Lecture Notes: Why Ignoring Men Makes You Irresistible

Introduction

• Discussion on why ignoring men makes you irresistible.
• Aim: To understand how to make high-value men desperate.
• Acknowledgment of participants in the live stream.

Story Time

• Two scenarios of meeting the speaker at an event:
  1. Polite conversation and introduction.
  2. Awkward rejection response by the speaker.
• Question: Which scenario would invoke more thought?
  • Most participants chose scenario 2 (awkward rejection).
• Link to relationships: Ignoring men can trigger insecurities.

Main Points

1. Triggering Insecurities

• Ignoring men can make them focus on the reason for the lack of attention.
• Triggers insecurity and makes them seek validation from you.

2. Seeking Validation

• Men will start to act to gain approval from you when ignored.
• They may start to do more, like planning dates and putting more effort into impressing you.

3. Ego Boost

• Ignoring a man and then validating him boosts his ego.
• Your approval becomes tied to his self-worth and validation.

4. Initiative Cycle

• Ignoring men stimulates their initiative to act and make changes to gain your interest.
• Encourages them to think and act proactively in the relationship.

5. Addiction Cycle

• Men can become addicted to seeking your validation once they get a taste of it.
• They will continue to pursue you to keep validating themselves.

Strategy for Ignoring

• Define how to ignore: Not about subbing or blocking, but genuinely showing disinterest.
• Use the phone only as a scheduling tool for in-person meetings, no constant texting.
• Reiterate that ignoring should be consistent and genuinely detach yourself.
• If ignored, men will begin to realize and think of ways to win your attention.

Dealing with Long-Term Relationships

• Slightly modify the approach for those already in long-term relationships.
• Pull back on texting and phone calls, focus on in-person interactions.
• Balance is key; do not completely ignore a long-term partner.

Warnings and Tips

• Be careful about manipulating men too much; it can be perceived as toxic.
• Recognize the difference between playing games and keeping your dignity and standards high.
• If someone is showing disinterest, reflect that back instead of chasing after them.

Questions and Additional Tips

• Respond to men appropriately based on the context (e.g., ignore casual chat but respond to genuine efforts to plan a date).
• Keep activities and interests outside of the relationship to stay busy and not overly focused on one person's validation.
• Monitor your actions, be honest with yourself about your motives and the outcomes desired from your behavior.

Ending Note

• Encouragement to stay confident and hold high standards in relationships.