha, his wife. And then he said, Abu Bakr, Abuha, right? And then Umar. Here, it's like very specific, like from the family. So the Prophet, he said, أحب أهلي إلي فاطمة He said, the most beloved of my family to me is Fatima, my daughter. It was really interesting because in the other narration when he responded to Amr, Amr said, no, no, I mean from the men. Like it was weird for you to say that you loved your wife and you loved your daughter that much, right? So they had a similar understanding, said, Ya Rasulullah, we're not talking about that, we're talking about from the men. We get you love your daughter Fatima, there's no comparison to her. And in this narration, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam sees Usama Ibn Zaid and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says, أحب أهلي إلي من قد أنعم الله عليه وأنعمت عليه أسامة بن زيد He said, well the most beloved of the young men in my family, Okay? Is the one who Allah favored and I have favored, Usama ibn Zaid, who was the son of the adopted son of the Prophet. Who was Usama's mother? See if someone can catch it. We talked about her. Umm Ayman. Good. So Usama ibn Zaid. So the Prophet was talking about Usama ibn Zaid. And then the Prophet said, ثم علي بن أبي طالب Then he said, علي بن أبي طالب So al-Abbas said to the Prophet, جعلت عمك Akhirahum, you made your uncle the last of them? And you talked about Fatima and then Usama and then Ali and then you left me out, I'm your uncle. So the Prophet said, لأن علي قد سبق قبل الهجرة He said, Ali made hijrah before you. Ali migrated before you, took Abbas some time to embrace Islam and to come. So the Prophet said that. What does this mean now? What are the implications? Here's some beautiful narrations about what this would look like in Medina. Thoban, he narrates, he said, when the Prophet would leave Medina, the last person he would sit with is Fatima. And when he returned, the first person he would sit with was Fatima. Anytime the Prophet left Medina, last person he's gonna sit with is his daughter Fatima. First person he's going to sit with when he comes back is his daughter Fatima. Abu Tha'alaba gets more specific. He says when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to go on a journey or a battle, the first thing the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would do is he'd go to the masjid, pray two rak'ahs, then he would go to the house of Fatima and he'd take his time. So it's not like he'd just kind of go say Asalaamu Alaikum. This is after Fatima would move on obviously and get married. But it just shows you the love and the preference. And then he would visit his spouses. So before he would even go to his azwaj, before he even go to his wives, he'd go to his daughter Fatima. The last person to see before traveling, the first person to see when he got back, even when she got married, that was the place of Fatima. And what a father the Prophet is. What a lesson in fatherhood, just like everything else, he sets the standard. Here's... What Aisha says about Fatima and the relationship with the Prophet She says, مَا رَأَيْتُ أَحَدًا أَشْبَهَ سَمْتًا وَلَا دَلًّا وَلَا هَدْيًا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي قِيَامِهِ وَقُعُودِهِ مِنْ فَاطِمَى بِنْتِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ She said, I've never seen a person who resembled the Prophet in his look, in his walk, in his guidance, in his character, in everything that he did. Even in his standing up and sitting down, the way the Prophet would sit down and the way he'd stand up Fatima looked exactly like him. She acted exactly like him. She was a copy of the Prophet. And then Aisha says, وَكَانَتْ إِذَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ قَامَ إِلَيْهَا When she would enter into a room, no matter what the Prophet was in the middle of, he would stand up for her. فَقَبَّلَهَا And then he'd walk up to her and he'd kiss her on the forehead. And then he would hold her hand, فَأَجْلَسَهَا فِي مَجْلِسِهِ And the Prophet would sit her down where he was sitting. Look at this honor. And she says about Fatima, she says, وَكَانَتْ إِذَا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا And when the Prophet would enter upon any gathering or any setting that she was in, she would rush. قَامَتْ مِن مَجْلِسِهَا She would stand up, she'd rush to the Prophet. She'd kiss him on the forehead, she'd hold the Prophet's hand, she'd sit him down in the chair or where she was sitting, and she adds one thing, she would kiss both of his hands, right? That's just a special relationship that everyone sees. You don't interfere with that relationship. You admire it, you love it, and This was a society where people used to bury their daughters alive. Think about that, right? Where Allah talks about the way they treated their daughters that when they would get the news that they had a daughter or a girl, you would see their faces darkened. And this is in that society that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is honoring his daughter that way? What a father, right? And you can't... I can't think of any father that does that for his daughter to that extent, right? And that's a lesson for all of us, especially. SubhanAllah, you know, part of that was certainly the loyalty of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. The