4 years ago in 8th grade back in 2020 I am lining up with my friend for an assembly for school and he explains to me how he had the time of his life last night and you can tell exactly what I mean by the title he's acting like really confident he's always been the class clown so he's always been pretty confident yeah but he's acting even more confident he's talking to everyone you know he's chatting up the teachers as a joke like he is bro he's off his mind in a good way and I ask him bro why are you so confident yeah what's going on like why are you so confident I can't exactly remember what I said but I said something like this and he told me that he will tell me later so I let it go yeah we go into the assembly we do the assembly and he in the assembly he's still acting like that and at that point I thought he was high like I thought he had just tried like a drug or something like a vape or a c or something like that I thought he tried something like this yeah and that's why he was acting so you off his mind kind of yeah a goodby but at recess after the assembly finished which is like the first break at school in Australia he told me that he had lost his vCard last night to his girlfriend he explains how it happened of course I'm not going to tell you what he explained to me but the next class yeah after recess finished I it really hit me what he said he had lost his vCard I automatically felt behind like he has had sexy time with a girl I can't even talk to a girl and this guy at the time was was like one of my really good mates as I told you and now I haven't seen him in 2 years but I'll get to why that is the case in a minute but after this dude we had a pure respect for him because he's always respected me so I'm going to respect him he started treating people a lot differently he started you know saying not things like you know as the title says if you're a virgin you failed at life yeah not nothing like that but it was close to it bro yeah he'd pick on dudes who weren't so confident who hadn't lost their vCard yet yeah and he'd make comments about it always respected me though always respected other people but just the people who are maybe a bit minority at school yeah where he'd get his confidence from and even though those remarks were not targeted towards me it still affected me because I knew that he believed it he just respected me or he didn't want me on his bad side I still felt it I still felt like a failure and it really hit me bro more of my friends started losing their vCard not all of them but some yeah some some other Boys in my year level started losing up you'd hear about it yeah and every single time another person lost their vCard I'd grow less confident and more insecure every single time because I was watching too much coin at the time and I thought that sex was the point of life not the pleasure of it but just saying that I had lost my VC card that's it cuz I thought that was what measured a man his confidence again bro I couldn't even talk to a girl let alone get into bed with her maybe if I was 25 this was this would be a problem I was 14 I had no authority to worry about this but I did anyway because of Western culture now this friend that I'm talking about we grew apart ever since that happened yeah and he got late into 8th grade he got into the wrong friend group you know he started hanging out with people that I didn't associate with and in the middle of a year nine he dropped out of school I remember him yeah we hadn't talked like whole year n we hadn't really talked yeah he dropped out of school I don't know if that was because you know of his of his friends at the time or you know he had work whatever I don't really know yeah I haven't really talked to him in a long time but I did see him this time about 2 years ago yeah in year 10 and he looked well yeah we said hello we gave h a handshake whatever he was always he he was still confident but I looked in his eyes you know cuz I'm a man I'm going to look people in the eyes when I talk to him and I could just tell bro that he had changed a lot and I am no one to judge but for the worse again I am no one to judge that I don't know what he's going through ever since he lost his v-cut he changed and I'm only saying this because bro if you have not lost your vinity and especially if you're in high school man doesn't matter what your age you are especially if you're in high school it is a good thing bro it is about 12 to 14 months ago I can't exactly remember it might have been longer than that I came across a YouTube sh and it was about losing your vCard as a man and how it does doesn't really matter and the short basically went into depth on how women in some countries bro are killed for losing their vCard and I'm not going to go deep into it because I have no authority to speak on this topic because I haven't done deep research I've done very very minimal research on it yeah but I'm just going to say that for your own interpretation the values other countries have and let me know in the comments if your country where you live values virginity or it doesn't value it and scroll down there and see bro you will see that different countries have different values and I want you to realize that yeah I want you to realize that and about this time when I discovered this short I wasn't like hanging out with people who cared about their vCard like a lot yeah I would talk to them sometimes I was in class with them I would sometimes hang out with them at lunch and whatever but these type of dudes left school yeah at the end of year 11 last year yeah because they had work and stuff like that yeah so I wasn't really hanging around people who really valued their v card the guys in year2 like the the people are hang with right now they're in year 12 to get good grades yeah they're ambitious and I respect that okay and look man because I don't associate with people who really give a about their v card not saying it's a good or bad thing cuz I'm still a virgin the thought of losing my vCard has not popped up in my mind once like seriously it hasn't just because of the people I associate with you're a teenager and you're very very insecure about not being able to talk to women not being you know still being a virgin not being being able to talk to women is different but specifically virginity bro I want you to look at the people you're hanging with now a lot of I know a lot of you will say oh they're classmates in my class I can't avoid them yeah they're people at my school I can't avoid them even your parents I don't know yeah but people who push on you to lose your virginity at such a young age yeah just because you can to around with people just because you can that's not one of my values okay and I'm going to be honest with you with that I don't believe that's a very good thing okay but you're entitled to your own opinion yeah my opinion is no better than yours if that is the case and you can't avoid these people I want you to look at their lives specifically like the people your own age who really care about it yeah don't be disrespectful don't judge them but just look at their lives is this the type of life I want to live yes they may go out and party every single weekend and get attention from more women but is that the life that you want to live is it really or is that just a short-term fix for the life that you really dream of you know because losing your V at a young age is a form of instant gratification a really big one and if you have Big Dreams you want to get to where you want to be you have to cut that out look bro just stop worrying about losing your virginity all right just stop yeah the people who care about it they have nothing else better to worry about you have better to worry about if you watch my content you have better things to worry about bro and I hope you do all right this is from one brother to another focus on building your garden yeah don't chase butterflies build your garden to attract the best possible butterfly out there all right there is a girl out there right now who you probably haven't even met yet who values a man's authenticity and values his vCard God's always watching the universe is always watching I will catch you in the next video peace