what's up fam I think it's important to recognize and acknowledge that you can't make me do a [ __ ] thing mean it you can't make me happy you can't make me unhappy you can't make me [ __ ] move do you can't make me happy you can't make me a happy thing that's extremely important I just made a video about trauma and I need to edit it and get it loaded so I'm only going to touch on this a little bit but everybody kind of lives a very similar experience in life and to take that off of everybody lives in summer experience of life we experience pain um Joy sadness fear all these things and the thing about it is is it has a different meaning to all of us for example you go to squat and you put two plates on the bar that's 225 I get up under that y'all I go to hit it okay you go to hit 225 don't push you on the ground now the difference is I have the strength um the form the technique the confidence to lift that weight I have a track record that I rely on when I go when I go to get up under the weight and it makes me nervous that makes me go I don't know maybe [ __ ] shut up you've done this [ __ ] before you know you got to get up on there get it done um on the other side of that other person may they may not have the have put in the work to be that strong they may not have put in the effort to be that strong they may not believe in themselves they may be strong enough but think they can't their form may be horrible but they're naturally strong enough and they're capable of moving that weight but they don't do it efficiently and they haven't practiced it and then they got under the weight and didn't bring the tools or didn't remember the tools either way that's saying 225 my 225 yo 225 my pain your pain same weight same pressure it translated definitely all of us have pain but each of our pain is individual and our capability to withstand is individual Arena stop thank you so what does that mean it means that it's not the thing it's not about the words it's not about the action it's not about what they did it's about what you believe what you think and what you believe who you see yourself as how do you see other people how do you see being frustrated anger all that type of stuff it's more it's not even more it's about you it is absolutely about you and what that says about you if if a certain thing upsets you and it's not to say that certain things shouldn't upset you but those are your values then everybody's not make everybody may not even be aware of and everybody may not even have a man even had the filter to see that it's important they wouldn't raise like that or certain things just don't bother them or or they've learned to to push that part of them down or to lash out from behind of it you don't know but what I do know is my weight is my weight my weight is my weight so and only I can lift my weight so what does that mean that means you can't make me do anything it means that if I am strong enough to lift that 225 and I have belief that I can and I have put in the work and I worked on my form and I'm thinking about the right areas and I'm conscious of what's going on and I'm engaging my then I can lift that weight and if I haven't or I think that I can't I can't but if if I don't lift the weight I can't blame the weight for putting me down I can I can but I'll never get strong enough to lift it the more that we put our emotions on somebody else you made me do this you made me mad you made me act like that you made me do this the more power we give them and the less that we give ourselves and the more that we hear ourselves give that over to somebody else and on the opposite side of giving somebody else the power to make you angry you also give somebody else the power to make you happy and that's not their responsibility and it's not fair to them it's not fair to you and it doesn't serve you because if they leave what are you going to do it's extremely important as far as I could tell it's really important for us to know and be constantly adjusting and examining um our mindset and looking at the results of our actions and looking at the way that we show up in situations that we're consistently in all right I'm in this situation often each time I'm in it something happens somebody says something I end up acting an ass and I keep blaming them yeah maybe they out of line but I don't got no control over them but I can adjust myself and my reactions and no I'm not going to be [ __ ] perfect but I want to feel better about myself truthfully when everything is quiet and I'm looking at myself in the mirror I want to feel better about myself in the way that I handle tough situations so now it's not on them now it's on me now I need to learn how to [ __ ] regulate my emotions and I can grow there and you can grow there and you can create your own happiness because you're responsible for your emotions I'm responsible for my emotions that's an awesome [ __ ] thing I feel like this world don't want to do that right now it wants everybody else to be responsible for everybody else's [ __ ] and for me not to take responsibility for me but the thing about it is that may sound convoluted but if everybody is supposed to tiptoe around my my feelings and my emotions and I'm also supposed to tiptoe around your feelings your emotions there isn't a place for me to be growing myself and learning myself and improving myself and how I deal with my emotions and I've taken no responsibility because you've taken no responsibility and I've started to absorb that behavior Maybe or maybe I am determined enough and authentic enough to myself to go blaming somebody else never got me any stronger being mad at the weight for just being weight never got me stronger putting in the work doing the tough things showing up failing being willing to fail being willing to answer that thumping in my chest with yeah I hear you and I'm still going forward has gotten me stronger will get me stronger if I continue to do it the more good that I put in the more good I'm gonna get out the more that I work on regulating and understanding my emotions and examining and questioning my thoughts challenging them to see if they're true challenging them to see if even if they're true if they if I follow them if they're going to take me to where I want to go as far as I can tell it's extremely necessary