same way with Khadija that he has to honor her because Khadija did things for him that no one else did. Fatima did things for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam that no one else did. And the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam honored that to a great extent. So anyway, Ali and Fatima grew up. Together now let's get to the marriage. When does the marriage take place? The battle of Badr just took place They're in Medina. There was a great incident of sadness of tragedy that happens on the day of Badr Does anyone know what it was? Anybody? They called it the day of great joy and the day of great sadness because it was the victory of the battle of Badr But there was a day of great sadness too. The death of Ruqayya, the daughter of the Prophet. Ruqayya got sick before Badr and that's why Uthman ibn Affan did not go to the battle of Badr. He stayed back and he took care of Ruqayya. He took permission from the Prophet to take care of Ruqayya. And Ruqayya died on the same Same day that Badr was won. So while the Sahaba are celebrating and this was a great victory from Allah, the news comes that the daughter of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has died and that Ruqayya and that Uthman RadhiAllahu Anhu was in great sadness. And they were sad both for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and for Uthman because Uthman was a very special and beloved person. What did the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam do after the death of Ruqayya? Uthman RadhiAllahu Anhu, the Nureen, the possessor of two lights, married Um Kurthum. the next daughter of the Prophet. So at this point now, Zainab is still in Mecca. She's with Al-Aas ibn Rabi'ah. Ruqayya was married to Uthman, actually went to Abyssinia with Uthman, passed away. Umm Qurthum has moved out from the house and lives with her husband Uthman. So Fatima is the last one in the household of the Prophet. Now, can you imagine If you love the Prophet, right? And you saw how much he loves this girl. And she is the female version of him. Can you imagine how many people wanted to marry Fatima? So at the top of that list, Abu Bakr and Umar both proposed for the hand of Fatima, right? Both of them came to the Prophet. First Abu Bakr and then Umar, and they asked for her hand. The Prophet said, He said, just wait, give me some time. And then the Prophet said, she's young. Meaning he had someone else in mind. When the Prophet turns away Abu Bakr and Umar, something's up. That means he has someone else in mind for her, right? Because you're not going to turn away Abu Bakr and Umar unless there's something special planned. And of course, Abu Bakr and Umar are closer to the age of the Prophet. So there's someone else that the Prophet has his eye on. So, how do we get Ali into the picture? One of the coolest things about this long narration is narrated by Al-Hassan. So it's how I met your mother, narrating from Ali, Fatima, how my parents met or how they got married, right? So Ali radiallahu anhu says that, I thought about it, but I was like, he turned away Abu Bakr and Umar, no way I have a chance. Right, so whoever he's got his eye on, it's not me, right? Ali radiallahu anhu thought, there is no way the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was thinking about me. So the year is, this is right after Badr actually, so the year is 622 or 623. Ali radiallahu anhu, they're still young. Ali is about 23. Fatima is about 16 years old. They're still pretty young. Now marriage age was much younger than 16. People would get married 10, 11, 12, 13 at that time, right? Children were different at the time, right? So Ali, he tells this narration, he says that, I was sitting in the household of someone from the family, so it was like his aunt or an uncle, one of the Hashemites. And he said that the family started to talk to Ali, he said, why don't you go ask for the hand of Fatima? He said, particularly there was an old female servant in the household. We don't know her name from the narration, but you can kind of get the picture. She said to Ali, you know, I think the Prophet has his eye on you. And Ali said, after Abu Bakr and Umar, you think he's going to marry his daughter to me if he turned away Abu Bakr and Umar? No way. So he said, she kept on pushing me. Until finally I said to her, Do you think I have anything to get married with? I don't own anything, I'm poor. Remember we talked about the poverty of Ali. So even if I went to the Prophet, I don't even have enough for a mahr, for a dowry, for a gift, for a wedding. I can't afford anything. How am I going to go to the Prophet? She said, listen, if you go to the Prophet, he'll marry his daughter to you. So maybe she had a hint or whatever it is, but she said, he will do it. And then Ali says, Abu Bakr, Umar and Sa'd ibn Mu'adh, Sa'd, one of the chiefs in Medina, they all encouraged me to go ask for her hand. So meaning either the Prophet confided in Abu Bakr and Umar that he is the one, or they just had a feeling like, Like he's probably got his eye on you, right? So after all of these people tell him to go to the Prophet ﷺ, he said, finally, I gathered the courage to go to him to ask for a hand. So he said, I got to the house of the Prophet ﷺ, feeling confident I can do this. Imagine the pep talks to himself. He says, I sat in front of the Prophet ﷺ, and he said, I completely went silent. I could not say a word. And he says, جلالة وحيبة إلى رسول الله Just out of the glory and the respect, the love of the Prophet ﷺ. I couldn't say a word. So he says, I sat in front of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and I stuttered a few times, mumbled a few words and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was looking at me. So after some time, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says, ما جاء بك يا ابن عمي What brought you to me, O son of my uncle? And Ali radiAllahu anhu was so eloquent, one of the most eloquent men amongst the companions of the Prophet he said I tried to say a few words and I made no sense whatsoever And I was shaking, sweating, nervous, shivering. The Prophet said, do you need something? Are you okay? And he said that I still couldn't say anything. So he said, finally, the Prophet, he smiled at me and he said, Maybe you came to ask for Fatima's hand He knows why he's there right so I'm gonna make it easy for you لعلك جئت لي تخطب فاطمة He said maybe you came to ask for Fatima's hand in marriage So he said I put my head down and I said نعم يا رسول الله يسوء Messenger of Allah He said okay good. Do you have anything to you have a gift you have a مهر لك بمهر Ali said I actually don't have a مهر. I don't have anything to get married with So the Prophet pointed to his dira'pointed to a shield. He said you've got that right? He said yeah, Prophet said how much is it worth? He said about four dirhams. It is nothing Right four silver coins four dirhams. Prophet said go sell it and come back to me and bring that as a mahr That's good enough for a gift Subhanallah. Now you see Fatima and then you see a whole community that is absolutely ecstatic to see this marriage of these two people that are so beloved to the Prophet. So the Prophet then went to Fatima. Ali, easiest proposal ever. Hardest and easiest ever, right? He only had to say a total of like four words, walks out, And he got it, right? He was the one that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had his eye on for Fatima. So he goes out. Now the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has to go to Fatima and ask Fatima if she wants to marry Ali. Fatima radiAllahu anha wanted to marry Ali. But to have your father come and ask you with that, I mean, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam coming to her and asking her, saying, you know, Ali radiAllahu anhu came and asked for your hand. Are you okay with it? Right? Fatima radiAllahu anha turned red. Completely overtaken by Hayat, by modesty, she couldn't say a word. The Prophet is dealing with two people that are not speaking and formulating this marriage, putting it all together, right? So the Prophet, he made sure, and this is where the Fiqhi ruling actually that in marriage, you know, because the woman has to consent, right? That's one of the rulings, right? But if you ask her and you're very explicit and she doesn't want to actually say yes, but she kind of indicates or she state, then that can suffice. as her approval for the marriage, right? Because the Prophet said, do you have any objection? And she couldn't say anything. So the Prophet took that affirmed that her quietness was not because of rejection. He knows his daughter, but because of her modesty, her Hayat, she just didn't want to come out and say yes, right? So, and there's a very funny narration. While they were discussing arrangements, so now the Prophet got Ali, he got Fatima. And this is where the... I'm gonna shatter your image of the Sahaba, physical image of the Sahaba a little bit, alright? So the Prophet was talking to Fatima about the marriage and Ali was known to have a big stomach. Surprise, surprise. Big man, right? Ali's biceps were the biggest biceps amongst the Sahaba. They said that if you put two hands around the bicep of Ali, you couldn't close your hands. But he also had a stomach and... Fatima joked with the Prophet. She says, زوَجتني لعظيم البطن You married me to the man with the big stomach. Right? So the Prophet laughed and he said, إِنَّهُ لَأَوَّلُ أَصْحَابِي سَلَمًا وَأَكْثَرُهُمْ عِلْمًا وَأَعْظَمُهُمْ حِلْمًا Beautiful description. Prophet said, he was the first of my companions to embrace Islam. The most of them in knowledge. أَكْثَرُهُمْ عِلْمًا وَأَعْظَمُهُمْ حِلْمًا And he has great patience. Hylm is forbearance, the way you treat people, right? Patience with people. So, Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam once took it as, even though it was a joke, he took it as an opportunity to praise him and to speak about his character. So anyway, Ali radiallahu anhu says, I went to the marketplace and I'm selling my dira. The only thing I own is my shield and I'm selling my dira. He says, so Uthman... Allah saw me in the marketplace for sale on my shield that I'm selling my dira. Uthman is about to be his brother-in-law, right? Uthman is married to Ruqayya and then Umm Kuthum. So he says, Uthman came to me and said, how much are you selling it for? He said, how much would you pay for it? Now he told the Prophet ﷺ it was only worth four dirhams. Uthman said, I'll give you 400 for it. He's trying to make things a little easier for him, right? So Ali said, sure, this is great, right? Uthman's trying to be charitable, but hey, you like it, you value it. Uthman is a rich man, he's the opposite of Ali. Ali in terms of his financial circumstances, I'll give you 400 for it. So he gave him 400 and Ali said, so I gave him the dara and then after he gave me the 400 dirhams, he handed the shield to me and he said, this is my wedding gift to you. So he got his 400 dirhams from the marketplace and he kept the shield. So he said, I went back to the Prophet and I told him what happened. So he said the Prophet, it's one of the many occasions where the Prophet made dua for Uthman. And he said, may Allah be pleased with Aba Amru referring to him. And he said, he's the most generous of son-in-laws. Praising again the generosity of Uthman. This was Uthman, big heart, always the first, right? To spend and to, when he knows even that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would love to see that charity. This is Uthman, uses his wealth, makes it easy for Ali. And then comes the wedding preparation. Ali said, I sold some other things, just whatever I could find, completely emptied out my house. He said, I had 480 dirhams. Okay. And so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, so what's the mahr gonna be? He said, 480 dirhams. I want you to take a moment and think about this. The mahr of the queen of Jannah, leader of the women in paradise, is 480 dirhams. Some people have abused this concept so much. Turn it into a price, a value. It's supposed to be a gift to symbolize a union. It's supposed to set the tone for ihsan, for excellence, the gift giving of the husband to the wife. And some people have abused this concept so much, turned it into like an insurance plan or something like that, right? Like 20,000. It's like, where did this 20,000, 30,000, 40,000, where does this come from, right? It's not, the spirit of it is there. Now, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam did not limit. He didn't top it off. But the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, the best of mahr and the best of weddings are the ones that are the least expensive. There is khair, there is barakah, there's something beautiful and blessed about a simple wedding, a simple mahr. Don't overdo it. You know, that money that you're spending to show everyone who you are and what you are. That money will die the same night. It will go to waste and it might even be sinful. It might even be israf. It might even be an extravagance. And then you could have used that money for something so much better, right? So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in his own example, and that's why in the Hanafi school, many of the Ahnaf became their history, right? The Mahar al-Fatimah, right? The Mahar al-Fatimah is the Mahar at the time of marriage, right? Just the gift, the dowry at the time of marriage. So this is the leader of the women in paradise. Sayyidatun Nisa al-Jannah. 480 silver coins, a few dirhams. Ali asked the Prophet, he said, what should I do with it? So it's not just that, the Prophet said, اجعل الثلثين في الطيب و الثلثا في المتاع He said, use two thirds of it to buy her some perfume and use one third of it to buy some furniture. Take the 480 and get it ready. Go get her some perfume, go get her some furniture for her house. So Ali, this is where the community starts to come together now. He said, so I had no idea how to buy perfume, never bought perfume in his life. He said, so Bilal went with him and Bilal helped him buy some perfume for his wife Fatima. And he said, I gave the rest to Umm Salama. We're bringing in now some heavyweights, right? Some senior Sahaba. This is the excitement of the community. And I asked Umm Salama to use whatever was left. to buy what was necessary for the bride for her preparation. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam then gave some money to Abu Bakr and he said to Abu Bakr to buy some clothes for Ali and Fatima. And then he sent Ammar Ibn Yasir radiallahu ta'ala anhu and he said, make the preparations for the wedding. So when they went out to the marketplace, now you got Abu Bakr and Ammar Ibn Yasir going out shopping for their wedding. Ammar radiallahu ta'ala anhu said, I would show everything to Abu Bakr for approval. He would approve it. We'd buy it. We came back to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, brought the stuff. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam made dua for barakah. for blessing in the few items that we bought. Masrook radiAllahu anhu says that Aisha and Umm Salama were given the responsibility to prepare the home of Ali and Fatima. So look at how simple these people are. Aisha and Umm Salama took some mud from the valley, they prepared it, they cleaned it, and they turned it into, they said, we made it into cushions. with our hands, put a simple cloth over it, and we made it into cushions from our hands. They took some dates and some water. They placed a wood in the... You know, I hope that one day we can actually create these simulations to show people this. I know there have been some attempts, but it would just be beautiful to see it. They put a wood in the corner where they could hang their clothes and they also had some hooks on the wood so that you could hang some of your water vessels. And then the story of this marriage becomes... Kitab al-Nikah, Baab al-Waleema in the Sunan of Ibn Majah. Baab al-Waleema actually starts off with this. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself made the bed. How do you make a bed? The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam with his own hands, he took palm leaves, he took wood, he stuffed the wood with some of the palm leaves. And then the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam took a velvet cover, took a pillow. That was made of animal skin filled it with some of the palm fiber as well That was their cushioning on the inside and the Prophet left for them a pot And he left for them a water skin and he left for them a couple of stones that they could grind grain with This is the making of the house of Ali and Fatima. Ali narrates He said we had one bed in our house, and he said it was everything for us He says it was our bed at night. It was our couch during the daytime And he said, and we would feed our animals off of it. And he said, we never had a servant. We never had a jariyah in our home, which is a story that we'll talk about next week, inshallah ta'ala, as we continue. So this is, subhanAllah, the simplicity of that coming together. Asma'radiallahu ta'ala anha said, the best wedding I ever saw, the best waleemah I ever saw, was the waleemah of Ali and Fatima. All they had was some barley, some dates, and some hayse. Hayse is date paste. Some hayse. Which they eat in the desert and that was the wedding meal of Ali and Fatima and it was the happiest day That they remembered in Madinah, SubhanAllah seeing that wedding the joy of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam The simplicity of this wedding that's setting the tone for everybody to how they approach these celebrations and how they approach their weddings Finally the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam sent Ana Sadi Allahu Anhu, he called Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman, Wa Ba'du Al-Ansar and some of the Ansar They bore witness to the wedding and the Prophet says أُشْهِدُكُمْ أَنِّي قَدْ زَوَّجْتُ فَاطِمَةٌ مِنْ عَلِيْهِ عَلَىٰ أَرْبَعَ مِئَةِ مِثْقَالٍ مِنْ فِضَّةٍ The Prophet said, I bear witness in front of you that I have married my daughter Fatima to Ali for 400 small silver coins, for the 400 dirhams. The first night, these two people who couldn't even talk, to express, Their desire to marry one another, that was a hard wedding day. So the Prophet ﷺ told Ali رضي الله عنه at the Waleema, he said, go home. And he said, before you're intimate with each other, he said, wait for me and I'll come to you. All right. So Ali رضي الله عنه said that I came home and he said, Umm Ayman brought Fatima to the house. So the Prophet ﷺ sent Ali to the new house, the bed. Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha went home with Umm Ayman radiallahu anha. And he said, we sat there and we just waited for the Prophet ﷺ. Super nervous. I mean, anxious. What's he going to say? This is, it's hard, right? To be the daughter, the son-in-law of the Prophet ﷺ. To have him as your father-in-law. He said, so the Prophet ﷺ walked in. And. We were both sitting there and they were both shaking, nervous, anxious. The Prophet said, don't stand up. He told them to stay there. He took the water in their house, the water jug. This is so beautiful, SubhanAllah. He made wudu'with the water. Prophet said, tawadda. Then he made wudu'into the jug. So he told Ali to come. Ali came. The Prophet poured the water on him and made dua for him. Then he sent Ali to sit down. He told Fatima to come. Fatima was shivering from her Hayat when the Prophet called her. So the Prophet comforted her. He said to her, do not worry. He said, I've married you to the most beloved person in my family. I'm marrying you to someone. Don't worry, you're okay. I'm marrying you to someone special. I'm marrying you to Ali radiallahu anhu. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made wudu and he poured water on Fatima radiallahu anha. He embraced her and listened to this beautiful dua and we'll end with this inshallah. What a father, subhanAllah. He said, اللهم بارك فيهما و الله bless them فيهما وبارك عليهما و الله bless them فيهما is what is between them and upon them. Bless them in what is between them. And bless them in what is upon them. وَبَارِكْ فِي شِبْلِهِمَا And bless them in their offspring. So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam did his wudu, he wiped the water over, poured the water on her, made that dua for her and Ali, and then the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam walked out. And that was the way that this blessed union came together. We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to make beloved to us the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his family and his companions and to allow us to be Like the Prophet and his family, his companions, to allow us to not just love them, but to allow us to also manifest those beautiful noble qualities that we speak of and we ask Allah to join us with them all. Allahumma ameen.

Transcript for:Exploring the Prophet's Household Dynamics

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Exploring the Prophet's Household Dynamics